If you're a very shy person, try to put yourself in small social situations, such as wishing a stranger good morning, ordering a coffee at the bakery, or asking someone for some information

1- Challenge yourself

If when you hear that in college you will have a presentation and immediately think that you are not capable, you will be embarrassed, you will do something stupid, at this moment you convince your brain with this repetition that in fact you are not enough for this task, then always fight these thoughts with positive things, always looking at past situations that you have already gone through and overcome shyness.

2- Be positive

“If you want something as bad as you want to breathe, then you can do it.”

Don't overwhelm yourself, you need to know and recognize your limits. The journey can be long and arduous, but over time it becomes easier and with each overcoming you recognize and receive the feeling of reward for your behavior

3- Recognize your limits

As a psychology student and also a patient, I recognize and recommend therapeutic help, because with it you will get support and also work on your self-knowledge, confidence, respect and self-love. Take care of your feelings and value them.

4- Don't be afraid to ask for help

"Discontent is the first step in the evolution of a man or a nation."

Shyness and fear of public speaking has been part of my life for many years and here I have tips that made me lose this behavior

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Tips on how I overcame shyness

The way you respond to boredom can significantly impact the trajectory of your life. Instead of viewing boredom as a mere inconvenience, consider it as an opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth. By embracing boredom, you open yourself up to new experiences, insights, and creativity that can ultimately transform your life.

Introduction:

When boredom strikes, resist the urge to distract yourself immediately. Instead, take a moment to reflect on why you're feeling bored. Is it because you're disengaged with your current activities or because you're craving stimulation? Understanding the root cause can help you address it more effectively.

Mindful Reflection:

We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.

Boredom can be a sign that you're stuck in a rut or that you've outgrown your current pursuits. Use this time to explore new interests or hobbies that pique your curiosity. Whether it's learning a new language, picking up an instrument, or trying out a new sport, stepping outside of your comfort zone can invigorate your life.

Explore New Interests

Learning is the beginning of wealth. Learning is the beginning of health. Learning is the beginning of spirituality. Searching and learning is where the miracle process all begins.

Boredom is fertile ground for creativity. Instead of passively consuming entertainment, use boredom as an opportunity to flex your creative muscles. Write in a journal, doodle in a sketchbook, or brainstorm ideas for a passion project. You'll be amazed at the innovative solutions and insights that emerge when you allow your mind to wander.

Cultivate Creativity

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.

Boredom often stems from a restless mind that is constantly seeking stimulation. Practicing mindfulness can help you cultivate a greater sense of presence and contentment in the present moment. Whether it's through meditation, deep breathing exercises, or simply paying attention to your surroundings, mindfulness can help you find peace amidst the boredom.

Practice Mindfulness

In today's hyper-connected world, solitude is often viewed as uncomfortable or undesirable. However, spending time alone can be incredibly rewarding and rejuvenating. Use moments of boredom to enjoy your own company, reconnect with your inner thoughts, and recharge your mental batteries.

Embrace Solitude

Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgement, repeated every day.

Boredom can be a powerful motivator for change. Use it as a catalyst to set new goals and take proactive steps towards achieving them. Whether it's advancing in your career, improving your relationships, or pursuing personal development, boredom can provide the necessary push to propel you forward.

Set Goals and Take Action

The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.

If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.

Ultimately, the way you respond to boredom reflects your underlying values and priorities in life. Use this time to reflect on what truly matters to you and align your actions with your core values. By finding meaning and purpose in even the most mundane moments, you can transform boredom into an opportunity for profound growth and fulfillment.

Find Meaning and Purpose

Recognize that the value of time is more important than time itself. How you spend your time, especially during moments of boredom, shapes your life's narrative. Consider the analogy of an apple in a basket: just as you must remove all the apples, including the decaying ones, to maintain freshness, similarly, use boredom as a signal to evaluate and remove stagnant activities or mindsets that hinder your growth.

Value of Time

No amount of money ever bought a second of time.

Remember, boredom is not the enemy—it's a natural part of the human experience. By changing your perspective and embracing boredom as a catalyst for personal growth, you can unlock new opportunities and cultivate a more fulfilling life journey.

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You learn a lot more when you're going through a rough period compared to the good times when everything goes your way.

The biggest learning during my tenure as a captain was that, a lot of time, I used to think that this is common sense. But no, there is nothing called common sense.

If you're playing against an aggressive side, you need to play an aggressive game.

Gut feeling is all about the experiences that you have had in your life. It is about being in difficult scenarios, knowing what worked, what did not work, and then taking a decision.

If you keep winning, you don't know the areas you've to work hard.

One of my theories is to be captain on the field and off the field, you need to totally enjoy each other's company. I don't like discussing cricket off the field.

I love being in the present.﻿I'm a person who lives very in the moment.

You need more individuals who can do more than one job in the field. Especially if all of them are good fielders and if they can contribute with bat and ball if needed. Just adds to the strength of the side.

You can't make three or four spinners bowl the exact number of overs. You don't see the number of overs bowled by them before you make a bowling change; you see who looks effective and make a bowling change.

The biggest problem is when a player asks a captain why he is not playing but does not want an honest answer.

When you help sportspersons achieve their full potential, you propel the sporting quotient of the entire country.

Favorite quotes by MS Dhoni, a Cricketer I admire.

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Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, argues that even in the most extreme circumstances, individuals can find meaning and purpose in their lives. He emphasizes the importance of finding meaning in suffering as a way to endure and transcend difficult experiences.

Finding Meaning in Suffering

Frankl introduces the concept of the "will to meaning," suggesting that humans are driven by a fundamental need to find purpose and significance in their lives. He posits that this search for meaning is a primary motivating factor for human behavior.

The Will to Meaning

Despite external circumstances, Frankl argues that individuals always retain the freedom to choose their attitudes and responses to life's challenges. He believes that this freedom of choice is a fundamental aspect of human dignity and resilience.

Freedom of Choice

<ol><li>Frankl explores the role of attitude in coping with suffering. He suggests that by changing one's perspective and attitude toward suffering, individuals can find inner strength and resilience.</li></ol>

Attitude Toward Suffering

Frankl emphasizes the importance of meaningful work and relationships in human life. He suggests that finding purpose in one's profession and cultivating meaningful connections with others are essential for a fulfilling existence.

Finding Meaning in Work and Love

Through his own experiences in concentration camps, Frankl demonstrates how individuals can transcend even the most horrific circumstances by finding meaning and purpose in their suffering. He illustrates the power of the human spirit to endure and find hope in the face of tragedy.

Transcending Tragedy

Beyond individual experiences, Frankl explores the broader quest for ultimate meaning and purpose in life. He suggests that connecting with something greater than oneself, whether through spirituality, creativity, or service to others, can provide a deeper sense of fulfillment and purpose.

The Search for Ultimate Meaning

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl is a profound exploration of human resilience and the search for purpose in the face of suffering. Here are some key insights from the book

A prominent Viennese psychiatrist before the war, Viktor Frankl was uniquely able to observe the way that he and other inmates coped with the experience of being in Auschwitz. He noticed that it was the men who comforted others and who gave away their last piece of bread who survived the longest - and who offered proof that everything can be taken away from us except the ability to choose our attitude in any given set of circumstances. The sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision and not of camp influences alone. Only those who allowed their inner hold on their moral and spiritual selves to subside eventually fell victim to the camp's degenerating influence - while those who made a victory of those experiences turned them into an inner triumph. Frankl came to believe that man's deepest desire is to search for meaning and purpose. This outstanding work offers us all a way to transcend suffering and find significance in the art of living.

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Viktor Emil Frankl M.D., Ph.D., was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor. Frankl was the founder of logotherapy, which is a form of Existential Analysis, the "Third Viennese School" of psychotherapy.His book Man's Search for Meaning (first published under a different title in 1959: From Death-Camp to Existentialism. Originally published in 1946 as Ein Psycholog erlebt das Konzentrationslager) chronicles his experiences as a concentration camp inmate and describes his psychotherapeutic method of finding meaning in all forms of existence, even the most sordid ones, and thus a reason to continue living. He was one of the key figures in existential therapy.

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Become an adept observer of body language. Noticing subtle physical changes can offer insights into a person's thoughts or emotions.

Observation is Key:

Understand a person's normal behavior before interpreting deviations as meaningful. A baseline allows you to notice when behavior changes, possibly indicating shifts in feelings or attitudes.

Establish a baseline :

Always consider the context when interpreting body language. Like crossed arms might suggest defensiveness in one situation or simply that the person is cold in another.some examples of positive body language:<ul><li>Posture: Be relaxed but don't slouch. Stand up tall to convey confidence.</li><li>Eye contact: Maintain eye contact for a few seconds at a time.</li><li>Gestures: Use simple hand gestures. Avoid touching your face.</li><li>Facial expressions: Smile and use positive facial expressions.</li></ul>

Context Matters

Look for clusters of body language signals. A single gesture might not mean much, but a series of signals can provide a clearer indication of a person's state of mind. For example; while you asking serious question to a person, “telltale cluster” of nonverbal signals associated with lying are: hand touching, face touching, crossing arms, and leaning away.

Clusters of Gestures

Pay attention when someone’s words do not match their body language. This incongruence can be a telltale sign of what they might truly be thinking or feeling. For example, someone might tell you they are happy while frowning and staring at the ground. So when someone says one thing, but their body language suggests something else.

Inappropriateness between Words and Body Language

The face can be revealing. While some people can control their facial expressions to a degree, microexpressions often slip through, revealing genuine emotions.<ul><li>Happiness: Raised cheeks, raised lip corners, "crow's feet" wrinkles around the eyes, tightened muscles around the eyes</li><li>Sadness: Raised inner corners of the eyes, loose eyelids, lip corners pulled down</li><li>Surprise: Dilated pupils, open mouth, lifted eyelids and eyebrows</li></ul>

Facial Expressions

Eye behavior can provide clues to a person's thought processes or feelings. For instance, lack of eye contact can imply discomfort or dishonesty, whereas direct eye contact tends to signify confidence and honesty.

Eye Movements

A person's stance and the way they position themselves in a space can indicate their attitude and level of engagement. Leaning towards someone often shows interest, whereas leaning back could imply disinterest or a desire for space.

Posture and Positioning

People have an innate sense of personal space and territory, and how they react to the encroachment of their space can provide insights into their comfort levels and feelings towards the other person.An example is students as they sit in class. Some students like to spread their backpack and books out in a way to let other students know that they do not want others to sit next to them. These students seem to value having a lot of space to themselves.

Territoriality and Personal Space

When people are in rapport, they tend to mirror each other’s movements and postures. Observing such synchrony can indicate a good connection and agreement.Here are some examples of synchrony:<ul><li>In-phase: Behaving in the same way as the other person, such as crossing the same leg as a friend when sitting down</li><li>Anti-phase: Taking turns, such as in conversation</li></ul>Here are some examples of mirroring:<ul><li>Matching your speed to someone else's</li><li>Crossing the same leg as a friend when sitting down</li><li>Finishing each other's statements</li><li>Agreeing on decisions</li></ul>

Synchrony and Mirroring

By understanding these principles, you can better interpret the nonverbal cues that people give off, potentially improving communication and understanding in social situations. 🙂This is my first post in deepstash, if you have any suggestions or questions do ask me in telegram;@abhijeet_chakrabartyHappy Reading 😊

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How to Read a Person Like a Book" by Gerard Nierenberg and Henry H. Calero is a guide on interpreting body language to understand people's real feelings and intentions. Here are some key principles which I've discussed here.

Learn what your friend, your lover, your boss are really saying to you—in the language that everybody uses but nobody speaks—body language! From the renowned founder of The Negotiation Institute Gerard Nierenberg comes this easy to use guide to improving your ability to communicate with other people. Whether conscious or not of our bodies’ movements, we express our feelings, attitudes, and motives through gestures that are often vague and frequently ignored. How to Read a Person Like a Book teaches you how to “decode” and reply to nonverbal signals from strangers, friends, and business associates, allowing you to: gain command of business and social situations; sharpen your negotiating skills; recognize signals of affection and attraction; enrich your knowledge of body language; and much more! Learn the clues that make reading people easy. Gerard Nierenberg’s proven techniques for gaining control of negotiations, detecting lies, or recognizing signals of affection and sexual attraction will dramatically improve your understanding of others, giving you the advantage of added insight into all social and business situations.

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Learn from the wisdom of the humble ant with Jim Rohn's profound insights into their four-part philosophy. 
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<li>Ants never quit; they persistently seek alternative routes to achieve their goals.</li>
<li>They plan ahead, gathering winter food in summer, reminding us to think ahead and be realistic. Even in winter, they anticipate summer, eagerly awaiting opportunities. </li>
<li>Finally, they embody the "all-you-possibly-can" philosophy, tirelessly gathering resources. </li>
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Embrace this mindset to navigate life's challenges, stay positive, and maximize your potential for success.

The Ant Philosophy: A Blueprint for Success

If the why is powerful, the how is easy.

Incorporate these principles into your life to cultivate resilience, foresight, optimism, and a strong work ethic, ultimately propelling you toward success and fulfillment:
Persistence: Like ants, never give up; keep seeking alternative paths to your goals.
Planning and Realism: Ants gather food in summer, reminding us to plan ahead and anticipate challenges.
Optimism: Even in tough times, maintain a positive outlook and eagerly await opportunities.
Maximum Effort: Embrace the "all-you-possibly-can" philosophy, giving your best effort to achieve success.

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This post illuminates the path to finding personal freedom by shedding the heavy weight of others' expectations. "The Courage to Be Disliked" teaches us that our worth and life choices should not be dictated by the fear of judgment or the desire for external validation. The courage to embrace our true selves, despite potential disapproval or misunderstanding, leads to genuine freedom. Adlerian psychology suggests that when we stop measuring our success through the eyes of others and start pursuing what truly matters to us, we unlock a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Finding Freedom: The Journey Beyond Others' Expectations

Overcoming the fear of rejection is a pivotal theme in "The Courage to Be Disliked." This post delves into how the fear of being judged or rejected can trap us in a comfort zone, stifling growth and authenticity. The book argues that facing this fear is essential for personal development. By adopting an Adlerian perspective, we learn that rejection is not a reflection of our worth but a natural part of human interactions and diversity. Embracing this can empower us to take risks, express our true selves, and form more genuine connections.

Courage Over Comfort: Overcoming the Fear of Rejection

Contribution to the community is a key to happiness and fulfillment, according to Adlerian psychology. This post explores how moving beyond self-centered goals to focus on the welfare of others enriches our sense of purpose and belonging. "The Courage to Be Disliked" emphasizes that our happiness is intertwined with our contributions to society. The explanation covers the psychological benefits of altruism, such as increased well-being and a deeper connection to the community.

Beyond the Self: The Transformative Power of Contribution

Adlerian psychology outlines work, love, and community as the three fundamental tasks of life. This post examines how "The Courage to Be Disliked" suggests balancing these tasks to achieve a well-rounded and satisfying life. Mastering these tasks involves recognizing their interconnectedness and the role they play in personal development. The book provides insights into finding fulfillment in our careers, cultivating healthy and loving relationships, and actively participating in community life.

Mastering Life’s Tasks: Work, Love, and Community

The Courage to Be Disliked" challenges the concept of determinism—the belief that our lives are predetermined by past events or inherent traits. This post discusses how the book advocates for recognizing our power to choose our path and responses to life's challenges. By embracing the idea that we are not bound by our past or current circumstances, we can take responsibility for our actions and the direction of our lives.

Breaking Free: The Myth of Determinism and the Power of Choice

At its core, "The Courage to Be Disliked" emphasizes the importance of recognizing our intrinsic self-worth for achieving true happiness. This post explores the concept that our value does not depend on achievements, social status, or the approval of others. Instead, Adlerian psychology teaches us to find happiness in accepting ourselves as we are, with all our imperfections. The explanation includes strategies for building self-compassion, such as challenging negative self-talk, practicing gratitude, and engaging in self-care.

The Significance of Acknowledging Self-Worth

It's not always easy to go against the crowd, but I believe that pursuing what you truly love, without worrying about the opinions of others, is the right approach at times

A single book can change your life. Already an enormous bestseller in Asia, with more than 3 million copies sold, The Courage to be Disliked demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you

Ichiro KISHIMI Philosopher, Adlerian psychologist and translator of English and German languages. Born in 1956.M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University. He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.

Ichiro Kishimi

Fumitake Koga is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Fumitake Koga has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Fumitake Koga's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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The Courage to Be Disliked

<ul><li>A recurring event or behavior that happens regularly.</li><li>A consistent theme that connects different experiences.</li><li>A subtle cue that can help identify underlying issues</li></ul>

What is a pattern?

Noticing patterns is an important part of understanding one's thoughts, feelings, and experiences. At first, they may seem random, but over time, a consistent theme or connection can become clear. 🔍🧠⏳ Recognizing patterns can provide valuable insight into our inner workings. Pay attention to small details and connections to better understand.

Notice patterns

LOOK FOR SIMILARITIES AND DIFFERENCES. ✨

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1- You take it everywhere;2- Books are cheaper (cost effective);3- There are subscription options, and you'll get books for just one monthly fee;4- Built-in dictionary in reading;5- Readability such as source, colors, and light;

Digital

1- You can use decoration after reading;2- Doesn't have a chance to forget the app password or lose your data;3- It doesn't run out of battery, i.e. it doesn't need a charger;4- You can borrow or barter;5- You can sell

Physical Books

Here I show you a comparison of positive points in each of the ways you can read your favorite book, let your favorite type in the comments.

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Comparison Between Digital and Physical Books

Goggins advocates for embracing discomfort and using it as a catalyst for growth. He encourages readers to confront their weaknesses head-on and push past their perceived limits.

Embrace the Hardship

The book emphasizes the power of the mind in overcoming obstacles. Goggins shares techniques for developing mental toughness and resilience, such as visualization and positive self-talk.

Master Your Mind

When you think you’re done, you’re only at 40% of your body’s capability

Goggins emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of one's actions and holding oneself accountable for personal growth. He shares his own experiences of taking responsibility for his life and pushing through adversity.

Embrace Accountability

Goggins encourages readers to set ambitious goals that push them outside their comfort zones. He believes in the power of relentless pursuit and refusing to settle for mediocrity.

Set Audacious Goals

Discipline is a recurring theme in Goggins's philosophy. He believes in the importance of creating daily habits and routines that foster growth and self-improvement.

Embrace Discipline

Goggins challenges readers to reframe their relationship with pain and adversity. He believes that embracing discomfort is essential for personal growth and achieving success.

Harness the Power of Pain

Resilience is a central theme in Goggins's book. He shares stories of overcoming extreme challenges and encourages readers to develop resilience in the face of adversity.

Cultivate Resilience

Goggins advocates for constantly pushing oneself to new heights and refusing to settle for anything less than one's best. He believes in the power of relentless pursuit and continuous improvement.

Never Settle

David Goggins's book "Can't Hurt Me" is a transformative journey that pushes readers to break through their limitations and unlock their full potential.

New York Times Bestseller Over 2.5 million copies sold For David Goggins, childhood was a nightmare - poverty, prejudice, and physical abuse colored his days and haunted his nights. But through self-discipline, mental toughness, and hard work, Goggins transformed himself from a depressed, overweight young man with no future into a U.S. Armed Forces icon and one of the world's top endurance athletes. The only man in history to complete elite training as a Navy SEAL, Army Ranger, and Air Force Tactical Air Controller, he went on to set records in numerous endurance events, inspiring Outside magazine to name him The Fittest (Real) Man in America. In this curse-word-free edition of Can't Hurt Me, he shares his astonishing life story and reveals that most of us tap into only 40% of our capabilities. Goggins calls this The 40% Rule, and his story illuminates a path that anyone can follow to push past pain, demolish fear, and reach their full potential.

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