An organization is never more confident than its leader, which accentuates the importance for leaders to display unswerving confidence in themselves, their vision, their strategy, and their people. Leading with confidence involves important nuances like avoiding the opposite (leading from a place of fear) and learning how to handle criticism. It also involves knowing not only what traits to project but what behaviors to avoid.

In fact, super confident people seek opportunities to celebrate the success of others. And I've learned the more praise you give away, the more comes back to you.

1. They don't seek attention and praise.

Excuses are an attempt to dodge accountability and blame. Confident people embrace accountability and don't worry about being blamed. They own their mistakes and command respect accordingly. They don't hide behind circumstances or lack of resources to justify not accomplishing something.

2. They refuse to make excuses.

Defensiveness is just another form of blame-dodging--even worse than the above because it often involves not just avoiding blame but redirecting and projecting it onto someone else. Confident people are open-minded about their mistakes and what they could have done better, thus avoiding the need to redirect anything to anyone.

3. They aren't defensive.

Conflict brings, well, conflict, and the self-assured are sure-handed in dealing with tension. They even look forward to it, viewing it as a mechanism to quickly get past differences and disagreements to move toward resolution.

4. They don't avoid conflict.

Choosing not to decide is still a choice, a corrosive one. Indecision is often born from insecurity, a fear of making the wrong decision and looking bad. Highly confident people don't worry about who's right--they worry about what's right. And if they decide incorrectly, so be it. Onward. Upward. Live and learn.

5. They don't hide behind indecision.

In fact, highly confident leaders seek it out. They view it as a true gift; the fact that someone is investing the time to help them learn and grow is genuinely appreciated. They know they're far from perfect and embrace the journey of becoming a better version of themselves.

6. They're not downtrodden by feedback.

They focus on becoming better than they were yesterday and don't get sucked into comparing themselves with anyone else. They welcome competition when it presents itself, but view it as an opportunity to push themselves and improve, not as a chance to establish dominance.

7. They don't feel they're in competition with others.

Taking a stand by definition means you'll stand out, which isn't for everyone. But it is for the highly confident, who know that authenticity trumps approval. They want results, not reassurance. If their stand invites dissent, so be it and we're all better for it, say the self-assured.

8. They're not afraid to take a stand.

Highly confident leaders view adversity as what creates success, not what prevents success. The most confident leader I ever worked for felt she was failing if she didn't fail. She had enough belief in herself to know she was bigger than any mistake she made.

9. They don't shy from failure and setbacks.

The self-assured don't obsess over whether they're good enough. They know they're good. And that's enough. They don't feel the need to be perfect and beat themselves up when they fall short of perfection. They adopt an acceptance and recovery mindset when they don't succeed.

10. They don't pummel themselves with negative self-talk.

When negative people project their unhelpful vibe into the universe, it's often a cover up. They don't feel good about themselves or something in their life and so want to project that sentiment elsewhere. Confident people aren't having it, because they don't need to build themselves up by tearing other people or things down.

11. They don't spread negative energy.

Does anything smack more of insecurity than when someone feels compelled to make it all about themselves all the time?

12. They don't talk only about themselves.

They don't worry about covering their bases or asses. They focus on what matters and are happy to take criticism for de-prioritizing the rest.

13. They don't do the easy thing by doing everything.

They know that homebuilders need permission to act, but business builders don't. They're not disrespectful of authority. Rather, they're respectful yet autonomous. So tear down these behaviors to build up the self-confidence you exude.

14. They don't require permission to act.

Certain types of leaders, those who are certain of themselves, avoid these actions.



Understand yourself and those around you.

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Highly Confident People Avoid These 14 Behaviors

<ul><li>Love, at first sight, is never love, it’s mere attraction towards physical appearance, which is Lust.</li><li>Lust will eventually fade away once the physical needs are satisfied.</li><li>Aren't we all walking on the thin line between Love & Lust?</li></ul>

Love vs. Lust

<ul><li>Love takes time to grow on someone, it's more like planting a tree.</li><li>Every relationship requires a strong root of emotional bonding.</li><li>Honesty, Looking out for each other, Valuable Sacrifices, fuel the tree to grow strong and spread its roots deeper & stronger.</li></ul>

The Seed of Love

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I'm afraid to love again, will I lose again if I love.?It's not traumatic, it's not depression (I believe it is not).But throughout my life, I have knocked on the wrong door seeking love, made bad decisions thinking of imaginary narratives. I always thought of happy endings and created a storyline in my mind where…

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Why Relationship Fail? What are you doing wrong in Love?

We all know that human brain is a very mysterious thing that we're yet to be discover fully.There are things beyond the human intelligence & some psychologists who are deeply engraved in depths of mind are only able to give them words & faces.

Mysterious brain

As we dig deeper inside brain, there are layers Of brain that uncover . Psychologists divide them in 3 layers- <ul><li>Conscious - What we see, feel,and react to situations,etc functions of which we are AWARE of.</li><li>Subconscious - Actions we do, not knowingly,without thinking like-Calling out 'mom' whenever comes home,grooving on songs,etc .</li><li>Unconscious - Processes in the mind which occur automatically (eg-during sleep) and are not available to introspection and include thought processes, memories, interests, and motivations.</li></ul>

Depths Of Brain. 

People do things either subconsciously or consciously ,unconscious pattern is really deep &not achievable easily.<ul><li>When things we do subconsciously comes into conscious brain,there starts the problem.</li><li>Means, you know every reason of 'Why am I doing this work?'</li><li>Because-Things get really confusing as brain start overthinking(start calculating every possibility, pros, cons, effect,affect,why...) i.e.QUESTIONING related useless things ,sometimes directing brain away from the present task.</li></ul>

Why Depths Are Scary? 

People do some actions subconsciously(without giving much thought) & when they start thinking of reason (overthinking) , they get distracted from giving 100% of their brain power to the present task which results in 'CLUTTERED' work,spending more time than usual,ultimately not satisfactory output.ALSO, due to this the person cannot achieve "STATE OF FLOW".

Conclusion

KEEP IT SIMPLE

What Can We Do? 

Sometimes, people think more & not able to start or end a work due to overthinking &thinking deeply. 

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Scary depths of BRAIN

“A man, slave to gold, holds a whip…And beats the slave he bought with that gold as if to claim HE is the master. He just doesn’t see it for himself. Every living human being is a slave to something.”

“Love provides the worth of everything in the world. Without love…gold, silver, horses, and women…all are worthless.”

“You have no enemies. No one…Has any enemies. There is no one…That you should hurt.”

“The world…God’s divine creation…Is so brimming with love…Yet there is no love in the hearts of men.”

“I’d had fifteen years to think about him. And I realized that it wasn’t a matter of the life or death of flesh. What’s important to a warrior is the soul…And where it lies.”

A BLOODY COMING OF AGE In a gambit to become the power behind the Danish and English thrones, Askeladd has taken the prince, Canute, and plunged deep into a winter storm behind enemy lines. Canute's father, King Sweyn, gives him up for dead in his haste to suppress English resistance. But Askeladd's small band can't outrun the tenacious maniac Thorkell forever, and when the warriors finally clash, a storm of sweat and gore ensues that will turn a boy into a man and a hostage into a ruler of men! "Gripping doesn't begin to describe Vinland Saga. 5 stars." - ICv2 "Deeply engrossing... If you have any interest at all in Vikings, the Medieval period, or pirates, this is not a series you want to miss." - Anime News Network "For those who love Berserk, you'll love this too... Worth the long wait." - A Case Suitable for Treatment From the acclaimed author of Planetes.

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ENGLAND AT WAR ? The foolish King Ethelred has fled, and Askeladd's band is one of hundreds plundering the English countryside. Yet victory brings no peace to the elderly Danish King Sweyn, who worries that his untested, sensitive son Canute will never be ready to take the throne. The king's attempt to force his son to become a man places the young prince within the grasp of the gleeful killer Thorkell! Whoever holds Canute holds the key to the thrones of England and Denmark - and Askeladd has his own reasons for joining the fray! &quot;With its rich visual details, emotional pull and strong characters, this historical epic is an instant winner.&quot; - Anime News Network Winner of the?Japan Media Arts Awards Grand Prize for Manga and the?Kodansha Manga Award From the acclaimed author of Planetes

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Life is all about how we deal with circumstances, how we act and react to the corresponding situations. For a better life we need to work upon our skills and that seems not easy at all! For a better life here are the 8 rules that you must follow for a happy and a successful life.

8 Short Of Rules For A Better Life 

Being calm in every situation is not as easy as we think, having a calm nature is the most rare thing that one can have. Being calm in every situation makes you wise, mysterious helps you in making wise decisions, makes you more attractive among others. One of the major benefits of being calm is that it helps you in taking quick and wise decisions.  In a world that's Full of negative energy, anxiety and depression it's important to take care of our mind as well as of our body.

1. Always stay calm

Second most important rule for a better life is not to compare yourself with others. I often see many people on social media comparing their life with others. Comparison is just an illusion ; everything lies within our brain and being compared with someone is the worst thing. Stop comparing yourself to others, it's your life, it's you vs you not you vs others.

2. No comparison with others

Motivation can't lead you where discipline can, it's the biggest changing asset that can change your life. Being <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2022/03/Discipline%20-vs-Motivation%20.html">disciplined </a> can lead you a great and a successful life.

3. Be disciplined

Everything has a price whether it's a material or a non material thing. We work because we want results, we work because we want success, that's actually our main motto. But this doesn't work every time, success comes with sacrifices and struggles and believe me when you forget about success while working for your goals then note that you are successful. Don't think about what will happen next, just think about what you can do now.

4. Forget about result just focus on process

We all have been taught to just focus on success, how to achieve our goals, how to be rich but nobody has taught us about failures. Failures are life lessons, failures indicate that we are trying.  While working for goals don't be afraid to fail, don't be afraid of failures, just learn from them and bounce back once again. Life is meant to rule the world not be a slave of this world.

5. Don't be afraid to lose

Sometimes it's not between you and others it's between you and you. Sometimes we have to make quick decisions during tough times.  If you are in a situation where you can't decide what's the perfect option then listen to your inner voice. Listen to what your inner voice says because it will never disappoint you.

6. Listen what your inner voice says

Better life comes when we urge to do better and that's the point where most of us fail.  Personality development must be your priority. Develop yourself, come up with new skills, focus on your weakness and build new strength. Smartphones must be your biggest enemy while you are working for your goals. You need to be very crucial about your plans. Remember one thing: don't waste your time for just a couple of enjoyment.

7. Say no to smartphone & Yes to personality development

If you want to live a happy life then stay neutral whether you're happy or sad. Being neutral helps you in dealing with situations as you can come up with new responses and can stay calm in tough times.

8. Stay Neutral

Everybody wants a better life but nobody wants to work for it. Believe in yourself, improve yourself, develop new skills and you are ready. That's all  Good day:)

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An act of deception can be detrimental, leading to hurt feelings, damaged relationships, and even imprisonment. Lying can lead to cheating or stealing, among other sinister motives. There is, however, a way to detect lies before they do any damage.

20 Ways To Spot Deception Before You Fall for It

Detecting deception is a valuable skill for anyone to learn. It helps people make<a href="https://motivatedprogress.com/how-to-make-better-decisions/"> intelligent choices </a>with business, friendships, and more. It can save you years of wasted effort and help you dodge scams. You’ll also save the confidence you’d lose from someone taking advantage of you.

Detect deception

<ul><li>Self-deception is also known as lying to yourself and believing it. </li><li><a href="https://motivatedprogress.com/the-dangers-of-confirmation-bias-and-10-ways-to-stop-it/">Confirmation bias </a>is a delusional thought someone believes despite proof that it’s false. </li><li>Exaggeration makes something seem much better or worse than it was.</li><li>An omission is a primarily true story, except the deceiver doesn’t include the vital aspects that make it a lie.</li><li>Denial or refusal to admit the truth.</li><li>Gaslighting or misleading someone into thinking they’re going crazy.</li><li>Self-serving lies and manipulation are falsehoods to get what the deceiver wants.</li></ul>

Types of deception

People who habitually lie all the time are considered pathological liars. It’s not a big deal to them, and they’ll lie to anyone. They will lie easily and not feel remorse for it.

Beware of pathological liars

Deception can be harmful, leading to hurt feelings, damaged relationships, and even prison time. Lies can have nefarious purposes, such as cheating or stealing. But there are ways to spot it before it causes damage.

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Plan for what is difficult while it is easy, do what is great while it is small. The most difficult things in the world must be done while they are still easy, the greatest things in the world must be done while they are still small. For this reason sages never do what is great, and this is why they can achieve that greatness.

The Art of War is an enduring classic that holds a special place in the culture and history of East Asia. An ancient Chinese text on the philosophy and politics of warfare and military strategy, the treatise was written in 6th century B.C. by a warrior-philosopher now famous all over the world as Sun Tzu. Sun Tzu's teachings remain as relevant to leaders and strategists today as they were to rulers and military generals in ancient times. Divided into thirteen chapters and written succinctly, The Art of War is a must-read for anybody who works in a competitive environment.

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"There's not a dated maxim or vague prescription in it." — Newsweek Regarded as the world's oldest military treatise, this compact volume has instructed officers and tacticians for more than 2,000 years. From its origins in China, The Art of War traveled the world to inform the strategies of Napoleon and World War II generals. More recently, it has taken on a new life as a guide to competing successfully in business, law, and sports. All of The Art of War's concepts retain their value to modern readers, from the prudence of circumventing a strong opponent and taking advantage of a weak one to the wisdom of preparedness and flexibility. Other topics include strategy, tactics, maneuvering, communications, the treatment of soldiers, and the worth of well-trained officers. History enthusiasts, business thought leaders, and anyone intrigued by competition and rivalry will appreciate this elegant edition of the classic work.

Sun Tzu (孫子; pinyin: Sūnzǐ) is a honorific title bestowed upon Sūn Wu (孫武 c. 544-496 BC), the author of The Art of War (孫子兵法), an immensely influential ancient Chinese book on military strategy. Sun Tzu believed in the use of the military sciences to effect outcomes that would result in peace.In the author's name, Sūn Wu, the character wu, meaning "military", is the same as the character in wu shu, or martial art. Sun Wu also has a courtesy name, Chang Qing (Cháng Qīng).

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"Multitasking is doing different works with Full productivity and no or minimal loss"Here 'loss' refers to -loss in physical health and mental health.

Multitasking

First of all, we have to be clear about-"HUMAN BRAIN IS NOT capable to multitask"<ul><li>Our brain do work 'one at a time' .</li><li>That's the best state when we can -OUTPUT MOST of human abilities.</li><li>A work can be done productively,efficiently without mental fatique only when OUR BRAIN & BODY sync and do a Common task.</li></ul>

Why MULTITASKING Is Difficult? 

NO, It is possible but not like-Watching T.V. and studying.<ul><li>It is somewhat like -"MAKE SCHEDULE", "BREAK DOWN different tasks into PIECES" , "FOLLOW schedule".</li><li>And "FOCUSSING ON ONE TASK AT A TIME" </li></ul>

So, Is It Impossible To Multitask

Giving whole Focus to a specific task results in HIGH PRODUCTIVITY & Completes the work FASTLY i.e. in shorter time which further give time to do other tasks.

Why Do This 

"Multitasking is the ability to screw up everything simultaneously"﻿

I tried to do MULTITASKING & found something to share which help anyone to do "REAL multitasking" .

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How to do MULTITASKING? 

Pleasure can be a boon or a burden, depending on our relationship to it. It can leaven laborious days or lead us to waste them. The pleasures of a mild stimulant such as caffeine can be harmless or even beneficial, but the pleasures of amphetamines can be deadly.This creates a puzzle for the happiness seeker, who must navigate between the twin perils of puritanism and indulgence, leading to the much-dreaded rule of moderation, which is more or less the philosophy of leaving any party as soon as it gets really good.

Seeking Pleasure

Fortunately, there is a better way to solve the puzzle: To stay at the party without letting it get out of control and choose enjoyment instead.<ul><li>Enjoyment and pleasure are terms often used interchangeably, but they are not the same thing. </li><li>Pleasure happens to you; enjoyment is something that you create through your own effort. </li><li>Pleasure is the lightheadedness you get from a bit of grain alcohol; enjoyment is the satisfaction of a good wine, properly understood. </li><li>Pleasure is addictive and animal; enjoyment is elective and human.</li></ul>

Choosing Enjoyment

Enjoyment is better than pleasure because it is more conscious and permanent.Everyone gets pleasure from eating when they’re hungry, but it takes some knowledge and cultivation to enjoy food. After you finish lunch, the pleasure is gone, and in fact, the idea of eating is no longer appealing because your physical need has been satisfied. Meanwhile, the memory of a meal enjoyed with friends transcends the immediate experience and can bring good feelings long after it is over.

The Dinner Analogy

Opting for pleasure is a mistake for happiness. But even if we choose enjoyment, other barriers can make us less likely to get the satisfaction that it can offer. Some people ruin their enjoyment of life by using it to show others how happy they are.Enjoyment can also be ruined by a worldview that is excessively practical, in which we feel our time and energy should never be “wasted.” This is particularly true in the case of leisure, which is <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/01/history-hobbies-america-productivity-leisure/621150/">often viewed as a misuse of time</a>, because it is not productive in an economic sense. Such an attitude lowers your enjoyment of leisure.

Ruining Enjoyment By Instagram

Enjoyment of life—whether that means spending “unproductive” time with others, reading a good book, or taking a long walk—has a loftier significance than good feelings do. It is important for human agency, a life lived on purpose. Enjoyment means refusing to be managed by pleasures, nor subjugated by joyless drudgery. Pursuing it is a declaration of independence from your base impulses, be they licentious or despotic. It is a key ingredient in creating the life you truly want.

Enjoying Life Is Crucial

Pleasure is addictive and animal; enjoyment is elective and human.

Choose Enjoyment Over Pleasure

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Whenever there is an inconvenience or a problem, we instinctively seek a guilty party, a person or collective that can be blamed for the ordeal.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">This is a very human impulse to assign culprits to things that go wrong.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When the economy is sluggish, it’s always due to bad policies and the bad people who make them, rather than hideously complex market interactions that even economists don’t understand.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When the local football team has a disappointing season, it’s the failure of the coach, or the quarterback, or the management, or a lack of fan support.</li></ul>

Blame It On The Boogie!

<ul><li>It helps us process our painful emotions about the problem.</li><li>If you can convince yourself that a given problem is caused by bad people, then it means someone else is responsible for it.</li><li>It allows us to believe bad things shouldn't happen, at least not to ourselves.</li><li>It makes solutions seem relatively straightforward: stop the bad people or get rid of them.</li></ul>

Reasons Everything is Someone's Fault

<ul><li>You can observe how the mind generates suspects and verdicts within seconds.</li><li>It becomes clearer that villainizing is mostly a coping mechanism, rather than a sensible way of understanding or addressing problems.</li><li>A little curiosity on this front makes political topics less maddening to think and talk about.</li></ul>

Watching the Mind Make Bad Guys

Villianizing Others Is A Coping strategy.

Last weekend I was driving a friend home down Portage Avenue and we encountered an unexpected traffic jam. Four lanes had been reduced to one because a crew was working on the overpass. Even though it was Saturday afternoon and […]

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