(a.k.a How to Heal)<ol><li>Ask new questions.</li><li>Reset your inner clock.</li><li>Give yourself permission to receive.</li><li>Get a daily dose of nature.</li><li>Detoxify the house (and yourself)</li><li>Let intuition tell your thinking mind where to look next. </li><li>Change your thoughts, change your genes.</li><li>Inhabit your body.</li><li>Heal the gut.</li><li>Break old habits that no longer serve you.</li><li>Practice pleasure. It's serious work.</li><li>Investigate hidden root causes.</li><li>Survive love and loss.</li><li>Reclaim your purpose.</li><li>Find your story, the real one.</li></ol>

How to Get Off the Couch

This is no small task. It’s especially challenging for doctors, scientists, academics, or others steeped in the belief that we can “fix whatever’s broke” or think our way out of an unfortunate situation. Symptoms are our body's way of saying something isn’t working anymore. Often, these symptoms have been going on for a while, but we’ve dismissed or overridden them with mind-over-matter techniques.Now it’s time to pay attention and suspend disbelief. The rational mind allows us to make sense of our discoveries, but it’s our leaps in consciousness that drive discovery.

Ask new questions.

To be healthy is to be in sync with your inner and outer rhythms. Your organs have their own circadian rhythms, turning on and off at different times in a twenty-four-hour cycle and your days are governed by the rhythms of sunlight, among other forces.<ul><li>Eating</li></ul>The more regular, the better. A regular schedule allows your digestive organs and all the hormones involved in digesting, absorbing, and using food for energy, to function optimally. <ul><li>Sleeping</li></ul>Consistent sleep is necessary for energy and mental focus, as well as for detoxification, tissue growth, and repair.

Reset your inner clock.

Healing doesn’t occur in isolation. The people and environment with which you surround yourself can support your journey. But first, you have to open yourself up to receive. Let go of shoulds and should-not. And reach out.<ol><li>Find a practitioner you trust. </li><li>Talk with your partner or a close friend</li><li>If your energy is low or your brain is foggy, consider setting up a  rotating meal service, where friends and family can sign up to drop off</li><li>If friends ask to help, suggest practical things: grocery shopping, laundry, medication/supplement pick-up.</li><li>Connect with a support group for chronic fatigue patients.</li></ol>

Give yourself permission to receive.

If getting outside is logistically challenging, bring in houseplants or fresh flowers. Any bit of nature can stimulate the healing rest-and-digest phase.

Get a daily dose of nature.

<ol><li>Choose organic produce and meats whenever possible. </li></ol>2. Shop at a farmer’s market if available.3. Use stainless steel and/or ceramic cookware. Avoid non-stick pots and pans.4. For food storage, use Pyrex glass containers or recycled jars.5. Filter chlorine from your drinking water, as well as other chemicals and pollutants.6. Use an air purifier in your home and office to reduce allergens.7. Remove dust by using a vacuum cleaner with a HEPA filter.8. Wash hands with warm water and castile soap.9. Use biodegradable cleaning products.10. Reduce/eliminate plastics that are off-gas.

Detoxify the house (and yourself)

This book is written by Cynthia Li, Who is a doctor but didn't find out the reason for her illness for that reason she has to suffer for a long time but at last, she finds our something and which is changer her life and for more people also.

In this revelatory memoir, doctor Cynthia Li shares the truth other doctors don't always understand and often won't share if they do-that chronic illness is complicated, and that treatment is not just a matter of test results and prescriptions but requires a more comprehensive approach. By sharing her own struggle with a disabling autoimmune crisis, which forced her to question her own conventional medical training and embrace the integrative principles of functional medicine, Li reveals the insider knowledge sufferers need to truly begin healing-mind, body, and spirit.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Health

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Mental Health

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Books

Cynthia Li

Brave New Medicine

Here are some things you can do in your free time instead of spending it scrolling your phone mindlessly for hours.Warning:If you wanna spend some time on social media is great as long as it makes you feel good and happy. Just be aware of what is considered meaningful content for you.

Activities you can do instead of scrolling your phone

<ul><li>Write a poem or a story/ letter to a friend.</li><li>Paint some decorations for your room.</li><li>Make a fancy tea or coffee</li><li>Baking cookies or cake</li><li>Try origami</li><li>Write a song</li><li>Cook yourself a meal</li><li>Decorate your walls with pictures</li><li>Coloring you hair </li></ul>

CREATE

<ul><li>Watch a documentary</li><li>Use a language-learning app</li><li>Join an online course</li><li>Read a book</li><li>Watch a tutorial for a new skill</li><li>Find new recipes</li><li>To play an instrument</li></ul>

LEARN

<ul><li>Visit online museum  </li><li>Go to a restaurant</li><li>Walk-in your neighborhood</li><li>Try something new</li></ul>

EXPLORE

<ul><li>Stretching </li><li>Go swimming or jogging</li><li>Practice yoga</li><li>Ride a bicycle</li></ul>

MOVE

<ul><li>Call an old friend/ new friend</li><li>Talk to a family member</li><li>Play a group game with your friends</li></ul>

INTERACT

<ul><li>Use color coding with your Google Calendar</li><li>Try Notion for digital planning </li><li>Declutter messy parts of your room</li><li>Declutter your digital space/phone</li><li>Delete apps you don't use</li><li>Clean you room</li></ul>

ORGANIZE

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101 THINGS TO DO INSTEAD OF SCROLLING // ideas to have a fun, productive summer

“I guess, as long as I have life, all I can do is fight with all my might.”

Subaru Natsuki was just trying to get to the convenience store but wound up summoned to another world. He encounters the usual things--life-threatening situations, silver haired beauties, cat fairies--you know, normal stuff. All that would be bad enough, but he's also gained the most inconvenient magical ability of all--time travel, but he's got to die to use it. How do you repay someone who saved your life when all you can do is die?

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Philosophy

Tappei Nagatsuki

Re:ZERO -Starting Life in Another World-, Vol. 1 (light novel)

"Emotionally agile people are dynamic… able to tolerate high levels of stress and to endure setbacks… to act according to their most cherished values and pursue big, long-term goals."

“Courage is not an absence of fear; courage is fear walking.”

“The ultimate goal of emotional agility is to keep a sense of challenge and growth alive and well throughout your life.”

“The most effective way to transform your life, therefore, is not by quitting your job and moving to an ashram, but, to paraphrase Teddy Roosevelt, by doing what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

It means being aware and accepting of all your emotions, even learning from the most difficult ones. It also means getting beyond conditioned or preprogrammed cognitive and emotional responses to live in the moment with a clear reading of present circumstances, respond appropriately, and then act in alignment with your deepest values.

Emotional agility

Forced optimism can’t be sustained, which means it’s only a temporary solution to a permanent problem.That’s because even negative emotions can have positive consequences, as long as you face them directly and draw the right conclusions. So don’t smile when you don’t feel like it.

Show up to your emotions, even the bad ones

<ul><li>Bottlers ignore, push aside, and avoid—sometimes getting repaid with unexpected outbursts. </li><li>Brooders complain, wearing out their friends, spouses, or themselves as they rehearse what might have been or what will be—but never moving on.</li></ul>

Bottling and brooding

<ul><li>Have-to goals are goals set for you by others in the form of pressure, for example, your doctor telling you you must lose weight. </li><li>Want-to goals are those you set out of conviction and after careful reflection of your true values. </li></ul>

Set want-to goals, not have-to ones

The ultimate social influence, it’s what causes us to pursue certain behaviors merely because we’re close to someone doing the same. This can be physical proximity or psychological relatedness through the media, for example.

Behavioral contagion

Mentally create distance by imagining going above or far away from the thought you are having.

Values are what helps you make the small, conscious decisions that add up to a life well-lived.To help you identify your values, each day habitually ask yourself, “As I look back at today, what did I do that was actually worth my time?”

Your values will lead the way

A set of sources that will help you recognize, understand and manage your emotions

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Boost Your Emotional Intelligence

#1 Wall Street Journal Best Seller USA Today Best Seller Amazon Best Book of the Year TED Talk sensation - over 3 million views! The counterintuitive approach to achieving your true potential, heralded by the Harvard Business Review as a groundbreaking idea of the year. The path to personal and professional fulfillment is rarely straight. Ask anyone who has achieved his or her biggest goals or whose relationships thrive and you’ll hear stories of many unexpected detours along the way. What separates those who master these challenges and those who get derailed? The answer is agility—emotional agility. Emotional agility is a revolutionary, science-based approach that allows us to navigate life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind. Renowned psychologist Susan David developed this concept after studying emotions, happiness, and achievement for more than twenty years. She found that no matter how intelligent or creative people are, or what type of personality they have, it is how they navigate their inner world—their thoughts, feelings, and self-talk—that ultimately determines how successful they will become. The way we respond to these internal experiences drives our actions, careers, relationships, happiness, health—everything that matters in our lives. As humans, we are all prone to common hooks—things like self-doubt, shame, sadness, fear, or anger—that can too easily steer us in the wrong direction. Emotionally agile people are not immune to stresses and setbacks. The key difference is that they know how to adapt, aligning their actions with their values and making small but powerful changes that lead to a lifetime of growth. Emotional agility is not about ignoring difficult emotions and thoughts; it’s about holding them loosely, facing them courageously and compassionately, and then moving past them to bring the best of yourself forward. Drawing on her deep research, decades of international consulting, and her own experience overcoming adversity after losing her father at a young age, David shows how anyone can thrive in an uncertain world by becoming more emotionally agile. To guide us, she shares four key concepts that allow us to acknowledge uncomfortable experiences while simultaneously detaching from them, thereby allowing us to embrace our core values and adjust our actions so they can move us where we truly want to go. Written with authority, wit, and empathy, Emotional Agility serves as a road map for real behavioral change—a new way of acting that will help you reach your full potential, whoever you are and whatever you face.

#1 Wall Street Journal Best Seller USA Today Best Seller Amazon Best Book of the Year TED Talk sensation - over 3 million views! The counterintuitive approach to achieving your true potential, heralded by the Harvard Business Review as a groundbreaking idea of the year.   The path to personal and professional fulfillment is rarely straight. Ask anyone who has achieved his or her biggest goals or whose relationships thrive and you’ll hear stories of many unexpected detours along the way. What separates those who master these challenges and those who get derailed? The answer is agility—emotional agility. Emotional agility is a revolutionary, science-based approach that allows us to navigate life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind. Renowned psychologist Susan David developed this concept after studying emotions, happiness, and achievement for more than twenty years. She found that no matter how intelligent or creative people are, or what type of personality they have, it is how they navigate their inner world—their thoughts, feelings, and self-talk—that ultimately determines how successful they will become. The way we respond to these internal experiences drives our actions, careers, relationships, happiness, health—everything that matters in our lives. As humans, we are all prone to common hooks—things like self-doubt, shame, sadness, fear, or anger—that can too easily steer us in the wrong direction. Emotionally agile people are not immune to stresses and setbacks. The key difference is that they know how to adapt, aligning their actions with their values and making small but powerful changes that lead to a lifetime of growth. Emotional agility is not about ignoring difficult emotions and thoughts; it’s about holding them loosely, facing them courageously and compassionately, and then moving past them to bring the best of yourself forward. Drawing on her deep research, decades of international consulting, and her own experience overcoming adversity after losing her father at a young age, David shows how anyone can thrive in an uncertain world by becoming more emotionally agile. To guide us, she shares four key concepts that allow us to acknowledge uncomfortable experiences while simultaneously detaching from them, thereby allowing us to embrace our core values and adjust our actions so they can move us where we truly want to go. Written with authority, wit, and empathy, Emotional Agility serves as a road map for real behavioral change—a new way of acting that will help you reach your full potential, whoever you are and whatever you face.

Susan David, Ph.D. is one of the world’s leading management thinkers and an award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist. Her TED Talk on the topic of emotional agility has been seen by more than 10 million people. She is a frequent contributor to the New York Times, Washington Post, and Wall Street Journal and often appears on national radio and television.

#1 Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author
Thinkers50 Breakthrough Idea Award Winner
Harvard Business Review Management Idea of the Year
Cofounder of the Institute of Coaching (a Harvard Medical School/McLean affiliate)

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Emotional Agility

<ul><li>A well-functioning cerebellum coordinates fluid movements and calibrates freeze responses as part of the brain's survival network</li><li>If freezing in place is a good survival strategy, the cerebellum automatically initiates a quick, momentary freeze response</li><li>If the cerebellum dysfunctions in fearful situations, freeze responses last too long and cause immobility akin to crippling anxiety</li></ul>

Key Points

Neuroscientists at the University of Bristol have discovered fear mechanisms rooted in the cerebellum that could lead to new anti-anxiety medications and treatments for post-traumatic stress disorder a.k.a PTSD (<a href="https://doi.org/10.7554/eLife.76278">Paci et al., 2022 </a>)

Research

"These findings show that the cerebellum is a part of the brain's survival network which regulates fear-memory processes. [This study] raises the possibility that disruption of the cerebellum might underlie anxiety and other fear-related disorders, thereby providing a new target for future therapies."

Paci et al., 2022

In animal experiments using fear-conditioned rats, Paci et al. (2022) found that the cerebellum modulates how another brain area called the periaqueductal gray (PAG) triggers automatic defensive behaviors such as freezing in place during times of perceived danger.

Research in Rats

This research increases our understanding of how survival networks rooted in subcortical brain areas cause the body to automatically freeze in response to fear. When the cerebellum is functioning well, a momentary freeze response promotes survival. However, Paci et al. (2022) found that when cerebellar functions were disrupted , the animals used in this study were paralyzed by fear.

Impact of Findings

The cerebellum coordinates fluid motor movements in sports and daily life. It also coordinates our thoughts, as well as coordinating our movements. As part of a survival network, it facilitates gracefully taking flight, fighting it out with well-coordinated muscle movements, or freezing in place for just long enough to plot your next move.

What Does the Cerebellum Do?

For their recent study, Paci et al. (2022) encoded a fear memory by pairing a mild electric foot shock with an audible tone. Once their lab rats were conditioned to fear the auditory tone by itself, they implanted electrodes to monitor neuronal activity within the PAG. When the rats heard the fear-conditioned tone, it triggered a momentary freeze response, and specific neurons in the PAG simultaneously "lit up."

Methodology

Notably, when a rat's cerebellum was functioning properly, the freeze response was brief and didn't stop an animal in its tracks for too long.However, Paci et al. (2022) found that when the cerebellum's ability to communicate with the PAG was blocked, freeze responses went into overdrive and became exaggerated. Instead of freezing momentarily, hearing the fear-conditioned tone immobilized the animals for an extended period of time.

As Part of a Survival Network, the Cerebellum and PAG Coordinate Perfectly-Timed "Freeze" Responses

The findings suggest that the cerebellum plays a crucial role in coordinating perfectly-timed behavioral responses to threatening stimuli. But cerebellar dysfunctions can cause havoc with perfectly-timed freeze responses. Without a well-functioning cerebellum, the freeze response lasts too long.Paci et al. (2022)'s research sheds light on why crippling anxiety is so immobilizing and may provide a new target for anxiolytic medications.

Findings

"Until now, little was understood about how the cerebellum modulates neuronal activity in other brain regions, especially those related to fear and anxiety"

"Importantly, our results show that the cerebellum is part of the brain's survival network that regulates fear memory processes at multiple timescales and in multiple ways; raising the possibility that dysfunctional interactions in the brain's cerebellar-survival network may underlie fear-related disorders and comorbidities"

New research on fear-induced "freeze" responses

Freezing behaviors are coordinated by the brain’s cerebellum.

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Science & Nature

The Neuroscience of Fear-Induced “Freeze” Responses

<ul><li>He was the last famous Stoic of the ancient world</li><li>He was known for his physical frailty, due to chronic health problems, but also for his exceptional resilience</li><li>He repeatedly told himself that the goal of his life is not pleasure but action</li><li>As a young emperor, Marcus was ridiculed as a snob and a bore because at gladiator games they could see that he was reading legal documents and discussing them with his advisors.</li></ul>

Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius

For Stoics, the highest good is to act consistently in accord with reason and virtue.What matters in life isn't what happens to us but how we respond to it. Philosophy is really a way of life, how we choose to act.

The Stoic Goal of Life

<ul><li>The Stoics were concerned that their speech should not only be honest and simple but also appropriate to the needs of the hearer.</li><li>Correcting someone else's vices requires considerable tact; it is like pointing out that they have bad breath.</li><li>Stoics wanted to describe events in plain and simple terms.</li><li>This requires two main things: Conciseness and Objectiveivity.</li></ul>

How to Speak Wisely

The Stoics divided the day into three stages: The Stoic morning meditation, Mindfulness throughout the day, and Stoic evening reflectionBy deeply reflecting on our values each day and attempting to describe them concisely, we can develop a clearer sense of direction.

How to Live by Your Values

<ul><li>Nothing lasts forever</li><li>Fear of death does us more harm than death itself because it turns us into cowards</li><li>Death merely returns us to Nature</li><li>To a man of wisdom, death should be among the least feared thing in life.</li></ul>

How to Prepare for Death

When doing what feels pleasurable becomes more important than doing what's actually good for us or our loved ones... that's a recipe for disaster.Evaluate your habits and desires in terms of the bigger picture: how much do these pursuits actually contribute to your long-term happiness or sense of fulfillment in life?

How to Conquer Desire

Pain is just a sensation, in other words; what matters is how we choose to respond to it.Tell yourself that the pain won’t last long if it’s severe or that you’re capable of enduring much worse if the pain is chronic.

How to Tolerate Pain

Premeditation of adversity can be useful in confronting anger and other negative emotions, but its techniques are particularly suited to treat fear and anxiety.Fear is essentially a future-focused emotion, so it’s natural that we should counter it by addressing our thoughts concerning the future.

How to Relinquish Fear

<ul><li>The main antidote to anger for Marcus is the Stoic virtue of kindness.</li><li>If someone hates you, that's their problem. Your only concern is to avoid doing anything to deserve being hated.</li><li>Nothing lasts forever. If events will seem trivial in the future when we look back on them, then why should we care strongly about them now?</li></ul>

How to Conquer Anger

<ul><li>The Stoics wanted to develop a healthy sense of gratitude in life, unspoiled by attachment.</li><li>They practiced calmly imagining change and loss, like a river gently flowing past, carrying things away.</li><li>Don't fight what happens but try to accept and even embrace it.</li></ul>

How to Accept One's Fate

"This book is a wonderful introduction to one of history's greatest figures: Marcus Aurelius. His life and this book are a clear guide for those facing adversity, seeking tranquility and pursuing excellence." —Ryan Holiday, bestselling author of The Obstacle is the Way and The Daily Stoic The life-changing principles of Stoicism taught through the story of its most famous proponent. Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius was the last famous Stoic philosopher of the ancient world. The Meditations, his personal journal, survives to this day as one of the most loved self-help and spiritual classics of all time. In How to Think Like a Roman Emperor, cognitive psychotherapist Donald Robertson weaves the life and philosophy of Marcus Aurelius together seamlessly to provide a compelling modern-day guide to the Stoic wisdom followed by countless individuals throughout the centuries as a path to achieving greater fulfillment and emotional resilience. How to Think Like a Roman Emperor takes readers on a transformative journey along with Marcus, following his progress from a young noble at the court of Hadrian—taken under the wing of some of the finest philosophers of his day—through to his reign as emperor of Rome at the height of its power. Robertson shows how Marcus used philosophical doctrines and therapeutic practices to build emotional resilience and endure tremendous adversity, and guides readers through applying the same methods to their own lives. Combining remarkable stories from Marcus’s life with insights from modern psychology and the enduring wisdom of his philosophy, How to Think Like a Roman Emperor puts a human face on Stoicism and offers a timeless and essential guide to handling the ethical and psychological challenges we face today.

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Motivation & Inspiration

"This book is a wonderful introduction to one of history's greatest figures: Marcus Aurelius. His life and this book are a clear guide for those facing adversity, seeking tranquility and pursuing excellence." —Ryan Holiday, bestselling author of The Obstacle is the Way and The Daily Stoic The life-changing principles of Stoicism taught through the story of its most famous proponent. Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius was the last famous Stoic philosopher of the ancient world. The Meditations, his personal journal, survives to this day as one of the most loved self-help and spiritual classics of all time. In How to Think Like a Roman Emperor, cognitive psychotherapist Donald Robertson weaves the life and philosophy of Marcus Aurelius together seamlessly to provide a compelling modern-day guide to the Stoic wisdom followed by countless individuals throughout the centuries as a path to achieving greater fulfillment and emotional resilience. How to Think Like a Roman Emperor takes readers on a transformative journey along with Marcus, following his progress from a young noble at the court of Hadrian—taken under the wing of some of the finest philosophers of his day—through to his reign as emperor of Rome at the height of its power. Robertson shows how Marcus used philosophical doctrines and therapeutic practices to build emotional resilience and endure tremendous adversity, and guides readers through applying the same methods to their own lives. Combining remarkable stories from Marcus’s life with insights from modern psychology and the enduring wisdom of his philosophy, How to Think Like a Roman Emperor puts a human face on Stoicism and offers a timeless and essential guide to handling the ethical and psychological challenges we face today.

Author of books on philosophy and psychotherapy, including Stoicism and the Art of Happiness, How to Think Like a Roman Emperor, and the graphic novel Verissimus. I'm a philosopher and psychotherapist with a special interest in Stoicism and CBT. I was born in Scotland, but now live in Canada and Greece. 

Donald J. Robertson

How to Think Like a Roman Emperor

How to Think Like a Roman Emperor: The Stoic Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius

Infinite strength is religion and God. Avoid weakness and slavery.

If you think yourselves weak, weak you will be; if you think yourselves strong, strong you will be.

If there is sin, this is the only sin, to say that you are weak, or others are weak.

The older I grow; the more everything seems to me to lie in manliness. This is my new gospel.

My children... only cowards and those who are weak commit sin and tell lies. The brave are always moral. Try to be moral, try to be brave, try to be sympathizing.

Be Brave

Strength is life, weakness is death. Strength is felicity, life eternal, immortal, weakness is constant strain and misery; weakness is death.

Iron nerves with an intelligent brain -- and the whole world is at your feet.

Be bold, face facts as facts. Do not be chased about the universe by evil.

Arise, Awake and sleep no more; within each of you there is the power to remove all wants and all miseries.

Mystery mongering and superstition are always signs of weakness. These are always signs of degradation and of death. Therefore, beware of them; be strong, and stand on your own feet.

Superstition

This is the first lesson to learn: be determined not to curse anything outside, not to lay the blame upon any one outside, but be a man, stand up, lay the blame on yourself. You will find, that is always true.

Blame

Blame none for your own faults, stand upon your own feet, and take the whole responsibility upon yourselves. Say, 'This misery that I am suffering is of my own doing, and that very thing proves that it will have to be undone by me alone.'

Blame undone

is my advice to you. You will be nearer to Heaven through football than through the study of the Gita. These are bold words; but I have to say them, for I love you. I know where the shoe pinches. I have gained a little experience. You will understand the Gita better with your biceps, your muscles, a little stronger. You will understand the mighty genius and mighty strength of Krishna better with a little of strong blood in you. You will understand the Upanishads better and the glory of the Atman when your body stands firm upon your feet, and you feel yourselves as men.

Be strong, my young friends; that

Be not afraid of anything. You will do marvellous work. The moment you fear, you are nobody. It is fear that is the great cause of misery in the world. It is fear that is the greatest of all superstitions. It is fear that is the cause of our woes, and it is fearlessness that brings heaven even in a moment. Therefore, 'Arise, awake, and stop not till the goal is reached.'

Afraid? No!

Arise, Awake and stop not t﻿ill the goal is reached.

Everything that can weaken us as a race, we have had for the last thousand years... Therefore, my friends, as one of your blood, as one that lives and dies with you, let me tell you that we want strength, strength and every time strength. And the Upanishads are the great mine of strength. Therein lies strength enough to invigorate the whole world... They will call with trumpet voice upon the weak, the miserable, and the downtrodden of all races, all creeds, and all sects to stand on their feet and be free.

Ask for strength and every time strength !

Fear cannot be vanquished, it can only be replaced by strength, courage, trust or love. I give in to myself, I accept my strength of fear and allow this to transform me. 

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Exercise & Fitness

Strength And Fearlessness by Vivekananda

The Four Types of Human Behavior and How to Effectively Communicate with Each in Business (and in Life) by Thomas Erikson

Surrounded by Idiots

Do you ever think you’re the only one making any sense? Or tried to reason with your partner with disastrous results? Do long, rambling answers drive you crazy? Or does your colleague’s abrasive manner rub you the wrong way? You are not alone. After a disastrous meeting with a highly successful entrepreneur, who was genuinely convinced he was ‘surrounded by idiots’, communication expert and bestselling author, Thomas Erikson dedicated himself to understanding how people function and why we often struggle to connect with certain types of people. 304 pages, St. Martin’s Essentials 2019

Why read?

Simply Said is the essential handbook for business communication. Do you ever feel as though your message hasn’t gotten across? Do details get lost along the way? Have tense situations ever escalated unnecessarily? Do people buy into your ideas? It all comes down to communication. We all communicate, but few of us do it well. From tough presentations to everyday transactions, there is no scenario that cannot be improved with better communication skills.

My Adventures in the Art and Science of Relating and Communicating by Alan Alda

If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face?

Drawing on improvisation training, theater, and storytelling techniques from a life of acting, and with insights from recent scientific studies, Alda describes ways we can build empathy, nurture our innate mind-reading abilities, and improve the way we relate and talk with others. Exploring empathy-boosting games and exercises, If I Understood You is a funny, thought-provoking guide that can be used by all of us, in every aspect of our lives — with our friends, lovers, and families, with our doctors, in business settings, and beyond. 240 pages, Random House Trade Paperbacks 2018

The 14 Patterns for Mastering the Language of Influence by Shelle Rose Charvet

Words That Change Minds

Do you work and live with people who are hard to convince? Who dismiss ideas before even thinking about them?Do you want to know how to influence people, without being manipulative? Want to find out how people get motivated, make decisions, to be more persuasive with everyone? Learn how to use the right words with the right people, and get through the “Communication Wall” 356 pages, Bloomanity LLC 2019

And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi

Never Eat Alone

The secret, master networker Keith Ferrazzi claims, is in reaching out to other people. As Ferrazzi discovered in early life, what distinguishes highly successful people from everyone else is the way they use the power of relationships — so that everyone wins. In Never Eat Alone , Ferrazzi lays out the specific steps — and inner mindset — he uses to reach out to connect with the thousands of colleagues, friends, and associates on his contacts list, people he has helped and who have helped him. And in the time since _Never Eat Alone _was published in 2005, the rise of social media and new,

How To Win Friends And Influence People

Dale Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives. One of the most groundbreaking and timeless bestsellers of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People will teach you: -Six ways to make people like you -Twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking -Nine ways to change people without arousing resentment 304 pages, Pocket Books 2010

It’s Not What You Say, It’s What People Hear by Dr. Frank Luntz

Words That Work

The nation’s premier communications expert shares his wisdom on how the words we choose can change the course of business, of politics, and of life in this country In Words That Work , Luntz offers a behind-the-scenes look at how the tactical use of words and phrases affects what we buy, who we vote for, and even what we believe in. With chapters like “The Ten Rules of Successful Communication” and “The 21 Words and Phrases for the 21st Century,” he examines how choosing the right words is essential. 368 pages, Hachette Books 2008

Books that will help in communication skills

Good communication is a crucial skill in our craft as Product Managers. We need to effectively communicate with our team, our bosses, our stakeholders, and of course, our users. But, many people…

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People constantly do things to us that disregard the common sense of how people should behave around people they claim to care about. We expect people close to us to show us kindness. Yet, humans frequently have feelings that are so intolerable and complex that they develop urges to pass them on to others. Put otherwise, humans can end up behaving cruelly to soothe their own sufferings by making someone near them suffer in their stead.

Hurting loved ones

Cruelty is an attempt to make ourselves feel better by doing to someone else a version of what was done to us. A mother might hint to her daughter, "Don't ever succeed in your life as it would make me feel bad about myself." Or a father would subtly communicate to his son, "I want you to fail in your career to make me feel better about my own disappointment." Or a spouse would inject their partner with poison that carries the meaning, "I will repeatedly but subtly disrespect your intelligence to reduce the feelings of rage and powerlessness I experienced as a child."

Cruelty is often a projection

The injector might not even understand what they are doing. They may be driven to act without knowing why they are doing so. A part of self-knowledge means realising that those close to us have put some hugely damaging ideas inside us that we need to identify and correct to gain the freedom and light-heartedness we crave.

Ignorance of the injector

A surprising amount of suffering is inflicted upon us by those who ostensibly love us. An explanation can be found by understanding the psychology of cruelty. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: https://bit.ly/3HpVdSa For books and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: https://bit.ly/3pOm1o4 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: https://bit.ly/35Gls9b Join this channel to get access to exclusive members perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog/join FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: https://bit.ly/34srQ3b “Part of why it is so hard to understand ourselves is that people are constantly doing things to us that defy the common-sense of view of how human beings might plausibly behave around people they claim to care about. We expect that those who might carry the title of mum or dad or husband or wife would, unless they had very clear reasons to do otherwise, show us kindness. And yet the brutal reality (which we must take on board for our own sanity) is that humans are frequently beset by feelings that are so intolerable and difficult, they develop urges to pass them on to others in a version of emotional pass the parcel…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLself SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Alix Bortoli: Direction, design, edit and Martin Leman: animation Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions https://www.valeproductions.co.uk/

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Why Our Loved Ones Hurt Us

At no point in history has humans been so bombarded by stuff designed to get us hooked. Companies compete on the basis of creating evermore habit-forming products. Food is no different. Food corporations hire scientists to engineer habit-forming foods. The brain imaging technologies we use to find cures for addiction is used to fuel addiction. They put people in the MRI machine and give them Dorito chips to figure out ways to tweak the recipe to make it even more habit-forming.

Designed to be hooked

We live in a world where we are surrounded by food products that are scientifically engineered to be habit-forming. Do you really think you have the freedom of choice? 

Sugar scientist and UCSF professor of health policy Laura Schmidt questions whether consumers really do have freedom of choice – and what policymakers can learn from corporations in nudging consumers toward healthier behaviors.

Why we can't stop eating unhealthy foods

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