“The big question about how people behave is whether they’ve got an inner scorecard or an outer scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an inner scorecard.”

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It allows them to drive our behavior. Sometimes it’s about something genetic/physical (wishing to be taller for example), but more often it’s about something the other person is capable of doing that we wish we could do as well. Sometimes this comparison is motivating and sometimes it’s destructive.

Comparing ourselves to others

... but you can’t be everything. When we compare ourselves to others, we’re often comparing their best features against our average ones. It’s like being right-handed and trying to play an instrument with your left hand.

You can be anything

Not only are we unhappy but the other people are as well. They are probably comparing themselves to you. At worst, when we compare ourselves to others we end up focusing our energy on bringing them down instead of raising ourselves up.

Recipe for unhappiness

There is one thing that you’re better at than other people: being you. This is the only game you can really win.Life becomes about being a better version of yourself. And your effort and energy go toward upgrading your personal operating system every day, not worrying about what your coworkers are doing, for example.

The only game you'll win

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The most important things in life are internal not external. 
"The big question about how people behave," <a href="https://www.fs.blog/2016/08/the-inner-scorecard/">says Warren Buffett</a>, "is whether they've got an inner scorecard or an outer scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an inner scorecard." To make his point, Buffett often asks a simple question: Would you rather be the world's greatest lover, but have everyone think you're the world's worst lover? Or would you rather be the world's worst lover but have everyone think you're the world's greatest lover?
Comparing ourselves to others allows them to drive our behavior. This type of comparison is between you and someone else. Sometimes it's about something genetic, like wishing to be taller, but more often it's about something the other person is capable of doing that we wish we could do as well. Maybe Sally writes better reports than you, and maybe Bob has a happier relationship with his spouse than you do. Sometimes this comparison is motivating and sometimes it's destructive.
You can be anything but you can't be everything. When we compare ourselves to others, we're often comparing their best features against our average ones. It's like being right-handed and trying to play an instrument with your left hand. Not only do we naturally want to be better than them, the unconscious realization that we are not often becomes self-destructive.
Comparisons between people are a recipe for unhappiness unless you are the best in the world. Which, let's be honest, only one person is. Not only are we unhappy but the other people are as well. They are probably comparing themselves to you-maybe you're better at networking than they are and they're jealous. At worst, when we compare ourselves to others we end up focusing our energy on bringing them down instead of raising ourselves up.
There is one thing that you're better at than other people: being you. This is the only game you can really win. 
When you start with this mindset the world starts to look better again. No longer are you focused on where you stand relative to others. Instead, your focus and energy is placed on what you're capable of now and how you can improve yourself.
Life becomes about being a better version of yourself. And when that happens, your effort and energy go toward <a href="https://fs.blog/2016/04/munger-operating-system/">upgrading your personal operating system</a> every day, not worrying about what your coworkers are doing. You become happier, free from the shackles of false comparisons and focused on the present moment.
When what you do doesn't meet the expectations of others, too bad. The way they look at you is the same way you were looking at them, though a distorted lens shaped by experiences and expectations. What really matters is what you think about what you do, what your standards are, what you can learn today.
That's not an excuse to ignore thoughtful opinions-other people might give you a picture of how you fall short of being your best self. Instead, it's a reminder to compare yourself to who you were this morning. Are you better than you were when you woke up? If not, you've wasted a day. It's less about others and more about how you improve relative to who you were.
When you stop comparing between people and focus internally, you start being better at what really matters: being you. It's simple but not easy. 
The most important things in life are measured internally. Thinking about what matters to you is hard. Playing to someone else's scoreboard is easy, that's why a lot of people do it. But winning the wrong game is pointless and empty. You get one life. Play your own game.
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The most important things in life are internal not external. "The big question about how people behave," says Warren Buffett, "is whether they've got an inner scorecard or an outer scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an inner scorecard."

The most important things in life are internal not external. "The big question about how people behave," <a href="https://www.fs.blog/2016/08/the-inner-scorecard/">says Warren Buffett </a>, "is whether they've got an inner scorecard or an outer scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an inner scorecard." To make his point, Buffett often asks a simple question: Would you rather be the world's greatest lover, but have everyone think you're the world's worst lover? Or would you rather be the world's worst lover but have everyone think you're the world's greatest lover?

Comparing ourselves to others allows them to drive our behavior. This type of comparison is between you and someone else. Sometimes it's about something genetic, like wishing to be taller, but more often it's about something the other person is capable of doing that we wish we could do as well. Maybe Sally writes better reports than you, and maybe Bob has a happier relationship with his spouse than you do. Sometimes this comparison is motivating and sometimes it's destructive.

You can be anything but you can't be everything. When we compare ourselves to others, we're often comparing their best features against our average ones. It's like being right-handed and trying to play an instrument with your left hand. Not only do we naturally want to be better than them, the unconscious realization that we are not often becomes self-destructive.

Comparisons between people are a recipe for unhappiness unless you are the best in the world. Which, let's be honest, only one person is. Not only are we unhappy but the other people are as well. They are probably comparing themselves to you-maybe you're better at networking than they are and they're jealous. At worst, when we compare ourselves to others we end up focusing our energy on bringing them down instead of raising ourselves up.

There is one thing that you're better at than other people: being you. This is the only game you can really win. When you start with this mindset the world starts to look better again. No longer are you focused on where you stand relative to others. Instead, your focus and energy is placed on what you're capable of now and how you can improve yourself. Life becomes about being a better version of yourself. And when that happens, your effort and energy go toward <a href="https://fs.blog/2016/04/munger-operating-system/">upgrading your personal operating system </a>every day, not worrying about what your coworkers are doing. You become happier, free from the shackles of false comparisons and focused on the present moment.

When what you do doesn't meet the expectations of others, too bad. The way they look at you is the same way you were looking at them, though a distorted lens shaped by experiences and expectations. What really matters is what you think about what you do, what your standards are, what you can learn today.

That's not an excuse to ignore thoughtful opinions-other people might give you a picture of how you fall short of being your best self. Instead, it's a reminder to compare yourself to who you were this morning. Are you better than you were when you woke up? If not, you've wasted a day. It's less about others and more about how you improve relative to who you were.

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The Danger of Comparing Yourself to Others

WARREN BUFFETT

Comparing ourselves to others

You can be anything

Recipe for unhappiness

The only game you'll win

The Danger of Comparing Yourself to Others - Farnam Street

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others - A Helpful Guide

This is when it makes sense to compare yourself to others

Bite‑sized knowledgeto upgradeyour career

The Danger of Comparing Yourself to Others

WARREN BUFFETT

Comparing ourselves to others

You can be anything

Recipe for unhappiness

The only game you'll win

The Danger of Comparing Yourself to Others - Farnam Street

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others - A Helpful Guide

This is when it makes sense to compare yourself to others

Bite‑sized knowledge
to upgrade
your career