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Really see each other
Making eye contact with someone can relieve stress and create a deeper sense of connection.
Even making eye contact with a stranger can soften your heart.
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Listen with all of your senses
When you talk with someone in person, notice the posture and body language of the other person. Focus on the tone in their voice. Consider the meaning of their words.
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Reach out and touch someone
Touch is a way we communicate and essential to our development. Touch makes us feel safe and encourage trust, love, and compassion.
Reach out to your loved ones and see if you notice a difference.
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Be interested
We often fall into a habit of thinking we know someone so well that we can predict their behaviors and responses.
Instead, be open and interested in those close to you as if you just met them.
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Make plans and keep them
Nothing breaks bonds like postponing or canceling commitments.
Be honest with yourself and make or accept appointments you can commit to. Your relationships will flourish when you take the time to know others better.
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Communicate your needs
Most of us have been vague about what we really need in the moment.
When you learn how to identify and express your needs clearly, you will be better understood and connect with the people in your life.
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Think first
We should make an effort to be thoughtful with our words and actions. Before speaking to someone, consider:
- Is it True
- Is it Helpful
- Am I the best person to say it
- Is it Necessary
- Is it Kind
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Practice “Just like me”
Humans are 99.9% the same. We all want to feel cared for, be understood and belong somewhere.
When you see someone you think is different from you, say, "Just like me." It may foster a better sense of connection in your life.
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Experience joy for others
Make a point to notice others taking care of themselves, experiencing success, or having a good day. Be happy for them. You can even tell them, "Good job" or "I am so happy for you." It can boost your own good feelings.
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Label How You Feel
Each of us already has this natural communication system that feeds us information all the time. So when we close down and become defensive—for a few minutes, a few days, months or even a lifetime—we’re cutting ourselves off not only from others, but also from our natural ability to communicate.
Mindful communication trains us to become aware of when we’ve stopped using our innate communication wisdom.
Defensive Reactions Zone
When we react to fear by shutting down the channel of communication, we’ve put up a defensive barrier that divides us from the world.
Signs you’re in the red light zone:
- Our values shift to me-first. We tell ourselves that relationships are not that important.
- Closed communication patterns are controlling and mistrustful. We see others as frozen objects that have importance only if they meet our needs.
- We feel alone and emotionally hungry. Then we look to other people to rescue us from our aloneness.
- The sense of isolation that our defensive barrier triggers is subconsciously terrifying. If we are indeed isolated individuals, how do we get our supplies? How do we ward off enemies?
- Suppressing these inner fears makes us even more rigid and out of touch. We tighten our muscles and thoughts; we harden our hearts.
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Codependency
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Moving To A New Place
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Thinking of A New Beginning
As you unpack your stuff, use this golden chance to keep only the essential stuff and completely declutter your new home. Don’t hold stuff that keeps you tied to the past.
Do not be overwhelmed with the piled up work. Practice deep breathing, reflecting on the present moment and gratitude.