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This Is The Scientific Way To Win Any Argument (And Not Make Enemies)

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This Is The Scientific Way To Win Any Argument (And Not Make Enemies)

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You're in the middle of a heated discussion-or fine, let's just call it an argument-and the person whom you're trying convince seems unable or unwilling to grasp your point of view. What should you do? For starters, you should realize that your odds aren't exactly superb.

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Winning an Argument

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The odds of winning an argument require more than just logic and rationality, as there are a lot of other factors involved.

By understanding and changing the 'frames' a person uses and center them around a shared belief, we can help our cause.

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Understanding Frames

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Frames, with respect to a discussion or argument, are different categories to 'slot' an idea or topic, just like a car can be evaluated by its color, price, or model number.

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Change the Frame

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During the course of an argument, to increase compliance towards your belief, you can change the framing of the existing belief of the listener.

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Do not challenge A belief

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Instead of challenging someone's existing belief, which always leads to resistance, it is much better to connect your own position to their beliefs.

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How to Win Your Next Political Argument

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You've probably gotten in a political argument in the recent past, whether with your nutso cousin at Thanksgiving or your militantly ignorant co-worker at a happyhour. And you'll probably get in another political argument sometime in the near future. Hard as it may be to believe, you can actually win these arguments.

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People think emotionally, so forget facts.
When people are asked to explain their beliefs about how a given thing works, they’ll actually become less confident...

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6 Ways to Win Any Argument

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One of life's most difficult emotional situations is the argument. Whether with someone you love, despise, or don't even know, conflict can increase anxiety and blood pressure, if not your sense of discomfort. Some people go to great lengths to avoid conflict of any kind, while others seem ready to argue at a moment's notice.

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Know your facts

How many times have you made a claim about some piece of trivia only to realize, as soon as you’ve made that claim, that you’re completely wrong?

Stop and think before you make such errors, and y...

Switch perspectives

Stepping into the mindset of those you argue with allows you to figure out what’s influencing them.

Showing empathy will lower the temperature of the debate and allow both of you to come to a resolution.

Try to appear open-minded

If you appear to be giving the other side’s position a thoughtful review, then the solution you propose will seem to be far more sensible. Furthermore, your opponent may come to your side without you having to do anything other than listening.

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The Art of Winning An Argument

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We spend a lot of our lives trying to convince or persuade others to our point of view. This is one of the reasons that Daniel Pink says that we're all in sales: Some of you, no doubt, are selling in the literal sense- convincing existing customers and fresh prospects to buy casualty insurance or consulting services or homemade pies at a farmers' market.

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To Persuade or Convince

When people disagree with us we assume they are ignorant … that they lack information. So we try to convince them with information. It seldom works.

Persuasion...

The Illusion of Explanatory Depth

When knowledge is put to the test, our familiarity with things leads to an (unwarranted) overconfidence about how they work.

Most of the time others won’t test their knowledge either. This is the beginning of how we start to show others or even ourselves that our view of the world might need updating.

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Richard Feynman

“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool.”

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