<ul><li>The most effective way to respond to a difficult person is to first observe one's own emotional and physical reactions. </li><li>A common problem that occurs when communicating with difficult people is forgetting the desired goal of the interaction. </li><li>Mentally rehearsing an upcoming conversation with a difficult person can lower one's chance of saying something reactive that will make it worse. </li> </ul>

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Conflicts with difficult people can easily become a vicious cycle when our own reactions escalate the situation. And the more intensified the conflict, the more that we will dread and be stressed by the idea of future interactions.The most effective tool to make sure you aren't escalating a situation is to become adept at pausing and being a keen observer of your own emotional and physical reactions.Even just making a habit of waiting five seconds before speaking when you are in a conflict can help keep you from doing further damage.

1. To de-escalate, learn to master the pause. ⏸️

Another common problem in our interactions with difficult people is that we get distracted by our upset and lose sight of the <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/motivation">goals </a>we are trying to accomplish. When you are forced to interact with someone who is being difficult, it's very easy to get off track and end up leaving the interaction no closer to what we were hoping to accomplish.Instead, remembering what goal you are after—resolving a specific issue, getting an answer to a question, getting clarity on something confusing, putting in an official request for something to be done—can help you make sure that you stay on track.

2. Always keep your desired outcome in mind. 

Difficult people can be particularly adept at throwing us off our game by getting an emotional rise out of us. Just like a musician, actor, or <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/sport-and-competition">athlete </a>is more likely to nail a difficult performance if they have practiced, so too can practice and rehearsal help our most stressful interpersonal moments.Don't be afraid to script a difficult conversation, knowing of course that there will need to be some wiggle room built in. Even better, by rehearsing in advance, you can come up with wording that is less likely to escalate the situation

3. When possible, rehearse in advance. 

Often, the hardest interpersonal interactions are the ones where we take things too personally and feel wounded or insulted by another person's behavior when really it has nothing to do with us at all.Observe your thoughts for distortions that make the situation more about you than it really is, or that needlessly <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/catastrophizing">catastrophize </a>the outcome of a situation. But when a difficult person shows consistent patterns of dysfunction across situations and with different people, there is limited control we can have over their behavior—and it only adds needless worry and heartache to blame ourselves.

4. Don't over-personalize.   

It may be helpful to reflect upon your behavior, especially if you see these patterns of difficult interactions across separate circumstances in your life.Whether you are doing things to escalate the situation or your <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/body-language">body language </a>, tone or wording is making you come across more aggressively than you intended, it may help to try to boost your self-awareness by looking for patterns of your own. And finally, even if it is always the other person being difficult, it can sometimes lessen the frustration to send some empathy their way.

5. A little self-awareness and empathy go a long way. 

When conflict arises, there are ways not to make it worse.

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Gratitude is good medicine and is always time well spent. It helps relieve stress and build positive energy, and it gives us great perspective on life.

Real Gratitude Takes Time

In nature, things move with the sunlight and the seasons. Society artificially compresses time. Tapping into nature’s rhythms will connect us with life around us and feel more energetic and productive.

 Nature Is Our Guiding Light 

If you’re hustling 24/7, it wreaks havoc on your mental and physical wellbeing. It’s crucial to carve out down time to slow down and breathe.

There Is a Time to Hustle and a Time to Chill 

Worry steals joy and negatively impacts decision-making. It’s understandable to often feel overwhelmed by life’s unknowns, but spending all day worrying about something that “might happen” is a waste of time and energy.

Exercise isn’t about quantity—it’s about quality. Are you focused? Can you breathe into and slow down that bicep curl? If so, then a few solid reps do the trick, and you can move on with your life.

Exercise Doesn’t Have to Be a Grind 

Numerous studies are linking a stagnant lifestyle with a high rate of mortality. Get up and move around frequently throughout the day to improve your body’s functions and overall sense of wellbeing.

 Sitting Is the New Smoking 

Instead of multitasking on work emails when you’re with your family, give them your all. Walk the dogs together or have dinner without devices. Work to get in quality time with your family every day, even if it’s just a few minutes.

Family Time Means No Distractions 

It’s healthy to daydream, but it can also become disruptive. Time debt has us constantly catching up on yesterday’s thoughts. Block off some time to think about a trip you’d like to take, and imagine the sights, sounds, and textures.

Daydreams Give You New Insights  

Self discipline is key to have a successful and healthy lifestyle but most of us having a lot excuse instead of working on something lacking of something lead to having nothing in your hands .

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The following suggestions about how to build trust were provided by Carthage Buckley, a stress and performance coach.

How to Build Trust: 12 General Tips

The point of building trust is for others to believe what you say. Keep in mind, however, that building trust requires not only keeping the promises you make but also not making promises you’re unable to keep.Keeping your word shows others what you expect from them, and in turn, they’ll be more likely to treat you with respect, developing further trust in the process.

1. Be true to your word and follow through with your actions

Poor communication is a major reason why relationships break down. Good communication includes being clear about what you have or have not committed to and what has been agreed upon.Building trust is not without risk. It involves allowing both you and others taking risks to prove trustworthiness. To navigate this, effective communication is key. Without it, you may find the messages you’ve intended to send aren’t the messages that are received.

2. Learn how to communicate effectively with others

Building trust is a daily commitment. Don’t make the mistake of expecting too much too soon. In order to build trust, first take small steps and take on small commitments and then, as trust grows, you will be more at ease with making and accepting bigger commitments. Put trust in, and you will generally get trust in return.

3. Remind yourself that it takes time to build and earn trust

Only make commitments that you are happy to agree to. Have the courage to say “no,” even when it disappoints someone. If you agree to something and can’t follow through, everyone involved is worse off.Be clear about what you have on your plate, and keep track of your commitments. Being organized is a necessary part of building trust with family, friends, and colleagues. It enables you to make a clear decision as to whether to agree to requests of your time and energy.

4. Take time to make decisions and think before acting too quickly

Trust often results from consistency. We tend to have the most trust in people who are there for us consistently through good times and bad. Regularly showing someone that you’re there for them is an effective way to build trust.

5. Value the relationships that you have—and don’t take them for granted

When you take an active role in a team and make contributions, people are more likely to respect and trust you. It’s also imperative when building trust in a team to show your willingness to trust others.Being open and willing to make contributions and to engage demonstrates this. In other words, take what others say into consideration, show that you are listening actively, suggest your thoughts and feedback in a respectful way, and demonstrate that you are willing to be part of the team.

6. Develop your team skills and participate openly

The message you convey should always, always be the truth. If you are caught telling a lie, no matter how small, your trustworthiness will be diminished.

7. Always be honest

Helping another person, even if it provides no benefit to you, builds trust. Authentic kindness helps to build trust.

8. Help people whenever you can

Being open about your emotions is often an effective way to build trust. Furthermore, if people know that you care, they are more likely to trust you.Emotional intelligence plays a role in building trust. Acknowledging your feelings, learning the lessons that prevail, and taking productive action means that you won’t deny reality—this is the key to building trust.

9. Don’t hide your feelings

Acknowledgment and appreciation play an important role in building trust and maintaining good relationships. Recognizing and appreciating the efforts of others shows your talent for leadership and teamwork and increases the trust others have in you.On the other hand, if people don’t demonstrate appreciation for a good deed, they appear selfish. Selfishness destroys trust.

10. Don’t always self-promote

Doing something purely for approval means sacrificing your own values and beliefs. This decreases trust in yourself, your values, and your beliefs. Always doing what you believe is right, even when others disagree, will lead others to respect your honesty.Interestingly, when building trust, you must be willing to upset others on occasion. People tend not to trust those who simply say whatever they think others want to hear.

11. Always do what you believe to be right

When you attempt to hide your mistakes, people know that you are being dishonest. By being open, you show your vulnerable side, and this helps build trust with other people.This is because they perceive you to be more like them—everyone makes mistakes. If you pretend that you never make mistakes, you’ll make it difficult for others to trust you because you have created an unnecessary difference between the two of you. When all that a person sees is the “perfection” you project, they likely won’t trust you.

12. Admit your mistakes

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”-George MacDonald “Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”-Stephen Covey

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By listening to Mitch Albom's podcast I led to share his Three (3) Critical Points of a Successful Marriage/Relationship.

How Do You Know S/he is the Person You Should Marry?

1. You MUST respect the other person.2. You MUST compromise. Little ones and big ones.3. You MUST talk openly. Communication is critical.Look at these three things and make sure you have them in your relationship before you contemplate either move.

3 Critical Points of a Successful Marriage/Relationship:

"Do you respect that person?" You don't need to be married to find out if you respect that person, that should be something that you should establish. You should ask yourself about the partner that you're with, "Do they respect me? or they only respect me when I wear the right clothing? The right make up on? or they're nice to me?" But being nice to someone does not mean you respect them, test that out, push a bit.Find out if someone respect you even if you differ with them on things. Again, you don't need to be married or living tigether to try that out.

1. Respect

If all you have done in your relationship is he calls you up and says, "Let's go to dinner." Then, you'll asked where you want to go. He'll said, "I chose last time you choose this time." And you'll agree.You should try a night where each of you picks a place, and the other one is force to go to the one they don't like. The example above is not compromising, it's a practice of being nice with each other. The advice Mitch said was the perfect example of experimenting with compromising. Again, you don't need to be married or live together to try that out.

2.  Compromise

Ask each other about:a. what would you do when you're married?b. How would you live if you are married?c. How would you raise your children?d. What religion would you raise your children?e. How often would you go to church?f. Public or private school would you like to put in your children?g. Where you would like to live cities or provinces?h. Do you enjoy traveling or stay inside the house?i. How important is it to you be close with your family when you're married?j. How important is money to you?k. How much money do you think we need to have for us/you to be happy?+++

3. Talking Openly

++l. How much do I/you need to make?m. Are you okay if I don't work and you're the one one who's working/Are you okay if you don't work and I'm the one who's working for the family?n. If we have children, what are we going to do?

3. Talking Openly (part 2)

If you think these are not important, and you'll reason out that love will find a way. Well, love runs into walls just like the rest of us. If the wall is constant, if there's no hole on it, if there's no way through it, eventually it can knock down too.Before you make the decision for yourself, try it out yourself on those three and examine if you are also ready to be married, because if there is any answer here that doesn't sound right, then that's most probably a red flag.

Marriage nowadays is overlooked, most couples are going separate ways because they find something that they don't know about their partner, that made them not compromising leading to breakups. Marriage should be valued and made God the center of it.

To cohabitate or not cohabitate - that is the question. On today's episode of the Tuesday People podcast, host Mitch Albom, inspired by a family wedding, delves into the subject of living together before marriage. What are the risks? What are the benefits? Is an extra drawer and a space for your toothbrush on the sink enough to justify sharing a living space without a marital contract? We hear Morrie's views on the subject, and get to the heart of this modern love dilemma. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To cohabitate or not cohabitate - that is the question. On today's episode of the Tuesday People podcast, host Mitch Albom, inspired by a family wedding, delves into the subject of living together before marriage. What are the risks? What are the benefits? Is an extra drawer and a space for your toothbrush on the sink enough to justify sharing a living space without a marital contract? We hear Morrie's views on the subject, and get to the heart of this modern love dilemma. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Host Mitch Albom, author of the worldwide No. 1 bestseller Tuesdays With Morrie, explores the themes he and his old professor spoke about as Morrie was leaving the world, and how they relate to leading a better life. An interactive show with listener and occasional guest participation, “Tuesday People” is a community interested in knowing what matters in life, keeping that in perspective, and applying it to make our days happier and more fulfilling.

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They talk mostly about themselves. Instead of telling them to change their behaviour, it's much easier to get them to motivate themselves to change. Redirect the conversation. When they start to talk about themselves, say that you are very interested and that you know they really like to talk about it. Then change the topic. Ask if you can talk about this other thing. After you've done this a few times, they'll start to realise when they're doing it and might motivate their own change.

Some people talk way too much

Sometimes it's easier to bottle up your feelings than to have a difficult conversation with a friend. Celeste Headlee, author of We Need to Talk, answers your questions about conflict with friends. 

Dear Life Kit: Should I tell my friend they talk too much? 

disclaimer : some of these may not work for you as everyone is different and we all embrace our own comfort zones and limits ! these are just suggestions / starting points

pretend to have an optimistic mindset and that you’re better than everyone else . eventually , your confidence should improve as you already know how it is to have confidence .

fake it till’ you make it

think of reasons why your confidence has been damaged in the past / why your confidence has boosted in the past - is it a friend’s encouragement ? is it while working on an enjoyable hobby ? or rather is it a classmate’s insult ? is it a particular experience ? whatever it may be , try to patch up the broken wounds and always focus on what makes you the happiest .

find the root of your ( lack of ) confidence

prepare yourself for setbacks but don’t let them control you . if you haven’t failed , you haven’t tried . we’re way too used viewing the narrative of success being a smooth, one-way trip . but in reality , every journey brings its ups and downs , and you won’t feel truly accomplished unless you’ve overcome challenges . in order to be successful , you need to be comfortable with the possibility of failure and realise it’s inevitable . the more you fail , the stronger you become .

befriend failure

people who lack confidence tend to focus on their weaknesses . instead , make a list of your strengths , achievements , and talents ( and be honest ) . try telling yourself daily affirmations and remember embrace all of your characteristics and passions . everyone is born into this world with a completely unique set of talents and gifts - use them to your advantage !

focus on your strengths

wear clothes that make you feel good , look good , and that you enjoy wearing . listen to music that you enjoy , whether or not it’s a ‘ popular ’ or ‘ overrated ’ song . walk with confidence and a good posture . never lie to ‘ fit in ’ with your peers .

empower yourself with style

the people who you’re scared of embarrassing yourself in front of aren’t going to remember every time you’ve messed up . do what you do most , be yourself , and if some people aren’t here to accept that , it’s completely their problem , not yours .

don’t care of what others think of you

it’s best to stay completely raw and true to yourself about these provocative inner conflicts . that way , you can identify the root cause and migrate them from spiralling . ways to confront your true feelings include writing a diary , talking to a trusted family member , and so on .

confront your feelings rather than avoiding them

what is a growth mindset ?in a growth mindset , people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work - brains and talent are just the starting point . this view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.the goals established should be realistic , time-bound , and achievable having put in effort / time . having a growth mindset encourages you to view ‘ failure ’ in a different light , motivating you to look at it as a helpful lesson for the future .

adapt a growth mindset and set goals

learn to question things . ask yourself upon making certain decisions - is this going to set me back from my dreams or propel me forward ? if yes , then trust your instinct and follow the path you choose to and believe you should . if not , it doesn’t hurt to take a try . however , if you’re not sure yet , you can always talk to someone you trust .

challenge your dark thoughts and think critically

they say ‘ you are what you eat ’ . well , you’re also what you surround yourself with ! that infectious happiness radiating from your friends lights up everyone’s ( include your ) day . never surround yourself with negative people : they only drain your energy evermore and decrease your confidence .

surround yourself with positive , encouraging people

sometimes what we really need as a source of inspiration is hearing other people’s success journeys , and how they optimised their adversities into an opportunity to gain in life . we should put those opportunities to good use and feel inspired by them .

listen to other people’s stories about overcoming insecurities

everyone’s at a different stage in life and dealing with different situations - congratulate yourself for making it this far ! i know your younger self would be so proud of who you are today . we all are at our most days lived , and to have been here has not been a smooth , easy ride . looking back , seeing the amount of challenges you have already overcomed boosts your confidence and pushes you to do your best .

be proud of your progress : no matter big or small

-have you ever felt that 90 % of the world may dislike you and find you unattractive ? ( that’s a lie of course ) but if 90 % of the world thinks you’re unattractive then 75 million people still find you attractive-people see you 20 % more attractive than you see yourself-if you look weird in selfies , it’s because the front camera flips the camera . on the contrary , if you look weird in photos taken by others , find the angle and lighting that suits you best

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The problem of friendship is often a lack of a sense of purpose. Our attempts at friendship tend to be directionless because we collectively resist developing a clear picture of what friendship might really be for.  Yet, purpose doesn't have to ruin the friendship. On the contrary, the more we define what friendship is supposed to be, the more we can focus on what we should be doing with the people in our lives.

Discovering the purpose of friendship

<ol><li>Networking. We need collaborators who can align their abilities and energies with ours.</li><li>Reassurance. We're always on the verge of disgrace or disappointment. We need true friends to give us a necessary and accurate sense of their humiliations and insights with which we can judge ourselves and our lives more compassionately.</li><li>Fun. The pressure to guard our dignity, be serious and pass as a mature adults can become onerous. That's why we need to be silly with some friends.</li><li>Clarifying our minds. Something is wrong,  but we can't pin it down. The thinking friend assists us with knowing ourselves.</li></ol>

Four reasons for friendship

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<ul><li>Throughout your journey, the easy path will be to surround yourself with teammates, peers and investors who tell you what you want to hear rather than what you need to hear.</li><li>Think critically about every decision you make.</li><li>Develop the courage to have uncomfortable conversations.</li><li>Build a team with diverse perspectives.</li><li>Assume positive intent.</li><li>Be more forgiving of yourself when you face a setback.</li><li>Arrogance can be the greatest enemy of your growth.</li></ul>

Leading With Curiosity, Courage, and Compassion

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People are at their most generous, funniest, and most fascinating when talking to and about their friends.There are six forces that help form friendships and maintain them through the years: accumulation, attention, intention, ritual, imagination, and grace.

The Art Of Friendship

<ul><li>The simplest and most obvious force that forms and sustains a friendship is time spent together.</li><li>One study estimates that it takes 40 to 60 hours together within the first six weeks of meeting to turn an acquaintance into a casual friend.</li><li>So friendships unsurprisingly tend to form in places where people spend a lot of their time anyway: work, school, church, extracurricular activities.</li><li>In other circumstances, those hours get put in really quickly.</li></ul>

Force 1: Time Spent Together(Accumulation)

Paying attention goes a long way when forging unexpected friendships-noticing when you click with someone, being open to chance encounters, stepping out of our habits and into the moment.It’s never too late to meet someone who will be important to you for the rest of your life.

Force 2: Paying Attention

<ul><li>Attention only gets you so far without action.</li><li>When the opportunity arises, you have to put yourself out there.</li><li>It takes energy and thought, and our mental and physical resources are often spread thin.</li><li>Showing up for our friends takes effort, yes, but it shouldn't be drudgery. It should be a joy.</li></ul>

Force 3: The Intention

<ul><li>Rituals make keeping up with friends easier.</li><li>The effort of coordinating hangs or phone calls is the biggest barrier to seeing friends.</li><li>It's much easier when something is baked into your schedule, and all you have to do is show up.</li><li>In addition to keeping groups close, these traditions can fuel a friendship and give it a shared culture.</li></ul>

Force 4: The Ritual

<ul><li>Society has a place for friendships, and it's on the sidelines.</li><li>It takes imagination not to default to this norm.</li><li>To design your life so that friendship plays the role you really want it to.</li><li>Quieter ways of showing your friends love can still be radical.</li><li>The beauty and challenge of friendship is its diversity.</li></ul>

Force 5: Imagination

<ul><li>Friendship is flexible, and bends to fit the shape our lives need it to.</li><li>Grace is a gift so profound that it could never be earned or deserved.</li><li>Grace is the forgiveness that we offer each other when we fall short.</li><li>It creates space that creates for connections-and reconnections-that feel nothing short of miraculous.</li></ul>

Force 6: Grace

I’ve spent more than three years interviewing friends for “The Friendship Files.” Here’s what I’ve learned.

The Six Forces That Fuel Friendship

Being busy is a defense mechanism. It’s a way to avoid just being. Having responsibilities, deadlines, a long task list… Overloading our senses can make us believe we are moving in the right direction, or at least in a direction. But the constant cycle of tasks we tackle without ever thinking often leaves us stagnant. Who proudly looks back at their old to-do lists at the end of the year and thinks: “Wow, I tackled so many tasks this year”?

Busy as a defense mechanism

Instead of measuring progress by the quantity of work we produce, we should consider the quality of our work. Not just the quality of the output, as usually measured by externally-designed metrics, but the quality of the impact it has on our mental and physical well-being. “

Measuring progress

Next time you think of <a href="https://nesslabs.com/learning-how-to-learn">learning</a> something new, or a friend asks you if you want to do something together or have a chat, and your automatic answer is: “I’m just too busy”, take a few minutes to actually consider whether you are actually too busy, and, if that’s the case, whether this busyness is more valuable to you in the long-term than learning something new or spending time with your friend.

Are you too busy?

“How are things?” asked a friend. “It’s busy, but I’ll take some time to relax when things ease up,” I replied. I recently caught myself giving a variation of this answer every time I was asked how I was doing. “So much work, but hopefully it will be better next week.” Being busy all the time can give us an illusion of productivity which may feel reassuring, but isn’t there a risk we are too busy to enjoy life?

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