In this era of automation, becoming a stand-out human is needed

Had you seen how many automation are running around us? Robots, machine, etc are everywhere, and had you wonder how to keep stand-out in this era of automation? Debra Stevens wrote this book to answer it. She shared her views on skills that much needed in developing our self to become a better version of us. They are engaging with people, listening, empathizing, collaborating, and inspiring. She shared practical five-week program to start developing these capabilities. These practical-5-days is very easy to follow and will bring you some better traits to stay stand-out in this era.

Practical 5 Days Guide to Advance You Career

You can find automation everywhere, means robots can do almost everything. Yes they can but not including listen, engage with people or collaborate, and they lack the ability to empathize or inspire. Nowadays, companies not only seek technical skills, but employers are also now clamoring for the capabilities that only humans can bring. As the landscape of work changes, five essential skills – engaging with others, listening deeply, empathizing, collaborating in teams and inspiring people – are becoming both critical and in short supply.

Day 1: Pick two persons that you like to build a connection better; first will be the one that you already have a close relationship and the second is a distant one. Reach, listen and talk with them 10 minutes with each of them.Day 2: Find some resource to learn about extrovert-introvert, find what you are and how to deal with them. Reach 2 persons with different type, engage, and listen to them to see the differences. Some good place to start reading is: <a href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ambivert/">What is an Ambivert? Are You an Introvert, Extrovert or Ambivert? (scienceofpeople.com)</a>.

Practical 5 days – Engaging with People

Day 3: Learn on making a first impression. Practice with new people during your day. Easiest way to find a new person to interact is go to a coffee shop that you rarely go and try to interact with the barista. A good book to read about it will be Skill with People by Les Giblin.Day 4: Learn to become a positive, optimistic person who can serve as a role model. Positive vibes will bring you positive results.Day 5: Learn techniques to make your conversations more meaningful. Another book by Les Giblin, The Art of Dealing with People is a good place to start.

Day 1: Find someone you consider as a good listener, find what they do different with others. Start doing 3 minutes of silence to observe and hear your surroundings.Day 2: Learn a bit about personality and how it effect to listening. A good place to start reading is <a href="http://www.solari.net/toward-humanity/2009/06/12/personality-traits-of-an-exceptional-listener/">Personality Traits of an Exceptional Listener | Toward Humanity (solari.net</a>.

Practical 5 Days - Listening

Research shows empathy also has bottom-line benefits, including boosts to productivity, customer loyalty and recommendations.Day 1: Reflect on your current understanding of empathy and begin a daily practice of stopping occasionally to become aware of what you’re feeling.Day 2: Had you ever heard MBTI test? Find out whether you are towards F-feeling or T-thinking. Check it on <a href="https://personalityjunkie.com/02/thinking-vs-feeling-myers-briggs/">Thinker (T) or Feeler (F)? Key Differences (personalityjunkie.com)</a>.Day 3: Reflect on the ways empathy differs from sympathy.

Practical 5 Days - Empathy

Day 4: Find a trusted person to give you feedback on your empathy and non-verbal communication, as body language is an important one.Day 5: GROW model is usually used for coaching, while it also can be user to build a relationship. Find about it on <a href="https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newLDR_89.htm">The GROW Model of Coaching and Mentoring - Skills From MindTools.com</a>.

In five days, you can increase your ability to manage conflict, your skill in giving helpful feedback and other essential components of collaboration.Day 1: Check your teams, what values/qualities they bring to your team. Then get someone to give you feedback about yours.Day 2: Find your team collaboration style, is it towards an organized one or a flexible adaptive one. Schedule routine gathering (virtually also works) to build your relationship.

Practical 5 Days - Collaboration

Day 3: Learn on managing conflict. Reflect what conflict had occurred in the past and how you and team deals with it. Find something that you can improve. Find some facts here: <a href="https://www.valamis.com/hub/conflict-management-styles">5 Conflict Management Styles every Manager Must Know [Guide] (valamis.com)</a>Day 4: Boost your skills in giving feedback by learning to “feed forward”: Focus on the future rather than the past. A long read but worth it: <a href="https://marshallgoldsmith.com/articles/try-feedforward-instead-feedback/">Try Feedforward Instead of Feedback.</a>Day 5: Add to your collaboration skills by watching Simon Sinek’s TED Talk on purpose and learning about Edward de Bono’s “thinking hats” approach to running meetings.

Honing your ability to inspire people will also enhance your personal life, as you’ll become better able to encourage and motivate your friends and family.Day 1: Reflect on your self-limiting beliefs about your capacity to inspire, and reframe them in a positive way.Day 2: Learn about the various personality types and the influencing strategies they tend to respond to. Draw a network diagram of the people who matter in your professional life, and choose two people from it to focus on. For each, select a key action in developing the relationship, and start working toward it.

Practical 5 Days - influencing

Day 3: See the very first paragraph? It’s an example of 3 P’s; Pull-asking a question to get attention, Push-share some fact, and share the Potential value you may receive after reading this idea. Use the same principle of 3 P’s.Day 4: Find David J.P. Phillips’s TED Talk about story telling. Learn from it.Day 5: Try to apply it in a well prepared presentation; learn your audience, write your core message, use the 3 P’s, rehearse and got some feedback.

Everyone can change and grow through application and experience

For people who hold a fixed mind-set, making a mistake or receiving constructive feedback can seem like a nightmare, because these individuals feel helpless to improve. For someone with a growth mind-set, making a mistake or receiving feedback might still feel uncomfortable, but it’s not the end of the world. These individuals regard mistakes and constructive criticism as opportunities to develop and grow

Build a Growth Mind Set

Don’t wait until your company run a training, workshop or sessions. Practical 5 days is very simple to do by yourself. The exercises will require you to take steps outside your comfort zone, and in the process, you’ll see that you really can change your thoughts and build your skills. Keeping a journal of your development will help reinforce your growth mind-set and give you momentum for action.

Just do the Action

How upskilling helps businesses adapt to a rapidly changing labour market

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Upskilling: Preparing For The Future

Ever wonder how to keep stand out as human in this era of automation and robot? This book shared some practical guides on how to be a better person as human, and keep your career advancing. Follow its 5 days practices guide to unlock your potentials.

We're online and communicating all day, but with less and less impact. We need to build on what makes us human. Skills such as listening, socialising and storytelling have been lost in the world of digital and are needed more than ever, both personally and professionally. These soft skills give you the advantage in a changing world, allowing you freedom, flexibility and the ability to collaborate with others. Stand Out will get you ahead of the curve and give you the tools you need to rediscover your human skills so you can pursue your passions, achieve your goals and thrive in your career. 'Don't be left behind, this book is a must-read!' Kosta Christofi, Head of Leadership and Management Development, Reed in Partnership

Understand yourself and those around you.

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We're online and communicating all day, but with less and less impact. We need to build on what makes us human. Skills such as listening, socialising and storytelling have been lost in the world of digital and are needed more than ever, both personally and professionally. These soft skills give you the advantage in a changing world, allowing you freedom, flexibility and the ability to collaborate with others. Stand Out will get you ahead of the curve and give you the tools you need to rediscover your human skills so you can pursue your passions, achieve your goals and thrive in your career. "Don't be left behind, this book is a must-read!" Kosta Christofi, Head of Leadership and Management Development, Reed in Partnership

Debra Stevens is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Debra Stevens has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Debra Stevens's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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Stand Out: 5 Key Skills to Advance Your Career

The Change Triangle is a tool and a guide to carry a person from a place of disconnection back to their true Self. It works by getting people reacquainted with core emotions like joy, anger, sadness, fear, and excitement.The concepts underlying the Change Triangle tool were first described by Dr. David Malan in the 1970s and later by Diana Fosha, Ph.D. in her pioneering text The Transforming Power of Affect.

How Does The Change Triangle Work?

Core emotions are largely physical sensations that we come to recognize and name as a particular emotion. Core emotions inform us about our environment. Am I safe or in danger? What do I need/want and don’t want? Am I sad? Am I hurt? What brings me pleasure? What disgusts me? What excites me? The core emotions are: sadness, fear, anger, joy, excitement, sexual excitement and disgust.

What Are Core Emotions And Which Are They?

Core emotions are hard-wired in the middle part of our brains, meaning they are not subject to conscious control. Triggered by the environment, each core emotion is pre-wired to set off a host of physiological reactions that prime us for an action that is meant to be adaptive, like running from danger. Core emotions are brilliant: if we don’t block them, their innate programming tells us important information to help us thrive.

Core Emotions Are Hard- And Pre-Wired

Inhibitory emotions block core emotions. Shame, anxiety and guilt, the inhibitory emotions, block core emotions when: 1) they are in conflict with what pleases others whom we need like parents, peers, and partners; 2) core emotions become too intense and our brain wants to shut them down to protect us from the emotional overwhelm.

What Are Inhibitory Emotions And Which Are They?

Defenses are anything we do to avoid feeling either core or inhibitory emotions. Depression is a defense because in that state we are out of touch with our core emotions. There are an infinite number of defenses but some of the other common ones in our culture are: joking, sarcasm, too much “screen time,” criticizing, spacing out, procrastination, preoccupation, negative thinking, misguided aggression, working too much, over-exercising, over-eating, under-eating, cutting, sex, obsession, addiction, etc.

What Are Defenses And Which Are They?

When an event or situation causes us distress or to be off-balance we must: <ol><li>Determine where we are on The Change Triangle: defense, inhibitory, core</li><li>Determine where we want to go, moving clockwise around The Change Triangle towards and through core emotions, which inherently provide guidance to peace, perspective, or solution. </li></ol>

How The Change Triangle Tool Works

The Change Triangle is a place to turn to in that immediate moment when something within us, or someone or something in our environment causes you to experience emotional struggle. Just by figuring out “where we are on the Triangle”, we can 1) gain some distance and perspective from our immediate feeling, and 2) have some direction of what to do to help ourselves feel better.

The Gift Of Distance And Direction

The state below The Triangle is a calm state of peace and openheartedness - where we all hope to spend much more time. It is accessed by “listening” to what the core emotion of the moment is telling us, by honoring what it says and by letting the associated body sensations move through freely until they naturally subside. Core emotions are wavelike in nature: rising then ebbing.

The Final Destination: Below The Triangle

The Change Triangle is a tool, a map and a guide that we can turn to to manage upsetting moments, or when we are in conflict with ourselves or those we love, or when we’re looking to understand ourselves more deeply. Practiced often enough, it can become practice. And with practice, comes change; hopefully, a change towards emotional resilience and stability.

The Change Triangle is a guide to carry you from a place of disconnection back to your true Self. It's a step-by-step process for simply feeling better.

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The Change Triangle

Abraham Harold Maslow (1908 – 1970) was an American psychologist who was best known for creating Maslow's hierarchy of needs, a theory of psychological health predicated on fulfilling innate human needs in priority, culminating in self-actualization. Maslow was a psychology professor at Brandeis University, Brooklyn College, New School for Social Research, and Columbia University. He stressed the importance of focusing on the positive qualities in people, as opposed to treating them as a "bag of symptoms". (Wikipedia)

Abraham Maslow

Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs is one of the best-known theories of motivation. Maslow's theory states that our actions are motivated by certain physiological and psychological needs that progress from basic to complex.This hierarchy suggests that people are motivated to fulfill basic needs before moving on to other, more advanced needs.There are five different levels of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Maslow's hierarchy of needs is often displayed as a pyramid. The lowest levels of the pyramid of needs are made up of the most basic needs while the most complex needs are at the top.

Hierarchy of Needs

The physiological needs include those that are vital to survival. Some examples of physiological needs include:·       Food·       Water·       Breathing·       HomeostasisIn addition to the basic requirements of nutrition, air, and temperature regulation, physiological needs also include shelter and clothing.

Physiological Needs (Level 1)

At the second level of Maslow’s hierarchy, the needs start to become a bit more complex. At this level, the needs for security and safety become primary.People want control and order in their lives. Some of the basic security and safety needs include:·       Financial security·       Health and wellness·       Safety against accidents and injury

Security and Safety Needs (Level 2)

The social needs in Maslow’s hierarchy include love, acceptance, and belonging. At this level, the need for emotional relationships drives human behavior. Some of the things that satisfy this need include:·       Friendships·       Romantic attachments·       Family relationships·       Social groups·       Community groupsIn order to avoid loneliness, depression, and anxiety, it is important for people to feel loved and accepted by others.

Social Needs (Level 3)

At the fourth level in Maslow’s hierarchy is the need for appreciation and respect. Once the needs at the bottom three levels have been satisfied, the esteem needs begin to play a more prominent role in motivating behavior.At this level, it becomes increasingly important to gain the respect and appreciation of others. People have a need to accomplish things, then have their efforts recognized. In addition to the need for feelings of accomplishment and prestige, esteem needs include such things as self-esteem and personal worth.

Esteem Needs (Level 4)

At the very peak of Maslow’s hierarchy are the self-actualization needs. Self-actualizing people are self-aware, concerned with personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others, and interested in fulfilling their potential.

Self-Actualization Needs (Level 5)

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs represented part of an important shift in psychology. Rather than focusing on abnormal behavior and development, Maslow's humanistic psychology was focused on the development of healthy individuals.

Impact of Maslow's Hierarchy

“What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.”-Abraham Maslow

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Maslow's hierarchy of needs describes five levels of needs that motivate human nature. Learn more about the pyramid of needs and why it matters.

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How Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs Explains Human Motivation

It may seem normal, but not nice, to experience at least some pleasure when misfortune befalls a rival.New research contrasts a new emotion, "happy-for-ness" with schadenfreude(a German word combining the words harm and joy), envy, and sympathy in response to success or failure in others.By understanding your own tendency to engage in social comparison, you can move past your negative and into more empathetic reactions to others.

How Our Sense of Fairness Influences Judgments About the "Fortunes of Others"

The idea that you should feel bad when someone else encounters a loss or other form of misfortune is hammered into most people’s sense of moral responsibility. Little children may shout with joy when they win a family board game, but this ignoble reaction ordinarily becomes less and less acceptable in anyone over the age of 8 or 9. As adults, you may still experience this sense of delight when you’ve vanquished your opponents, but you know that you have to hold back on expressing it openly.

Hold Back The Victory Shout!

Feeling happy at the expense of someone else’s losses is an emotion that psychologists refer to as schadenfreude, a German word combining the words harm (schaden) and joy (freude). Although this is a common enough emotion, is it inevitable that people take pleasure in the harm that befalls others? Perhaps you hear that a small electrical fire destroyed your neighbor’s kitchen. Isn’t it likely that you would feel sympathetic toward them rather than triumphant?

A Pleasurable Feeling At Others Expense

<ul><li>Social comparisons are at the heart of people's emotional responses to other people's (mis)falls</li><li>If the person you're comparing yourself to unfavourably has a desirable outcome, you'll experience envy.</li><li>You'll feel sympathy because you can "look down" at the other person without feeling threatened by their superiority over you.</li><li>At the other end of the spectrum, you will feel what the German authors call "happy-for-ness" when you don't see someone as having qualities more desirable than your own.</li></ul>

Comparisons Are Natural

A plethora of studies have shown that individuals do not like inequality, also known as inequity aversion.The farther away someone's relative rank moves from your own, the worse you will feel.Emotional reactions to other people's successes or failures exist on a sliding scale.You'll feel envious of a winner, then, who ranks higher than you in some way, as this individual threatens "not only comparative concerns but also self-esteem".

How Fairness Plays A Part

<ul><li>When you see someone get what you would like to have, such as the opportunity to join that outdoor gathering, ask yourself why this matters so much.</li><li>If you feel that your upward social comparison process is being set into motion, you can then start to bring it back down to erase your inequity aversion.</li><li>Feeling joy in other people’s misery doesn’t have to be an inevitable outcome of the social comparison process. By understanding the full dimensions of the FOE model, you can move yourself toward the fulfilling end of the emotional continuum.</li></ul>

The Bottom Line

How our sense of fairness influences judgments about the "fortunes of others."

Do You Bask in Other People’s Misfortunes?

<ul><li>Learn to make the most out of an imperfect situation like moving solo into a new city.</li><li>Being mobile is only one way of living life, and by living this way we inherently miss out on all the other ways to live and build community.</li><li>A few tactics you can use, particularly based on wherever it is you wind up living, are: Do everything, keep in touch with people, and take time for yourself.</li></ul>

Moving To A New City

<ul><li>Put yourself out there to meet people.</li><li>This could be through work, exercise groups, meetups, social media, volunteering, or even dating apps.</li><li>Finding sustainable communities that you see regularly and can invest in is key to thriving in a new place.</li><li>It's easy to live in a bubble made up of only people who think like you.</li><li>Connect through different channels.</li></ul>

Go Outside

<ul><li>Keeping in touch is important. Reconnect with friends/acquaintances/friends of friends in the city you're in, and communicate virtually with friends and family far away.</li><li>If you've fallen out of touch with old friends, it's not necessarily your fault. People might fall away because of a busy job, relationship, or other things that are not related to you, but they'll be happy to see you years or decades later.</li></ul>

Keep In Touch

<ul><li>Having time alone without being lonely is vital to making a relocation healthy and sustainable.</li><li>Going to therapy, exercising, and staying connected with friends or family are all things you can think about doing so you can truly enjoy alone time.</li><li>Doing something you love by yourself may be exercising, reading a book, cooking, or watching TV.</li></ul>

Take Time For Yourself

How to make and sustain relationships in a new city as a single person.

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Moving to a new city solo can be less lonely than you think

Online dating can be a depressing grind that leaves many singles feeling burnt out.Dating app burnout refers to exhaustion that comes from prolonged dating app use.A few basic signs of this fatigue are when a user associates negative feelings with approaching dating apps, when the act of using the app and the ensuing dating process exhausts them, and when it feels like a second job.

Burnout From Dating Apps

<ul><li>Repeated negative treatment online can contribute to people's feeling of negativity and burnout</li><li>Not all dating apps are there to find a date</li><li>Limit yourself to connecting with two to three matches at a time, to focus on quality over quantity</li><li>A dating pause is exactly what they need</li><li>Find group-based activities to engage in to meet people with shared interests, but that doesn't always pan out</li></ul>

The Online Grind

Traditional beauty standards can strongly influence how potential partners treat Non-binary dates.Dating a non-binary person while identifying with a gender binary might 'challenge that person's understanding of their own sexual orientation'.Most dating apps were created with gender binary in mind, so even though users specify that they don’t align with either of those genders, their profiles are served up to other users as if they do, since on most apps, users can specify they’d like to see men’s profiles, women's profiles, or both.

Non-Binary Genders

When discussing sex, it’s helpful to ask things like whether there are certain words that a dating partner does or doesn't like to use to describe various body parts.Don’t make this about your journey around non-binary people. Consider their wants and needs, and treat them like people.

Be Mature And Empathic

The design of dating apps can also create frustrations for burnt-out users. Certain paywall features are important but many users don't want to shell out money for the same.It’s also tricky to navigate multiple dating apps at once, but many use more than one because they feel it improves their chances of finding a match. Hopping between different interfaces can cause problems.

Design and Behavioural Issues 

Scrolling, chatting, meeting, ghosting: online dating can be a depressing grind that leaves many singles feeling burnt out.

Can online dating burnout be stopped?

Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice.

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Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.

...in spite of the deep-seated craving for love, almost everything else is considered to be more important than love: success, prestige, money, power-almost all our energy is used for the learning of how to achieve these aims, and almost none to learn the art of loving. Could it be that only those things are considered worthy of being learned with which one can earn money or prestige, and that love, which "only" profits the soul, but is profitless in the modern sense, is a luxury we have no right to spend energy on?

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.

The landmark bestseller that changed the way we think about love: “Every line is packed with common sense, compassion, and realism” (Fortune). The Art of Loving is a rich and detailed guide to love—an achievement reached through maturity, practice, concentration, and courage. In the decades since the book’s release, its words and lessons continue to resonate. Erich Fromm, a celebrated psychoanalyst and social psychologist, clearly and sincerely encourages the development of our capacity for and understanding of love in all of its facets. He discusses the familiar yet misunderstood romantic love, the all-encompassing brotherly love, spiritual love, and many more. A challenge to traditional Western notions of love, The Art of Loving is a modern classic about taking care of ourselves through relationships with others by the New York Times–bestselling author of To Have or To Be? and Escape from Freedom. This ebook features an illustrated biography of Erich Fromm including rare images and never-before-seen documents from the author’s estate.

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The landmark bestseller that changed the way we think about love: “Every line is packed with common sense, compassion, and realism” (Fortune).  The Art of Loving is a rich and detailed guide to love—an achievement reached through maturity, practice, concentration, and courage. In the decades since the book’s release, its words and lessons continue to resonate. Erich Fromm, a celebrated psychoanalyst and social psychologist, clearly and sincerely encourages the development of our capacity for and understanding of love in all of its facets. He discusses the familiar yet misunderstood romantic love, the all-encompassing brotherly love, spiritual love, and many more. A challenge to traditional Western notions of love, The Art of Loving is a modern classic about taking care of ourselves through relationships with others by the New York Times–bestselling author of To Have or To Be? and Escape from Freedom.  This ebook features an illustrated biography of Erich Fromm including rare images and never-before-seen documents from the author’s estate.

Erich Fromm, Ph.D. (Sociology, University of Heidelberg, 1922), was a psychoanalyst and social philosopher who explored the interaction between psychology and society, and held various professorships in psychology in the U.S. and Mexico in the mid-20th century.Fromm's theory is a rather unique blend of Freud and Marx. Freud, of course, emphasized the unconscious, biological drives, repression, and so on. In other words, Freud postulated that our characters were determined by biology. Marx, on the other hand, saw people as determined by their society, and most especially by their economic systems.

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Meditation is not just good for you, it's good for your relationships.<ul><li>Meditation appears to be a self-focused activity, but it actually boosts your ability to have good relationships.</li><li>Meditation makes you more emotionally intelligent and wise. It also decreases stress and improves a sense of connection.</li><li>Meditation improves well-being and happiness, which benefits your relationship.</li></ul>Relationships are key to life, we long for and need positive social connections, yet at the same time relationships can be sources of great pain, stress, and even bewilderment.

5 Unexpected Ways Meditation Improves Relationships

One of the biggest challenges in a relationship is emotions: jealousy, anxiety, anger, and more. Handling our own emotions is challenging enough, let alone those of our partner. Emotional intelligence is key. Step in meditation. Meditation improves emotional intelligence: self-awareness, emotion regulation, anxiety and depression, general well-being, even attention, memory, and creativity. Your ability to connect and empathize improves.Meditation is associated with greater overall wisdom. And who doesn't want a partner who is not just emotionally intelligent but also wise?

1. Meditation Makes You More Emotionally Intelligent

Over time, we get used to the things we have and the people we are with. You start to take them for granted. That's when people may start to focus on what's wrong with their partner or forget why they fell in love in the first place, they may even look elsewhere.However, grateful people are more satisfied in their relationships and feel closer to one another. When you are grateful, you stay focused and appreciative of your partner's good qualities instead of taking them for granted or harping on the little things.

2. Meditation Keeps You Grateful

Negative emotions like stress and anxiety can keep us focused on ourselves. It's hard to connect with another person when we are in a self-focused state. Neuroscientists have found that people who meditate regularly have more positive emotions overall, which in turn is linked to slower aging at the cellular level. Meditating, though it can seem like a solo activity, actually makes you a more upbeat partner. As I mentioned in my last post, partners who are more positively energizing have better relationships because their very presence is life-giving and supportive.

3. Meditation Boosts Happiness

Isn't it ironic that it's usually the people you love the most who have to bear the brunt of your stress: a short fuse, bad moods, passive aggression. Over time, this kind of pattern can lead to a negative atmosphere in the home and create distance between partners. If you can take responsibility for curbing your stress, you not only will curb your own stress but also help preserve your relationships with your loved ones.

4. Meditation Curbs Your Stress

It's easy for partners to drift apart, especially if they are busy balancing work and children, have hectic schedules, and have little time to spend together. A chasm can grow almost imperceptibly at first until it becomes painfully obvious. Here again, meditation can help. Connecting to yourself, it turns out, boosts your connection to others in significant ways.Meditation improves well-being but also strengthens your feelings of connection with others. It can help people feel more connected and empathic in minutes.

5. Meditation Helps You Connect

Self-care is far from selfish, especially when it comes to meditation. The time you take to settle your mind not only improves your well-being but that of everyone around you, strengthening your relationships.

Importance of Self-Care

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”-Brené Brown “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”-Buddha

Self-Care Quotes

Meditation is not just good for you, it's good for your relationships.

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5 Unexpected Ways Meditation Improves Relationships, a Lot

Grief is universal. At some point, everyone will have at least one encounter with grief. It may be from the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, the end of a relationship, or any other change that alters life as you know it.Grief is also very personal. It’s not very neat or linear. It doesn’t follow any timelines or schedules. You may cry, become angry, withdraw, or feel empty. None of these things are unusual or wrong.Everyone grieves differently, but there are some commonalities in the stages and the order of feelings experienced during grief.

The Stages of Grief: What Do You Need to Know?

In 1969, a psychiatrist named Elizabeth Kübler-Ross wrote a book “On Death and Dying” that grief could be divided into five stages. Her observations came from years of working with terminally ill individuals.Her theory of grief became known as the Kübler-Ross model. While it was originally devised for people who were ill, these stages of grief have been adapted for other experiences with loss, too.The five stages of grief may be the most widely known, but it’s far from the only popular stages of grief theory. Others exist as well, including ones with seven stages and ones with just two.

Are there 5 or 7 stages of grief?

·       Denial·       Anger·       Bargaining·       Depression·       acceptance

The 5 stages of grief

Grief is an overwhelming emotion. It’s not unusual to respond to the strong and often sudden feelings by pretending the loss or change isn’t happening.Denying it gives you time to more gradually absorb the news and begin to process it. This is a common defense mechanism and helps numb you to the intensity of the situation.As you move out of the denial stage, however, the emotions you’ve been hiding will begin to rise. You’ll be confronted with a lot of sorrow you’ve denied. That is also part of the journey of grief, but it can be difficult.

Stage 1: Denial

Where denial may be considered a coping mechanism, anger is a masking effect. Anger is hiding many of the emotions and pain that you carry.This anger may be redirected at other people, such as the person who died, your ex, or your old boss. You may even aim your anger at inanimate objects. While your rational brain knows the object of your anger isn’t to blame, your feelings in that moment are too intense to act according to that.Anger may mask itself in feelings like bitterness or resentment. It may not be clear-cut fury or rage.

Stage 2: Anger

During grief, you may feel vulnerable and helpless. In those moments of intense emotions, it’s not uncommon to look for ways to regain control or to want to feel like you can affect the outcome of an event. In the bargaining stage of grief, you may find yourself creating a lot of “what if” and “if only” statements.It’s also not uncommon for religious individuals to try to make a deal or promise to God or a higher power in return for healing or relief from the grief and pain. Bargaining is a line of defense against the emotions of grief. It helps you postpone the sadness, confusion, or hurt.

Stage 3: Bargaining

Whereas anger and bargaining can feel very active, depression may feel like a quiet stage of grief.In the early stages of loss, you may be running from the emotions, trying to stay a step ahead of them. By this point, however, you may be able to embrace and work through them in a more healthful manner. You may also choose to isolate yourself from others in order to fully cope with the loss.That doesn’t mean, however, that depression is easy or well defined. Like the other stages of grief, depression can be difficult and messy. It can feel overwhelming. You may feel foggy, heavy, and confused.

Stage 4: Depression

Acceptance is not necessarily a happy or uplifting stage of grief. It doesn’t mean you’ve moved past the grief or loss. It does, however, mean that you’ve accepted it and have come to understand what it means in your life now.You may feel very different in this stage. That’s entirely expected. You’ve had a major change in your life, and that upends the way you feel about many things.Look to acceptance as a way to see that there may be more good days than bad. There may still be bad — and that’s OK.

Stage 5: Acceptance

The seven stages of grief are another popular model for explaining the many complicated experiences of loss. These seven stages include:·       Shock and denial·       Pain and guilt·       Anger and bargaining·       Depression·       The upward turn·       Reconstruction and working through·       Acceptance and hope

The 7 stages of grief

This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings.

Shock and denial:

You may feel that the loss is unbearable and that you’re making other people’s lives harder because of your feelings and needs.

Pain and guilt:

You may lash out, telling God or a higher power that you’ll do anything they ask if they’ll only grant you relief from these feelings or this situation.

Anger and bargaining:

This may be a period of isolation and loneliness during which you process and reflect on the loss.

Depression:

At this point, the stages of grief like anger and pain have died down, and you’re left in a more calm and relaxed state.

The upward turn:

You can begin to put pieces of your life back together and move forward.

Reconstruction and working through:

There’s no one stage that’s universally considered to be the hardest to endure. Grief is a very individual experience. The toughest stage of grief varies from person to person and even from situation to situation.Grief is different for every person. There’s no exact time frame to adhere to. You may remain in one of the stages of grief for months but skip other stages entirely.Additionally, not everyone will experience all stages of grief, and you may not go through them in order. For example, you may begin coping with loss in the bargaining stage and find yourself in anger or denial next.

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Avoiding, ignoring, or denying yourself the ability to express your grief may help you dissociate from the pain of the loss you’re going through. But holding it in won’t make it disappear. And you can’t avoid grief forever.Over time, unresolved grief can turn into physical or emotional manifestations that affect your health.In order to heal from a loss and move on, you have to address it. If you’re having trouble processing grief, consider seeking out counseling to help you through it.Grief is a natural emotion to experience when going through a loss.

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The Stages of Grief: What You Need To Know

While everyone experiences grief differently, here’s a rough estimation of what to expect when going through a difficult life event.

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