The only luxury is time. The time you get to spend with your family.

Every time I say something that is extremely truthful, out loud…it literally breaks the internet. So what are we getting all the rest of the time.

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Regardless of the reason why you decide to end a relationship, it can be a really intense ordeal — especially if you still have feelings for your partner. At this point, most of us have learned that it takes a lot more than just love for a healthy relationship to thrive. The hardest relationships to end are often the ones that can't work because of differing or conflicting goals, even if both people still have deep feelings for each other. Let me tell you: Figuring out <a href="https://www.elitedaily.com/p/6-signs-youre-ready-to-break-up-with-your-partner-so-get-ready-to-have-the-talk-9864046">how to break up with someone when you want different things </a>ain't easy, folks.

It's Not Easy

Once you've been with someone for a while, you probably have a clear idea of what their priorities, dreams, and goals are for the near and distant future. Sometimes it becomes clear that you both want different things out of life that just can't coexist in the same relationship. “Depending on what the big life goals are, [if they don't align] this can be a dealbreaker,” Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist <a href="https://heidimcbain.com/">Heidi McBain </a>told Bustle . “If one partner wants to be a digital nomad and travel the world, while the other wants to live close by to their family, these are very <a href="https://www.bustle.com/p/if-youre-avoiding-these-conversations-with-your-partner-it-may-be-time-to-break-up-8964741">different life goals and visions for the future </a>.”

Although it may be a tough pill to swallow, once you know where they stand on an issue that you can't really compromise on — for example, whether or not you want children — it may be a good idea to face the music sooner rather than later. "Despite our best efforts, we can sometimes be <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201504/the-truth-about-dealbreakers-in-relationships">faced with true deal-breakers, </a>" psychotherapists and relationship counselors <a href="http://bloomwork.com/">Linda and Charlie Bloom </a>wrote for Psychology Today . "Where it is clear that fundamental differences are too great to bridge the gap between partners, it is wise to acknowledge this reality and to respectfully end the relationship in its present form, moving on separately or in a different form of relationship."

If you've reached the point where you think <a href="https://www.elitedaily.com/p/breaking-up-with-someone-who-still-loves-you-is-hard-but-heres-how-to-do-it-right-12039554">going your separate ways </a>is probably the best decision in the long run, then it might be time to start a conversation with your partner. If you suspect they are still in love with you and may be blindsided by your decision, proceed delicately.

Going Separate Ways

"The best thing you can do is sit down with them in person (no text breakups) and have a really kind, honest, and compassionate conversation with them," breakup coach and host of the breakup BOOST podcast, <a href="http://www.breakupboost.com/">Trina Leckie </a>, told Elite Daily. "Do your best to end things on good terms and then go no-contact after that so that both of you can have time and space away from the relationship, gain clarity, and start the healing process."

Doing The Deed

Although no contact can be a hard rule to stick to, licensed marriage and family therapist <a href="http://nicolemrichardson.com/">Nicole Richardson </a>emphasized its importance. However, the ideal length of no contact might not be the same for every couple, so this is something you should both try to agree on. "Agree on a period of no contact. If you really care about them and want to minimize their hurt, let them know that you <a href="https://www.elitedaily.com/p/can-you-really-be-friends-with-ex-6-people-reveal-their-opinions-9102238">hope you can be friends </a>someday. And in order to make that happen, you will need to make a clean break and not keep in constant contact because that will only drag the hurt out."

No Contact Period

No matter how much you believe breaking up is the right decision, talking about it with a partner can be difficult and painful for both of you. Even if it hurts, only you can decide what's best for your future. Although it might take a while to work up the nerve and decide exactly what you want to say, in the end, you owe it to yourself to follow your bliss and do what feels right for you — even if that means letting someone you love go.

The Long Run

Regardless of the reason why you decide to end a relationship, it can be a really intense ordeal — especially if you still have feelings for your partner. At this point, most of us have learned that it takes a lot more than just love for a healthy…

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How To Break Up With Someone When You Want Different Things, But Still Love Them

When we deal with others, we aren't thinking; we're just reacting.Often we know these interpersonal habits are bad, but they're wired deep from years of "practice".We learned these "lessons" about how to deal with people and stumbled on "solutions" that helped at that time, in that context - but they've been more harm than good over the long haul.If we try to resist that programming, it gets very uncomfortable. It's like trying to break any bad habit or addiction.

Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: What We Do

<ul><li>We get better by learning to deal with the difficult moments in life.</li><li>You can't quell all the pain in life, some of it is unavoidable.</li><li>The real problem isn't the schema-related discomfort; it's your attempts to avoid it.</li><li>Bad feelings are like bad weather - they're temporary and pass if you let them.</li></ul>

The Real Problem Is The Avoidance

This is when you respond as you normally respond but instead, this time you need to do something different.All you have to do right now is... Nothing. Don't do the bad thing. Just stop. Observe what's going on in your brain.Defuse<ul><li>Do not engage the thoughts; observe and label them to get some distance.</li><li>Reframe the thought: "If I don’t give in, they’ll hate me."</li><li>Respond: “Thank you, Mind.”</li></ul>

Notice The Moment Of Choice

Identify: Find your fatal flaw. Whether it’s hostility, withdrawal, compliance or whatever, identify that bad social habit that always causes you grief.The Moment of Choice: Next time you reflexively want to engage in that bad coping behaviour, all you have to do is nothing. There’s a moment of choice in there, shimmering. You can choose to do something else.You’re not the weather; you’re the sky.Defuse: When the thoughts and fears run rampant through your head just say, “Thank you, Mind.” Those thoughts are advisors, not dictators. Then choose to act on your values.

How to Free Yourself from Those Bad Interpersonal Habits

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This Is How To Have Emotionally Intelligent Relationships: 4 Secrets - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

The friendships of Friends are something of a marvel. Six vastly different people in their young adulthood with disparate wants, goals, professions, and relationships all closely orbit one another (and a single coffee shop). Whenever they need each other, there’s always someone available to help or comfort them. Monica, Rachel, Chandler, Ross, Phoebe, and Joey live together and love each other — and eventually find their happily-ever-afters with each other, too. But the cruel lie of Friends and so many shows like it is that in real life, friendships often don’t operate like that at all.

The Lie Of The Sitcom 'Friends'

Television and movies have long given us unrealistic expectations for romantic relationships. There are rarely any perfectly timed meet-cutes or mad dashes to the airport, and the chances of an ironic misunderstanding that lead you to the love of your life are slim to none. But less attention has been devoted to how television and movies shape our perception of friendships, too, in ways that don’t always reflect reality.Modern adult friendships aren’t just challenging to create and maintain — some evidence suggests they are also in decline.

Wrong Expectations Of A Relationship

Americans today lead increasingly busy lives, and as members of our friend groups grow into their careers and relationships, incomes and schedules start to vary. People move away for new jobs or to be closer to family. Distance and time become barriers in a way they weren’t when everyone was young, single, and devoted to their found families.

No Time For Friendships

TV reinforces the fantasy that true friendships are and should be deeply close but require no real effort to maintain. It’s a stark difference from the way we know friendships operate in our own lives — as meaningful but sometimes fleeting relationships that can eventually dissolve because we have no language, script, or social expectation for how to seriously integrate friendships into our adult lives.

Everything You See On TV Isn't True

Real friendships are rife with conflict, separations, jealousies, and reconciliations. They are relationships like any other, stretching through their growing pains and sometimes snapping from the stress of ongoing tension. But none of that ever seems to make it to a television screen. As a result, we’re left idealizing relationships that wouldn’t happen outside the context of scripted television.

The Real World

And as an audience, we want closure when stories end. We spend years with characters and invest in their lives. It makes sense that our journey ends as they exit the phase of life in which we met them. But over time, this accumulation of choices has trained us to associate friendships with the spaces where they initially thrive. And we don’t have great models for how friendships should endure when they exist outside the realm of convenient proximity, despite the fact that in the real world, people’s locations and jobs are constantly changing.

Change Is The Only Constant

But perhaps more insidious than the portrayal of a too-close friendship is the lack of work their relationship seems to require. Disagreements and miscommunications between them are quickly resolved within the span of an episode or two, and very little time is allotted to working through the disloyalties, real or imagined, that have infected their friendship. Conflict resolution is unnecessary when your love for each other supersedes all.

Friendship Needs Work!

Slowly but surely, television is catching up to this glaring emotional disparity. Shows such as Insecure are finally taking a hard look at what happens when a friend group fractures, and how deeply wounding it can be to fall out with the person who used to know you best.  Friendships take time and dedication to maintain. The fallout felt real and hurtful, in part because there have been so few honest, realistic cultural scripts in media for how friendships should end.

Catching Up To The 2022 Reality

Perhaps what viewers really want, if we’re being honest, is for the friendship dynamics of our favourite TV characters to never really change or evolve as they do in our real lives. We want them to stay frozen in that inexplicably spacious purple apartment in ’90s New York City.If only our own friendships could be so pat.

The Bottom Line

The TV show sold us an idealized vision of these relationships. For young adults, the real thing is far harder to find.

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"Friends" and the illusion of perfect adult friendships

The popular belief that a friendship shouldn’t make you uncomfortable and that you should cut someone off at the first sign of tension or disappointment has seeped into the collective consciousnessRelationship experts agree: That’s not real friendship.<ul><li>Honing your ability to work through conflict in a long-term platonic relationship is no different than learning to do so in a committed romantic partnership.</li><li>Open, non-blaming conversations lead to deeper intimacy.</li><li>When the challenge arises, don't run from the chance to deepen your bond.</li></ul>

Real Friendship

Coping with conflict is the goal, but that doesn't mean you have to confront your friend every single time they do something that bothers or annoys you.A helpful way to assess if it's worth going to them about it is if it is a recurring issue or a situation that has continued to affect how you perceive your friend and how you show up in your friendship.

Examining The Problem

Your level of closeness to the person is a factor worth considering when deciding whether to bring up an issue with your friend.Conflict isn't automatically an indicator of incompatibility; it may simply be the sign of differing preferences that can be bridged with communication.

Assess the Relationship

<ul><li>Timing is everything</li><li>Consider if you have the immediate capacity for it.</li><li>Carve out an entire afternoon - or day, if you need it - so that you aren't rushing through your chat and have time to process any emotions you may feel afterwards.</li></ul>

Take The Time

If you've given yourself a chance to prepare for the conversation, you should also extend the same courtesy to your friend.Consider if they are in a space where they can actually receive and process your feelings. If not, it's likely that they will go into fight-or-flight mode.

Provide a Warning

<ul><li>Use authentic feelings as leverage.</li><li>Be open about your feelings and be honest about your nerves. This may help ease your friend’s nerves and expand their ability to receive and receive your emotions. You can also build trust with someone by being open and honest with them.</li></ul>

Lean into vulnerability

<ul><li>How you start the conversation influences the mood, tone, and direction of the talk more than you know.</li><li>Use verbiage that welcomes your friend in rather than alienates them, positive framing script.</li><li>An example would be: "Hey, I was wondering if we can talk about something that's been on my mind."</li></ul>

Use Inviting Language

When sharing your dilemma, keep the focus of your words on you and how you feel by using "I" statements.Start by expressing how it made you feel when your friend did what they did. Feelings are information, not fact.This also helps you understand that there is more than one reality, and going towards factual reality is a two-way process involving both.

Speak to Your Reality, Not Theirs

<ul><li>What you're trying to do is to embrace something called mutuality.</li><li>You're considering their experience and your experience at the same time.</li><li>True mutuality is not about right or wrong, it's about finding balance and understanding.</li><li>Don't kowtow to their reasoning, but listen to them out.</li></ul>

Ask About Their Experience

If you have been approached by a friend about how you've hurt them, remember that they care enough to bring it to you and are willing to be their vulnerable self with youThis is your friend showing that they're invested in you enough to want to work through this issue

View It as An Act of Love

<ul><li>Do what you need to do to refrain from sending emotions into overdrive</li><li>De-escalate if necessary, even if it means taking a break during the conversation</li><li>If the dialogue gets heated, verbalize that you need a moment instead of shutting down</li></ul>

Protect Yourself from Fight or Flight

In the heat of the moment, it's hard to remember that we are real people.Take a pause, ask for a moment, and call back later, or even take a day or two. It will help your relationship in the long run and give you space to be receptive rather than reactive.

<ul><li>Frame your friend's feelings as information instead.</li><li>A certain word or action may trigger them, but it might not trigger you and vice versa.</li><li>It's simply about respecting and honouring their request next time.</li><li>Don't let them tell you they hate you.</li></ul>

Depersonalize It

Before the conversation ends, let your friend know that you hear them. Confirm what has upset them, and verbalize that you care and understand where they're coming from.If you would like to avoid hurting them in the future, express how you will go about it next time.

Listen to Understand

Learn the best methods for navigating disagreements with friends, whether you’re bringing up or responding to hurt feelings.

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<ol><li>Stock the fridge</li><li>Have a food gift strategy</li><li>Don’t skip breakfast</li><li>Start with a drink ... of water, that is</li><li>Be smart about appetizers</li><li>Survey the buffet</li><li>Eat your veggies first at your meal</li><li>Make some simple swaps</li><li>Take a walk between dinner and dessert</li></ol>

These are the 9 Tips on Healthy Eating for the Holidays

It’s true that the holiday season and tempting treats go hand in hand, but you probably won’t be faced with them every day. If you have plenty of healthy ingredients—vegetables, whole grains, beans, and fruit—you’ll have an easier time making your meals extra-healthy. That will help offset those gingerbread cookies or that slice of pumpkin pie.

1. Stock the fridge

You don’t have to immediately eat all the cookies, breads, and chocolates that friends and neighbors deliver during the holiday season. Many goodies freeze well, so you can enjoy them over the next few months rather than the next few days:<ul><li>If possible, divide the treats into individual portions so that you only defrost as many servings as you need.</li></ul>

2. Have a food gift strategy

It’s a common practice to skip early meals on a big day of eating, fasting in advance of the dinner ahead. But this approach has a high probability of backfiring; people often end up overeating later. Instead, opt for a sensible morning meal—say, oatmeal, yogurt, and a piece of fruit—and if your celebration is in the evening, eat a light lunch midday. The last thing you want is to show up to dinner starving.

3. Don’t skip breakfast

Your brain sometimes has trouble distinguishing thirst from hunger, so at parties and holiday dinners, sip a glass of water before you have a cocktail or eat anything. And if you do drink alcohol, stick to one or two, sipping a glass of seltzer between each one. That will keep you hydrated and slow your intake. Or try a spritzer: Mix half red or white wine and half seltzer or club soda in a glass. Add a slice of lime and you have a festive drink with half the calories and alcohol.

4. Start with a drink ... of water, that is.

At cocktail parties, stick to three or so items (or six if the appetizers are doubling as dinner) to keep calories in check. Skip the fried foods and go for items like shrimp cocktail, vegetable-stuffed mushrooms, or hummus and veggies. Before holiday meals, go easy on the munchies.Do you really need to eat 5 ounces of cheese and then sit down to dinner? If you’re the host, you have more control over what’s being served, so try putting out something small and healthy—such as nuts, olives, or a crudités platter—for people to nibble on with drinks

5. Be smart about appetizers

Many holiday meals are served buffet style, with a variety of dishes on offer. The typical advice is to have a little taste of everything, but there’s some research that shows this can leave you feeling less satisfied. When you’re exposed to too many different flavors in a meal, you don’t feel as full as quickly, and you eat more. My tactic is to choose two or three favorite foods, especially those I don’t get to enjoy year-round. Food is so much a part of the season; this way the meal feels special and I don’t feel as though I’m missing out.

6. Survey the buffet

You’ll fill up on foods that are packed with vitamins and minerals and lower in calories, leaving less room for less unhealthy stuff. It doesn’t need to be boring, though. For instance, if dinner is at your house, try making the first course a festive seasonal salad, with goodies like pomegranate seeds, clementines, toasted nuts, and candied citrus peels mixed in with the leafy greens.

7. Eat your veggies first at your meal

There are all sorts of ways to insert healthier ingredients into your meal without sacrificing much by way of flavor. <ul><li>For example, use balsamic vinegar and olive oil instead of store-bought dressing, which is often high in sodium. </li><li>Yogurt can replace sour cream in creamy dips or on baked potatoes. Blend cauliflower into your mashed potatoes. Have stuffing or a roll and butter—but not both.</li></ul>

8. Make some simple swaps

For some families (mine included), this is a holiday tradition. It’s a nice way to bond with relatives and helps you sneak in some activity. But it also does more. It takes some time for the brain to recognize how much you’ve eaten. If you go straight from the meal to dessert, you may not realize how full you actually are—and you’ll probably enjoy dessert more if you aren’t completely stuffed.

9. Take a walk between dinner and dessert

You don’t want to make food the enemy, but it’s good to play a little dietary defense.

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9 Tips on Healthy Eating for the Holidays

Relationships can be hard work and are even more difficult when you feel disrespected 🤦‍♀️When a relationship is built upon a foundation of love and respect, you and your partner can create a relationship that builds you both up to be stronger, happier, and more fulfilled.

It all starts with respecting your partner.

Many of us feel the need to be in a relationship, so we rush into one.This can lead to people being in unhealthy relationships that don't meet their needs. It can be difficult to know with certainty what constitutes an unhealthy relationship. Thinking that a bad relationship is better than nothing is incorrect and dangerous.Another common misconception is that, if being in a relationship is normal, it must be easy. The truth is relationships are difficult, and everyone has problems with them from time to time.

It Seems Like Everyone Is In A Relationship.

In fact, divorce rates are declining, especially in younger couples, possibly because they tend to marry later in life than members of previous generations did. This suggests that more people are taking the time to find healthier relationships based on love and respect rather than getting hitched as soon as possible and trying to make it work. The first step to building a healthy relationship based on love and respect, is understanding these two dynamics.

Relationships Are Not Impossible To Navigate.

Everyone knows what love is; they just don't know how to describe it.Several psychologists have developed theories to explain love and what it means in our lives.For example, Freud described true love as finding your "ego ideal," a substitute for one's perfect image of oneself.Sternberg devised his Triangular Theory of Love. It depicts a triangle as the totality of a love relationship with the peaks of the triangle representing intimacy, passion, and decision.

What Is Love?

The philosopher Kant stated that everyone deserves basic respect just by being human.To feel respected is to feel safe, accepted as you are, valued, and encouraged to be your highest, truest self. When you feel respect for someone, you naturally want to act in ways that honor them. When you're with them, you show them kindness, courtesy, and consideration. You don't try to force them to be like you because you appreciate them for their differences and accept them as they are. Because you respect them, you treat them fairly.

What Is Respect?

Respect is important in all human relationships. If you don't respect someone, you can at least give them basic human respect or respect the role they play.True respect, however, is especially important in love relationships. Because lasting love relationships help define who you are as a person, it's crucial that the relationship is a healthy one. When you and your partner respect each other, you create a healthy relationship in which you can both mature and gain personal strength throughout your lifetime.

Why Respect Matters

When you fail to respect your partner, you prevent yourself from getting honest respect from them in return.Your failure creates an environment where your partner can't be their best. Just as important, you put yourself in that same environment, where love is more like a disease and a burden to both of you.

Prioritizing respect isn't just about avoiding a bad relationship. It offers many positive benefits for you individually and for you and your partner as a couple.A respectful love relationship can help each of you as individuals by:<ul><li>Giving you an emotionally safe space</li><li>Building self-confidence</li><li>Allowing freedom and independence</li><li>Fostering personal growth</li><li>Increasing motivation to excel at what you do</li><li>Bringing you feelings of self-worth and acceptance from another</li><li>Helping you see the world in a positive light</li></ul>

The Value of a Respectful, Love Relationship

The same type of love can also do the following for you as a couple:<ul><li>Improve communication within the relationship</li><li>Empower you to deal with conflict in healthy and productive ways</li><li>Help you make better decisions as a couple</li><li>Let you enjoy each other's company more</li><li>Help you work out differences without ending the relationship</li></ul>

<ul><li>Are they naturally friendly, humorous, wise, or serene?</li><li>What about their achievements?</li><li>What have they done that impresses you?</li><li>What are they good at?</li><li>Are they a great artist, parent, businessperson, or home decorator?</li><li>Are they able to do things others can't?</li></ul>You set the stage for treating them with respect by focusing on what makes your partner the unique combination of abilities, achievements, and personal qualities that only they are.

When you truly love someone, you want the best for them. If you want to give them your best, it stands to reason that you have to give them your utmost respect. How do you do that? You do it by the way you think about them, express yourself, and behave toward them.

Keys To Developing Respectful Love

If you don't see anything to respect about your partner, why would you be with them? You probably do believe there's something admirable about them. Perhaps you just haven't thought about it much. If not, now's a great time.First, remember that they deserve basic human respect. Then, consider the things you admire about them specifically. Think about their qualities.

See Your Partner as Deserving of Respect

You'll never know just how admirable your partner is if you don't take note of what they do, how they behave, and what they accomplish. Build your respect by noticing their triumphs. Notice which of their achievements makes them happiest. Be aware of their unique characteristics.Everyone has value and something good in them. If you're paying attention, you'll see more of what makes them who they are.

Be Observant

Most people have an idea of what their perfect partner would be like. This ideal image doesn't help you build respect for your partner. Set it aside, and see your partner for who they are. Instead of complaining that they aren't what you would like them to be, celebrate them as they are.

Appreciate Your Partner for Who They Are

Your respect will impact your partner more when you communicate it well. Let them know what you admire about them. Show them how happy you are when they accomplish something that impresses you.You can communicate through words or looks of approval. Don't stop with complimenting them directly. Tell others how much you value their accomplishments and personal character. Sometimes, hearing from their friends how you feel can be just as pleasing to your partner as hearing it from you.

Communicate Your Respect

Your partner may help you in many ways. They may encourage you to do your best. They may help you in practical ways, too, like supporting you while you advance in your education or your career.No matter what they do for you though, don't lose sight of their value in just being who they are. Certainly, you need to let them know you appreciate what they do for you. Go beyond that. Let them know that even when they aren't doing anything for you, you admire them in their own right.

Treat Your Partner as Inherently Valuable, Not A Means to an End

Every action is a choice. Think before you act. Choose behaviors that show your respect. Give them a reason to feel safe with you by not attacking them verbally or physically. Make time to be with them. Join them in celebrating their achievements. Be polite to them. Honor their choices even when they don't benefit you.

Choose Respectful Actions

At this point, you may be thinking that you'll have to pretend to be someone you aren't to build respect and love. You don't! All you need to do is build your respect for them. When you do, the rest is just a matter of learning the right ways to show how you feel about them.Learning these new thought and behavior patterns can be challenging, but a therapist can help you build a more respectful love relationship.

Learning to Improve Your Relationship

Another key is one that we often take for granted: wait to get into a relationship until you meet someone that you respect. When we face pressure to be in a relationship from friends, the media, or even from within ourselves, it can be easy to start a relationship with someone that we don't really love or respect. Sometimes these relationships can work out, but it makes a lot more sense to stay single until the right person comes along.

When you learn to respect your partner more, you'll be happier in your relationship. Then, when you learn how to show your admiration, you'll not only appreciate them for who they are, but you'll also be able to show your respect in an authentic, genuine way.Ultimately, developing a healthy, respectful relationship with your partner can lead to a lifetime of love. Take the first step today.

A Final Word of Advice

When you’re in a romantic relationship, even with friendships or relationships between family, there should always be love and respect. The article says it all.

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How To Develop A Relationship Based On Love And Respect | BetterHelp

Humans are famously social animals. But they are not alone in their tendency to team up with other individuals of the same species (conspecifics) to reach their goals. In fact, herds of mammals, flocks of birds, or shoals of fish are abundantly observed in nature. How does an animal’s brain recognize other animals of its own kind?

Looking For Teammates: Mostly Consciously

Humans and many other animals live in societies. At a fundamental level, social interactions require individuals to identify others as belonging to their own kind. This usually happens in fractions of a second, often instinctively. Unveiling the neuronal circuits that underly this behavior, however, is anything but trivial.

“Knowing” Teammates: Mostly Unconsciously

“There’s an inbuilt challenge in studying social interactions: For us as observers, actions and reactions are intermingled, both in animal behavior and at the neuronal level,” explains Johannes Larsch, neurobiologist and project leader in Herwig Baier’s department at the Max Planck Institute of Neurobiology. “This is because individuals taking part in these interactions influence each other. Both are, at the same time, senders and receivers of social signals. It has been particularly hard to investigate the role of the visual system and its associated brain areas.”

Actions And Reactions, Senders And Receivers

Johannes Larsch’s team nevertheless found a way to elucidate the importance of the visual system in social interactions. The scientists developed an experimental virtual reality setup for zebrafish larvae that simulates conspecifics. All that was needed was a projected dot on a screen, which – and this is important – moved across the display with a jerky movement pattern that is stereotypical of swimming zebrafish.

Visual Stimulus For Shoaling Behavior

The zebrafish larvae could not resist this cue: They followed it around for hours, apparently confusing the moving dot with a real conspecific. The researchers had thus discovered a defined visual stimulus that triggers shoaling behavior.The team could now investigate the neuronal processing of the stimulus. The experiments revealed that a moving dot activates a specific set of neurons in a brain region known as the thalamus. The same area of the thalamus gets activated when another zebrafish larva swims nearby.

The Irresistible Visual Cue

“The thalamus is a sensory control center of the brain that integrates and relays sensory inputs,” explains Johannes Larsch. Sensory information is processed on its route to the thalamus, first in the retina and then in the tectum, a major visual center of the vertebrate brain.By the time the information arrives in the thalamus, it has already been filtered for social cues, such as the jerky movements of a potential conspecific.

The Brain’s Thalamus

The nerve cells identified by the researchers in this region of the thalamus connect the visual system of the zebrafish with other brain regions that are active during social behavior.The importance of the newly identified neurons was confirmed when the researchers specifically blocked the function of these cells. Zebrafish larvae lost their interest in conspecifics as well as moving dots and hardly followed them around anymore.“The neurons we discovered thus regulate social approach and affiliation in zebrafish,” says Johannes Kappel, graduate student and lead author of the study.

Social Attraction And Affiliation

“… and many neuronal processes have been conserved during evolution. We also have brain regions that are active when we perceive facial movements or body motion, but the significance of these regions for social behavior has not been explored”, continues Kappel. The study by Kappel, Larsch, Baker and their collaborators has shed light on a part of the brain whose activation provides the elementary “glue” for the bonding of two zebrafish. Collectively, such small-scale interactions create shoals of fish. Social behavior is driven by networks of brains, which are themselves networks of neurons.

Humans Possess A Thalamus, Too

Concludes Baier: “Neurobiological findings, such as ours, can perhaps inspire and enrich the thinking about the self-organization of animal societies in general, which is currently the domain of other scientific disciplines.”

Self-Organization In Animal Societies

A special network that runs from the eye’s retina deep into the brain may help mediate social attraction and affiliation, a new study reveals. It seems that “to see is to know”. But how would we feel about that if it partly or wholly explained our social behavior and relationships? What if we were the zebrafish of the experiment?

A special network that runs from the retina deep into the brain may help mediate social attraction, a new study reveals.

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There Is A Brain Network for Social Attraction

"Even if a snake is not poisonous, it should pretend to be poisonous for its safety"

"It is always best to make friendship with good people . Because , how water becomes milk by mixing with the milk , same way we become good by doing friendship with good people"

"One small chain is enough to control a large elephant . A small lamp is enough to erase the darkness . A Thunderbolt is enough to crush a large mountain . Your body , shape , size , beauty are not important . Only your strength and confidence are important ..."

Whoever looks at women in a bad way will never be holy . He invites his own decline"

"The fragrance of flowers spreads only in the direction of the wind . But the goodness of a person spread in every directions"

"Once you start working on something , don't be afraid of failure and don't abandon it . Because People who work sincerely are the happiest "

"God is not present in idols, feelings are your God, the soul is your temple"

“For the moon, though one, dispels the darkness, which the stars, though numerous, can not”

chanakya niti in english : Hi Friends, there is a lot to learn in our life. We should learn as much as possible and achieve as much we can. But when I feel hurt, some quotes comes in my mind. In them Chanakya Nitis are also included. When Panchatantras doesn't work, we should use Ranatantras. But when Ranatantras don't work, then we should follow Chanakya Tantras directly. Here are some Chanakya tantras to get success, to achieve something in life, to win in life, to take revenge, to live happily and finally for enemy destruction.

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Chanakya Niti in English - All Quotes of Chanakya in English

Never settle. Things can always be better. Feeling and expressing gratitude for what you have is important but as much as wanting more and keep pushing your boundaries is important. Things can always be better. This analogy doesn’t only apply to things of monetary value but also when it comes to your health, mind, and spirituality.

1. Never Apologize For Wanting More

You shouldn't allow anyone else to make you feel guilty over your priorities. Always take care and give importance to your priorities. If it’s important to you, it doesn’t have to necessarily make sense to everyone.

2. Never Apologize For Your Priorities

Hey! Spoiler alert, you’re allowed to say no just because you don’t feel like participating. You’re under no obligation to do everything that someone asks you to do.

3. Never Apologize For Saying No

Trust your gut. Follow your instincts. Even if it means you’re veering onto a different path than others, you don’t need to apologize for it. You should always chase your potential, even if your instincts lead you to the ‘wrong’ decision, remember you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

4.  Never Apologize For Trusting Your Instincts 

You’re entitled to your opinion. No one can take that away from you. If you have an opposing viewpoint to others, don’t be sorry for it. However tempting it might seem, don’t change your opinions just to please others. Yes, keep an open mind and try getting different perspectives but upon that, stick to your accepted opinion.

5. Never Apologize For Your Opinions 

Everyone is different, and unique, don’t compromise what makes you different. Stay true to yourself. Even though you have certain characteristics that society deems as a deviation from the norm, you should never be sorry for that.

6. Never Apologize For Being Yourself

I honestly feel like the words ‘I’m sorry’ have become a little too natural. From time to time we get caught up in the moment and apologize for something without thinking twice. It’s admirable to…

10 Things You Shouldn’t Apologize For

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