How do you spend your morning? Did you know your morning routine can improve your productivity throughout the day? What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast looks at how you can follow in the footsteps of successful people to maximize your day.

What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast

“You don’t build the life you want by saving time. You build the life you want, and then time saves itself. Recognizing that is what makes success possible.”

Mornings can be one of the most hectic times of the day. But, if you plan your mornings effectively, you can make sure you are using this time to focus on the things that matter most to you.Instead of postponing essential tasks, schedule them for the start of your day.You might feel another time would be better for this task, but daily pressures will often get in the way, and the task will be left undone. So, instead of postponing these critical tasks, you should fit them into the start of your day.

1. Start Your Day With the
Things That Matter Most to You

We all have things we care about but struggle to fit into our day. For example, you might rank exercise, reading, or a particular long-term project as your most crucial task. It is easy to let daily chores distract you from this.

Nurturing your work life is not about responding to emails as they land in your inbox. Instead, it is about attending activities that you rarely have enough time to do on your average day.

2. Spend Your Morning Nurturing Your Career

Debbie Moysychyn is an organizational healthcare executive helping Brand University build its healthcare education department. She wanted to foster a collaborative, open-door culture in her office, so her colleagues could pop in for a chat whenever they wanted. This was effective in improving her colleagues’ efficiency. But, these short meetings reduced the time she had for her daily tasks.

Outstanding tasks built up until she did not have enough time for the most critical projects. Debbie’s solution was to free up her mornings to get these tasks done. This allowed her to focus on the task at hand without the worry of continual interruption. She spent the rest of the day helping her colleagues and working on more significant projects.

Relationships with OthersCareers are undoubtedly important. Yet, your relationships with others and yourself are more significant. It is easy to feel overwhelmed by your daily work. You might arrive home feeling too tired to spend quality time with your friends and family. The morning is the perfect time to engage with your family or to have some time to self-nurture.

3. Spend Your Morning Nurturing Your Relationships with Others and Yourself

There are many ways that you can make the most of your morning, spanning various relationships:<ul><li>Have sex at dawn with your partner</li><li>Make sure your whole family has breakfast around the table together</li><li>Cook exciting lunches with your family that you will all eat later.</li><li>Go on a morning walk in your local park with your partner or family.</li></ul>

Kathryn Beaumont Murphy exemplifies how mornings can support your relationship with others. Kathryn is a busy tax lawyer with a stacked schedule involving many late nights. These late nights prevented her from spending enough quality time with her daughter, as the law firm rewarded late hours rather than early starts. So, the mornings were generally quiet.

Kathryn decided to start going to bed earlier to add a couple of hours to her day in the morning. She would replace these hours at night with a few hours in the morning. This allowed her to spend quality time with her family. This decision has rubbed off on her family. They now all rise early and try to ensure breakfast is a special time for them.

“Before the rest of the world is eating breakfast, the most successful people have already scored daily victories that are advancing them toward the lives they want.”

Self-care is the third pillar for a more balanced life. It is arguably the first thing we sacrifice when life gets too busy. Again, the morning offers a fantastic opportunity to free up time for self-nurture.

Relationship with Yourself

There are multiple ways that you can nurture yourself:<ol><li>Train for a marathon</li><li>Read more</li><li> Write poetry</li><li> Meditate</li><li>Paint</li><li>Bake</li><li>Go on a bike ride</li></ol>

It is also essential to ask yourself how you can start implementing a morning routine. There are two steps to follow to make this easier. You can start making your morning more productive by tracking the time you spend on specific tasks over the week. A week consists of 168 hours. Although this might seem like a lot, this time can waste away if you do not understand where that time is going. This is where time management becomes so important. The problem with time management is it is rarely about how you spend your mornings. Instead, it is about what you do with the rest of your day.

4. Track Your Time and Imagine Your Ideal Morning

One act that can have a detrimental effect on your morning is your bedtime. Late nights can prevent you from waking up early. Additionally, they can also leave you feeling unproductive when you do wake up early. A good night’s sleep is integral to the efficiency of your morning routine. It is easy to fall into the trap of staying up late. For example, you could watch TV and lose track of time or remember a task you forgot to do that day. But burning the candle at both ends isn’t a sustainable approach. Staying up late to finish a job you forgot about will only reduce tomorrow’s efficiency.

Tracking your time allows you to identify which tasks keep you up late. Are these tasks essential, or can you fit them in earlier in the day? You can free up an hour or two early in the day once you understand where your time is going. Use a notebook to identify areas where you can save time. Freeing up time will ensure you get a good night’s sleep and have a couple of hours for your ideal morning.

You should aim to visualize your ideal morning. Doing so will help motivate you to get a good night’s sleep and wake up early.

LogisticsLogistics is the third step in integrating an effective morning routine. You need to calculate whether your ideal morning routine is viable. Identify how much time you need to incorporate all your ideal morning activities. Include potential areas where you can accommodate your new plans. You should also note small changes you can make to aid your morning routine.

5. Take Your Time Adopting New Habits

For example, say you have decided to start going on a 30-minute run every morning. You worry you won’t fit this in with your current morning schedule. In this instance, you could reduce the amount of time you spend in the shower. Then use some of this time for your daily morning run.Mapping out your ideal morning and timings is vital for success. Forewarned is forearmed.

Creating new habits is not a quick process. It will take time to cement your new habits and integrate them into your daily routine. You should start slowly and be patient with yourself and your new habits. Some habits will be easier to integrate, while others might take you weeks or even months. The end of your first two weeks of integrating a habit will be your crunch time. This is often when individuals decide to give up on a new habit. You have to persevere. Do not take a day off, and do not slack when things take longer than you first thought.

Creating Your New Habits

Do not take on too many new habits at once. Doing so should help keep your motivation high enough to get through a rough patch. If you set out to build several habits at once, you will struggle with the challenging moments.Rewards, or bribes, are also helpful for motivating yourself to persist with habits. The author calls these rewards ’bribes.’ Sticking to your habits is a behavior that deserves a reward, and doing so will reinforce this good behavior. You should treat yourself if you have maintained a habit for a few weeks.

Finally, you must fine-tune your routine to create effective habits. Fine-tuning involves being adaptable and learning to make constant adjustments and readjustments.

“You need to hit Monday ready to go... To do that, you need weekends that rejuvenate you, rather than exhaust or disappoint you.” — Laura Vanderkam.

6. Pre-Plan weekend activities

Weekends are the perfect time to recharge your mental & physical batteries. But, it's too easy to let the weekend pass you by. For example, it is not uncommon for Monday to catch up with you before you have had a chance to relax. You end up being more tired on Monday than you were after work on Friday. To overcome this, you need to plan. Instead of spontaneously deciding what you will do on Saturday morning, you should create a list of 3-5 anchor activities for the day. Plan these a few days in advance. Planning these activities will keep you on track so you don’t end up wasting your weekend.

The problem with ‘doing nothing’ on weekends is that the digital era doesn’t allow this. If you do not introduce anchor activities, you will likely watch TV, browse the internet, or check your social media. These low-key activities can be draining but are unproductive.

That doesn’t mean you need to fill every minute of your weekend with activities. Instead, having a few anchor activities will help keep you on track, while also allowing for a refresh. These anchor activities should consist of some out-of-the-ordinary activities. These exciting activities will help instill a sense of anticipation during the week. You can use this anticipation as motivational energy. Use it to keep you on track with your ideal morning routines.

People tend to overestimate the time they spend doing things they don’t like. In comparison, they underestimate the time they spend doing things they do like. Hence, people often claim they have worked a 60-hour week when they have only worked 40 hours. You should keep a log of all the time you have spent working, tidying, and completing other tasks. Creating a spreadsheet or using one of the many relevant apps can help.

7. Keep Track of How You Spend Your Time at Work

Tracking your working time can help you identify areas where you can be more efficient. You can then reduce your time spent doing things you do not enjoy. Plus, tracking your time can help you plan your next working week.

Laying the groundwork for success relies on carefully choosing your priorities for the day ahead. You should aim to do this every day. You should set up an accountability system that won’t let you down. Setting yourself challenging goals can be useful, but setting the bar too high will generally mean you fall short. Additionally, you can’t achieve these lofty goals daily. Instead, you should aim to hit targets every day. Adopting this approach allows you to reach your goals.

8. Plan for Success

To obtain your goals, it is vital to develop accountability. You should find someone who shares your goals and can check in to let you know whether you have met your targets. This is your ‘accountability partner.’ Finally, cut out tasks that feel like work but don’t achieve anything. Cutting out these tasks will remove distractions from your most significant tasks.

“Successful people know that small things done repeatedly have great power.”

Five common truths are essential for success:<ol><li>Deliberate practice makes perfect.</li><li>Seek constructive criticism.</li><li>Keep a deposit of career capital for future opportunities. Career capital is everything you have earned during your work life. This includes experience, networks, skills, and professional personality. You can use this capital to ask for things like promotions.</li><li>Nurture your relationships and establish trust.</li><li>Happiness leads to professional breakthroughs. Be more attentive to signs of success so that you can be happier.</li></ol>

In What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast Vanderkam suggests making over your mornings by tracking your time, picturing the perfect morning, thinking through the logistics, building a habit, developing a feedback loop, and tuning up as necessary... Have a read

Three powerful mini e-books about high productivity, now together in paperback Laura Vanderkam has combined her three popular mini e-books into one comprehensive guide, with a new introduction. It will help readers build habits that lead to happier, more productive lives, despite the pressures of their busy schedules. Trough interviews and anecdotes, she reveals . . . What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast—to jump-start the day productively. What the Most Successful People Do On the Weekend—to recharge and prepare for a great week. What the Most Successful People Do at Work—to accomplish more in less time.

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Personal Development

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Habits

Three powerful mini e-books about high productivity, now together in paperback   Laura Vanderkam has combined her three popular mini e-books into one comprehensive guide, with a new introduction. It will help readers build habits that lead to happier, more productive lives, despite the pressures of their busy schedules. Trough interviews and anecdotes, she reveals . . .<ul><li>What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast—to jump-start the day productively.</li><li>What the Most Successful People Do On the Weekend—to recharge and prepare for a great week.</li><li>What the Most Successful People Do at Work—to accomplish more in less time.</li></ul>

Laura Vanderkam

<ul><li>What is life but growth, i.e. expansion, love?</li><li>Therefore, all love is life, it is the only law of life; all selfishness is death, and this is true here or hereafter.</li><li>It is life to do good, it is death not to do good to others.</li></ul>

Help vs selfishness

<ul><li>Be not afraid, my children.</li><li>Look not up in that attitude of fear towards that infinite starry vault as if it would crush you.</li><li>Wait! In a few hours more, the whole of it will be under your feet.</li><li>Wait, money does not pay, nor name; fame does not pay, nor learning.</li><li>It is love that pays; it is character that cleaves its way through adamantine walls of difficulties.</li></ul>

Love will pave the way.

Those who are men and yet have no feeling in the heart for man, well, are such to be counted as men at all?

<ul><li>Duty is seldom sweet.</li><li>It is only when love greases its wheels that it runs smoothly; it is a continuous friction otherwise.</li><li>How else could parents do their duties to their children, husbands to their wives, and vice versa?</li><li>Do we not meet with cases of friction every day in our lives? Duty is sweet only through love.</li></ul>

Duty is sweet only through love.

<ul><li>Love never fails, my son; today or tomorrow or ages after, truth will conquer.</li><li>Love shall win the victory... Believe in the omnipotent power of love.</li><li>Who cares for these tinsel puffs of name?... Have you love? -- you are omnipotent.</li><li>Are you perfectly unselfish? If so, you are irresistible.</li></ul>

Love yourself to love your work.

<ul><li>A cannon-ball flying through the air goes a long distance and falls.</li><li>Another is cut short in its flight by striking against a wall, and the impact generates intense heat.</li><li>All outgoing energy following a selfish motive is frittered away; it will not cause power to return to you; but if restrained, it will result in development of power. This self-control will tend to produce a mighty will.</li></ul>

Passion with self-control will harness great will to do work.

<ul><li>Selfishness is the chief sin, thinking of ourselves first.</li><li>He who thinks, 'I will eat first, I will have more money than others, and I will possess everything'... is the selfish man.</li><li>The unselfish man says, 'I will be last... if by doing so I can help my brothers.'</li><li>This unselfishness is the test of religion. He who has more of his unselfishness is more spiritual.</li></ul>

If your needs are met, help others, selfishness is bad philosophy.

The degree of unselfishness marks the degree of success everywhere.

<ul><li>Unselfishness is more paying, only people have not the patience to practise it.</li><li>It is more paying from the point of view of health also.</li><li>Love, truth and unselfishness are not merely moral figures of speech, but they form our highest ideal, because in them lies such a manifestation of power.</li></ul>

Unselfishness helps you more than selfishness.

Life is ever expanding, contraction is death.The self-seeking man who is looking after his personal comforts and leading a lazy life- there is no room for him even in hell.

<ul><li>He who sees Shiva in the poor, in the weak, and in the diseased, really worships Shiva;</li><li>and if he sees Shiva only in the image, his worship is but preliminary.</li><li>He who has served and helped one poor man seeing Shiva in him, without thinking of his caste, or creed, or race, or anything,</li><li>with him Shiva is more pleased than with the man who sees Him only in temples.</li></ul>

I See God in People who need help of my strength.

Do you love your fellow men? Where should you go to seek for God - are not all the poor, the miserable, the weak, Gods? Why not worship them first?

Do not pity the dead, Harry, pity the living. And above all, those who live without love. - Albus Dumbledore

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Philosophy

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Love & Relationships

Love and Unselfishness by Vivekananda

Every act you have performed since the day you have born was performed because you wanted something . How about the time you gave large contribution to needy people ?If you hadn't wanted the feeling more than you wanted your money, you would not have made contribution.

Find The Want..?

Personally i love 🍓 & cream , but i have found that for some reason, fish prefer worms. So when i went to fishing, i didn't think about what i want. I thought about what they want. I didn't bait the hook with strawberry. Rather i dangled a worm ..why not use the same common sense when fishing for people?

Choose Correct Bait

" If there is any one secret of success," It lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own."

Before you speak , pause and ask yourself, " how can i make this person to do it ? "That question will stop us from rushing into a situation heedlessly, with futile chatter ( unnecessary formal talk ) about our own desires.

Before You Speak 

The world is full of people who are grabbing and self seeking, so the rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve other has an enormous advantage.People who can understand working mind of others need not worry about future ...So try to put yourself in place of other to win them easily..

Are You A Rare Individual ?

The only way on earth to influence people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it .First ,arouse in other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.

Are You A Influential Person ?

“self-expression is the dominant necessity of human nature.”Why can't we adapt this same psychology to business dealings? When we have a brilliant idea, instead of making others think it is ours, why not let them cook and stir the idea themselves They will then regard it as their own , they will like it and work with full involvement.

Arouse In Other Person An Eager Want

Chapter 3 How to influence people and friends 

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Marketing & Sales

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Communication

Art of human relationships ( influencing people )

"What you aim at determines what you see."

"We are all human. That means there is something about our experience that is the same. Otherwise, we would not all be human."

"But proper discipline organizes rather than destroys."

"Do you not hide unwanted things in the fog."

"Imagine who you could be and then aim single mindedly at that."

"If you don't say what you think then you kill your unborn self."

"I don't think that you have any insight whatsoever into your capacity for good until you have some well-developed insight into your capacity for evil."

"When you have something to say, silence is a lie."

"Create habitable chaos out of order."

"It is much better to make friends with what you do not know than with what you do know, as there is an infinite supply of the former but a finite stock of the latter."

"It may well be, therefore, that the true meaning of life is not to be found in what is objective, but in what is subjective (but still universal)."

"You should be careful, therefore, to live your life fully, and marriage and children and grandchildren, and all the trouble and heartbreak that accompanies all of that, is much of what life has to offer. Miss it at your great peril."

"There is no evidence that the importance of friendship declines in any manner with age."

"What is the moral of the story? Make yourself colorful, stand out, and the lions will take you down. And the lions are always there."

"When you are tightly boxed in or cornered -all too often by your own stubborn and fixed adherence to some unconsciously worshipped assumptions-all there is to help you is what you have not yet learned."

"We are all human. That means there is something about our experience that is the same. Otherwise, we would not all be human."

"I will trust you-I will extend my hand to you-despite the risk of betrayal, because it is possible, through trust, to bring out the best in you, and perhaps in me."

"Humility: It is better to presume ignorance and invite learning than to assume sufficient knowledge and risk the consequent blindness."

"We outsource the problem of sanity. People remain mentally healthy not merely because of the integrity of their own minds, but because they are constantly being reminded how to think, act, and speak by those around them."

"That which you most need to find will be found where you least wish to look."

"If you are not willing to be a fool, you can't become a master."

"Notice that opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated."

"Perhaps you are overvaluing what you don't have and undervaluing what you do."

"To suffer terribly and to know yourself as the cause: that is Hell."

"The purpose of life, as far as I can tell... Is to find a mode of being that's so meaningful that the fact that life is suffering is no longer relevant."

"If old memories still upset you, write them down carefully and completely."

"Be grateful in spite of your suffering."

"If you fulfill your obligations everyday you don't need to worry about the future."

"And if you think tough men are dangerous, wait until you see what weak men are capable of."

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Beyond Order By Jordan B. Peterson

The companion volume to 12 Rules for Life offers further guidance on the perilous path of modern life. In 12 Rules for Life, clinical psychologist and celebrated professor at Harvard and the University of Toronto Dr. Jordan B. Peterson helped millions of readers impose order on the chaos of their lives. Now, in this bold sequel, Peterson delivers twelve more lifesaving principles for resisting the exhausting toll that our desire to order the world inevitably takes. In a time when the human will increasingly imposes itself over every sphere of life—from our social structures to our emotional states—Peterson warns that too much security is dangerous. What’s more, he offers strategies for overcoming the cultural, scientific, and psychological forces causing us to tend toward tyranny, and teaches us how to rely instead on our instinct to find meaning and purpose, even—and especially—when we find ourselves powerless. While chaos, in excess, threatens us with instability and anxiety, unchecked order can petrify us into submission. Beyond Order provides a call to balance these two fundamental principles of reality itself, and guides us along the straight and narrow path that divides them.

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Books

The companion volume to 12 Rules for Life offers further guidance on the perilous path of modern life.    In 12 Rules for Life, clinical psychologist and celebrated professor at Harvard and the University of Toronto Dr. Jordan B. Peterson helped millions of readers impose order on the chaos of their lives. Now, in this bold sequel, Peterson delivers twelve more lifesaving principles for resisting the exhausting toll that our desire to order the world inevitably takes.   In a time when the human will increasingly imposes itself over every sphere of life—from our social structures to our emotional states—Peterson warns that too much security is dangerous. What’s more, he offers strategies for overcoming the cultural, scientific, and psychological forces causing us to tend toward tyranny, and teaches us how to rely instead on our instinct to find meaning and purpose, even—and especially—when we find ourselves powerless.   While chaos, in excess, threatens us with instability and anxiety, unchecked order can petrify us into submission. Beyond Order provides a call to balance these two fundamental principles of reality itself, and guides us along the straight and narrow path that divides them.

Jordan Bernt Peterson is a Canadian psychologist, author, and media commentator. He began to receive widespread attention in the late 2010s for his views on cultural and political issues, often described as conservative. Peterson has described himself as a classic British liberal and a traditionalist.

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Beyond Order

Good habits can change your life. Better habits can improve your life. Lifelong routines change everything. Life-changing habits compound in our favor — they accelerate growth and help us become happy, healthy, and wealthy. Doing one thing by yourself, for yourself, that creates joy is such an important habit,

Many of these quick habits take just a few minutes to practice, but they can have a massive return on your life. If you are too busy for better habits, restructure your routine. You don’t need more time; you need to redefine your commitments.

Why Do We Need Them

It’s not that we have too little time to do all the things we need to do, it’s that we feel the need to do too many things in the time we have.

Things To Do Aand Time Equation.

1. For every demand on your time, pause or delay your response and think about the first and second-order consequences before saying yes.2. Practice social media fast once a week and use that time to read a few chapters of your favorite book.3. Write things down. Don’t try to remember everything. The brain is notorious for forgetting ideas.4. Start your day with a plan — you will think less and move faster.5. Plan intentional breaks in-between focus work — it will help you recover and recharge for the next task.

Habit 1 - 5

6. The world’s most successful people are always learning — be deliberate about how you feed your brain.7. Choose your knowledge sources carefully.8. Begin your day with the end in mind — focus on a few high-priority tasks at a time.9. Unplug yourself from work when it’s done — it improves mental clarity.10. Schedule news time — don’t react to every news break or notification. It’s a productive way to take back time for what you care about.

Habit 6 - 10

11. Start your day with 5 minutes session — it improves flexibility and boosts your mood.12. Drink at least a glass of water first thing in the morning to improve gut and brain health.13. Listen to audiobooks and podcasts in your gap times: waiting for your coffee, commuting to work, or work breaks.14. Make walking a daily or weekly habit — it’s the easiest and healthiest form of exercise to improve mental clarity and self-awareness.15. Upgrade your mind every year. Embrace lifelong learning to accelerate personal growth.

Habit 11 - 15

Life-changing habits compound in our favor. They accelerate growth and help us become happy, healthy, and wealthy. Here are 42 quick habits you can start today.

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Productivity

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Time Management

42 Quick Habits That Have a Massive Return On Life | Hive

Melancholy isn’t bad, nor is it a wholly negative feeling, the purpose of which might be to motivate the changing of one’s circumstances for the better. Rather, it’s an emotional admission of the inevitability & commonality of life’s less idealistic realities.

Not A Problem 

The melancholy sensation, unlike anger, does not entertain an obligation that life ought to feel easy or cheerful overall— or for that matter, objectively clear or linearly interpreted. It acknowledges the paradoxes of desire; for instance, wanting to feel secure but also to feel free. (Or, maybe to feel the introverted relief of silence in unison with the extroverted disappointment of loneliness).

Paradoxes Of Desire

Melancholy poems, songs, & other creative expressions mirror our own personal griefs in a yet impersonal, universal way. In a melancholy state, we neither feel upset about, singled out by, nor averse to these misfortunes, but dispassionately accepting of humanity’s and life’s true, middling nature.

Art & Acceptance  

Why “Melancholy” is noble & natural, a less averse & more honest emotion. 

Read our article - On Melancholy. The School Of Life has a huge collection of interesting articles, read now.

On Melancholy - The School Of Life

You don’t talk about these ideas, because you’ve never put them into words. They’re just gut feelings.
Turning gut feelings into tools means understanding their origin, limits, and how they interact with other ideas. Which requires turning them into words.

We're full of ideas we’re not aware of

And it does that in ways thinking on its own will never accomplish.It’s difficult to focus on a topic in our heads for more than a few seconds without getting distracted by another thought, and distractions erase whatever we attempted to think about. But words on paper stick. They aren’t washed away by the agitator in our heads.

Writing crystallizes ideas

Sometimes writing is encouraging. You realize you understand a topic better than you thought. The process flushes out all kinds of other ideas you never knew you had hiding upstairs. Now you can apply those insights elsewhere.Other times it’s painful. Forcing the logic of your thoughts into words can uncover the flaws and biases of your ideas. Seeing the words on paper looks ridiculous. Things the mind tends to gloss over the pen tends to highlight.

Putting ideas on paper

Some of the things I think I think, I find don’t make any sense when I start trying to write them down. You ought to be able to explain why you’re taking the job you’re taking, why you’re making the investment you’re making, or whatever it may be. And if it can’t stand applying pencil to paper, you’d better think it through some more.

Writers don’t know exactly what they’ll write about until they start writing, because the process crystallizes the fuzzy ideas we all have floating around. This is probably why writing is intimidating for some people. They don’t think they can write because, in their head, they don’t know what they’d write about. But hardly anyone does.

Where do your ideas come from?

Everyone should write. You know why? Because everyone is full of ideas they’re not aware of. You don’t talk about these ideas, even in your own head, because you’ve never put them into words. They’re gut feelings. Intuitions. You use them a dozen times a day. But you’d shrug your shoulders if someone asked why. How you react to career risk. Why you invest the way you do. Why you like some people and question others. We’re all brimming with opinions on these topics that we may never discuss, even with ourselves. Like phantom intelligence. Intuition is strong enough to put these ideas into practice. But intuition isn’t a tool; it’s a safety net at best, and is more often the fuel of biased decisions. Turning gut feelings into tools means understanding their origin, limits, and how they interact with other ideas. Which requires turning them into words. And writing is the best way to do that. Writing crystallizes ideas in ways thinking on its own will never accomplish. The reason is simple: It’s hard to focus on a topic in your head for more than a few seconds without getting distracted by another thought, and distractions erase whatever you attempted to think about. But words on paper stick. They aren’t washed away by the agitator in your head who won’t shut up about the tone of an email someone just sent you. You might be able to hold focus just briefly in your head, but a sentence on paper has all the patience in the world, waiting for you to return whenever you’re ready. It’s hard to overemphasize how important this is. Putting ideas on paper is the best way to organize them in one place, and getting everything in one place is essential to understanding ideas as more than the gut reactions they often hide as. Take four questions: What is your edge over competitors? How do you react to unforeseen risk? What have you changed your mind about recently? What part of your job are you not good at? These are vital questions that most of us, if asked on the spot, couldn’t answer well. Not because we haven’t thought about them; we certainly have. But the thoughts are probably vague, unsubstantiated, or pure emotions. Many people’s response to the first question would be an uncomfortable pause, a ponder, and a lump in the throat. Which says a lot, just not in words. It’s not until you put thoughts on paper that everything from ignorance to denial to unfulfilled potential is viewed in the raw, ready to be analyzed. Sometimes writing is encouraging. You realize you understand a topic better than you thought. The process flushes out all kinds of other ideas you never knew you had hiding upstairs. Now you can apply those insights elsewhere. Other times it’s painful. Forcing the logic of your thoughts into words can uncover the madness of your ideas. The holes. The flaws. The biases. Thinking “I want this job because it pays a lot of money” is bearable. Seeing the words on paper looks ridiculous. Things the mind tends to gloss over the pen tends to highlight. Warren Buffett once said: Some of the things I think I think, I find don’t make any sense when I start trying to write them down. You ought to be able to explain why you’re taking the job you’re taking, why you’re making the investment you’re making, or whatever it may be. And if it can’t stand applying pencil to paper, you’d better think it through some more. A common question people ask professional writers is, “Where do you get your ideas?” A common answer is, “From writing.” Writers don’t know exactly what they’ll write about until they start writing, because the process crystallizes the fuzzy ideas we all have floating around. This chicken-and-egg problem is probably why writing is intimidating for some people. They don’t think they can write because – in their head, as this moment – they don’t know what they’d write about. But hardly anyone does. So, write. A journal. A business manifesto. An investment plan. You don’t have to publish it. It’s the process that matters. You’ll uncover so much you never knew.

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Reading & Writing

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Problem Solving

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Why Everyone Should Write

Daily life with Borderline Personality Disrorder is really an act of resisting and letting go. Many of us struggle alone or with few friends. We may tend to withdraw and feel safer alone or with someone close because we are hypersensitive.It's a struggle that is very overwhelming all too often because the urges to act out, etc are very strong. However, understanding that we can fight back and slowly regain control can be empowering and bring much needed hope.

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Every day, we have to resist <ul><li>engaging in self-destructive behavior </li><li>not contacting people that negatively impact our mental health</li><li>resisting the urge to not obsess over someone</li><li>resisting urges to make bad decisions in general</li></ul>

What We Resist

In order to resist, we also need to learn to let go.<ul><li>let go of thoughts that are not beneficial to us and that may lead to bad decisions</li><li>let go of limiting beliefs</li><li>let go of painful things through therapy, by reading about it and through auto-analysis</li><li>trying to let go of self-soothing in unhealthy ways</li></ul>

What We Let Go

<ul><li>DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) is the best approach to our struggle.</li><li>Slowly reinforcing and not reinforcing habits, negative thoughts, obsessive thoughts.</li><li>Learning to redirect our attention to our breath when our thoughts do not serve us (addiction triggers that may lead to relapse, obsessive thoughts, etc). Redirect our attention to something else, more productive or pleasurable.</li><li>Taking your time to cool down to reply to people in order to no act out</li><li>Understanding that you should just turn your back and leave in many situations</li><li>Learning to pick your battles and preserve your energy</li></ul>

What We Can Do

Your thoughts are not you. They lie to us often. We must learn to let go of thoughts that are detrimental to us.Trauma left deep and open wounds that manifest in our thoughts and in other ways. But we are, above all, conscience and we can cultivate healthier thoughts, including negative self-talk. Don't be harsh to yourself. Treat yourself as a friend would.

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How Borderline Personality Disorder is an act of resisting and letting go and a few ways to cope.

So much of my daily life, as someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), is resisting and letting go. RESISTING Resisting the urge to message someone that wasn't good for me, resisting the urge to overreact, resisting the urge to engage in self-destructive behavior (even if it's cigarette smoking, chainsmoking is awful), resisting the urge to…

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