"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace."

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Understand yourself and those around you.

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33 Powerful Quotes That Just Might Change Your Life

The first mistake some introverts make in conversation is forcing themselves to be outgoing all the time. Doing this will drain your social battery fast, so instead learn to front-load your enthusiasm. This means using your social energy in the moments that matter most: entrances and introductions.<ul><li>This doesn't mean you need to go dancing into every room; you can do this by being a big hugger or even just a big smiler.</li><li>Bring energy and enthusiasm to those first few minutes of conversation and later you can transition to whatever energy level feels natural to you.</li></ul>

Front-load your enthusiasm

There's a trick you can use to get people to listen to you, without raising your voice: use hand signals to capture attention.
Hold your pointer finger up while pausing mid-sentence and you can really captivate people without needing to be loud.

Use a hand signal to capture attention

A super easy trick to make people enjoy talking to you even more and that's speaking through a smile.

Speak through a smile

If you're not the talkative type, you can still make people love being around you just by being a likable listener. One fantastic habit for making conversation more fun for yourself and for making people like you is to listen with the intention of laughing.Sometimes the thing that makes people like you most is not when you are funny but when you make them feel funny watchQuick warning: never fake a laugh. Doing this will backfire and make people immediately distrust you.

Listen with the intention of laughing

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If you’re an introvert, you may think that you’re destined to suffer socially.  But one of today's MOST popular celebrities is a self-proclaimed introvert.

Even more amazing, Zendaya captivates people without pretending to be extroverted, which can feel exhausting and fake.

So today, you’ll learn 4 easy tricks to be charming as an introvert, without changing your personality.
Our writing assistant and resident introvert Hadley will walk you through them.

 
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0:00 - Intro
0:23 - #1: Front load your enthusiasm
1:07 - #2: Use hand signals to capture attention
2:00 - #3: Speak through a smile
2:26 - #4: Listen with the intention of laughing


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4 Social Skills To Be Charming If You’re Quiet

4 Tricks To Be Charming As An Introvert

When Bo Seo moved as an eight-year-old from South Korea to Australia, he didn’t speak English. He quickly learned that the hardest part of crossing language lines was adjusting to real-life conversation, and the hardest conversations to adjust to were disagreements. That was where passions ran high, ordinary rhythms of speech broke down, and people started to interrupt.

Arguing For And Arguing About: To Argue Is Not To Fight

Bo Seo sensed that his differences from his peers, if exposed, could mark him as an outsider and let slip whatever foothold of belonging he had achieved in this new place. That made him resolve to be very agreeable, to smile, to nod, and to keep most of his thoughts to himself. What broke him out of that posture of conflict aversion was a promise from his fifth-grade teacher that in debate, when one person speaks, no one else does. To someone used to being spoken over and spun out of conversation, that sounded like a kind of salvation.

Debate Can Unleash Our Voice

An argument is not a random grab bag of thoughts or exclamations. It’s not a repetition of all the things you think about a particular subject. An argument is a tool for changing minds, and it has two basic burdens of proof. First, showing that its main claim is true, and second, that this claim is important.

An Argument’s Burdens Of Proof: Truth And Importance

Imagine arguing that we should stop eating meat because vegetarianism benefits the environment. For that argument to succeed, first you have to show that being vegetarian is, in fact, good for the environment. Otherwise you have no legs to stand on for the claim that healing the environment means no longer eating meat.

Proving Truth

Second, the true question at the core of this argument asks, why should we privilege the health of the environment over personal enjoyment? It’s often that second part that people neglect. It’s not enough to show that you have a point—you have to make it count for the other side. That involves asking why the truth of this argument should change your mind and behavior.

Proving Importance

When you start picking up the strategies and secrets of good debate, every objectionable thing people say seems like an opportunity to quarrel and make a point. To the one holding the hammer, everything seems like a nail. But we know that good conversations and relationships have agreement alongside disagreement. If one measure of cleverness is the ability to argue well and make a point, then wisdom rests in knowing when to argue and when to stop. Bo Seo got around this problem by developing the RISA Checklist.

Choose Your Battles

So, you face a disagreement. Is it:<ul><li>Real?</li><li>Important?</li><li>Specific? and</li><li>Aligned?</li></ul>Before entering into a disagreement, for example, ask yourself if this is a real disagreement as opposed to an imagined slight, or something like that. Second, is the disagreement important enough to justify arguing? Third, is the disagreement specific enough that you can make progress within the allotted time? And fourth, are the two sides aligned in their objectives for the dispute? For instance, is the other side just looking to hurt your feelings?

The RISA Disagreement Checlist

Meeting the RISA Checklist doesn’t guarantee that an argument will go well, but it suggests that there are conditions such that the argument could go well. By being deliberate and not jumping into disagreements out of pride or defensiveness, we can focus on disagreements that are most likely to be productive.

Argue Deliberately 

As a kid, Bo Seo used to hate being told to empathize with my classmates because He didn’t know what “empathy” meant. Some described it as a magical, mental connection that spontaneously arises when you look into the eyes of another person. Others described it as a virtue that the best of us possess and the rest of us can hope to find. In debate, he learned a different way of understanding empathy: empathy as a series of actions.

Debate, Magical Empathy And Practical Empathy

Much of debating is an exercise in certainty. You fully inhabit your perspective and come up with the best possible arguments for your side, recruiting the most persuasive evidence for your case. But in the last five minutes before the start of a round, the best debaters do something extraordinary. They turn to a new sheet of paper and come up with the four best arguments for the other side, or they look over their speech through the eyes of an opponent and try to find as many problems as they can. Those are known as “side-switch exercises.”

The “Side-Switch Exercises”

“Side-switch exercises” don’t help you achieve empathy, exactly, because there is no substitute for really hearing where the other side is coming from. But it does create wriggle room. It gives you the sense that there may be another way of viewing this issue. At a time when many of our disagreements feel like trench warfare, with each side frozen in their position, unable to fathom where the other side is coming from, Bo Seo thinks that wriggle room can help. It creates a space through which empathy might be able to arise.

The “Wriggle Room”

The opposite of bad disagreement is good disagreement. For most of history, entire groups of people were barred from speaking by virtue of their station in life. Multitudes lacked any platform or capacity to be heard. What we’re doing today—embracing diversity in our communities, giving people platforms to raise their voices in the public square, and trying to manage our arguments—all feels unprecedented. Bo Seo sees the project of good arguments as utopian writing towards the future, the full outlines of which we cannot yet see at present.

The Opposite Of Bad Disagreement Is Not Agreement

“Debate” comes from the Old French word “debatre” (“to fight or contend,”), which in turn comes from the Latin “dis-“ (expressing reversal) + “battere” (to fight).We must regain confidence and faith in what good arguments can be, realizing that disagreement can be the basis of richer conversations, intimate connections, and more searching inquiries than mere agreement can ever hope to achieve. We must see argument as a skill, as an art form, as labor—not something we simply stumble into.

Debates And Arguments Are Types Of Discussions, Not Of Fights

The debate world acts as a symbol for what a community built around—not despite—disagreement can be, and harbors knowledge that we can apply in our day-to-day lives to start realizing that future. A future based not around agreeableness, but on good disagreement, which accounts for the richness of our differences and allows us to talk about them.

Build Upon Good Disagreement, Not Upon Agreeableness

“Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” - Rumi

World champion debater Bo Seo shares 5 key insights from his new book, Good Arguments: How Debate Teaches Us to Listen and Be Heard.

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Good Arguments: How Debate Teaches Us to Listen and Be Heard

The reason why this happens is that you are afraid to put yourself out there. You’re afraid someone will criticize your work, or worse, mock it. And that makes sense — who wants to endure that?I certainly don’t. But here’s what I do want: I want to live a life full of joy and fulfillment by doing what I’m called to do.Creative people are constantly told to be more creative, but they never get taught how.Here are three fears that will destroy your creativity if you don’t deal with them immediately.

The fear of failure is the most common creative killer

Criticism is something that all of us have to deal with on a regular basis.But, if you’re struggling with things like writer’s block, self-doubt, or lack of motivation, fear of criticism might be the reason why.Creative people are some of the most sensitive folks around — which makes sense because their brains are constantly sending them creative ideas and new ways to approach challenges.It can be difficult for some creatives to push past all the criticism they receive while creating new work. But without pushing through our fears, we will never get anywhere in life.

Fear Of Criticism 

People are afraid of trying something new. They are uncomfortable with uncertainty and don’t want to put themselves out there.It’s important to realize that you will not know if something is going to work unless you try it first.You can’t predict the future, so why not give yourself a chance at success by giving it a shot? It’s okay if something doesn’t work out right away — as long as you tried your best, no one can take that away from you.Not trying anything new at all will lead to the same result… failure! So why not try something new today?

Fear Of Trying Something New

Many people today are crippled by a fear of imperfection. They don’t put themselves out there, because they’re afraid to look foolish or make mistakes.But if you want to succeed in both work and life, you have to overcome those fears.People fear imperfection because they think it will lead to failure. Imperfection is actually a requirement for success. When people don’t try to do something perfectly, they end up producing better results.

Fear Of Imperfection

The reason why this happens is that you are afraid to put yourself out there. You’re afraid someone will criticize your work, or worse, mock it. And that makes sense — who wants to endure that? I…

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3 Fears That Destroy Your Creativity

Law 1: Never outshine the master.Law 2: Don't overtrust your friends. Use your enemies.Law 3: Mask your intentions.Law 4: Always say less than necessary.Law 5: Protect your reputation at all costs, since your reputation shapes others’ expectations.Law 6: Be conspicuous & stand out. Bad publicity is still publicity.Law 7: Get others to do the work and take the credit. Save your time/energy while building your base.Law 8: Make people come to you, so you hold all the cards.Law 9: Win through actions, not argument. Prove your point without offending people.Law 10: Don’t get infected by misery.

The 48 Laws Of Power

Law 11: Make yourself indispensable, so it’s harder to cut you off.Law 12: Disarm people with strategic honesty & generosity–use these as tools to win people over.Law 13: Get help by appealing to self-interest, not goodness.Law 14: Be a spy. Gather intelligence to know your opponents.Law 15: Crush your enemy totally. Don’t give them a chance to recover.Law 16: Raise your value through absence and scarcity. Don’t let people take you for granted.Law 17: Keep others in suspense by being unpredictable. Keep them second-guessing.

Law 18: Don’t isolate yourself behind a fortress. Have eyes and ears everywhere.Law 19: Know your opponents and who you’re dealing with.Law 20: Stay neutral as long as possible to maintain your independence (vs committing to 1 side).Law 21: Make your victims feel smarter than you, so they drop their guard.Law 22: Use surrender as a tool. Bide your time for retaliation.Law 23: Concentrate your forces. Don’t spread them too thin.Law 24: Be a masterful courtier to balance the various players and power brokers.Law 25: Create your own identity and use it like a costume.

Law 26: Don’t dirty your hands. Get others to do your dirty work.Law 27: Create a cult-like following. Play on what people want to see/hear.Law 28: Act boldly, so you seem confident.Law 29: Plan till the end, so you won’t be caught by surprise.Law 30: Make your achievements seem effortless. Don’t show your real success secrets.Law 31: Control the options but let people think they’re in control.Law 32: Play to people’s fantasies so they keep following you.Law 33: Find your opponent’s fatal weakness to break their defences.

Law 34: Act in the way you want to be treated. Be regal and authoritative.Law 35: Master the art of timing. Strike only at the right hour.Law 36: Feign disinterest and ignore what you can’t have.Law 37: Dazzle people with spectacles so they don’t see what you’re really doing.Law 38: Hide your unorthodox thinking. Pretend to blend in.Law 39: Stir up waters to catch the fish. Make your opponents reckless while you stay calm.Law 40: Beware the free lunch. There’re always strings attached.Law 41: Chart a new course rather than try a big man’s shoes.

Law 42: Strike the shepherd to scatter the sheep. Isolate the leader.Law 43: Win both hearts and minds. Appeal to both feelings and logic.Law 44: Unbalance and confuse with the mirror effect (mask reality with illusion).Law 45: Introduce change gradually. Drastic reforms bring resistance.Law 46: Don’t seem too perfect or you’ll invite jealousy.Law 47: Don’t push too far in victory. Know when to stop.Law 48: Be formless and unpredictable.

<ul><li>Learning the game of power requires a certain way of looking at the world, a shifting of perspective.</li><li>The most important of these skills is the ability to master your emotions.</li><li>Anger is the most destructive of emotional responses, for it clouds your vision the most.</li><li><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deception">Deception</a> is a developed art of civilization and the most potent weapon in the game of power.</li><li>Never discriminate as to whom you study and whom you trust.</li></ul>

Day 1:

“Fools say that they learn by experience. I prefer to profit by other's experience.”

<ul><li>Always make those above you feel comfortably superior.</li><li>Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.</li><li>Masters do not care about science or empirical truth or the latest invention ; they care about their name and their glory.</li><li>Never trust anyone completely and study everyone, including friends and loved ones.</li></ul>

Day 2:

<ul><li>In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies.</li><li>While a friend expects more and more favors, and seethes with jealousy, these former enemies expected nothing and got everything.</li><li>A Chinese proverb compares friends to the jaws and teeth of a dangerous animal: If you are not careful, you will find them chewing you up.</li></ul>

Day 3:

Pick up a bee from kindness, and learn the limitations of kindness.

<ul><li>Keep friends for friendship, but work with the skilled and competent.</li><li>As Lincoln said, you destroy an enemy when you make a friend of him.</li><li>Without enemies around us, we grow lazy.</li><li>Nothing is stable in the realm of power, and even the closest of friends can be transformed into the worst of enemies.</li><li>Never let the presence of enemies upset or distress you—you are far better off with a declared opponent or two than not knowing where your real enemies lie.</li></ul>

Day 4:

<ul><li>Without a worthy opponent, a man or group cannot grow stronger.</li></ul><ol><li> Be certain that in the long run you will emerge victorious. Never pick a fight with someone you are not sure you can defeat.</li><li> If you have no apparent enemies, you must sometimes set up a convenient target, even turning a friend into an enemy.</li><li>Use such enemies to define your cause more clearly to the public, even framing it as a struggle of good against evil.</li></ol>

Day 5:

You must learn to grab a sword not by its blade, which would cut you, but by the handle, which allows you to defend yourself. The wise man profits more from his enemies, than a fool from his friends.

<ul><li>Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions.</li><li>If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense.</li><li>Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelop them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.</li></ul>

Day 6:

<ul><li>You will kill three birds with one stone: You appear friendly, open, and trusting; you conceal your intentions; and you send your rivals on time-consuming wild-goose chases.</li><li>The best deceptions require a screen of smoke to distract people attention from your real purpose.</li><li>Hide your intentions behind the comfortable and familiar.</li></ul>

Day 7:

<ul><li>Psychology of anticipation: Our behavior conforms to patterns, or so we like to think.</li><li>When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control.</li><li>A Person who cannot control his words shows that he cannot control himself.</li><li>The human tongue is a beast that few can master.</li></ul>

Day 8: 

“Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.”

<ul><li>Your silence will make other people uncomfortable. Humans are machines of interpretation and explanation; they have to know what you are thinking. When you carefully control what you reveal, they cannot pierce your intentions or your meaning.</li><li>Once the words are out, you cannot take them back.</li></ul>

Day 9:

Undutiful words of a subject do often take deeper root than the memory of ill deeds.... The late Earl of Essex told Queen Elizabeth that her conditions were as crooked as her carcass; but it cost him his head, which his insurrection had not cost him but for that speech.

In the beginning, you must work to establish a reputation for one outstanding quality, whether generosity or honesty or cunning. This quality sets you apart and gets other people to talk about you. You then make your reputation known to as many people as possible (subtly, though; take care to build slowly, and with a firm foundation), and watch as it spreads like wildfire.

Day 10:

<ul><li>Learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.</li><li>Solid reputation increases your presence and exaggerates your strengths without your having to spend much energy.</li><li>Once it is solid, do not let yourself get angry or defensive at the slanderous comments of your enemies—that reveals insecurity, not confidence in your reputation.</li></ul>

Day 11:

<ul><li>You have to learn to attract attention.</li><li>At the start of your career, you must attach your name and reputation to a quality, an image, that sets you apart from other people.</li><li>This image can be something like a characteristic style of dress, or a personality quirk that amuses people and gets talked about.</li></ul>

Day 12:

<ul><li>Society craves larger-than-life figures, people who stand above the general mediocrity.</li><li>If you find yourself in a lowly position that offers little opportunity for you to draw attention, an effective trick is to attack the most visible, most famous, most powerful person you can find.</li><li>In a world growing increasingly banal and familiar, what seems <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enigmatic">enigmatic</a> instantly draws attention.</li></ul>

Day 13:

<ul><li>Once in the limelight you must constantly renew it by adapting and varying your method of courting attention. If you don’t, the public will grow tired, will take you for granted, and will move on to a newer star. The game requires constant vigilance and creativity.</li><li>Never make it too clear what you are doing or about to do.</li></ul>

Day 14:

<ul><li>An air of mystery heightens your presence; it also creates anticipation—everyone will be watching you to see what happens next.</li><li>People are enthralled by mystery; because it invites constant interpretation, they never tire of it.</li><li>Power of the mysterious: It invites layers of interpretation, excites our imagination, seduces us into believing that it conceals something marvelous.</li></ul>

Day 15:

<ul><li>An air of mystery can make the mediocre appear intelligent and profound.</li><li>By simply holding back, keeping silent, occasionally uttering ambiguous phrases, deliberately appearing inconsistent, and acting odd in the subtlest of ways, you will emanate an aura of mystery. The people around you will then magnify that aura by constantly trying to interpret you. </li></ul>

Day 16:

<ul><li>Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause.</li><li>Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered.</li><li>Never do yourself what others can do for you.</li></ul>

Day 17: 

<ul><li>If you try to do it all on your own, you run yourself ragged, waste energy, and burn yourself out. It is far better to conserve your forces, pounce on the work others have done, and find a way to make it your own.</li><li>You must secure the credit for yourself and keep others from stealing it away, or from piggy-backing on your hard work.</li></ul>

Day 18:

<ul><li>Find people with the skills and creativity you lack. Either hire them, while putting your own name on top of theirs, or find a way to take their work and make it your own.</li><li>Their creativity thus becomes yours, and you seem a genius to the world.</li><li>Learn to use the knowledge of the past and you will look like a genius, even when you are really just a clever borrower.</li></ul>

Day 19:

I had no need to be a mathematician because I could always hire one.

The Vulture. Of all the creatures in the jungle, he has it the easiest. The hard work of others becomes his work; their failure to survive becomes his nourishment. Keep an eye on the Vulture—while you are hard at work, he is circling above. Do not fight him, join him.

Day 20:

Life is short, and life is not life without knowledge. It is therefore an excellent device to acquire knowledge from everybody.

<ul><li>The most effective action is to stay back, keep calm, and let others be frustrated by the traps you lay for them, playing for long-term power rather than quick victory.</li><li>Everything depends on the sweetness of your bait. If your trap is attractive enough, the turbulence of your enemies’ emotions and desires will blind them to reality. The greedier they become, the more they can be led around.</li></ul>

Day 21:

When I have laid bait for deer, I don’t shoot at the first doe that comes to sniff, but wait until the whole herd has gathered round.

<ul><li>Good warriors make others come to them, and do not go to others. This is the principle of emptiness and fullness of others and self.</li><li>Learn to demonstrate the correctness of your ideas indirectly.</li><li>When caught in a lie, the more emotional and certain you appear, the less likely it seems that you are lying.</li></ul>

Day 22:

“The truth is generally seen, rarely heard.”

<ul><li>Do not consort with fools, especially those who consider themselves wise.</li><li>Never associate with those who share your defects—they will reinforce everything that holds you back.</li><li>Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.</li><li>Make others dependent on you.</li></ul>

Day 23:

Only create associations with positive affinities. Make this a rule of life and you will benefit more than from all the therapy in the world.

<ul><li>An act of kindness, generosity, or honesty is often the most powerful form of distraction because it disarms other people’s suspicions. It turns them into children, eagerly lapping up any kind of affectionate gesture.</li><li>Honesty is one of the best ways to disarm the wary,</li><li>A gift brings out the child in us, instantly lowering our defenses.</li></ul>

Day 24:

It is better to be feared than loved. Fear you can control; love, never.

<ul><li>Self-interest is the lever that will move people.</li><li>You must train yourself to think your way inside the other person’s mind, to see their needs and interests, to get rid of the screen of your own feelings that obscure the truth.</li><li>Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions.</li></ul>

Day 25:

<ul><li>Make others talk endlessly about themselves and inadvertently reveal their intentions and plans.</li><li>If you have reason to suspect that a person is telling you a lie, look as though you believed every word he said. This will give him courage to go on; he will become more vehement in his assertions, and in the end betray himself.</li></ul>

Day 26:

<ul><li>While spying gives you a third eye, disinformation puts out one of your enemy’s eyes.</li><li>Create value through scarcity.</li><li>Law of scarcity in the science of economics: By withdrawing something from the market, you create instant value.</li><li>Make yourself less accessible and you increase the value of your presence.</li></ul>

Day 27:

A Viper crushed beneath your foot but left alive, will rear up and bite you with a double dose of venom. An enemy that is left around is like a half-dead viper that you nurse back to health. Time makes the venom grow stronger.

Day 28:

Everything in the world depends on absence and presence. A strong presence will draw power and attention to you—you shine more brightly than those around you. But a point is inevitably reached where too much presence creates the opposite effect: The more you are seen and heard from, the more your value degrades.

Day 29: 

<ul><li>Learn to keep yourself obscure and make people demand your return. Make what you are offering the world rare and hard to find, and you instantly increase its value.</li><li>Be deliberately unpredictable.</li><li>When people cannot figure out what you are doing, they are kept in a state of terror—waiting, uncertain, confused.</li><li>The weak benefit by the quarrels of the mighty.</li></ul>

Day 30: 

<ul><li>You sometimes need to strike without warning, to make others tremble when they least expect it.</li><li>Always mystify, mislead, and surprise the enemy, if possible.</li><li>Humans are social creatures by nature, power depends on social interaction and circulation.</li><li>Desire is like a virus: If we see that someone is desired by other people, we tend to find this person desirable too.</li></ul>

Day 31:

When you meet a swordsman, draw your sword: Do not recite poetry to one who is not a poet.

<ul><li>First, in judging and measuring your opponent, never rely on your instincts. Nothing can substitute for gathering concrete knowledge.</li><li>Second, never trust appearances. Never trust the version that people give of themselves—it is utterly unreliable.</li><li>Do not commit yourself to anybody or anything, for that is to be a slave, a slave to every man....</li></ul>

Day 32:

When you want to court a woman, court her sister first. Stay aloof and people will come to you.

<ul><li>Maintaining your independence and self-reliance will gain you more respect.</li><li>Make your victims feel smart—and not just smart, but smarter than you are.</li><li>Beware of dissipating your powers: strive constantly to concentrate them.</li><li>By expressing modest admiration for other people’s achievements, you paradoxically call attention to your own.</li></ul>

Day 33:

keep yourself free of commitments and obligations—they are the device of another to get you into his power

<ul><li>The world is plagued by greater and greater division—within countries, political groups, families, even individuals. We are all in a state of total distraction and diffusion, hardly able to keep our minds in one direction before we are pulled in a thousand others.</li><li>Single-mindedness of purpose, total concentration on the goal, and the use of these qualities against people less focused, people in a state of distraction—such an arrow will find its mark every time and overwhelm the enemy.</li></ul>

Day 34:

<ul><li>Do not overstep your bounds. Do what you are assigned to do, to the best of your abilities, and never do more. To think that by doing more you are doing better is a common blunder.</li><li>Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you.</li></ul>

Day 35:

<ul><li>You must be constantly aware of your audience—of what will please them and what will bore them.</li><li>Learn to play many roles, to be whatever the moment requires.</li><li>Our good name and reputation depend more on what we conceal than on what we reveal.</li><li>All men make mistakes, but the wise conceal the blunders they have made, while fools make them public.</li></ul>

Day 36:

<ul><li>Cat’s Paw. In the fable, the Monkey grabs the paw of his friend, the Cat, and uses it to fish chestnuts out of the fire, thus getting the nuts he craves, without hurting himself.</li><li>Truly powerful people keep their hands clean. Only good things surround them, and the only announcements they make are of glorious achievements.</li><li>Do everything pleasant yourself, everything unpleasant through third parties.</li></ul>

Day 37:

One should not be too straightforward. Go and see the forest. The straight trees are cut down, the crooked ones are left standing.

<ul><li>If you have power and are secure in it, you should sometimes play the penitent: With a sorrowful look, you ask for forgiveness from those weaker than you.</li><li>Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise ; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking.</li></ul>

Day 38:

HOW TO CREATE A CULT IN FIVE EASY STEPSStep 1: Keep It Vague; Keep It Simple.Step 2: Emphasize the Visual and the Sensual over the Intellectual.Step 3: Borrow the Forms of Organized Religion to Structure the Group.Step 4: Disguise Your Source of Income.Step 5: Set Up an Us- Vs -Them Dynamic.

Day 39:

<ul><li>Your initial speeches, conversations, and interviews must include two elements: on the one hand the promise of something great and transformative, and on the other a total vagueness.</li><li>Find the belief, cause, or fantasy that will make them believe with a passion and they will imagine the rest, worshipping you as healer, prophet, genius, whatever you like.</li></ul>

Day 40:

<ul><li>If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution.</li><li>Better to enter with boldness.</li><li>The path of pleasure never leads to glory!</li><li>The sudden bold move, without discussion or warning, obliterates these toeholds, and builds your authority.</li><li>Voice what the public feels—the expression of shared feelings is always powerful.</li></ul>

Day 41:

When you are as small and obscure as David was, you must find a Goliath to attack. The larger the target, the more attention you gain. The bolder the attack, the more you stand out from the crowd, and the more admiration you earn. Society is full of those who think daring thoughts but lack the guts to print and publicize them. The world will enjoy the spectacle, and will honor the underdog—you, that is—with glory and power.

Day 42:

<ul><li>The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others.</li><li>Never begin anything until you have reflected what will be the end of it.</li><li>Plan in detail before you act—do not let vague plans lead you into trouble.</li></ul>

Day 43:

He who asks fortune-tellers the future unwittingly forfeits an inner intimation of coming events that is a thousand times more exact than anything they may say.

<ul><li>Your conclusion must be crystal clear, and you must keep it constantly in mind. You must also figure out how to ward off the vultures circling overhead, trying to live off the carcass of your creation.</li><li>Once you have examined the future possibilities and decided on your target, you must build in alternatives and be open to new routes toward your goal.</li></ul>

Day 44:

<ul><li>When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more.</li><li>Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.</li><li>As a person of power, you must research and practice endlessly before appearing in public, onstage or anywhere else.</li><li>Avoid the temptation of showing how clever you are—it is far more clever to conceal the mechanisms of your cleverness.</li></ul>

Day 45:

<ul><li>For power depends vitally on appearances and the illusions you create. Your public actions are like artworks: They must have visual appeal, must create anticipation, even entertain.</li><li>There is another reason for concealing your shortcuts and tricks: When you let this information out, you give people ideas they can use against you.</li><li>The more mystery surrounds your actions, the more awesome your power seems.</li></ul>

Day 46:

<ul><li>The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose.</li><li>Finally, because you achieve your accomplishments with grace and ease, people believe that you could always do more if you tried harder. This elicits not only admiration but a touch of fear.</li></ul>

Day 47:

<ul><li>The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose.</li><li>There is a saying: If you can get the bird to walk into the cage on its own, it will sing that much more prettily.</li><li>The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant.</li></ul>

Day 48:

<ul><li>To gain power, you must be a source of pleasure for those around you—and pleasure comes from playing to people’s fantasies. Never promise a gradual improvement through hard work; rather, promise the moon, the great and sudden transformation, the pot of gold.</li><li>The person who can spin a fantasy out of an oppressive reality has access to untold power.</li></ul>

Day 49:

<ul><li>Never be distracted by people’s glamorous portraits of themselves and their lives; search and dig for what really imprisons them.</li><li>Promise a great and total change—from poor to rich, sickness to health, misery to ecstasy—and you will have followers.</li><li>Another form of the fantasy of the exotic is simply the hope for relief from boredom.</li><li>Never be too direct in describing the fantasy—keep it vague.</li></ul>

Day 50:

<ul><li>The Moon. Unattainable, always changing shape, disappearing and reappearing. We look at it, imagine, wonder, and pine—never familiar, continuous provoker of dreams. Do not offer the obvious. Promise the moon.</li><li>You should play with such a fantasy, you too must carefully cultivate distance and not allow your “common” personal to become too familiar or it will not project as fantasy.</li></ul>

Day 51:

<ul><li>People’s need for validation and recognition, their need to feel important, is the best kind of weakness to exploit.</li><li>All you have to do is find ways to make people feel better about their taste, their social standing, their intelligence. Once the fish are hooked, you can reel them in again and again, for years—you are filling a positive role, giving them what they cannot get on their own.</li></ul>

Day 52:

Amoral, cunning, ruthless, and instructive, this multi-million-copy New York Times bestseller is the definitive manual for anyone interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control – from the author of The Laws of Human Nature. In the book that People magazine proclaimed “beguiling” and “fascinating,” Robert Greene and Joost Elffers have distilled three thousand years of the history of power into 48 essential laws by drawing from the philosophies of Machiavelli, Sun Tzu, and Carl Von Clausewitz and also from the lives of figures ranging from Henry Kissinger to P.T. Barnum. Some laws teach the need for prudence (“Law 1: Never Outshine the Master”), others teach the value of confidence (“Law 28: Enter Action with Boldness”), and many recommend absolute self-preservation (“Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally”). Every law, though, has one thing in common: an interest in total domination. In a bold and arresting two-color package, The 48 Laws of Power is ideal whether your aim is conquest, self-defense, or simply to understand the rules of the game.

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