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How to ask for help without making it weird
One of the most common misconceptions about giving is that, if you are doing it right, it's entirely about the other person. That giving is not supposed to be about you. But this is nonsense. The choice to help another person is often, if not always, at least in part about how you see yourself and how helping will make you feel.
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