People think they need someone to feel happy or satisfied but the reality is..they only need themselves. Someone can’t make you happy or sad because they don’t know what type of expectation you have from them.. that’s why we need to find happiness in our selves.

You Are Enough 

For finding that happiness you have to spend time with your self. Most people don’t make time for themselves or are afraid to face their own selves because they know that they are not good at this they can’t lose expectations from their friends or family. But “Every master was once a beginner “Decision is the first step you have to make and you are Half way there..!you have to take your emotional control from others actions.

Decision Is Hardest Part

“For finding your inner hero(happiness) First You have to fight with your inner demon(loneliness)”

Often we feel lonely when we are alone thats why finding your self is important..

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Why everyone looks for Friend?

You don’t marry someone you can live with — you marry someone you cannot live without.

It’s always better when we’re together.

If you find someone you love in your life, then hang on to that love.

In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love you want the other person.

When I look into your eyes, I know I have found the mirror of my soul.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Given that it shares the same root word as “alone,” it’s easy to assume loneliness is just the absence of contact with other people.As Cacioppo explains in his book (Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection by John T. Cacioppo and William Patrick). loneliness is not merely a lack of human contact, but rather a lack of meaningful connection with other humans. It isn’t about the quantity of relationships, but rather the quality. This is why it’s possible to feel lonely even when you’re in a romantic relationship or have a large group of acquaintances.

What Is Loneliness?

To start, when we talk about the “pain” of loneliness, that’s more than just a metaphor. Using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), scientists have observed that the experience of social rejection activates the same region of the brain that “registers emotional responses to physical pain” . Being socially isolated might not be as imminently dangerous as a cut or burn, but the consequences can be just as serious over the long term.

The Pain of Loneliness

1. Don’t Blame Your Social SkillsWhen you’re feeling lonely, it’s easy to blame it on your lack of social skills. In general, though, a lack of social skills isn’t the issue. Rather, it’s that “feeling lonely makes us less likely to employ the skills we have” . accordingly to the book, loneliness is something that can happen to any of us. It doesn’t mean there’s anything weird or disordered about you – it’s an experience common to all humans. What matters, rather, is how you respond to loneliness, whether or not you use it as a catalyst to improve the depth of your connection with others.

6 things to do to be less lonely

Simply telling people to “connect more with others” isn’t very helpful on its own. This is especially true because each person’s genes are different.Therefore, don’t assume that you need to be super outgoing and have lots of social interactions to feel socially satisfied. You might well thrive with a small group of close friends whom you see once a week. On the other hand, your genes might predispose you to need more frequent social connection, and that’s fine too.

2. Assess How Much Connection You Need

<ol><li>Intimate connectedness: This is connection “up close and personal,” typically with a significant other.</li><li>Relational connectedness : This is the broader (but still close) connection you have with friends and family.</li><li>Collective connectedness –This type of connection describes belonging to a club, professional organization, or even an entire nation.</li></ol>In general, we need a healthy mix of the above types. However, note that this isn’t universally true. What matters, again, is that the types and level of social connection you have match your genetic preferences.

3. Recognize the 3 Different Types of Social Connection

Once you’ve resolved to become more connected with others, Cacioppo recommends finding opportunities “to get small doses of the positive sensations that come from positive social interactions”.Each positive interaction you have gives you further evidence that you can connect with others. This can then help you develop the confidence you need for deeper, more vulnerable forms of connection later on.One of the lowest-risk ways to get started is through volunteering , positive social interactions that can boost your confidence.

4. Extend Yourself (Slowly and Carefully)

When you start reaching out to people not every interaction will be a success. maybe its a small talk Or the passerby you smile at on the street may stare at the ground and keep moving. Interactions that turn out this way don’t mean you’re a failure, or that no one wants to talk to you. As Cacioppo says, “A million and one factors that have absolutely nothing to do with you can influence people’s moods and reactions” .So don’t use a couple of bad reactions as evidence that you can’t connect with people. Just move on and keep trying.

5. Have No Expectations

Throughout Loneliness , Cacioppo stresses that loneliness is not a mental disorder . At the same time, however, chronic loneliness can put you at risk for depression , and social anxiety can make it harder to connect with people in the first place.Therefore, I encourage you to seek the services of a mental health professional if you’re struggling with loneliness.Remember that whatever you’re struggling with, loneliness or otherwise, you don’t have to do it alone.

6. Seek Professional Help

What causes loneliness, and what can we do about it? This article examines the underlying science to answer both of these questions.

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How to Be Less Lonely: 6 Science-Backed Techniques to Try

L ike many old people desperate to stay relevant, I made a Millennial friend. Only I hit the Millennial jackpot, which is the kind of jackpot that, instead of money, spits out excuses for why it doesn’t make enough money. So when Igor Hiller — who was <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BfW-AjUh-w3/">an Instagram comedy star </a>, acted in the show Dear White People , <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-are-you-thinking-about-with-igor/id1114440532">started a podcast </a>, and is now a life coach — told me early this year that we needed to join Clubhouse right away so we could monetize our influence there, I did it.

Exclusive Club(house

We were the lucky early adopters, joining right after the live, audio-only social media app was seeded to the music and tech industries. Other people were paying up to $77 for the free invites we got. It was so elite that, in a demographically genius move the Soho House would envy, Clubhouse was only available on the iPhone.

Sorry, Androids

We’d have access to hundreds of simultaneous rooms of live chat, each a cross between a TED talk and a call-in radio show. Elon Musk, Oprah Winfrey, Tiffany Haddish, Mark Cuban, Mark Zuckerberg, Drake, and Jack Dorsey were hosting rooms, talking to randos. We, Igor said, could be the Clubhouse randos who become the Clubhouse somebodies. Millennials don’t merely fantasize about becoming famous. They fantasize about becoming famous on a medium that then becomes famous.

Reaching for the Stars

By April, Twitter entered talks to buy Clubhouse for $4 billion, which is more than the value of Air France, Six Flags, Sunoco, Shake Shack, or Fannie Mae. It turned Twitter down, instead raising a round of funding that also valued it at $4 billion. Clubhouse is now a sad, empty MySpace shell of social media. It’s sixtieth in the App Store’s “social networking” category, right behind Chispa, Skout, and Hit on Me!, which is an app that describes itself as a “video platform for people who look for new friends especially hot singles and get more followers” and I’m guessing is “for prostitutes.”

Sad Empty Shell

To find out how this happened, Igor and I hosted a Clubhouse room titled “What Happened to Clubhouse?” Did the app’s functionality not keep up? Did it get infested with political arguments? Did Clubhouse say something racist and get canceled? Only three people showed up to our “What Happened to Clubhouse?” room. One was my lovely wife Cassandra, and one left as soon as we asked him a question. But Mark Simmons stayed with us the whole hour, even though he was very busy driving to a one-year-old’s birthday party.

Public Opinion

He’d only been on Clubhouse a few times and was disappointed with the level of conversation. We added to that disappointment. Within minutes, instead of talking about Clubhouse, Igor was explaining crypto and I was talking about my new Tesla. There was some magnet in Clubhouse drawing us toward douchedom. After our room ended, I scrolled through the other rooms again. None of them interested me, and none were hosted by anyone I’d heard of.

The Draw Of Douchedom

Until then, I’d assumed Clubhouse withered because it was the Tiger King of apps, a pandemic lockdown fad for the bored and isolated. But the bored and isolated didn’t bail on TikTok. Clubhouse died because populism has its limits. If you’re going to fight the time-shifting culture and try to congregate a live audience, you need to limit your community. The currency isn’t content. It’s status. Only they were worse than financial hucksters. They were status hucksters.

Social Climbing

What happened to Clubhouse is what’s happening to all our institutions. When you remove the barriers for entry politics, business, and media, you get less a culture than a nightclub scene, where the Drakes and Mark Cubans sprint from hot new location to hot new location, trying to outrun the cryptopunk brokers. they bump into each other and collaborate on projects. When the trusted and untrustworthy mix, you reach a point where you avoid all institutions because you can’t trust anyone. Especially not a guy who hosts a Clubhouse room called ‘What Happened to Clubhouse?’ and talks about his car.

Bye, Felicia 👋

Like many old people desperate to stay relevant, I made a Millennial friend. Only I hit the Millennial jackpot, which is the kind of jackpot that, instead of money, spits out excuses for why it…

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Communication is essential to all relationships, but a lack of effective communication could leave you unsure of where you stand. Here’s what to do next.Learning to communicate clearly and consistently with others is an essential tool for developing healthy relationships.

Side Effects Of Poor Communication Skills

A lack of strong communication skills or difficulty clearly stating needs and expectations aren’t automatic red flags in your partner. But it can be very frustrating if you’re trying to interact with someone who doesn’t communicate well

What does ‘lack of communication’ mean?

<ul><li>passive listening instead of active listening</li><li>shutting down</li><li>letting things bottle up inside until you explode in anger or sadness</li><li>yelling or screaming</li><li>becoming physically or verbally abusive</li><li>dismissing other people’s points of view</li><li>demonstrating passive-aggressive behavior</li><li>not being clear about expectations, needs, or wants</li><li>giving the silent treatment</li><li>interrupting</li></ul>

Signs of poor communication

Poor or insufficient communication doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker, as long as both people are committed to learning and practicing better communication skills. It’s a two-way street, and repairing communication works best when all people involved share the responsibility of making it work. By practicing, giving feedback, and seeking out help, anyone’s communication skills can improve.

Is lack of communication a dealbreaker?

Use ‘I’ statementsUsing “I” statements helps you put your feelings into words and explain how you’re specifically affected by another person’s behavior. Because you’re intentionally focusing on yourself, you aren’t attributing negative actions or placing blame on the other person.

How to improve communication

In any relationship, setting clear personal boundaries is very important so that there’s no misunderstanding about when those lines are crossed or what topics are off-limits.If boundaries aren’t clearly communicated, people may be unaware that they’ve gone too far.Here’s an example “Mom, I don’t like it when you shout at me over the phone. I’m not OK with shouting, and I don’t want to have our future conversations include shouting.”This person is clearly communicating a boundary — that they’re not OK with yelling and stating their expectations for future conversations.

Set clear boundaries

There are certain times, especially during a heated discussion, that it might be necessary to take a break so that you can calm down, collect your thoughts, and return to the discussion with a clearer mindset. Even a brief pause can help prevent a further communication breakdown.

Take a timeout if necessary

If you’re only “listening” just to share your perspective, or if you find yourself tuning out, chances are that you aren’t practicing active listening.

A lack of communication in relationships doesn't have to be a dealbreaker. Learn how to improve your communication skills at work and at home.

Lack of Communication: How It Affects Us and Ways to Improve It

What is meditation? Meditation is the power which enables us to resist all this[slavery to nature]... [One] should be able to say to his mind, "You are mine; I order you, do not see or hear anything", and the mind will not see or hear anything -- no form or sound will react on the mind... Next, the mind must be made to quiet down. It is rushing about. Just as I sit down to meditate, all the vilest subjects in the world come up... Why should the mind think thoughts I do not want it to think? I am, as it were a slave to the mind... Meditation is the power which enables us to resist all this.

Mind

How is it (meditation) to be attained? In a dozen different ways. Each temperament has its own way. But this is the general principle: get hold of the mind. The mind is like a lake, and every stone that drops into it raises waves. These waves do not let us see what we are... Let it be calm. Do not let nature raise the wave. Keep quiet, and then after a little while she will give you up. Then we know what we are.

Lake

Meditation is the focusing of the mind on some object. If the mind acquires concentration on one object, it can be so concentrated on any object whatsoever... the practice of meditation even with some trifling external object leads to mental concentration. But it is true that the mind very easily attains calmness when one practice meditation with anything on which one's mind is most apt to settle down.

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Imagination is the door to inspiration and the basis of all thought. All prophets, poets, and discoverers have had great imaginative power... The three great requisites are:First. Purity, physical and mental; all uncleanness, all that would draw the mind down, must be abandoned.Second. Patience: ... the gain is sure if you have patience.Third. Perseverance: Persevere through think and thin, through health and sickness, never miss a day in practice... (continued next)

Imagine

(continued from last idea)After bathing, sit down and hold the seat firm as a rock, that nothing can move you. Hold the head and shoulders and the hips in a straight line, keeping the spinal column free; all action is along it, and it must not be impaired... then think of the whole as perfect, an instrument given to you by god to enable you to attain Truth... take a long breath through both nostrils, throw it out again, and then hold it out as long as you comfortably can. Take four such breaths, then breathe naturally and pray for illumination.

We have to seize this unstable mind and drag it from its wanderings and fix it on one idea. Over and over again this must be done.

Again

The easiest way to get hold of the mind is to sit quiet and let it drift where it will for a while. Hold fast to the idea, 'I am the witness watching my mind drifting. The mind is not I.' Then see it, think as if it were a thing entirely apart from yourself.

Take some holy person, some great person whom you revere, some saint whom you know to be perfectly non-attached, and think of his heart, that heart has become non-attached, and meditate on that heart; it will calm the mind.

Think of a space in your heart, and in the midst of that space think that a flame is burning. Think of that flame as your own soul and inside the flame is another effulgent light, and that is the Soul of your soul, God. Meditate upon that in the heart.

Flame and heart

*Fun fact*My name Anirban means the eternal flame, a flame that cannot be extinguished.

Meditation is still an ideal to me, which I strive for every day. I have learnt a little, I hope to continue learning from the practice.

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The idea of Meditation by Vivekananda

It is my ambition to say in ten sentences what others say in a whole book.

Friedrich Nietzsche — ‘It is my ambition to say in ten sentences what others say in a whole book.’

“It is my ambition to say in ten sentences what ...”

Sociologist Emile Durkheim coined the phrase anomie to describe a destabilized and destabilizing state when rules and rule givers lose legitimacy. It’s what we feel when we face a virus that plays by one set of rules, politicians who play by another, and a professional life that proceeds independent of each — and when we face all of this in social isolation. Empathy can help us navigate this period of anomie. Here are four Empathy Rules that can help us cut across the divisions in our lives and build a sense of community.

Empathy Rules: The Takeaway

Empathy is the act of putting yourself in someone else’s problem in the hopes of understanding, of bridging a gap. It helps us feel in community, not abandoned to anomic isolation. It helps us feel seen and known for who we are.

Defining Empathy

Empathy at the workplace is both rewarding and time-consuming to listen to other people without preconception. Business consultants sometimes suggest something that seems close enough: radical candor.A continual round-robin of criticism and praise promises to dissolve the boundaries between colleagues. But this truth-telling practice proceeds from the feeling: “I know you.” Real empathy starts from a different premise, radical humility: “I don’t know how you feel, but I’m here to listen.”

Empathy At The workplace

Those who think that work is not the “place” for empathy miss the point. The empathy you receive at work makes you a better friend, partner, or parent. The empathy you receive at home makes you better able to listen at work. And there, empathic leadership makes room for intimacy and honesty, driving innovation and engagement. If you open yourself to empathy, you’re allowing yourself to listen across differences. Empathy keeps us from discounting, dismissing, or even cancelling others.

Importance Of Empathy At The Workplace

You can’t put yourself into someone else’s situation if you have preconceptions about its contours. We’re trained to relate to others by expressing what we think we share with them: “Oh, you lost your job. I know how tough that is; I lost mine as well!”It’s the opposite — the strategy of not knowing — that leaves you open to the truth of things.Step back and recognize that you don’t necessarily know what someone else is thinking or feeling. Stop, look, listen, and stay open. It’s not what you know, it’s what you’re willing to learn that provides space for empathy.

Radical Humility: Embracing The Not Knowing

Empathy doesn’t start with a reassuring “I’m like you.” On the contrary, empathy accepts friction. Colleagues may have profound disagreements, just like family members, neighbours, and friends. Empathy is not about being conflict-averse — it’s noisy because people are. To be empathetic, we must be willing to get in there, own the conflict, and learn how to fight fair. It’s about full engagement, even when it is uncomfortable.

Embrace Radical Difference

Empathy implies that you will do the work necessary to comprehend not just the place the person is coming from but their problem. It’s a discipline of basic respect, both personal and civic. You have a stake in helping your neighbour make things better. You can’t get bored or turn away.

Embrace Commitment

Empathy isn’t altruistic. It enlarges those who offer it and binds them to others. It fights anomie. If you’ve been heard, and the rules you’ve been asked to follow take your situation into account, you feel part of something larger than yourself.

Embrace Community

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In some societies, people have divided daily tasks into - Tasks for Women- Tasks for Menand this mentality is fed into children during their upbringing and they do the same when they become parents and this loop never ends.  Usually, people assign household tasks for women and running errands tasks for men. But If you want to bring change to the society, start making changes at your home.

Gender Stereotypes

It is not just woman's responsibility to cook food, a man can do it too.Even if a man doesn't know how to cook, he can atleast help in serving, cutting salad and arranging table.

Cooking

It is not just woman's responsibility to <ul><li>clean the house</li><li>Wash utensils</li><li>Wash clothes</li></ul>a man can do it too.

Cleaning

It is not just woman's responsibility to sit with children & help them with homework, a man can do it too.

Helping children with homework

It should not be just man's responsibility to earn money, a woman can (should) earn too.

Earn Money

It should not be just man's responsibility to drive wife, kids, parents etc. to their desired location. A woman can drive too.

Driving

It should not be just man's responsibility to do the Plumbing or repair household items, A woman can do it too.

Repair household items

Society is made of people like us. If you are a parent then teach everything to your kids irrespective of their gender.A small change in your household can surely bring change or atleast spark the change in society.

Bring the change

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Bring change to society

In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.

If there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.

You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.

Don't forget to tell yourself positive things daily! You must love yourself internally to glow externally.

I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.

You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. 

These empowering self-love quotes and sayings will help you on your journey to finding and keeping your inner love. 

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