Having lots of friends does have benefits. Research shows that people who regularly interacted with 10 or more friends in midlife have higher levels of psychological well-being than those who had fewer than 10. But you don't need dozens of friends to enjoy the fruits of friendship. Even having one friend is a net positive. Instead of trying to keep in contact with everyone you've ever met, consider the value of a few close confidants.

Quality friendships are better than quantity

A study by evolutionary psychologist Robin Dunbar showed that people could cognitively handle up to 150 meaningful social relationships (including family and friends). Out of those connections, Dunbar found that people can have five close friendships. Those in whom you've invested the most time are likely to be part of the inner circle of intimate friends. Here you can be unabashedly yourself without the need to self-censor or perform. They make you feel energised, comfortable, restored, authentic, valued, and vulnerable, and in turn, you also delight in supporting them.

You only need three (or four, or five)

Deep friendships require effort. You'll need to share time and space often to deepen a friendship. <ul><li>Be available and have the energy to hang out.</li><li>Having a reliable routine ensures you see each other regularly, such as attending a weekly yoga class.</li><li>Knowing another what's going on in a person's life helps to better connect in the moment.</li><li>Each of your friends can fulfil a different role in your life.</li></ul>

How to foster these relationships

Focusing on your community and supporting others can help blunt the effects of loneliness. An easy way to bolster your social life is to engage in casual conversation with acquaintances and familiar faces such as fellow parents. These relationships can blossom into close friends.

When just a few friends isn’t enough


When it comes to friendship, quality is better than quantity.

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Chasing a Dream"When you want something, all the universe conspire in helping you to achieve it."

Chasing A Dream!

Fearing Failure"There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure."

Fearing Failure

Getting UpThe Secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.

Own LifeEveryone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.

Don't Explain!Don't waste your time with explanations; people only hear what they want to hear.

Own AnswersPeople never learn anything by being told, they have to find out for themselves.

Life's ParadoxWhen I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being who I am, I found myself.

Never Always WrongNothing in the world is ever completely wrong. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.

Conquer FearDon't give in to your fears. If you do, you won't be able to talk to your heart.

Simple ThingsThe simple things are also the most extraordinary things, and only the wise can see them.

These are the quotes from the book- The Alchemist

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Rudeness is everywhere-maybe a stranger cut you off in traffic, a coworker shut the door in your face, or a loved one snapped at you for "not cleaning up after yourself" when you had left the knife on the edge of the sink on purpose in case you wanted to make another sandwich later

Rude People

Researchers have found that just like the common cold, common negative behaviours can spread easily and have significant consequences.
It can be helpful to remember that when someone is being rude to you, it says more about them than you.

Rude Is Contagious! Here Is What Makes People Rude

<ul><li>When rudeness in the workplace goes unaddressed, research finds that employees feel less motivated and less productive.</li><li>Not only can rudeness impact a person's excitement about work and ability to do well at work, but it can negatively affect one's creativity as well.</li><li>Rude people are less likely to progress professionally.</li></ul>

Rudeness At The Workplace

If someone is rude to you, immediately pause. Don’t be offensive or rude back. Use ASSA-Alert, State, Sell, and Agree.Ask if they realize how hurtful or offensive their behaviour is, and help them understand why it was inappropriate. This helps people see that you are being reasonable while also clearly showing them the consequences of their rude behaviour will be.

Pause and Ask

<ul><li>The quickest way to thaw out a "cold shoulder" is with warmth.</li><li>When people are physically warm, they are more likely to show friendly character traits.</li><li>Action Step: When you're in the midst of a situation dealing with someone who is being rude, try using warm non-verbal cues to show warmth.</li></ul>

Lean Towards Warmness

If you feel like someone is underestimating you, be kind and direct.Address the person and ask for the opportunity to show your capability.Example: "I'm so excited to be entrusted with this responsibility and put my expertise into spearheading this project."Cite studies, research, or industry thought leaders to show you are doing your homework.

Display Your Competence

If the person being rude to you is a loved one or a colleague, you may want to wait to address their behaviour in private.When you talk with them, instead of telling them that they were being rude, try to help them understand how their actions made you feel.

Have a One-On-One

The person acting rudely may not understand the culture or "The way we do things around here" and not realize they are being rude.Give people the benefit of the doubt. Instead of getting upset with someone for cutting you off in line or communicating poorly at work, try saying:“Excuse me, you may not have realized, but I’m already in line here.”“I would be happy to help show you the ropes on this project. It seems like it’s making you a bit stressed out.”

Give people the benefit of the doubt

<ul><li>Negative comments impact us much more than positive ones-at a 5-to-1 ratio.</li><li>If someone says something rude to you, take a second to affirm yourself with five positive things.</li><li>Remember, their harsh comments and negativity don't define you.</li></ul>

Someone Else's Negativity Does Not Define You

<ul><li>At a big family function, wait until the person who is being rude to you has a chance to sit down before you find your seat. This way, you can choose a seat in a different part of the room. </li><li>If you work with a rude coworker, adjust your lunch break to take it at a different time than they are. This way, you won’t need to get mean jabs from them while taking a break. </li></ul>

Ways to Avoid Someone without Being Too Obvious About It

Rudeness is something you encounter often, and if you’re not careful, you’ll “catch” the rudeness and start being rude to others around you. Dealing with rude people can be stressful, but it’s important for maintaining your well-being. Everyone has an off day from time to time. Be quick to apologize for your rudeness when you realize that you’ve snapped at your partner, made a joke that didn’t land well in a work meeting, or stood up a friend for a coffee date.

The Bottom Line

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Relational Ambivalence is the experience of contradictory thoughts and feelings—of love and hate, attraction and disgust, excitement and fear, contempt and envy—toward someone with whom we are in a relationship. We are taught that love is unconditional, passion is absolute, and that finding “the one” should clear us of all doubt. But relationships are never black and white. We learn that romantic love is supposed to flood us with certainty and thus there is no room for ambivalence. But ambivalence is as intrinsic to relationships as love itself.

Relational Ambivalence

We experience relational ambivalence with our parents and our siblings. We feel the tug between the parts of us that are forever entwined with them and the parts of us that want to separate ourselves.We experience it with our children, those beings who teach us a love we’ve never known as well as an unparalleled frustration that can incite harmful thoughts.We experience it with our friends, the ones we don’t really want to see but end up feeling obligated to invite to our wedding.

I Love To Hate You

When it comes to romantic relationships, “till death do us part” isn’t just a vow, it’s a plan. But what happens when plans change? What happens when we’re not meeting each others’ needs? What happens when we make mistakes or when the person we love behaves in a way we can’t tolerate? How about when the relationship gets tainted with lies, betrayal, or duplicity? We suddenly remember that love can hurt, and hurt deeply. And one of the most challenging experiences of ambivalence is when we find ourselves still loving the person who has hurt us deeply.

Till Death Do Us Part

Ambivalence is an uncomfortable feeling. Heavy with contradictions, it makes us doubt our feelings and choices. It can cause us to think we’ve failed or that, no matter what decision we make, we will fail. This discomfort makes us crave a definitive answer. So we force ourselves one way or the other. It usually falls along three lines:<ul><li>Option 1: We Leave. We cut and run. </li><li>Option 2: We justify staying even though it doesn’t feel right.</li><li>Option 3: We hold the ambivalence.</li></ul>

The Three Options

We often think we need to resolve the tension and come to a resolution. Sometimes we do (in abusive relationships, especially). In most situations, however, holding the ambivalence is, in itself, a form of radical acceptance.  This option asks us to sit with the feeling of ambivalence for a while. Stop trying to justify, stop negotiating, and just sit with it. Can we accept that we can wholly love a person without having to love every part of them?  Maybe it’s healthy to allow ourselves to really, really not like the person we love sometimes.

“Relational Ambivalence” is the experience of contradictory thoughts and feelings—of love and hate, attraction and disgust, excitement and fear, contempt and envy—toward someone with whom we are in a relationship. It exists in every relational configuration, but we put a lot of pressure on romantic love, in particular, to rise above it. Read more on how ambivalence shows up in your romantic relationships and the common responses to it.

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In this book, Devora Zack shared that everyone falls somewhere in between Cacti or Snowflake personality. This will effect on how we think, perceive, react even how we speak.Knowing where we are in this personality continuum, also where our peers, family and friends in this spectrum will help us to temper our response. And this will improve our relationships in life and in work.

Working With Both And Thrive Together

In general, snowflake 'feel' and cacti more rational. About 60% women towards to snowflake and 70% men to cacti, so we cannot just assume based on gender. Carl Jung's typologi also said that everyone are somewhere in between. This also may shift througout our life and no such anyone is superior 'place' to any other.

Everyone Is Either Snowflake, Cactus Or Somewhere In Between

Finding where you and others doesnt mean you need to change people, but to know how to deal with them.See below questions and pick which one you prefer:<ol><li>Your daily to-do list OR make someone else's day</li><li>For someone you'll never see again, do you care whether they like you OR you strive to have good image</li><li>Work with direct people OR connected people</li><li>Direct OR diplomatic</li><li>Intellect and skill OR emphaty</li><li>Lead with head OR heart</li><li>Teams following procedure or teams that feel safe and value effectiveness</li><li>Leader is ability or caring</li><li>Contribute directly or by dealing with people10.</li></ol>

Find Where You And Others Are

10. Under pressure, attention and firmness OR caring and comsoderation?11. Reason OR compassion12. Share a bad news plainly OR trying to lighten the impact13. Analytical OR appreciative14. Decide based on logic and fairness OR kindness and feeling15. Value more plain truth and objectivity OR peace and belonging Count how many questions you pick on first option, more first options means more cactus you are. You rely on head,logic and fairness.More number of second options means you fall more toward snowflake. You value peace, emphaty and relationship.Or you are in between, the bridge-builder.

Take perspective of others to find the balance. Cacti might see snowflakes as illogical, but snowflakes see cacti as lack of care.Treat people not only as you would have them treat you but also as they would like to be treated. Say a simple hello and have a small talk will make a snowflake smiles and feel respected, while direct conversation works better with cacti.Knowing well how to treat people based on their personality will differentiate you from others who dont know how to do so.

Dont Stereotype, Have Consious Bias And Never Demeaning Others

Focus your attention on fine-tuning yourself rather than futilely attempting to fix others. Same experience may be perceived differently by snowflake and cacti.A group exchange in high energy can be perceived as spirited discussion by cacti but also as a potential conflict by snowflakes.

Same Event, Different Perspective

Control your thinking, what you say and what you do. If you tend to snowflake, trust your feeling. If you are cacti, leverage your logic. If you are a leader, surround your self with intermix of type. Build a team with a bit balance in number of snowflake and cacti.

Self Improve For Better Interactions

Cater your language, use both personality in the right moment. I.e. in meeting, cacti style sometimes is more needed. However, in delivering performance review, snowflake style is needed.

Watch How You Speak

The shadow facet of our personality isn the hidden part of ourselves woth which we dont consiously identify. Awareness of yourself and others allow for interventions that might prevent a shadow state from dominating. In these critical condition, acknowledge people's feelings, ask how you can help and work on coping strategies with them.

Know Your Trigger

Knowing where we are, and strive side by sise

This hilarious and profound workplace guide proves the rigorously rational and the supremely sympathetic can meet in the middle and merge their strengths. Readers will discover how blending with their opposite opens the pathway to being their truest selves. The famed Myers-Briggs personality scale says that Feelers (who lead with their hearts) put more weight on personal concerns and the people involved, and Thinkers (who lead with their heads) are guided by objective principles and impartial facts. This book calls them Cacti and Snowflakes—each singularly transcendent. But can people with such fundamentally different ways of making sense of and engaging with the world work together? Yes, says Devora Zack! The key is not to try to change each other. Zack says we can directly control only three things: what we say, what we think, and what we do. The best use of our energy is to focus on our own reactions and perceptions rather than try to “fix” other people. This book includes an assessment so readers can learn where they are on the Thinker/Feeler spectrum—and because it's a spectrum, readers might well be a snowcactus or a cactusflake. Then Zack helps them figure out where other people might be, guiding them through a myriad of modes of communication and motivation based on personality type. She includes real-life scenarios that show how to nurture one's nature while successfully connecting with those on the other side. As always, Zack fearlessly and entertainingly dispels myths, squashes stereotypes, and transforms perceived liabilities into strengths. And she once again affirms that, like chocolate and peanut butter, we are better together.

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This hilarious and profound workplace guide proves the rigorously rational and the supremely sympathetic can meet in the middle and merge their strengths. Readers will discover how blending with their opposite opens the pathway to being their truest selves. Carl Jung's personality typology introduced the distinction that Feelers (who lead with their hearts) put more weight on personal concerns and the people involved, and Thinkers (who lead with their heads) are guided by objective principles and impartial facts. This book calls them Cacti and Snowflakes—each singularly transcendent. But can people with such fundamentally different ways of making sense of and engaging with the world work together? Yes, says Devora Zack! The key is not to try to change each other. Zack says we can directly control only three things: what we say, what we think, and what we do. The best use of our energy is to focus on our own reactions and perceptions rather than try to “fix” other people. This book includes an assessment so readers can learn where they are on the Thinker/Feeler spectrum—and because it's a spectrum, readers might well be a snowcactus or a cactusflake. Then Zack helps them figure out where other people might be, guiding them through a myriad of modes of communication and motivation based on personality type. She includes real-life scenarios that show how to nurture one's nature while successfully connecting with those on the other side. As always, Zack fearlessly and entertainingly dispels myths, squashes stereotypes, and transforms perceived liabilities into strengths. And she once again affirms that, like chocolate and peanut butter, we are better together.

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The Cactus and Snowflake at Work

<ol><li>Forgive</li><li>Love and serve others</li><li>It’s always too early to quit</li><li>Accept your circumstances</li><li>Choose your response</li><li>Lead by example</li><li>There is a great illness in our society: want</li><li>Understand that there is no “there”</li><li>Stop WHYning!</li><li>Exercise your Power of Choice</li></ol>

10 Principles for Taking Charge of Life

Not as a favor to others or because you’re holy, but to set yourself free. As long as you hate or hold a grudge against someone, you are their prisoner. They are in control of your life and you’ve given them that power. They may be long gone, have forgotten about you, or even be dead, but if they can still make you think of them in anger, you are their prisoner.Forgive and set yourself free.

1. Forgive.

We don’t have to like everyone or agree with what they say or do, but we can love one another. I’ve found when you serve others in need, your own problems are diminished.

2. Love and serve others

You never know what’s around the next bend, when the door will open for you or what angels are out there working on your behalf. “Failure” no longer exists in my vocabulary. Failure can only become a reality the moment you choose to give up.

3. It’s always too early to quit

Really accept them. Once you accept what is, you can begin to see what’s possible.

4. Accept your circumstances

You may not always be able to choose your circumstances, but you can always choose your response. This is the key to happiness. I am living proof that when you choose your response, it is possible to be happy and at peace even in the most horrendous of circumstances. You really get to choose whether to be happy or sad, grateful or angry, at peace or hate-filled by choosing your response. The circumstance becomes inconsequential.

5. Choose your response

If you want something changed, do it yourself. Don’t sit around and complain. Take action or stop complaining. The respect of others comes from what we do, not what we say.

6. Lead by example

When you believe you need what you want, you feel empty, unsatisfied, unfulfilled, restless. Take a moment to look around you, however, and count your blessings. This will fill the void of want you confuse with need.

7. There is a great illness in our society: want

There is no place to get to or position to attain where everything is perfect. We are always striving to get “there”… and missing here, now. We put off our happiness and joy today in our pursuit of getting “there.”

8. Understand that there is no “there” 

Asking “Why” is not a very useful question. It’s whiney and complaining and rarely yields a satisfactory answer. I’ve found a better question to ask is, “What for?” For what purpose is this happening? What am I to learn from this circumstance or do with the knowledge I gained?

9. Stop WHYning! 

So often you say, “I had no choice.” There is always a choice. The problem is, you may not like the options, so you say you have no choice. Don’t imprison yourself with the myth that you are not choosing your life. You are at every moment. So choose consciously.

10. Exercise your Power of Choice

1. Forgive. Not as a favor to others or because you're holy, but to set yourself free. As long as you hate or hold a grudge against someone, you are their

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WHAT IS THE POWER?

THE POWER ~ Rhonda Byrne

"There is a supreme power and ruling force which 
pervades and rules the boundless universe. You are a part of this power."

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Life is simple. Your life is made up of only two kinds of things - positive things and negative things.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Every person who has a great life used Love which is cause of everything good in life to achieve it. It is the power!!</li><li class="ql-align-justify">"Love is an element which though physically unseen is as real as air or water. It is an acting, living, moving force ... it moves in waves and currents like those of the ocean."</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Without love, there is no life. Whatever you see that is a human creation would not be there without love. Everything you want to be, do, or have comes from love.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">That power - Love - is inside you!</li></ul>

The Force Of Love

"Take away love and our earth is a tomb"

<ul><li>Even though that power - love - is inside you, why isn't your life amazing? The answer is: because you have a choice. </li><li>You have a 
choice whether to love and harness the positive force - or not. And whether you realize it or not, every moment of your life you have been making this 
choice. </li><li>Love is the cause of all the good things in your life, 
and a lack of love is the cause of all the negative things andall the pain and suffering.</li></ul>

<ul><li>The universe is governed by natural laws. To harness the positive force of love, you must understand the most powerful law in the 
universe - the law of attraction.</li><li>Attraction is the force that draws you to your favorite things and places and people to other people. The force of attraction 
is the force of love! Attraction is love. </li><li>The law of attraction says: like attracts 
like. Whatever you give out in life is what you receive back in life. </li><li>"To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction."</li><li>Give positivity, you receive back positivity; give negativity, 
you receive back negativity.﻿﻿</li></ul>

The Law Of Love

"Give, and it will be given to you ... for by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return."

<ul><li>It's your thoughts that determine whether your words 
and actions will be positive or negative. But how do you know whether your thoughts are positive or negative? Your 
thoughts are positive when they are thoughts of what you want and love! And negative thoughts are thoughts of what you don't want and don't love. It is that simple and that easy.
</li></ul>

"Whether humanity will consciously follow the law of love, I do not know. But that need not disturb me. The law will work just as the law of gravitation works whether we accept it or not."

<ul><li>You have to talk about what you love, to bring what you love to you.</li><li>If you parrot negative things, you are literally jailing yourself, like a parrot in a cage. Every time you talk about what you don't love, 
adding another bar to the cage and locking yourself away from all the good.</li><li>People who have great lives talk more about what they 
love. By doing so, they gain unlimited access to all the good in life, and they are as free as the birds that soar in the sky.
</li><li>To have a great life, break the bars of the cage ; give love, talk only about what you love, and love will set you free!</li></ul>

TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU LOVE

"Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free."

<ul><li>Nothing is impossible for the force of love. No matter who you are, no matter what situation you may be facing, the force of love can set you free. </li><li>You have to feel love to harness its power!</li></ul>

You are meant to have an amazing life! This is the handbook to the greatest power in the Universe - The Power to have anything you want. Every discovery, invention, and human creation comes fromThe Power. Perfect health, incredible relationships, a career you love, a life filled with happiness, and the money you need to be, do, and have everything you want, all come fromThe Power. The life of your dreams has always been closer to you than you realized, because The Power -to have everything good in your life - is inside you. To create anything, to change anything, all it takes is just onething…THE POWER.

You are meant to have an amazing life! This is the handbook to the greatest power in the Universe - The Power to have anything you want. Every discovery, invention, and human creation comes fromThe Power. Perfect health, incredible relationships, a career you love, a life filled with happiness, and the money you need to be, do, and have everything you want, all come fromThe Power. The life of your dreams has always been closer to you than you realized, because The Power -to have everything good in your life - is inside you. To create anything, to change anything, all it takes is just onething…THE POWER.

Rhonda Byrne is an Australian television writer and producer, best known for her New Thought works, The Secret—a book and a film by the same name. By the Spring of 2007 the book had sold almost 4 million copies, and the DVD had sold more than 2 million copies. She has also been a producer for Sensing Murder. According to an article published by Australia's Herald Sun, Byrne has also worked on the Australian TV series World's Greatest Commercials and Marry Me. In 2007, Byrne was listed among Time Magazine's list of 100 people who shape the world.

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Do boys wants to be loved? What normal people (Most of the people) answers is "Yes! Of course, they are living beings also. Even boys receive more love than Girls". But it is not that true all the times. You can easily observe people saying that boys are tough. They are bold. They do not want love. All they need is Bravery, Strength...all that. Ask yourself, is that true? It was true when a king wants his son to be next heir. Not today.How will you define a BAD_BOY? A boy who is rude, insults other, don't respect girls...all that. But deep down this boys is BAD because he was not much loved.

What are love issues with boys?

In his childhood, boys don't care about anything. All he want is someone/something to play with. soon after, he can realize that his mother and father will love him and take care of him. But problem starts, when is starts to understand things. For example, if his father brought her daughter a new dress and don't asked for him, he will get upset and starts hating(more specific, dislike) both his father and sister. And it is obvious. It this happens to him for more time, he will think that he is bad or his father don't love him. From here real changes begins that lead him to choose wrong path.

Let's Start from Beginning

You can see some boys are cool and funny around. And some other boys are very rude and Stone-hearted. Why this? Because they are not that much loved. And thus, they accept the way that love has nothing to do. Then in order to fulfil their desire, they starts to involve in wrong doings. This is where a boy forces a girl to satisfy his desire. You know what I'm talking about. And I accept that this is not right. What I want to tell all boys is that they should not do this kind of shameful activity. This will leave a bad spot on manhood. Understand that in ancient times, men were Gentleman.

Why some boys are bad?

When a girl fell in love, she loves it to the core. Same is for boys. I accept that some boys are not open in expressing their love. Some boys are rude toward their girl. And some boys are Z+ bodyguard of their girls. Difference is common cause of nature. You can't avoid it. But what you can control is your love for them. A girl want love and affection from boy and vice-versa. Variation can be seen when a boy approaches a girl. Some are 'Once in a life', other are 'Do as more as you can'. Both have same background. Less loved more bad times. That's why, boy tries to approach by doing shits.

Boy and Girl relationship.

He will either try to become an alpha male or do some non-sense things to get the girl. But his intentions are not bad. He want love from that girl. If she rejects him, then he will start to bother her. Why he is doing this? Read the next idea.

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After marriage(or before) some men tries to suppress their wives either mentally or physically. Why? Because the are not taught how to respect women. It is very Important for man to understand that HE SHOULD RESPECT WOMAN. And this is the responsibility of a father to teach his son. All that boys who suppress their girls are either overprotective or are not taught to respect girls.What to do? Ask their friends/parent/elders to teach them the same. Or do whatever it takes to make them understand that it is sinful activity to disrespect someone.

Why some man tries to Suppress her Wife.

A father is role model for a boy. Because his father has reputation in society and so his boy want. Some fathers are open and express their love, while some are not that open and their boy think that he do not love him. According to a Study, Girls receive more love from father than boy. And this lead to change in behavior of a boy. This boy now feel separated from his father. He starts disrespect his father and ends up with fight. On the other hand,  a father is strict toward his boy because he want him to be in control.What you need to understand is that your boy also wants your attention.

Father - Son relationship.

In India, I live is a society where a boy don't exist if he is not employed. And in a middle class family, boy has much responsibilities to do. You can relate this if you're also a middle class boy. Your parents expects a lot from you. Also your parents are busy in earning a livelihood. Thus they can't spare enough time for you. And you think that you are not loved.What you have to understand that all you have to focus on your academics. Don't focus on any other thing. Your parents loves you more that you think. Make them feel proud to be your parent. Get a job, then see the changes.

A middle Class Boy.

A boy need to understand this world works in a balance. You respect girls, girls will respect you. You love your parent(no matter how hard they are on you), your parent will love you. Love and respect are meant to be earned not purchased. As a boy your responsibility is to be strong enough to gain some reputation in society. I will not write about responsibilities of a boy. You know that stuff. What I want to focus is that no matter how bad people treat you, you must be polite and soft towards other. That will make you GENTLEMEN.

A boy

1. You have to be a son, not a man in front of your parent.2. Your girl is your second half. Respect her, take care of her, don't bother her.3. Rejection is okay. Learn to bear it. Don't bother if she rejected you. Different person have different views for other. Accept it and move on.4. Achieve something in your life. Don't waste your life watching porn or other wrong things.5. Learn to hide you anger. This can save you from many bad situations.6. No matter how physical fir you are. If can't take care of your family, it is useless.7. Be a GENTLEMAN. This is upto you, how you achieve this.

Understand These Things.

In this stash I would like to talk about love issues faced by a boy in society. My intentions are not bad. I'm not comparing boys with girls. At some point you may feel like comparison but it is not. And I accept that for parent both boy and girl are equal. In this stash I am talking about why some boys are rude and are not that accepted. I beg your pardon if any of my view has hurted your feeling.

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Love and respect Issues with Boys!!

Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. … Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses.

What Is Forgiveness

Forgiveness typically involves:Letting go of anger or resentment you’re holding on to. Some amount of empathy towards the person who hurt you. Not necessarily reconciling or going back to the same relationship as before.

What Does It Involve

There are several reasons: Less stress, better for your mental health and self esteem. But it's difficult because we often believe forgiveness means lack of justice or weakness. And we're sometimes forced to forgive before we're ready.

Why Forgive?

Self-forgiveness can lead to the improvement of both relationship and partner satisfaction. Being more benevolent towards oneself after transgressing can promote a better relationship, and accepting responsibility for one’s wrongdoing

What About Self-Forgiveness

What is forgiveness really all about? Some see it as healing and 
restorative, and others view it as harmful and invalidating. This episode 
is covering some of the studies that have been done about forgiveness while 
we look at its benefits and potential pitfalls.

342 - To Forgive or Not To Forgive — Multiamory

A form of manipulation that often occurs in abusive relationships. It is a covert type of <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/identify-and-cope-with-emotional-abuse-4156673">emotional abuse </a>where the abuser misleads the target, creating a false narrative. It causes the victims to distrust their own perceptions of the world.It primarily occurs in romantic relationships, but it's also common in friendships or among family members.

Gaslighting

The term comes from a 1938 play by Patrick Hamilton, known in America as "Angle Street".It's about a manipulative husband who tries to make his wife think she is losing her mind. One of the acts of his manipulation is dimming the flame on a gas lamp.

The Term "Gaslighting"?

People who gaslight others may have mental health disorders, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or borderline personality disorder (BPD). They use this type of emotional abuse to exert power over others in order to manipulate people.

Why People Gaslight?

<a href="http://www.imedpub.com/articles/the-cognitive-neuroscience-of-narcissism.php?aid=22149">Several researchers</a> determined that the opposite of narcissistic personality disorder is empathy.From this determination, I am giving a theory that the cause of self-gaslighting might come from being too empathy. The ability to sympathize with people and their perspectives make them easily understand and forgive people's actions. This makes them think that there's nothing wrong with the other person so they start to think themselves as the problem.

Self-Gaslighting

These are some discoveries that have aided me in comprehending it and attempting to overcome it.

Gaslighting is a covert form of emotional abuse that makes people think they are losing their sanity. Learn about the warning signs of gaslighting.

Ways to Tell If Someone Is Gaslighting You

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