It’s natural; when things go wrong, one of the first thoughts is likely to be “Why me?”“Why me?” is a weakening phrase. It only serves to increase our feeling of victimhood and makes us feel incapable of dealing with the situation.By “What next?” we not only gain back a feeling of control, but also figure out what we can actually do.

1. Replace “Why me?” with “What next?”

It is hard to feel grateful when you are dealt a blow, no matter how big or small it is.No matter what you are dealing with, there is always, always something to be grateful for. Force yourself to say it out loud a few times. Your heart and your mind will soon catch up.

2. Force yourself to practice gratitude.

When you’re hurt, it is equally natural to look for someone to blame.But blame only serves to prolong the hurt. It makes it harder to let things go. It makes us angry and corrodes us from the inside. It brings negativity into our life.So just stop blaming.

3. Quit blaming.

This is a tough one. It’s so much easier to just give in and surrender to the fear and grief. But we need to stand tall, even when we feel two feet too short.

4. Don’t give in to fear and despair.

No matter where you’re at or what you’re going through, don’t give up. Try just one more thing; maybe it’s just the thing that will resolve it for you.

5. Never give up.

We all face something in our day to day routine, sometimes we aren't able to deal with it ....

Every single one of us goes through times when it seems like life sucks. It’s just the way it is. It’s what we do in those moments that matters.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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5 Helpful Things to Do When You Think Life Sucks

Well, We read books because it is very good for our brains. But, Do we know that if we read books too much, our brain would really hurt and that happened to me! If you are to obsessed with a book, Then read another book! I was obsessed with a book called Demon Dentist by David Williams! Look on the right!

Why Do You Read Books?

Well, You might Ben thinking: Why is this guy writing this article? Well, I am because for you just to understand why it is bad To Read Too many Books.Well, first of all, Why would you? You might be playing your video games all day long, But people think it isn’t good to play video games all day long, which is true. But  people Read too much, and I want too put a stop to that. Well, what Happens is when you Read too many Books, you might think that you might get crazy, but that is wrong. You will need a break. You would get too frustrated. Done!

What Happens If you Read too many books?

Well, parents nowadays say it is bad to go on the screen too much, because  your Eyesight is going to get bad, and you will need glasses. But that maybe true, But if you only do it sometimes, then it is alright. But if you do it Too much, then it isn’t Really Bad. Done! So make sure you are not on the screen Too much.

What Will happen if You go on the screen too much?

Darkness had come to the town. Strange things were happening in the dead of night. Children would put a tooth under their pillow for the tooth fairy, but in the morning they would wake up to find ... a dead slug ; a live spider ; hundreds of earwigs. Evil was at work, but who or what was behind it?

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Demon Dentist

Children who experienced often faced anxiety, as a result their body produce stress hormones.If this happens alot, these hormones become toxic for developing brain.

The Neglect Theory

Leads to:<ul><li>Lower IQ server</li><li>Delayed language development</li><li>Lack of creative thinking.</li></ul>Because our brain build connections with every new experiences and stimulation. If there are no rich experience, during the first year of life – the period in which the brain develops the fastest – children are not able to build foundation necessary for optimal future learning.They miss out for life.

1. Cognitive Neglect

Most often suffer from...<ul><li>Stunted growth</li><li>Some contradicted with HIV</li><li>Hepatitis B</li></ul>As a result of reusing medical supplies.

2. Physical Neglect 

Leads to...<ul><li>An excessive production of the stress hormones (known as adrenaline and cortisol), like poison for developing brain.</li><li>Distorted the understanding of physical love and relationships.</li><li>Done to trust nobody.</li><li>Dipression, insomnia and social anxiety.</li></ul>

3. Emotional Neglect 

If you experienced any form of neglect, try to intimidate the idea that " it was never your fault and maybe not even your parents fault either. "

How You Can Deal?

If you dealing with negligence, how you can consider yourself in that situation?, how you can deal with that form?

Children who experience physical, cognitive or emotional neglect, often face anxiety. As a result, their body produces stress hormones. If this happens a lot, these hormones become toxic for their developing brain, which then later can repress emotional and cognitive well-being for life. Non profit of Daniel Rucareanu: https://www.facebook.com/federeii/ TREATMENTS If a child is used to suppressing their emotions, because of neglect, it may be difficult to recognize and experience them in a healthy way. Therapists and mental health professionals can help both children and adults learn to identify, accept, and express their emotions in a healthful manner. These treatment options include: 1. Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT): CBT aims to explain to you what's going on inside your brain and how to cope with irrational feelings or fears. 2. The Hoffman Process: This 7-8 day's guided process, designed to bring participants back into their childhood to reconnect with their parents and make peace. 3. Family therapy: If a child is being emotionally neglected at home, family therapy can help both the parents and the child. 4. Parenting classes: Parents who neglect their child’s emotional needs could benefit from parenting classes. 5. Psychoanalysis: The aim of psychoanalysis therapy is to release repressed emotions and experiences, i.e., make the unconscious conscious. SUPPORT us to help raise awareness about neglected children and other important topics https://www.patreon.com/sprouts 🐦: DOWNLOAD video without ads and background music 🤫: https://sproutsschools.com/video-lessons/ SIGN UP to our mailing list and never miss a new video from us 🔔: http://eepurl.com/dNU4BQ SOURCES and teaching resources 🎓: https://sproutsschools.com/neglect-the-lives-of-the-forgotten-children/ VISIT our website : www.sproutsschools.com CONTRIBUTE by upvoting your favourite topic or suggesting new ones : https://sprouts.featureupvote.com/ THANKS to our patrons This video was made with the support of our Patrons: Johan Klassen, Angela, Wolfgang Vullhorst, Reynir Örn Bachmann Guðmundsson, Daniel Kapuschinsky, Jonathan Schwarz, Margaret Grace, Bob Wilkerson, Stephen, María, Raymond Fujioka, Hal Beltran, Susan Schuster, Deepak Kamlesh, Margaret Grace, Jonathan Schwarz, Shao Xiang, Denis Kraus, Judy Roland, Bettina Kind, Gatsby Dkdc, Enrique Arellano Farias, Vishruth Harithsa, Nancy Bueffler, Adam G, Tetiana Gerasymova, Raman Srivastava, Daniel Kramer, David Markham, Marq Short, Scripz, Muhammad Humayun, Ginger, Tsungren Yang, Esther Chiang, Badrah, Cedric Wang, Broke, Jeffrey Cassianna, Sergei Kukhariev, Andrea Basilio Rava, kritik bhimani, Don Bone, John Zhang, Mathis Nu and all the others.Thank you! To join them visit www.patreon.com/sprouts COLLABORATORS Script: Jonas Koblin and Wave Vasiksiri Artist: Pascal Gaggelli Voice: Matt Abbott Coloring: Nalin Editing: Peera Lertsukittipongsa Creative Design: Selina Bador Production: Bianka Proofreading: Susan Sound Design: Miguel Ojeda Special thanks to our follower Wave Vasiksiri for suggesting the topic and collaborating on this script. SOUNDTRACKS Toys Are Alive - Studio Le Bus Here Come The Raindrops - Reed Mathis DIG DEEPER with these top videos, games and resources: Learn about The Attachment Theory: How Childhood Affects Life. Our video on the topic is a great start. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjOowWxOXCg&t=2s Do the still face experience with a baby or learn about it on youtube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 SOURCES https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romanian_orphans https://www.ironcurtainproject.eu/en/stories/the-battle-of-ceausescus-children/ Zeanah, C. H. et al., 2005. Attachment in Institutionalized and Community Children in Romania. Society for Research in Child Development, Volume 76, pp. 1015-1028 Marinus H. van IJzendoorn, M. P. C. M. L. & Juffer, F., 2008. IQ of Children Growing Up in Children's Homes: A Meta-Analysis on IQ Delays in Orphanages. Merrill-Palmer Quarterly, Volume 54, pp. 341-366 https://www.ironcurtainproject.eu/en/stories/the-battle-of-ceausescus-children/; https://www.pri.org/stories/2015-12-28/half-million-kids-survived-romanias-slaughterhouses-souls-now-they-want-justice. Nelson, C.A., Zeanah, C.H., Fox, N.A., Marshall, P. J., Smyke, A.T., & Guthrie, D. (2007). Cognitive recovery in socially deprived young children: The Bucharest Early Intervention Project. Science, 318(5858), 1937-1940. PMID: 18096809 https://www.childpact.org/2015/05/06/the-former-institutionalised-children-of-romania-come-together-to-investigate-the-abuses-of-ceausescus-orphanages http://donellameadows.org/archives/ceausescus-longest-lasting-legacy-the-cohort-of-67 https://adoption.org/many-orphans-worldwide CHAPTERS 00:00 Neglect Theory 00:40 Daniel Rucareanu's story 01:33 Cognitive Neglect 02:29 Physical Neglect 03:10 Emotional Neglect 05:10 Ending

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Children who experience physical, cognitive or emotional neglect, often face anxiety. As a result, their body produces stress hormones. If this happens a lot, these hormones become toxic for their developing brain, which then later can repress emotional and cognitive well-being for life.

Non profit of Daniel Rucareanu: https://www.facebook.com/federeii/

TREATMENTS
If a child is used to suppressing their emotions, because of neglect, it may be difficult to recognize and experience them in a healthy way. Therapists and mental health professionals can help both children and adults learn to identify, accept, and express their emotions in a healthful manner. These treatment options include:
1. Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT): CBT aims to explain to you what's going on inside your brain and how to cope with irrational feelings or fears.
2. The Hoffman Process: This 7-8 day's guided process, designed to bring participants back into their childhood to reconnect with their parents and make peace. 
3. Family therapy: If a child is being emotionally neglected at home, family therapy can help both the parents and the child.
4. Parenting classes: Parents who neglect their child’s emotional needs could benefit from parenting classes.
5. Psychoanalysis: The aim of psychoanalysis therapy is to release repressed emotions and experiences, i.e., make the unconscious conscious.

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This video was made with the support of our Patrons: Johan Klassen, Angela, 
Wolfgang Vullhorst, Reynir Örn Bachmann Guðmundsson, Daniel Kapuschinsky, 
Jonathan Schwarz, Margaret Grace, Bob Wilkerson, Stephen, María, Raymond Fujioka, Hal Beltran, Susan Schuster, Deepak Kamlesh, Margaret Grace, Jonathan Schwarz, Shao Xiang, Denis Kraus, Judy Roland, Bettina Kind, Gatsby Dkdc, Enrique Arellano Farias, Vishruth Harithsa, Nancy Bueffler, Adam G, Tetiana Gerasymova, Raman Srivastava, Daniel Kramer, David Markham, Marq Short, Scripz, Muhammad Humayun, Ginger, Tsungren Yang, Esther Chiang, Badrah, Cedric Wang, Broke, Jeffrey Cassianna, Sergei Kukhariev, Andrea Basilio Rava, kritik bhimani, Don Bone, John Zhang, Mathis Nu and all the others.Thank you! To join them visit www.patreon.com/sprouts 

COLLABORATORS
Script: Jonas Koblin and Wave Vasiksiri
Artist: Pascal Gaggelli
Voice: Matt Abbott
Coloring: Nalin
Editing: Peera Lertsukittipongsa
Creative Design: Selina Bador
Production: Bianka
Proofreading: Susan
Sound Design: Miguel Ojeda

Special thanks to our follower Wave Vasiksiri for suggesting the topic and collaborating on this script.

SOUNDTRACKS
Toys Are Alive - Studio Le Bus 
Here Come The Raindrops - Reed Mathis

DIG DEEPER with these top videos, games and resources:
Learn about The Attachment Theory: How Childhood Affects Life. Our video on the topic is a great start. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjOowWxOXCg&t=2s 
Do the still face experience with a baby or learn about it on youtube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0

SOURCES
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romanian_orphans

https://www.ironcurtainproject.eu/en/stories/the-battle-of-ceausescus-children/

Zeanah, C. H. et al., 2005. Attachment in Institutionalized and Community Children in Romania. Society for Research in Child Development, Volume 76, pp. 1015-1028

Marinus H. van IJzendoorn, M. P. C. M. L. & Juffer, F., 2008. IQ of Children Growing Up in Children's Homes: A Meta-Analysis on IQ Delays in Orphanages. Merrill-Palmer Quarterly, Volume 54, pp. 341-366

https://www.ironcurtainproject.eu/en/stories/the-battle-of-ceausescus-children/; 

https://www.pri.org/stories/2015-12-28/half-million-kids-survived-romanias-slaughterhouses-souls-now-they-want-justice.

Nelson, C.A., Zeanah, C.H., Fox, N.A., Marshall, P. J., Smyke, A.T., & Guthrie, D. (2007). Cognitive recovery in socially deprived young children: The Bucharest Early Intervention Project. Science, 318(5858), 1937-1940. PMID: 18096809

https://www.childpact.org/2015/05/06/the-former-institutionalised-children-of-romania-come-together-to-investigate-the-abuses-of-ceausescus-orphanages

http://donellameadows.org/archives/ceausescus-longest-lasting-legacy-the-cohort-of-67

https://adoption.org/many-orphans-worldwide 


CHAPTERS
00:00 Neglect Theory
00:40 Daniel Rucareanu's story
01:33 Cognitive Neglect
02:29 Physical Neglect
03:10 Emotional Neglect
05:10 Ending

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Childhood Trauma: The Lives of the Neglected Children

Neglect & Trauma: The Lives of the Forgotten Children

Ever thought ,is it so bad to have moments of stress or anxiety?We have assumed it to be something very vicious and the very thought of this that we will go through stress and anxiety makes us suffer more.We are anxious about being anxious.We must have place for certain bad things in life as we have for good things.It is necessary to go through the moments when we feel lost ,when we get into the loop of overthinking,when we feel we are alone.Accepting and going through all colours (bright or dark)of spectrum of life provides a depth to our experiences.

1.Don't fight  it

"Your real resume is just a catalog of all your suffering"

"Even the glorious fire is surrounded by smoke "Understand this ,as a man you aren't designed to be perfect.Nature has no concept of absolute perfection.No one is ever going to be perfect.while doing something ,don't put labels or burdens on yourself.The best you can do is the absolute for you.

2.Don't chase perfection 

It's true that long term planning is important and pays you back but understand this you can't be so certain about the trajectory of life .All long term planning are smart guesses ,can turn out to be correct but beauty of future is that it is not bound to follow your smart guesses . Covid pandemic has shown us that completely uncertain things are certain to happen.So there is no certainty that you will get complete rest and spend nice time full of joy in future.So while working towards your goal or doing long term planning do take out time to enjoy now,chill now and live now.

3.REST NOW

Spending time with your own self is the best thing you can do to yourself.Joy is not the result of something but it happens only when you are free from all loads in your mind .Your loved ones can predict your situation but it's only you who understands it fully ,who knows what you are going through.Don't be enslaved by the views or opinions of others.Great innovations and creative arts are done by people who learned to spend time with themselves.

4.Learn to be Alone 

Having a purpose to do things beyond your personal success makes you free from all conditioning and personal problems.Knowing that you are doing something which you genuinely feel is going to make the world around you better fills you with extreme joy and satisfaction which can't be achieved by any material comfort. Do for the world and the whole world is there to take care of you not just your family or loved ones.

5.Have a purpose 

"Keep growing while enjoying the journey of life."

Few principles I learnt to get free from stress or anxiety!

Say no to worries 🐣

Self-Control is an ability that helps you to remain calm & positive during crucial moments.  Self-control as by the name, says control over yourself, control over your fear, over your <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/08/Top-5-ways%20to-improve-your-positive-thinking%20.html">negative thoughts </a> , over the distractions and over the toxicity around us.

What Is Self-Control?

Self-Control is important because you can easily trigger with your feelings and emotions. Self-control helps in dealing with serious times and taking wise decisions when there's a need.  <ol><li>It helps in avoiding toxicity </li><li>It makes you focused  </li><li>It helps in controlling your behaviour </li> </ol><ol><li>It makes you achieve your goals. </li> </ol>

Importance of Self-Control

5 tips that will help you in improving your self-control and will help you in achieving your goals.

Tips to Improve Self-Control

Distraction is our enemy, we have to fight with it , so remember to remove all your distraction .  While for your goals your first priority must be your goals and nothing doesn't make you a fool. Keep everything far away from you that makes you weak, lowers your morale or distracts you. It doesn't matter whether it's a smartphone, family friends or something else save some time for your passion.

1. Remove everything that distracts you .

Meditation is something that's beyond our imagination, it has numerous benefits but nobody wants to do it. Practising meditation is one of the best ways to control your thoughts and to make your brain calm and more stable. <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/04/mindfulness-meditation-practice.html">Practising meditation </a>for 10 min every day will give you the proper results. If you will increase your time of meditation then you will get more  benefits.

2. Practice meditation daily

One of the famous techniques to stay positive and to control thoughts is Spot, swap and change. This technique works well when you are stuck with negative thoughts and depression. What you have to do is whenever you get negative thoughts then spot it and find out the reason why you got that thought and change it with positive thoughts.

3. Spot,Swap and Change

Temptation is a fundamental desire to get involved in short term enjoyment which threatens us for our long term goals . As teenagers we all are tempted to do something whether our smartphone, tv or anything and it's completely normal.

4. Control your temptation .

In the society that's full of Strees and anxiety we must keep ourselves aside from it and the best way to do is to avoid stress and depression.Don't take stress, stay alive stay free

5. Learn To Manage Stress 

Self-control is essential and it's the need for success and for a happy life.Don't waste your time, energy and efforts in stress and overthinking defeat yourself and build a new one. Good day:)

Conclusion 

Self-control allows people to regulate behaviors to reach goals. Learn why it matters, how to improve it, and how it affects your health .

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<ul><li>Americans are emerging from the pandemic more stressed out and reactive than ever.</li><li>Emotional flooding is an automatic physical and mental response to an unexpected negative reaction by another, usually a close person, an encounter we can perceive as a threat.</li><li>Beyond hurting personal relationships at home and creating all kinds of difficulties out in the world, emotional flooding significantly impairs decision making.	 </li></ul>

Emotional Flooding

Imposing a 30-second response delay on everyone reduced aggression significantly, but only when there were negative consequences (having to perform a task) to being aggressive.Counting to 30 only works when you have the self-awareness to understand your reality, and it can be challenging during emotional flooding.

The Challenge Of Staying Aware: Counting To 30

Sit quietly and think about the feelings you are experiencing.Then, say to yourself, "I am not this anger. It will not manage me or make my decisions for me." This metacognition will leave you calm and empowered.

Observe Your Feelings

Managing your emotions is like home improvement: You can teach yourself to do a lot of it well, but it's best to get some professional assistance when the job is particularly tricky.Journaling is one of the best ways to achieve metacognition, which in turn creates emotional knowledge and regulation, which provide a sense of control.

Write It Down

If you can prevent your emotions from taking over in the face of stress, you can avoid a lot of regret and set a good example for others.

How to Stop Freaking Out

There may be times that you’d like to feel invisible, but for the most part, people like to feel that other people notice and care about them. If you’ve ever walked into a social gathering and waited five minutes for someone to greet you, then you know how painful it is to feel like you’re blending into the background. Alternatively, consider the agony you can suffer when you’ve sent a text to a friend, only to have it sit there “delivered,” but unanswered.

“Ugh! I Wish I Was Invisible!” 

When you stop and think about it, though, why should we care so much about whether people notice us or not? After all, the people who know us might be busy and preoccupied with other things. It shouldn’t make a difference, either, whether people who don’t know us acknowledge our presence. And, in reality, aren’t there those times when we’d be just as happy to get in and out of someplace without having to stop and talk to anyone?

“Hellooo! I’m Standing Right Here!!!”

In positive psychology, the quality of “mattering” is considered, in the words of York University’s Gordon Flett and colleagues (2022) to be “a key psychological resource.” Although we might occasionally enjoy the cloak of invisibility, Flett et al. propose that feeling chronically insignificant can become a “meta-pathology” that can interfere with the ability to obtain “optimal health and well-being.”

The Quality Of Mattering

According to Flett et al., rather than simply feeling invisible, when we suffer from what they call “anti-mattering,” we define ourselves as someone whose “personal identity is dominated by the sense of not mattering to others.” We adopt this identity as a shield for the specific reason of protecting ourselves from the stress of being ignored or regarded as irrelevant by others. The “anti” here, literally means “against” mattering, not simply being low in the feeling that we matter.

Why Does it Matter to Matter?

In the words of Flett et al., anti-mattering “should be regarded as a unique and specific vulnerability unlike any other risk factor.... [it] can become a cognitive preoccupation that is internalized and results in self-harm tendencies and an inability or unwillingness to engage in self-care.”

A Shield That Harms Instead Of Protect Us

The anti-mattering stance can come from many sources, such as facing constant rejection from potential romantic partners, employers, or even those rude people who never reply to your texts. However, Flett et al. propose that its most likely source can be traced to early childhood experiences of neglect by distracted and unresponsive parents. The hard shell around our need to matter eventually forms so that even the worst experiences of rejection will fail to penetrate.

A Shell That We Get Into Instead Of Out Of

Unfortunately, the more resistant the shell becomes to rejection or dismissive treatment, the harder it is for others to get through to us. Rewarding relationships become that much more difficult to attain as others learn that it's easier just to stay away from you.

Hurdles Are Both The Obstacles And The Race

To tap into the unique qualities of anti-mattering, Flett et al. set about to develop a new 5-item Anti-Mattering Scale (AMS). Across a series of studies using young adult and adolescent samples, Flett et al. first built and then compared their AMS to an existing "General Mattering Scale" (GMS) in its relationship to measures of depression, loneliness, and anxiety. You can best get a sense of what's at the heart of anti-mattering by testing yourself on these five items (rate yourself from 1=not at all, to 4=a lot).

The Anti-Mattering Scale (AMS)

<ol><li>How much do you feel like you don’t matter? </li><li>How often have you been treated in a way that makes you feel like you are insignificant? </li><li>To what extent have you been made to feel like you are invisible? </li><li>How much do you feel like you will never matter to certain people? </li><li>How often have you been made to feel by someone that they don’t care what you think or what you have to say? </li> </ol>Most of the participants in the undergraduate sample scored between 7 and 15 on this scale, with an average at just about 11.

The “Anti-Mattering” Test

Key to the idea of the AMS is that it's not just feeling unimportant (or low in mattering). These five items from the GMS (General Mattering Scale) show this nuanced difference. Rate yourself with the same scale as the AMS:<ol><li>How important are you to others?</li><li>How much do others pay attention to you?</li><li>How much would you be missed if you went away?</li><li>How interested are others in what you have to say?</li><li>How much do other people depend upon you?</li></ol>

The “General Mattering” Test

Participants tended to receive higher scores on the GMS than the AMS, with the average at 16 and the majority scoring between 13 and 18.From these averages alone, you can see that it is more common for people to feel that they have a valuable role in the life of others than to feel that they are not worth anyone's attention.

“I Am The Touching And The Untouchable.”

Now that you’ve tested yourself on AMS and seen how it differs from GMS, it’s time to turn to the psychological consequences of turning away from others as a self-protective mechanism. As shown in the Flett et al. findings, the patterns of scores on key indicators of mental health, including depression, loneliness, and anxiety, showed that anti-mattering wasn't simply the opposite of mattering.

Does Being High on Anti-Mattering Matter?

Most importantly, the findings across the young adult and adolescent samples confirmed the predicted relationship between anti-mattering and loneliness as well as the incremental effect on depression of high AMS vs. low GMS scores. This pattern reflects, in the words of the authors, “ties between low mattering and a maladaptive early schema reflecting disconnection and alienation from others.” Combined, high AMS and high loneliness scores produce what Flett et al. refer to as the “double jeopardy of feeling alone and insignificant.”

The Double Jeopardy

To sum up, feeling that we matter is clearly a contributor to positive mental health. Anti-mattering can become part of a larger identity in which we feel that we lack value to others, even contributing to a sense of marginalization. Although the York University findings established the negative consequences of anti-mattering among young adults and teens, this basic need appears to be one that can form an important cornerstone of healthy development throughout life.

A Serious Matter

If anything matters, then everything matters.

Everything matters. Nothing’s important.

On mattering, not mattering, but, more importantly, anti mattering. Would we (still) wear the Invisibility Cloak if we knew we could never take it off again?

New research shows the downside of feeling invisible on mental health.

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Why Mattering Is So Important to Our Mental Health

Mental toughness is the quality that can even make you fight up alone for all your problems.  Mental toughness is one of those qualities that can bring a great change in your life if you will apply it correctly in your life. The reason behind this is having a strong mentality will never let you down and you will never feel like you are going to end up in a fight.

Mental Toughness A Training Guide For A Better Life 

According to wikipedia Mental toughness is "Having the herbal or evolved mental part that permits you to: commonly, cope better than your fighters with the various demands (competition, training, way of life) that game locations on a performer; especially, be greater regular and better than your combatants in last determined.  It just simply means to be more mentally strong and able to resist and fight back to different situations more than your opponent.

What is the meaning of mental toughness?

Mental toughness is important because  <ul><li>Mental toughness prepares you mentally for big challenges. </li> </ul><ul><li>It increases your will power. </li> </ul><ul><li>It helps in giving a strong comeback against your problems  </li> </ul>

Why is mental toughness important ?

Stress and anxiety are the common problems that we all face in our society, career tension, personal life problems and much more. In order to stay mentally strong we need to come up above all those negative stuff. For having a strong mindset we need to clear our mind. Because mental toughness stays in a healthy mind, don't take too much stress, just be focused, ignore problems and work.

• Learn to deal with stress

Consider your weakness as your strength, find opportunities in your weakness, don't be afraid of them, just try improving them. Work alone on all your weaknesses and turn them into your strength. While you will <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/12/Self-improvement.html">improve yourself </a>regularly you are actually moving towards a strong mindset. Remember one thing: don't ever share your weakness with others if you are working for success then keep your secrets with you because you don't know who can betray you. Work in silence, improve yourself and let your success make noise for you.

• Confront your weakness

Self confidence is an ability to trust yourself . Self confidence means you have a trust on your skills and have a good knowledge about weakness and strength  <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/07/self-confidence-meaning-and-its-benefits.html">Self confidence </a>is another important aspect that can make you mentally strong, when you are more confident, then you can be more mentally strong because you know that you are right and self confidence creates a feeling that you are right.

• Boost your Self-confidence

In this world that's Full of competition, if you don't have enough knowledge then your chances of failure are more. Learn something new everyday it will boost your knowledge, will keep you updated and will even make you mentally strong. Check out Speeches, inspirational blogs, Podcasts and book summary because they will broaden your thinking and you will be able to learn something new.

• Have a hunger to learn something new

Most people avoid  challenges. They prefer to stay in their comfort zone and that's the biggest mistake of their life. To develop mental toughness you have to be tough , you have to face these challenges, because challenges are the staircase to the way of success. Avoid giving excuses, work hard, don't be afraid of failure.  Comfort zone is such a silly thing that can even ruin your whole life so if you are willing for success then want to come up with a strong mindset then come out from your comfort zone.

• Come out from your comfort zone

Mental toughness is essential and it's the basic need if you want to have a winning attitude or you are preparing yourself for long term success. Don't waste your time on stress, anxiety and other negative stuff. Just focus on yourself and how you can improve yourself. Good day:)

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Mental Toughness |  A Training guide for life

Milieu therapy is a widely used <a href="https://thehumancondition.com/psychotherapy-introduction-benefits/">therapeutic method</a> in <a href="https://thehumancondition.com/the-principles-of-group-therapy/">group counseling</a>. This treatment approach can be combined with other types of therapeutic interventions. It works by structuring the treatment environment to make participants feel safe and secure while undergoing treatment. Therapists use milieu therapy to treat a wide variety of issues and <a href="https://thehumancondition.com/mental-health-and-conditions/">psychological conditions</a>, including substance abuse and schizophrenia.

Milieu Therapy: Background, Uses, and Effectiveness

The term “milieu” refers to a setting or environment; milieu therapy is a type of psychotherapy that involves forming therapeutic communities among groups of clients who meet for treatment sessions.

Milieu Therapy: Background, Uses, and Effectiveness - The Human Condition

<ul><li>Before modern medicine, unexplained women's behaviors and illnesses were diagnosed as hysteria.</li><li>Symptoms of hysteria included fever and physical pain, as well as behaviors that didn't fit female stereotypes of passivity, feebleness, and fragility.</li><li>Mood swings, anxiety, and depression were all considered symptoms of hysteria.</li></ul>

Anorexia and Hysteria: A Shared History

<ul><li>Psychiatry asylums played a role in anorexia being recognized as its own medical condition separate from hysteria</li><li>At first, psychiatric institutions were places where people with mental illnesses were looked after, but not treated</li><li>This changed with a mental health reformation</li><li>People began to see mental illness as either curable or at least manageable through kindness and therapy</li><li>Psychiatric institutions began offering treatments and rehabilitation to the poor, and accountability came with it.</li></ul>

Separating Anorexia from Hysteria

<ul><li>Since the mid-1800s, we've gained a deeper understanding of why anorexia develops, but its early associations with hysteria have been difficult to escape</li><li>Anorexia and hysteria are not the same illness</li><li>In a 1982 Life Magazine article, it was claimed that "hysteria has almost disappeared, but if there is an equivalent today it is ANorexia, the psychosomatic disorder of young, middle-class women who won't eat."</li><li>A 1988 article from Harvard scientists still suggested that both illnesses were caused by female cultural stereotypes.</li></ul>

Modern Misconception

<ul><li>A psychosomatic disorder is a condition where observed physical symptoms don’t have medical explanations.</li><li>These symptoms are instead attributed to psychological things (e.g., stress, emotions, and personality).</li><li>Many times, we just haven't found medical explanations for them yet.</li><li>However, because we are beginning to find a medical explanation for why anorexia develops (particularly genetics and neurochemical dysfunction), we can't call it a purely psychosomatic condition.</li></ul>

Psychosomatic Disorder

<ul><li>Alexithymia is a personality trait that makes it difficult to identify our feelings, describe what other people are feeling, and to think imaginatively.</li><li>Illness denial is more difficult to find a medical explanation for, but emerging neurological explanations suggest that people with anorexia are not denying their illness out of stubbornness.</li></ul>

Medical Explanations for Psychosomatic Symptoms in Anorexia

Early links to hysteria have contributed to misconceptions about anorexia.

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Where Did Anorexia Stereotypes Come From?

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