Regret is a very real reaction to a disappointing event in your life, a choice you made that can’t be changed, something you said that you can’t take back. It’s one of those feelings you can’t seem to shake, a heavy and intrusive negative emotion that can last for minutes, days, years <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201205/the-psychology-regret">or even a lifetime </a>. Imaging studies reveal that feelings of regret show <a href="https://doi.org/10.1038/nn1514">increased activity </a> in an area of the brain called the medial orbitofrontal cortex.

Regret Is Very Real

Dealing with regret is even more difficult because of the other negative emotions connected to it: remorse, sorrow and helplessness. Regret can increase our stress, <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/03/110301111503.htm">negatively affect physical health </a> and throw off the balance of hormone and immune systems. Regret is not only unpleasant. It is unhealthy.

Dealing With Regret 

As with other negative emotions, it doesn’t work to avoid, deny or try to squash regret. In the long run, these tactics only increase negative feelings and prolong the time you suffer with them. Rather than stay stuck, people can manage these emotions in four steps: First, accept the fact that you are feeling them; determine why you are feeling them; allow yourself to learn from them; and finally, <a href="https://doi.org/10.1080/02699931.2015.1078292">release them and move forward </a>.

First Acce

This method of noticing and then restructuring your thoughts is sometimes called <a href="https://www.routledge.com/Living-Mindfully-Across-the-Lifespan-An-Intergenerational-Guide/Penberthy-Penberthy/p/book/9780367370152">cognitive reappraisal </a>. Seeing the situation in a different way may help reduce regret and help you <a href="https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/how-handle-regret">make future decisions </a>.

Cognitive Reappraisa

<a href="https://doi.org/10.1080/02699931.2015.1078292">Forgiving yourself </a> for actions taken or not taken is a powerful step toward overcoming regret. This has been formalized into a commonly used cognitive psychological model called <a href="https://www.evworthington-forgiveness.com/reach-forgiveness">REACH </a>, which asks people to recall the hurt (face it), empathize (be kind and compassionate), altruistically offer forgiveness (to oneself), commit publicly (share it) and then hold on to that forgiveness and <a href="https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.00671">stay true to the decision </a>. Research shows that six hours of work with a trained professional using this model <a href="https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.22073">can have a positive impact </a>.

REACH

This article is republished from <a href="https://theconversation.com/">The Conversation </a> under a Creative Commons license. Read the <a href="https://theconversation.com/regret-can-be-all-consuming-a-neurobehavioral-scientist-explains-how-people-can-overcome-it-172466">original article </a>.

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Dealing with regret is even more difficult because of the other negative emotions connected to it: remorse, sorrow, and helplessness.

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Regret can be all-consuming – a neurobehavioral scientist explains how people can overcome it

<ol><li>Practice act of kindness</li><li>Take small steps</li><li>Try relaxation methods</li><li>Identify specific situations that trigger anxiety</li><li>Accept and appreciate yourself</li><li>Practice Self-Care</li><li>Talk with a therapist</li></ol>

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Some people are naturally happy alone. But for others, being solo is a challenge. If you fall into the latter group, there are ways to become more comfortable with being alone (yes, even if you’re a hardcore extrovert).

Guide to Being Happy Alone

Avoid comparing yourself to others. ...Take a step back from social media. ...Take a phone break. ...Carve out time to let your mind wander. ...Take yourself on a date. ...Get physical. ...Spend time with nature. ...Lean into the perks of being alone.

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Practice self-kindness. In difficult moments, it's essential to practice self-kindness. ...Capitalize on the present moment. ...Connect in real life. ...Rethink how you spend your spare time. ...Do more things with people. ...Talk to strangers.

Ways To Overcome Loneliness

Reframe it. Casting a different light on what it means to be alone can sometimes make it easier to navigate feelings of loneliness. ... Fill your house with sound. ... Stay connected. ... Make the most of your interactions. ... Get outside. ... Talk about your feelings. ... Draw out your creative side. ... Consider a pet.

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It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking you need to have tons of friends and a packed social calendar to be happy. But there's plenty to be happy about when you're alone, too.

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Our minds need decluttering too. Whenever we are occupied by things that are not helpful, we are burying the good things underneath. Leave the things that don’t bring us joy, don’t let them steal our peace. 
Like the physical decluttering, you need to do it often. Every day if you can: just as you should tidy your room every day, so the mess doesn’t accumulate.

A Cluttered Mind Can Mess Up Your Life

Make a list. Are there any important things that you’ve wanted to do but never started? How important are they? What is making you delay them?
Understand whether and how these things are important. Then decide how to tackle the challenges preventing you from starting them. When everything is clearer, make a plan and follow it.

Clear Your Procrastination List

Daily practice of mindfulness will help you detach from your emotions and watch them from above. Many times we are worrying without recognizing it.
Worrying is the biggest unhelpful thing that can occupy our minds. It takes up so much space that we can’t enjoy the present. Mindfulness will help recognize it as soon as it emerges. When it does, acknowledge it and let it pass like a cloud in the sky, then move on with the present. Don’t let your worrying control you.

Stop Worrying

When you ignore or delay something that you promised to do, it still stays on top of your mind. Whenever you do something else, your brain will remind you that you should have been doing that other thing instead.
This is not helpful. Declutter the negative emotions for yourself so you can free up space for productive action.

Follow Through on Promises and Commitments

We can’t focus on ourselves when our brain is occupied with emotions related to someone else, or anger and hate of the world. We need inner peace before we can focus on the present. Let go of those emotions that you bear inside.
Your emotions will only affect you, not anyone else (unless you act on it). Find your closure if you need it, but let it go.

Let Go of Anger and Forgive

You don’t need a journal to know that someone or something is toxic to you.
You need to say NO to anything that takes you down from your current state.

Say No to People and Things that Drag You Down

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Fire, Unbridled chaos, the flames that cause so much utter ruin, the pressure, the release, can also forge the most indestructible of things. So is life. Those that have felt the most pain can provide empathy's comfort to so many that may also save the lives of so many others. Those that have endured, the strong of will, not those of the highest education, or the ones with the most physical strength, the fastest, most influential, financially endowed, or even the most humorous. For those all have fell to the false temptation of everlasting comfort of sleep, without fear or pain.

Well, This Is It.

Willpower, when mixed with free will. When those two are combined with the decision, to not give up, even through the most dire of situations, those are what we call heroes. As commonly used, all heroes don't weAr capes. Hard times create the strong, the strong create good times, good times create weak people, weak people create hard times, so it continues, indefinitely. True "heroes" are not made through good times. It's the average individual, that have been or will be faced with the decision of letting go of fear, reaching for the courage to forego extreme failure. Reaches for that dig-deep

And in that extremely extraordinary situation. Makes the choice, to endure. It's that release of fear of the future, saying that, what do I fear? I'm going to do it! I'm going to reach way down deep, deeper than the fear of 6 feet down. And valiantly says... FUCK DEATH. I HAVE MY HONOR AND THATS IT. I'LL NEVER NEVER NEVER SURRENDER. I WILL GIVE THIS ALL I HAVE. I WILL CONQUER. I WILL FUCKING MAKE IT. I KNOW I CAN. I FUCKING KNOW IT. And then. Goes pedal to the metal. "FUCK THE TORPEDOES!! FULL MOTHAFUKKIN THROTTLE"" IF I am wrong. I'M Damned. IF IM RIGHT, I'm gonna make it.

Conquerah

Sometimes, the only pull up bar you have to get up, is the invisible one, that's all in your mind. It's that dig-deep. You got this. Be your hero. Be your own gotdamnt hero. There will come a time, where you WILL realize, you are all you got. If you can make it through this. You can really make it through anything. I know it's difficult. Honestly, have you ever felt this dread of failure and doom? Have you? Really? Well, yes or no? If yes, well, then this shouldn't break a fucking sweat.

It's Your Decision

On the other hand, if this is, well, I suppose, your answer could most possibly be no, I've never faced anything this extreme, this traumatic experience, is the most possible worst case scenario I've ever faced. Well, if you can make that decision, and again, that's your own fucking decision, no one else's. You only have one viable option right now. That isn't to give up, it's to reach for that GOTDAMT invisible fucking bar, pull your own damn self up, feel that heart beat, take that breath, feel. Feel that? That's life.

Still Struggling?

No filter. That's heart. That's pain. That's fear of ruin, let that release with that breath, that's anger, take a moment, BREATHE THAT Shit IN. FEEL THAT?! BREATHE THAT SHIT OUT, FEEL THAT?! THAT'S RELEASE, TAKE IT ONE BREATH AT A FUCKING TIME, RELEASE THE FEAR. BUT LET THE PAIN FUEL YOU. NOW MAKE A DAMN CHOICE. GIVE UP, FAIL RIGHT THE FUCK NOW, OR BE A CONQUERA.

No Apologies

Once you are to a point you can endure one fucking breath at a time, well, then before you know it, a whole minute worth of breaths happen, then hours and days, THEN YOU WILL BE ABLE TO TAKE IT A DAY AT A TIME. Then maybe, in time, since time does heal all wounds, if you endure long enough, new memories will replace this one, and if a similar situation ever rears its ugly head for your unknown lengths of foreseeable future...

Time Heals All Wounds

When life knocks you down then- in the future, you can get back up, get that little cocky ass smirk and fucking chuckle, say, "Life, hahahah, you hit like a fucking bitch." That the best u got? I'm my own fucking saviour, IM THE MAIN CHARACTER IN MY OWN FUCKING BOOK!!! REMEMBER THAT LIFE?!?? THIS ISNT SHIT BITCH, LET'S GO. Now, it's time to fucking breathe, and reach for that dig deep.

Breathe Deep

We did it! No fucking way. Still breathing. Keep that shit up. Don't forget! Please! Please don't forget to keep on committing non suicide with me!! You're all I've got!! You got me? Yeah, aight.. Maybe... kk, well.. thanks me... I Guess...You're welcome! WE Got dis. Remember to breathe.

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The above sentence is a powerful sentence that can have a great impact on your life. How often is it that everybody does self talk and fill the above blank with negative words. I am a kind of person who is not confident. I am a kind of person who does not have courage.

"I am a kind of person who ____"

Think what thoughts are made up of, words.Thoughts are made up of words and sentences or in other way, the sentences you use are your thoughts. When you keep saying the above sentence in a negative way, neural pathway strengthens which makes your subconious mind believe and reinforce what you are saying. Think of it like everytime you tell that sentence in mind, you are feeding the neural pathway .The more you say the more it strengthens. Less you say, more it weakens.

Thoughts  = Sentences Power Of Words

Its a choice now! You decide you want to reinforce the negative sentences and strengthen it . Subconsious mind gives you more proof of what you have told it. If you have made your subconious mind believe in above sentence, more you will find and more the focus will be next time when you are in the similar situation.Its a loop.

You Decide You Want More Or Less Of It.

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Taking care of oneself improves health and well-being and includes many elements. One aspect of self-care that many people overlook is emotional self-care. Those who are easily stressed, frustrated or burned out, whether in their interactions with others or in their careers, can take steps to improve their emotional health and overall quality of life through emotional self-care.Learn More: <a href="https://thehumancondition.com/emotional-self-care-importance-benefits-practices/">Emotional Self-Care: Importance, Benefits, Practices</a>

Emotional Self-Care: Importance, Benefits, Practices

Emotional self-care can encompass any actions you take to cope with stress, express emotions, and foster positive feelings about life.

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<a href="https://thehumancondition.com/journaling-therapy/">Journaling</a> can be an extremely beneficial practice to maintain your <a href="https://thehumancondition.com/mental-health/">mental health</a> and well-being. Benefits from this form of <a href="https://thehumancondition.com/writing-therapy/">writing therapy</a> can include insights into inner processes such as thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, reduced <a href="https://thehumancondition.com/anxiety-and-related-conditions/">anxiety</a>, improved physical health, better body image, improved learning, critical thinking and achievement, improved attitude, and more.Learn More: <a href="https://thehumancondition.com/starting-a-journaling-practice-types-prompts/">Starting a Journaling Practice: Types and Prompts</a>

Starting a Journaling Practice: Types and Prompts

Starting a journaling practice can be extremely beneficial to maintain your mental health and well-being. There are several different types of journaling practices that you can choose from to get started.

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What your mental strength is what your attitude will be towards the innumerable hindrances and obstacles that are likely to come in your way in life.You can either live life one day at a time or plan elaborately for a distinct near future, but for all of that you need to develop a mental strength that would keep you rock solid no matter what surprises life throws at you.

Mental strength: How to boost it?

Psychologists define it as the measure of resilience when a certain individual braves adversity.Every individual exhibits a certain type of attitude while facing a difficult situation and that attitude entails mental strength.Negative turns in life events, crisis, financial issues, environmental factors are few of the unavoidable hindrances faced by every human being.The degree by which these negative incidents affect varies from individual to individual and the way a person responds to these effects is what constitutes mental strength.

What is mental strength?

In order to boost mental strength, one needs to adopt a psychological exercise. This involves understanding core beliefs, figuring out the strengths and weaknesses, creating extra space for positive thoughts, knowing a proper way to channel emotions, and observing daily activities.Always use mental energy judiciously in order to boost mental strength. "Wasting brain power ruminating about things you can’t control drains mental energy quickly. The more you think about negativity that you can’t solve, the less energy you’ll have leftover for creative endeavour" an article in Forbes.

How to boost mental strength?

Mental energy should be used for productive tasks. For example, try to find a long forgotten hobby or leisure activity that you had interest in during school days. When your thoughts are not productive, try to distract it towards the hobby. A hobby engages your mind no matter how stressed you are, because it is something that you love doing.

How to use mental energy?

Though self-isolation is the need of the hour due to rising cases of Omicron, it is not isolation literally. Though one is confined within four walls to stop the spread of the virus, one can always reach out to people virtually. Make the most use of the internet. Participate in group interactions, share your ideas, discuss on varied topics, and gain positive insights.

Interact, don't isolate

Do not stop reading, no matter how difficult it is for you to concentrate. Reading books on self development will not only give your insights on coping with stress, it will also make you aware of various facts that can actually productively boost your mental health. The time engaged in reading can never go in vain.

Read, read, read

What your mental strength is what your attitude will be towards the innumerable hindrances and obstacles that are likely to come in your way in life. You can either live life one day at a time or plan elaborately for a distinct near future, but for all of that you need to develop a mental strength that would keep you rock solid no matter what surprises life throws at you.

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Be mindful of your ideas. Examine them. Recognize how your fear presents itself in you. Do you sway? Feeling tense? Sweat? Do you feel ill? Is it continual ruminating or thinking?

Be Watchful

You may begin to analyze the patterns and triggers after you are aware of how the sensation shows itself in you. What causes the fear to arise? Is it continuous or sporadic? Are there any particular physical or emotional triggers? Understanding the triggers can assist us in determining where the fear is coming from and what we need to address.

Recognize

Perception is everything in life; you may see things in any way, shape, or form. Rather than being terrified of something, turn it into a challenge.

Change Your Mindset

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results.

What’s up, it’s @hackedongrowth here, What is preventing us from progressing? Fear. If you’re a high achiever, you probably refer to it as stress.Stress is related to fear.We have all experienced fear at some point in our lives, whether it be fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of love, fear of being alone, or dread of the unknown.

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