Knowing when to quit We all know the benefits of perseverance to be one of valuable life skills. “Keep pushing it, you’ll get there.”  “Or just keep going it will be alright,” It’s a good advice, and one  I try to live by too. But I’ve also realized that while it’s great to give things time enough to fail or succeed, at times, what we NEED is to know when to quit!

For real, knowing when to quit before hitting rock bottom, isn’t clear to most people, but it’s an extremely important skill that everyone should learn. Everyone. I’m not writing this to discourage you so that you can give up on things easily. The scope behind this article is to encourage you to take a bold step out of any toxic situation in life—not to imply giving up on a course that has the potential for success.

It’s like we’ve been rewired to believe quitting means failure. It’s why some people prefer to stick to something, even when it grieves them, so as to avoid judgement from others. This problematic situation mostly attributes to life in general–we’ve instilled the idea of persevering to the end that we can’t—read between the lines—or know when to quit or keep going. There’s a quote that says “losers are quitters, winners never quit”  Well, this isn’t a matter of whether losers are quitters or not, it’s a matter of being brave enough to discern when to stay or step away from something.

What am I saying in essence? Learning to quit in this aspect, is the ability to self-assess situations, and question whether you should keep going or quit. It’s a skill everyone should learn to scale through life.

As a matter of fact, there are unique instances in life where people have to quit their jobs or relationships. There are certain circumstances where people have blind spots concerning the wrong decision they make. To back it up I’ve compiled these are 3 most important areas of life where we make the most mistake; <ul><li>Making a wrong career move </li><li>Staying too long at a job </li><li>Taking too long to walk out on toxic relationship </li> </ul>

Assuming you want to be a model or an actor, do you want to be in either of these industries because you are in love with the prospect of modeling/acting? or you got your aspirations from the fame and fortune that comes with being in the spotlight, the centre of attraction ?

1. Making a Wrong Career Move

If later is the case, you’ll be wasting time doing something that’s not worth a drop of your sweat, when you can be much appreciated elsewhere. You’ll never be happy or fulfilled no matter how hard you try. There are a lot of undiscovered active models or actors on cue doing menial jobs, many of them seem to be ok with the small wins, hoping that one day, they’ll hit the jackpot and be discovered. People like that are at risk of being stuck, especially if they’re just after the fame. They might struggle fruitlessly unless they decide to do something else.

They automatically stop being intentional. They stop questioning whether their decisions will lead them to the life they want to live, rather than doing what they want and what makes them happy, healthy, and free.

What does this mean to you? If it means you love your job but the circumstances don’t allow you to perform at your highest potential, or you’ve decided the workload with the low paycheck isn’t worth your efforts then you’re better off leaving. But what if you want a change, what if you want a career change? Then I say, if it means that much to you, don’t be afraid to do it if you can.

2. Keeping a Job That Drains You 

I’ve seen quite a few of what toxic relationships look like and I must say… It takes good foresight and courage to exit a toxic relationship quickly. ( I mean run-as-fast-as your-legs-can afford-you type of exit) Here’s why —first off—It’s worth noting that bad relationships sometimes don’t seem bad at all, and things aren’t always a shithole from the inside. You share happy moments and there are even glimpses of the change you hoped for, or moments that you believe are THE  turning point . But possibilities can be both a blessing and a curse.

3. Taking Too Long to Walk out on Toxic Relationship

The truth is we don’t have any real control over other people, the only person we have control over is ourselves. Unfortunately, the potential you sometimes see in others, the hope you have for who they can become, only goes that far… Trapped in the waiting zone. For any miracle to surface, the other person must see and work for the same potential. They, too, must be invested in the relationship just as much as you.

But many people don’t get that. Or they don’t want to? Ok maybe not when they are seeing some kind of miracle? They just hold on to the feeling, hoping that their partner will come around. So many people are hurt because they keep hanging around until they’re hurt, broken, and drained. Call abuse for what it is , and don’t hang around people that will keep receiving from you with no guarantee to receive. Walk away while you can, or you allow being take for a long, long ride.

So friend, “Not everything has to keep heading in the same direction, everything has to end.” Michael Jordan was widely considered one of the greatest basketball players of all time, but his decision to retire and return to the game several times took away from his legacy. He retired from the Chicago Bulls in 1998, but returned to play for the Washington Wizards in 2001 damaged his legacy. He retired again in 2003, but returned to play for the Bulls in 2009.

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This constant switching between retirement and playing took away from his image as an all-time great. People felt that his return to the league was simply for financial gain and that he had lost the passion and drive that made him a dominant force in the game.

Another example was Lance Armstrong. He was once considered one of the greatest cyclists of all time, but his decision to continue racing after being stripped of his seven Tour de France titles due to doping allegations damaged his credibility. Many felt that his continued participation in the sport was a desperate attempt to salvage his reputation and so he lost the respect of the cycling community. This famous figures experiences are testimonials for life in general, because they all screen “quit when you should” from the rooftop.”

Not every face of your life has to keep going in one direction. And no one can teach you exactly how to do that better than yourself.

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Knowing when to quit We all know the benefits of perseverance to be one of valuable life skills. "Keep pushing it, you'll get there." "Or just keep going it will be alright," It's a good advice, and one I try to live by too. But I've also realized that while it's great to give

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It frees you to pursue your own interests, both personal and professional. To that end, it’ll boost your productivity, improve your relationships, and fill you with a sense of confident calm that may seem alien to you at this moment.

Saying no to people is one of the most important skills you can

Being assertive means having the self-confidence to express your needs and wants, and pursue your own ends, even in the face of opposition. It involves telling people where you stand on a given topic and leaving no room for confusion. Assertiveness is declaring your point of view and not feeling as if you need others’ approval or validation. It is a learned trait.

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We want others to be drawn to us, to trust us, and to feel better for having spent time with us. It's unsurprising that we often say yes when we know we should say no. It's an instinctive response borne of our longing for other people's approval. But it's important to recognize this yearning for validation as a trigger for our tendency to say yes. When we're aware of our motivations, we can review them and take steps to realign our decisions with our values.

We want others to like us

Emotional bullying occurs when one person makes another feel afraid, angry, or self-conscious for the purpose of achieving his or her ends. This is accomplished through a variety of means, including the following: yelling, swearing, making threats, lobbing insults, humiliation, making accusations. Take the high road. Because you're aware that the abuser is knowingly being manipulative, you'll be less compelled by his or her tactics. You won't feel shamed, fearful, guilty, or embarrassed. Instead, you'll recognize the bully's shouting and swearing as indications of his or her personality flaws.

We succumb to emotional bullying

Burdened with a low self-image, we mistakenly believe our time is worth less than others' time. We wrongly assume our goals and interests are inferior to other people's goals and interests. We perceive our value to the world as somehow less than the value offered by those around us.

Disappointment springs from unmet expectations. When you acknowledge this fact, you'll find it easier to let go of your fear of disappointing people when you say no to them. You'll come to appreciate that their disappointment is neither your fault nor responsibility. This perspective will give you the courage to stop accommodating every request and invitation that comes your way.

You're not responsible for causing others disappointment

The more you do it, the more you'll come to realize that your time, commitments, and aspirations are just as important as those of the requestor.

Saying no can actually improve your sense of self-worth.

The word "no" carries an air of final-ity. Many people are ill-prepared to hear it, and lack the ability to accept it with poise and understanding.

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If we avoid taking ownership of our decisions to decline requests, we never feel truly empowered with a sense of personal agency. Every time we say "I can't," we train our minds to avoid taking responsibility. Over time, this gives us the false sense that we're not in control.

Take ownership of your decision

They have higher expectations of you than your coworkers, friends, and neighbors. They expect you to drop what you're doing to help them. The solution is to set new expectations. You must establish boundaries that are respected by your relatives. Create rules regarding what you're willing to help with and what you're not willing to help with.

Saying no to extended family can be uncomfortable

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Stop Being A People Pleaser! Learn How To Set Boundaries And Say NO - Without Feeling Guilty! Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them?If so, THE ART OF SAYING NO is for you.Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process. DOWNLOAD The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) Amazon bestselling author, Damon Zahariades, provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You'll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you'll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority.In THE ART OF SAYING NO, you'll discover: <ul> <li>my personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!)</li> <li>the top 11 reasons we tend to say yes when we know we should say no</li> <li>10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse</li> <li>why saying no to people doesn't make you a bad person (the opposite is true!)</li> <li>the best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries</li> <li>how to know whether you're a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)</li> </ul> PLUS, BONUS MATERIAL: dedicated sections on saying no to your spouse, kids, friends, neighbors, coworkers, clients, bosses, and even strangers!If you're sick and tired of being taken for granted, grab your copy of THE ART OF SAYING NO today! Start taking control of your life by learning how to say that simple, beautiful word: "No."Scroll to the top of the page and click the "BUY NOW" button!

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6 Healthy Habits that Make You Mentally Strong

Feeling any negative emotions (e.g. anger, anxious, fear, upset, anxious, etc.) doesn't make you weak. It is perfectly normal to experience these. It is when you don't allow those negative emotions control you is what makes you mentally stronger. Recognizing emotions is different from acknowledging them.

1. You Are In Control Of Your Emotions

When you think critically about your thoughts and beliefs, you're actually challenging yourself to think more. With the internet being easily accessible, there's so much information to take in and analyze. This can be overwhelming when you're trying to keep up with what's true and what's not. Mentally strong people make a habit of questioning and thinking critically about the things they come across. Questioning things that you read or heard gives you a reason to dig deeper, resulting into learning more.

2. You Question Your Thoughts And Beliefs

Creating healthy boundaries for the people in your life is a good habit for your mental strength. According to the article of PsychCentral (n.d), boundaries are a measure of self esteem. When you create healthy boundaries, you're letting other people know how to treat you which allows you to be your best self. When you don't have clear boundaries, it's easy to say yes or agree to whatever they say, which can be pretty exhausting.

3. You Have Healthy Boundaries In Place For Yourself

Obsessing over things you've done in the past only adds more stress to yourself. When you started to think about what happened, figure out why it happened and where it went wrong, and make a plan for how to improve, you'll become mentally stronger because it shows that you're choosing to grow and to learn.

4. You Actively Learn From Your Mistakes

Social media is huge part in our society, especially with our technology being accessible to all. It can be a great way to connect with friends and family and is filled with pictures or opinions of strangers. Apps like Facebook or Instagram make it easy for you to compare your life to others. Those nice beautiful pictures and their post about their happy life can get you jealous and an unhealty comparision can start in your heart. When you scroll through social media, you can start to think you aren't good enough. Limiting the use of social media can help you end your comparison with others.

5. You Limit Yourself On Social Media

Going above and beyond and keeping up on productice tasks can be exhausting too, and if you don't pay time for yourself to recharge, your mental health can take a hit. According to na article relased from PsychCentral (n.d.), downtown allows your brain to restore attention and motivation. It promotes creativity, strengthens memory, and can even make you more productive in the long run. When you take a little time out of your busy day, you're allowing your mind to take a break and recharge.

6. Taking Time For Youself

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What does it mean to be mentally strong? Well, in the field of psychology, “mental resilience” or “mental toughness” is defined as a person’s capacity to effectively deal with stressors, challenges, and adverse situations, and still perform well in spite of their circumstances. It’s also been found to be a significant predictor for both academic and occupational success, as well as physical health, happiness, and life satisfaction. So there’s certainly no debating the fact that being mentally strong matters. But how do we do it? What are the ways we can improve and cultivate our mental strength?

There are also a few habits mentally strong people generally don't do. Curious to know what they are? Check out this video: https://youtu.be/GikjZQmeTFY 

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“Just be yourself.” What a frustrating piece of advice, right? Actually… what if I told you it is <a href="https://giovannispezia.com/why-you-cant-be-happy/">the secret to living a happy, fulfilling, and overall better life</a>?

Introduction

<ul><li>You can’t be anybody else other than yourself.</li><li>People will always have something to say about you, no matter what.</li><li>By being yourself among others, you start to attract people who are similar to you.</li></ul>

Why You Should Be Yourself

Most people don’t even know how to be themselves, the problem here is that you haven’t been yourself for years.You have been this fake version of yourself, buying into all these limitations, not achieving what you truly are capable of, and you’ve been there for so long that you confused it with authenticity.

The Problem With Being Yourself

<ol><li>Find what matters to you. Take time to <a href="https://giovannispezia.com/why-doing-nothing-is-good-for-you/">reflect on what matters to you</a> and how you want to live your life.</li><li>Embrace your strengths and imperfections. Take the time to get to know yourself and recognize your strengths and weaknesses. Be bold and embrace both, as they make you unique and special.</li></ol>

Identify Your Values

<ul><li>It’s essential to make decisions that reflect your values and not be afraid to speak your truth.</li><li>Don’t be afraid to say no when it’s right for you. By being honest, you’re showing that you are true to yourself and that you won’t be swayed by external pressures.</li></ul>

Practice Authenticity

<ul><li>Understand why you should be yourself</li><li>Don’t fall into the problem with this advice</li><li>Identify your values</li><li>Practice authenticity</li></ul>

Wrap Up

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What is Self-Awareness? It is the ability to recognize and understand one's own emotions, thoughts, and actions. It involves being aware of the present moment, one's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and the environment around them.

Self-Understanding

Self-awareness is important because it helps us better understand our emotions, thoughts, and behaviours. It allows us to be in tune with our needs, strengths, and weaknesses, so we can make more conscious decisions. It also helps us to communicate better with others, set achievable goals, and be more confident in our abilities.<a href="https://productive.fish/blog/self-awareness/">Being self-aware</a> can help us create meaningful relationships, overcome personal challenges, and lead a more fulfilling life.

Why is Self-Awareness Important?

<a href="https://productive.fish/blog/self-awareness/">Increasing self-awareness</a> involves taking a deliberate and intentional approach to understand and reflect on one's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This process of introspection and self-reflection can lead to greater understanding of one's strengths, weaknesses, motivations, and habits.By becoming more aware of these aspects of ourselves, we can make more informed decisions, develop healthier relationships, and work towards personal growth and fulfillment.

How to Increase Self Awareness

Regularly take time to reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and how they impact your daily life.

Practice mindfulness and introspection

Ask friends, family members, or coworkers for their perspectives on your behavior and habits.

Seek feedback from others

Writing down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences can help you gain insight into your patterns of behavior and emotions.

Keep a journal

Consider participating in activities such as meditation, therapy, or workshops that encourage self-reflection and self-discovery.

Engage in self-reflection activities

Self-awareness is the conscious knowledge and understanding of one's own personality, feelings, thoughts, and sensations.

Uncover what is self-awareness, why does it matter, and how to improve your self-awareness to reach your goals and live a more positive life.

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During separation, children may experience big and challenging feelings such as grief, anger, frustration, isolation, and loneliness. It's important to acknowledge their emotions and be there for them. Support and stay in contact with your co-parent, to ensure your children feel safe. If your child can't stay overnight with the other parent, think of alternative ways for them to bond. Putting the children's needs first is key.

1. Put your children first

It's important to talk to your children about different parenting styles and household rules, respecting that each is okay as long as the child is safe.<ul><li>Recognize if fear of letting children stay with the other parent overnight is due to legitimate safety concerns or the need for control. </li><li>Ask yourself if being with the other parent is harmful or just different routines. </li><li>Avoid fighting and broken relationships by letting them go if safe.</li></ul>

2. Accept different parenting styles

Be a positive role model for your children. Show them how to handle change and unexpected events by staying calm and composed, even when things don't go according to plan. Encourage connection with their other parent by having photos, phone calls, and responding positively to their stories. Your children are watching and taking cues from you, so lead by example and focus on connecting with them when they are with you.

3. Be calm and focus on connection

Routines bring stability and improved resiliency to families during uncertain times. Determine your family's specific needs and prioritize 2-3 morning, afternoon, or evening routines to anchor the day and keep it on track.

4. Keep to regular routines within families

Having a plan for parenting responsibilities and care arrangements is essential for a successful co-parenting relationship. Putting the needs of the children first and using common sense decision making can help navigate the new relationship between parents and minimize miscommunication. The plan should include a schedule for:<ul><li>Visitation</li><li>Education</li><li>Medical needs</li><li>Financial support</li><li>Special occasions</li><li>And guidelines for decision making and conflict resolution.</li></ul>

5. Develop a Co-Parenting Plan

<ul><li>Be flexible in co-parenting arrangements</li><li>Use common sense to solve challenges</li><li>Give notice and communication options to other parent</li><li>Be open to conversations and adjustments</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Practice mutual understanding, as it may be your turn to request adjustments.</li></ul>

6. Be open and flexible

When your co-parent refuses to be flexible, the best course of action is to Seek a Court Order to ensure the health and safety of your children. If the other parent is uncooperative, this may be the only way to resolve any issues. Regardless of the situation, it is important to do your best as a parent and prioritize the well-being of your children.

7. When your co-parent won’t be flexible

<ol><li>Co-parenting can be done in different ways, so think creatively to find solutions that benefit everyone.</li><li>Finding the right balance in co-parenting takes time, patience and good communication.</li><li>Both parents should work together and put aside their differences to create a positive environment for their children's growth and development.</li></ol>

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It takes a village to raise a child.

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The sun symbolizes the rise and fall, the importance of night and day, summer and winter; in essence, to be equally comfortable while shining and while setting. The moon symbolizes our hidden realities and emotions, shows us how to go through cycles and phases, a reminder of lifes changing nature. Everything we experience we have the urge to label. However, the labels we place on feelings and experiences don't necessarily define them.

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The labeling of good vs bad experiences in our head becomes the memory of that said experience. Good is simply a point of perceived advantage and bad is a point of perceived disadvantage formulated as a labeled perception post experience. Good experiences make you happy or motivate you to carry on, bad experiences guides your attention towards what needs change.

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Our internal condition bias determines our observation and this 'lens' cannot ever be entirely removed from our experience. It is our emotional reaction to that perception stimulus that becomes the memory of what transpired. Sun rise to sun set, full moon to new moon, yet we cling on to labeled memories as if they are god given instructions that dictate new perceptions so we can easily define our journey and who we are. The realization of that mechanism liberates the self from the identity, and the experience from the label.

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Memories are a perception of a past reality, a probable present, and a tool to either change or fixate your future. So use your memories as data working towards the values you hold dear, rather than the identity you hold dear. In short, dont get stuck in the past, unless u really want too.

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Dont get stuck in the past unless u really want too.

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Life’s toughest challenges can feel overwhelming. The courage to do hard things is not easy but necessary for growth and development. “Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood,” says Ralph Waldo Emerson. When faced with a difficult situation, you might ask yourself: Is this worth the risk? Is this worth my time and energy? Am I ready for this challenge? “No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility,” says Orson F. Whitney.

22 Short Rules That Will Get You Through Hard Times In Life

All form of life is transformation — a process. Many of those evolutionary changes are not linear. Your perception and interpretation of life determine who you are becoming. Lessons learned through life experiences can help shape your perspective, values, and beliefs.“I learned a lesson I’d never forget. The lesson was that, when you have setbacks and failures, you can’t overreact to them,” Angela Duckworth.If you’ve ever been through a challenging experience (broken relationship, lost a job, divorced, lost a loved one, or been betrayed), these practical pieces of wisdom can help you thrive.

If you’ve ever been through a challenging experience (broken relationship, lost a job, divorced, lost a loved one, or been betrayed), these practical pieces of wisdom can help you thrive.

<h3>Find meaning: Difficult challenges can be overwhelming, but finding meaning and purpose can help you cope. Reflect on what is truly important to you and strive to align your actions with your values.</h3><h3> </h3>

Be flexible and adaptable: Be open to new ideas and be willing to change course if necessary. The ability to adapt is crucial for overcoming obstacles and moving forward.

Once we truly know that life is difficult — once we truly understand and accept it — then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.” — M. Scott Peck

Focus on what you can control: Instead of worrying about things you can’t control, focus on what you can control and take action to improve them.

Keep things in perspective: When facing tough challenges, it’s easy to get caught up in the moment and exaggerate the importance of the problem. Try to keep things in perspective, and remind yourself that, while the challenge may seem difficult, it is not the end of the world.

Stay resilient: Life’s most demanding challenges can knock you down, but it’s essential to get back up and keep going. Cultivate resilience by focusing on your strengths, learning from your mistakes, and seeking help and support when needed.

Embrace change: Life is constantly changing, and being adaptable and open to new opportunities is essential for thriving. Embrace change as a chance to grow and learn.

Practice self-compassion: Be kind and understanding towards yourself. Recognize that everyone goes through struggles, and you must be patient with yourself as you work through them.

Seek out positivity: Surround yourself with positive people and things that bring you joy. Focusing on the good things in your life can help you stay motivated and optimistic.

Embrace uncertainty: Life is uncertain, and learning to accept it is crucial for your sanity. Embrace the uncertainty and be open to new possibilities.

Practice mindfulness: Learn to stay present at the moment. It can also help you better understand yourself and your emotions, which can be valuable in navigating life’s tough roads.

Let go of perfectionism: Perfectionism can hold you back and make it difficult to cope in life. It’s important to remember that mistakes and failures are normal, and it’s okay not to be perfect.

Prioritise self-care: Taking care of yourself should be a top priority, especially during tough times. Get enough sleep, exercise, and eat well to maintain your physical and mental well-being.

Reframe negative thoughts: Negative thoughts can hold you back and make it difficult to overcome challenges. Reframe negative thoughts by challenging them with positive and realistic thoughts.

Practice forgiveness: Holding onto anger, resentment, and grudges can make moving forward from tough experiences. Practice forgiveness towards yourself and others as it can help to release negative emotions and promote emotional well-being.

Learn from even hard experiences: Every experience, whether positive or negative, can be a valuable learning opportunity. Take the time to reflect on what you’ve learned from your experiences and how you can apply that knowledge in the future.

Keep a sense of humor: Laughter and a sense of humor can be powerful tools for challenging experiences. Don’t take yourself too seriously; try to find humor in difficult situations.

Practice self-reflection: Take time to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and actions during difficult times. This self-reflection can help you to gain a better understanding of yourself and how you respond to challenges.

You’re going to go through tough times — that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events. — Joel Osteen

Cultivate gratitude and appreciation: Focusing on what you’re thankful for can help you maintain a positive outlook. Take time each day to reflect on what you’re grateful for and appreciate the good in your life.

Keep a growth mindset: That means believing you can grow and improve through effort and learning. This mindset can help you to see challenges as opportunities for growth and development.

Find inspiration: Find inspiration in others who have faced similar challenges and overcome them. Their stories can provide motivation and remind you that you are not alone in your struggles.

22 Short Rules To Get Through Hard Times In Life 

If you’ve ever been through a challenging experience , these practical pieces of wisdom can help you get through the hard times in life - and actually thrive.

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It appears to me that you are right in feeling especial fear of [the passion of anger], which is above all others hideous and wild: for the other [passions] have some alloy of peace and quiet, but this consists wholly in action and the impulse of grief, raging with an utterly inhuman lust for arms, blood and tortures, careless of itself provided it hurts another, rushing upon the very point of the sword, and greedy for revenge even when it drags the avenger to ruin with itself.

Some of the wisest of men have […] called anger a short madness: for it is equally devoid of self control, regardless of decorum, forgetful of kinship, obstinately engrossed in whatever it begins to do, deaf to reason and advice, excited by trifling causes, awkward at perceiving what is true and just, and very like a falling rock which breaks itself to pieces upon the very thing which it crushes.

There is no animal so hateful and venomous by nature that it does not, when seized by anger, show additional fierceness. I know well that the other passions, can hardly be concealed, and that lust, fear, and boldness give signs of their presence and may be discovered beforehand, for there is no one of the stronger passions that does not affect the countenance: what then is the difference between them and anger? Why, that the other passions are visible, but that this is conspicuous.

Aristotle’s definition [of anger] differs little from mine: for he declares anger to be a desire to repay suffering. It would be a long task to examine the differences between his definition and mine: it may be urged against both of them that wild beasts become angry without being excited by injury, and without any idea of punishing others or requiting them with pain: for, even though they do these things, these are not what they aim at doing.

We must admit, however, that neither wild beasts nor any other creature except man is subject to anger: for, whilst anger is the foe of reason, it nevertheless does not arise in any place where reason cannot dwell. Wild beasts have impulses, fury, cruelty, combativeness: they have not anger any more than they have luxury: yet they indulge in some pleasures with less self-control than human beings.

When [the poet] speaks of beasts being angry he means that they are excited, roused up: for indeed they know no more how to be angry than they know how to pardon. Dumb creatures have not human feelings, but have certain impulses which resemble them. […] Their impulses and outbreaks are violent, [but] they do not feel fear, anxieties, grief, or anger, but some semblances of these feelings: wherefore they quickly drop them and adopt the converse of them: they graze after showing the most vehement rage and terror, and after frantic bellowing and plunging they straightway sink into quiet sleep.

The difference between [anger] and irascibility is evident: it is the same as that between a drunken man and a drunkard; between a frightened man and a coward. It is possible for an angry man not to be irascible; an irascible man may sometimes not be angry.

“No plague has cost the human race more dear.” - Seneca

De Ira or "On Anger" is an essay on anger by Seneca the Younger. The work offers advice on controlling anger and to make it subject to reason. It is not clear to scholars who wrote the first work on the subject of passions or emotions (the terms are thought interchangeable), but while Xenocrates (396/5-314/3 BCE) and Aristotle (384-322 BCE) were students at Plato's Academy, a discussion on emotions took place which provided likely the impetus for all later work on the subject. The Stoic Posidonius of Apamea (c.135 - 51 BCE) is considered the main source for Seneca, also the work of Theophrastus, Antipater of Tarsus, Philodemus of Gadara, Sotion of Alexandria, Xenocrates (active sometime after 346 BCE) and Aristotle (c. 384-322 BCE ). Other influences may have included works On Passions by the Stoic philosophers Zeno of Citium, Chrysippus, Aristo of Chios, Herillus, Hecato of Rhodes, and the Peripatetic philosopher Andronicus of Rhodes (c. 1st century B.C.). Within the context of Stoicism, which seeks to aid and guide the person in a development out of a life of slavery to behaviors and ways of the vices, to freedom within a life characterized by virtue, de Ira posits this as achievable by the development of an understanding of how to control the passions, anger being classified as a passion, and to make these subject to reason.Seneca's thoughts of the relationship of the passions to reason, are that the passions arise in a rational mind as a result of a misperceiving or misunderstanding of reality.

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I’m so done living within the confines of my comfort zone.

It's time to Read like a Pro.

It's time to
Read like a Pro.