Relationships can be hard work and are even more difficult when you feel disrespected 🤦‍♀️When a relationship is built upon a foundation of love and respect, you and your partner can create a relationship that builds you both up to be stronger, happier, and more fulfilled.

It all starts with respecting your partner.

Many of us feel the need to be in a relationship, so we rush into one.This can lead to people being in unhealthy relationships that don't meet their needs. It can be difficult to know with certainty what constitutes an unhealthy relationship. Thinking that a bad relationship is better than nothing is incorrect and dangerous.Another common misconception is that, if being in a relationship is normal, it must be easy. The truth is relationships are difficult, and everyone has problems with them from time to time.

It Seems Like Everyone Is In A Relationship.

In fact, divorce rates are declining, especially in younger couples, possibly because they tend to marry later in life than members of previous generations did. This suggests that more people are taking the time to find healthier relationships based on love and respect rather than getting hitched as soon as possible and trying to make it work. The first step to building a healthy relationship based on love and respect, is understanding these two dynamics.

Relationships Are Not Impossible To Navigate.

Everyone knows what love is; they just don't know how to describe it.Several psychologists have developed theories to explain love and what it means in our lives.For example, Freud described true love as finding your "ego ideal," a substitute for one's perfect image of oneself.Sternberg devised his Triangular Theory of Love. It depicts a triangle as the totality of a love relationship with the peaks of the triangle representing intimacy, passion, and decision.

What Is Love?

The philosopher Kant stated that everyone deserves basic respect just by being human.To feel respected is to feel safe, accepted as you are, valued, and encouraged to be your highest, truest self. When you feel respect for someone, you naturally want to act in ways that honor them. When you're with them, you show them kindness, courtesy, and consideration. You don't try to force them to be like you because you appreciate them for their differences and accept them as they are. Because you respect them, you treat them fairly.

What Is Respect?

Respect is important in all human relationships. If you don't respect someone, you can at least give them basic human respect or respect the role they play.True respect, however, is especially important in love relationships. Because lasting love relationships help define who you are as a person, it's crucial that the relationship is a healthy one. When you and your partner respect each other, you create a healthy relationship in which you can both mature and gain personal strength throughout your lifetime.

Why Respect Matters

When you fail to respect your partner, you prevent yourself from getting honest respect from them in return.Your failure creates an environment where your partner can't be their best. Just as important, you put yourself in that same environment, where love is more like a disease and a burden to both of you.

Prioritizing respect isn't just about avoiding a bad relationship. It offers many positive benefits for you individually and for you and your partner as a couple.A respectful love relationship can help each of you as individuals by:<ul><li>Giving you an emotionally safe space</li><li>Building self-confidence</li><li>Allowing freedom and independence</li><li>Fostering personal growth</li><li>Increasing motivation to excel at what you do</li><li>Bringing you feelings of self-worth and acceptance from another</li><li>Helping you see the world in a positive light</li></ul>

The Value of a Respectful, Love Relationship

The same type of love can also do the following for you as a couple:<ul><li>Improve communication within the relationship</li><li>Empower you to deal with conflict in healthy and productive ways</li><li>Help you make better decisions as a couple</li><li>Let you enjoy each other's company more</li><li>Help you work out differences without ending the relationship</li></ul>

<ul><li>Are they naturally friendly, humorous, wise, or serene?</li><li>What about their achievements?</li><li>What have they done that impresses you?</li><li>What are they good at?</li><li>Are they a great artist, parent, businessperson, or home decorator?</li><li>Are they able to do things others can't?</li></ul>You set the stage for treating them with respect by focusing on what makes your partner the unique combination of abilities, achievements, and personal qualities that only they are.

When you truly love someone, you want the best for them. If you want to give them your best, it stands to reason that you have to give them your utmost respect. How do you do that? You do it by the way you think about them, express yourself, and behave toward them.

Keys To Developing Respectful Love

If you don't see anything to respect about your partner, why would you be with them? You probably do believe there's something admirable about them. Perhaps you just haven't thought about it much. If not, now's a great time.First, remember that they deserve basic human respect. Then, consider the things you admire about them specifically. Think about their qualities.

See Your Partner as Deserving of Respect

You'll never know just how admirable your partner is if you don't take note of what they do, how they behave, and what they accomplish. Build your respect by noticing their triumphs. Notice which of their achievements makes them happiest. Be aware of their unique characteristics.Everyone has value and something good in them. If you're paying attention, you'll see more of what makes them who they are.

Be Observant

Most people have an idea of what their perfect partner would be like. This ideal image doesn't help you build respect for your partner. Set it aside, and see your partner for who they are. Instead of complaining that they aren't what you would like them to be, celebrate them as they are.

Appreciate Your Partner for Who They Are

Your respect will impact your partner more when you communicate it well. Let them know what you admire about them. Show them how happy you are when they accomplish something that impresses you.You can communicate through words or looks of approval. Don't stop with complimenting them directly. Tell others how much you value their accomplishments and personal character. Sometimes, hearing from their friends how you feel can be just as pleasing to your partner as hearing it from you.

Communicate Your Respect

Your partner may help you in many ways. They may encourage you to do your best. They may help you in practical ways, too, like supporting you while you advance in your education or your career.No matter what they do for you though, don't lose sight of their value in just being who they are. Certainly, you need to let them know you appreciate what they do for you. Go beyond that. Let them know that even when they aren't doing anything for you, you admire them in their own right.

Treat Your Partner as Inherently Valuable, Not A Means to an End

Every action is a choice. Think before you act. Choose behaviors that show your respect. Give them a reason to feel safe with you by not attacking them verbally or physically. Make time to be with them. Join them in celebrating their achievements. Be polite to them. Honor their choices even when they don't benefit you.

Choose Respectful Actions

At this point, you may be thinking that you'll have to pretend to be someone you aren't to build respect and love. You don't! All you need to do is build your respect for them. When you do, the rest is just a matter of learning the right ways to show how you feel about them.Learning these new thought and behavior patterns can be challenging, but a therapist can help you build a more respectful love relationship.

Learning to Improve Your Relationship

Another key is one that we often take for granted: wait to get into a relationship until you meet someone that you respect. When we face pressure to be in a relationship from friends, the media, or even from within ourselves, it can be easy to start a relationship with someone that we don't really love or respect. Sometimes these relationships can work out, but it makes a lot more sense to stay single until the right person comes along.

When you learn to respect your partner more, you'll be happier in your relationship. Then, when you learn how to show your admiration, you'll not only appreciate them for who they are, but you'll also be able to show your respect in an authentic, genuine way.Ultimately, developing a healthy, respectful relationship with your partner can lead to a lifetime of love. Take the first step today.

A Final Word of Advice

When you’re in a romantic relationship, even with friendships or relationships between family, there should always be love and respect. The article says it all.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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How To Develop A Relationship Based On Love And Respect | BetterHelp

Research shows that over 75% of college-educated workers expect passion to be a key ingredient in their career choices. Yet, throughout human history, work was mostly work, and enjoying it was an exception. For example, ancient Greeks and Romans regarded work as something to give to slaves. Medieval peasants typically worked half a day. The Protestant work ethic saw work as a moral obligation rather than a hedonistic pursuit.

Work and fun didn't always mix

We expect the evolution of work to provide more opportunities for people to thrive and enjoy their careers. In 1930, Milton Keys predicted that technology would be so advanced in the future that we would work only 15 hours a week. Although he was wrong, we should consider whether the extra twenty hours most people put in each week has anything to do with enjoyment or our passionate relation to our jobs and careers.

Working more hours

Research shows that loving your job improves your creative performance at work by nine percent. Similarly, there is at most a nine percent overlap between how much you love your job and how well you perform at it. Those who love their jobs may be terrible performers, and those who are miserable at work can be among the top-performing employees. Still, extrinsic rewards such as pay, status, and titles do nearly nothing to improve people's job performance. So, having employees who care about their job is still your best outcome.

Love for the work does not always equal performance

There is a positive relationship between how much fun you have at work and how prosocial, ethical, and altruistic you are with your colleagues. So even if fun doesn't increase your performance, it increases your desire to be friendly and avoid being a toxic colleague. Organizational programs to support fun activities seem to significantly reduce turnover, but teams led by managers who support such activities perform worse. The key lesson for managers is if you over-optimize for fun and experiences, you may sub-optimize for performance and productivity.

Fun has surprising benefits

Assuming we all want to work in places that are entertaining or amusing is misguided. <ul><li>Millennials and Gen Xers tend to score higher on individualistic traits, which predict more hedonistic and self-indulgent work environments.</li><li>Extroverted and agreeable individuals desire fun workplaces.</li><li>Excessive work involvement increases the likelihood of risking other areas of life, including family, relationships, and health, and leads to burnout.</li></ul>

Differences in the degree to which people need fun at work

There’s a positive relationship between how much fun you have at work and your propensity to be nice and to avoid being a toxic colleague.

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What science says about having fun at work

The metaphor of the archer features in Cicero’s De Finibus Bonorum Et Malorum (On the Ends of Good and Evil), a Socratic dialogue dedicated to Brutus, murderer of Caesar, in which Cicero, through a number of mouthpieces, expounds and critiques the central tenets of the three main philosophies of his day: Stoicism, Epicureanism, and a version of Platonism.Cicero puts the metaphor of the Stoic archer in the mouth of his contemporary and ally, the Stoic statesman Cato the Younger (although it is, in fact, older than both of these men).

On The Ends Of Good And Evil

“Take the case of one whose task it is to shoot a spear or arrow straight at some target. One’s ultimate aim is to do all in one’s power to shoot straight, and the same applies with our ultimate goal. In this kind of example, it is to shoot straight that one must do all one can; none the less, it is to do all one can to accomplish the task that is really the ultimate aim. It is just the same with what we call the supreme good in life. To actually hit the target is, as we say, to be selected but not sought. (On the Ends of Good and Evil, III, 22)

The Metaphor Of The Archer

The metaphor of the archer encapsulates the essence of Stoic action. The archer does everything he can to shoot accurately: his bow is well strung, his arrows are carefully calibrated, and he has taken full account of the prevailing wind and other variables.Even so, the arrow may not hit the bullseye, or even the target. As soon as it leaves him, the arrow, and with it the success of his action, is no longer within the control of the archer, but subject to outside forces such as a sudden change in wind speed or direction.

The Arrow, The Archer And The “Externals”

Similarly, having decided upon the optimal course of action, the good Stoic carries it out to the best of his/ her ability. But whether the enterprise is ultimately successful is subject to unpredictable and uncontrollable external factors (or “externals,” as the Stoics called them). Thus, the good Stoic bases her self-worth and happiness not on the success of her actions, but on their correctness.

Correctness And Success Or, Intention And Outcome

The wise person considers intention, rather than outcome, in every situation. The beginnings are in our power; the results are judged by fortune, to which I grant no jurisdiction over myself… Death at the hands of a robber is not a condemnation.

Chance, says Seneca, has a great deal of power in our lives, “necessarily so, since it is by chance that we are alive.” When it comes to things over which we do not have complete control, we should play our part, we should do our best, like the Stoic archer, but we should not fret over the outcome—which, if we have done our best, is no reflection on us.

Outcome Does Not Reflect Intention

Thus, we should seek to be loveable, not to be loved, because the one is within our control whereas the other is not. Or, we should seek to write well, not to become a bestselling author, because the one is within our control whereas the other is not.So long as we focus on the things that are within our control, we will be calm and happy. But if we start concerning ourselves with things that are outside our control, we will become anxious and angry and miserable, and all on false grounds.

We Should Seek To Control What’s Within Our Control

An archer can shoot as accurately as possible and still miss his or her target. But this is no reflection on the archer. This is not quite saying that we must do our best, but that our best is the most that we can do—and is therefore all we need concern ourselves with.

What we can learn from Stoicism's most striking image.

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The Metaphor of the Stoic Archer: We Must Do All That We Can; And That Is All We Can Do

Just like running exhausts our muscles, focused attention many days in a row can make decision-making hard and willpower beyond low. What you need is to give your brain a rest from effortful concentration and stress without becoming bored. There are many ways to approach this, such as engaging in hobbies. Yet, according to science, the best way to rest your brain is to spend time in nature.

Effortful concentration can exhaust our brains

When we spend time in nature, there is always something fascinating and beautiful for our attention to move toward, but nothing that demands our full focus. This state of meandering that can revive an exhausted brain is known as soft fascination. Recent research found that walking through a local park or spending some time observing a stream physically quiets the brain.

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Naming hopelessness is the first step to our well-being. "I am lost." Saying how you feel connects you with your narrative instead of the jumble of despair and judgments about feeling despair. Where do we find hope? In essence, it is within us and between us. When we share our hope with others, we give them hope, and they provide us with hope.

Acknowledge hopelessness

<ul><li>Honour your feelings of hopelessness without being consumed by them. Don't deny uncomfortable emotion, but welcome it like a guest, not a permanent resident in your mind.</li><li>Remember that compassion for ourselves isn't often our first instinct.</li><li>No judgment. Your feelings are expected and not a sign of failure or weakness.</li><li>Humble goals. No act of hope is too small.</li><li>Find little pivot activities, be it watering the plants, or listening to music.</li><li>Hope without proof. Hope is moving forward in life and oneself without the certificate guaranteeing "x will happen." </li></ul>

Ways to respond to lostness and hopelessness

Acknowledging hopelessness can unlock the hope within.

Finding Hope in Hard Times

Journaling is the most simplistic form of writing. You can call it a method to convert your thoughts into writing.Actually, you will be writing down your thoughts, problems, goals, or plans in a paper/digital notebook.

What is Journaling?

6 Methods of Journaling:There are many methods of journaling depending upon their purpose. In this article, I am going to list 6 of those methods which I currently use, or have used previously.If you already got a notebook or a note-taking app that you use for your regular journaling, you can apply the following methods in that. You don’t need a separate notebook for this purpose.Following are the six journaling methods:

6 Methods of Journaling:

Every day, we read an article or watch a video from which we learn something. And we want to remember it so we can apply it in our life. But nine out of ten, we forget about it in just a few days.Writing down what you learned that day saves your learning in the long-term memory of your journal, and ultimately in your mind.I adopted this method a month ago, and since then, I have been continuously writing my learnings, two or three times per week.Simply, give a heading ‘What I learned Today’ and underneath that, write the thing you learned that day.

1. What-I-learned-Today Journal:

Morning Pages are three paragraphs of writing ideally done first thing in the morning.This means, start your day by writing three paragraphs of stream-of-consciousness writing, without worrying about any grammar rules.This method of journaling was given by Julia Cameron in his book The Artist’s Way.Now, every entry of my journal starts with Morning Pages. I write what’s on my mind that morning. Now, I don’t stare at a blank page anymore.Writing a full article is hard. But writing just three paraphs is not hard, especially when it isn’t about something specific.

2. Morning Pages

As the name suggests, a dream journal is used to record your dreams.Every time you wake up from a dream, write down what you saw. Be sure to write as early as possible because we tend to forget most of the details of our dream within a few hours from waking up.I know it feels weird writing your dreams, especially the creepy ones that you don’t want to remember. But I have observed that by writing down my dreams, I can see a pattern in my thinking. Because dreams are said to be the result of what’s going on in your subconscious mind.

3. Dream Journal

If you are worried about a certain thing, a mind dump journal is best for putting your chaotic mind in order.Not just for worries, you can also use this method for dumping your overwhelming thoughts and your craziest ideas.A mind dump journal helps you clear your mind by letting out your thoughts and ideas. It’s like decluttering your mind.Just get a pen and a paper, or open your note-taking app and start writing your ideas, thoughts, or any worries right now. Set a timer of 10 to 20 minutes and start writing.

4. Mind Dump Journal

A bullet journal is very famous these days. It planning tool which combines your calendar with your to-do list and your long and short-term goals.<ol><li>A future log to write your future goals and plans</li><li>A monthly log to track your monthly goals</li><li>A daily log for keeping track of your daily tasks. It’s basically your to-do list.</li></ol>A bullet journal has many benefits. On one hand, it helps you visualize your daily and monthly goals. On the other hand, it gives you a sense of accomplishment when you complete your tasks.

5. Bullet Journal

Whenever you feel discontent with life, writing down the three things you are grateful for can help you realize “you are blessed with so many things that you take for granted”.\When writing a gratitude journal, don’t just list the names of things. Instead write down the reasons why you are grateful, for that specific thing.Like just writing ‘I am grateful for my laptop’ is not going to make you grateful for your laptop. It’s better to write ‘I am grateful for my laptop which has helped me write articles, which other people read and learn from them’.

6. Gratitude Journal

There are many methods of journaling depending upon their purpose. In this article, I am going to list 6 of those methods which I currently use, or have used previously.

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The practice of meditation has been around for thousands of years, particularly as a part of spiritual or philosophical practice. It has gained widespread popularity, becoming more secular and mainstream and gaining traction in Western medicine and practice, picking up speed over the last several decades.

Meditation: Overview, Research, and Effectiveness

Meditation is the process of attuning one’s focus to a single object, sound, concept, or experience. It encapsulates several techniques, such as contemplation, concentration, and meditative movement, allowing people to achieve this deep connection.

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If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail - Benjamin Frankli﻿n

Charming self-portrait covers boyhood, work as a printer, political career, scientific experiments, much more. Its openness, honesty, and readable style have made the Autobiography one of the great classics of the genre.

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Read about the fascinating life of Benjamin Franklin, prolific philosopher, inventor, and Founding Father of the United States, in this beautifully illustrated version of his autobiography.American icon Benjamin Franklin is known for many things: he published the famous Poor Richard's Almanack, helped found the world-famous University of Pennsylvania, and was the first Postmaster General of the United States. His iconography is everywhere. His likeness adorns, among other things, the United States' hundred-dollar bill. Franklin was a wildly intriguing personality, as his autobiography makes plain. From his hoarding of his pay as a teenager to buy books, to his disapproval of habits like drinking beer, from his work as a printer, to his experiments with electricity, this is the story of Franklin's life--told as only he could tell it--in the years before the American Revolution.Benjamin Franklin's writings represent a career of literary, scientific, and political efforts which extended nearly the entire eighteenth century and the birth of the United States. This heavily illustrated version of Franklin's autobiography includes his reflections on diverse questions such as philosophy and religion, social status, electricity, American national characteristics, war, and the status of women.A classic in the American canon, Franklin's autobiography is a must-read for any serious student of American history.

Benjamin Franklin was a writer, a philosopher, a scientist, a politician, a patriot, a Founding Father, an inventor, and publisher. He helped with the founding of the United States of America and changed the world with his discoveries about electricity. His writings such as Poor Richards' Almanac have provided wisdom for 17 years to the colonies.

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Hii!! In this stash I'm going to give you few ideas to earn respect from others. If you feel or thing that you don't have much respect at your workplace or school (or any other place), then I will suggest you to read the following ideas.

How to Earn RESPECT?

Try to talk calmly. Even when you are angry. This will force the other side to respond respectfully. This is same as you are talking with a 3-4 year boy. Please them with your world famous singer voice and wait for magic to happen.

Talk peacefully

The more you give respect to others,  the more will other respects you back. It can be difficult at once. But as soon it becomes a habit, you will be most respected among others. This is a basic law of nature. Feel it by thinking about it sitting alone.

Give respect = Receive respect

It is important to understand even the things which can't talk or shout on us, wants respect also. The laptop or mobile on which you are reading this, deserves a huge respect from you. Is charging device is not enough? No. It is like action-reaction interaction. If you respect your mobile, I bet it will never leave you in your worst times. How do I respect non-livings? It is simple. Just thank them after you use them. If you are shy, do it in your mind. The subconscious world will do the rest.

Respect non-livings

People respect matures. A child wants attention not respect. A teenager wants attention from parents and respect from friends. An adult wants respect. So be mature. How to? It's simple again. Give yourself time. Sit alone for some time daily. Talk to yourself. Your inner-you knows more about you. Try it. Talk with your you.

Try to be Mature and Confident

Achieve something in your life. Apart from YouTube Subscribers. Something that forces youngers or may be elders to respect you. So that they mention you in their words. Start with small. People with Job and people without job, compare two you will find what i want to tell you.

Achievements

Just don't be rude in the whole process. I agree that path will be difficult, but don't lose your temper. Else you will ruin all your hard work. Pythagoras quoted "A fool is known by his speech and a wise man by silence"

Final Words

If you want to know about respect issues with boys, read "Love and respect issues with boys" on my profile.

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I faced respect problems. And I solved them. Thus I want to share some lessons that life taught me.

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Meditation is not just good for you, it's good for your relationships.<ul><li>Meditation appears to be a self-focused activity, but it actually boosts your ability to have good relationships.</li><li>Meditation makes you more emotionally intelligent and wise. It also decreases stress and improves a sense of connection.</li><li>Meditation improves well-being and happiness, which benefits your relationship.</li></ul>Relationships are key to life, we long for and need positive social connections, yet at the same time relationships can be sources of great pain, stress, and even bewilderment.

5 Unexpected Ways Meditation Improves Relationships

One of the biggest challenges in a relationship is emotions: jealousy, anxiety, anger, and more. Handling our own emotions is challenging enough, let alone those of our partner. Emotional intelligence is key. Step in meditation. Meditation improves emotional intelligence: self-awareness, emotion regulation, anxiety and depression, general well-being, even attention, memory, and creativity. Your ability to connect and empathize improves.Meditation is associated with greater overall wisdom. And who doesn't want a partner who is not just emotionally intelligent but also wise?

1. Meditation Makes You More Emotionally Intelligent

Over time, we get used to the things we have and the people we are with. You start to take them for granted. That's when people may start to focus on what's wrong with their partner or forget why they fell in love in the first place, they may even look elsewhere.However, grateful people are more satisfied in their relationships and feel closer to one another. When you are grateful, you stay focused and appreciative of your partner's good qualities instead of taking them for granted or harping on the little things.

2. Meditation Keeps You Grateful

Negative emotions like stress and anxiety can keep us focused on ourselves. It's hard to connect with another person when we are in a self-focused state. Neuroscientists have found that people who meditate regularly have more positive emotions overall, which in turn is linked to slower aging at the cellular level. Meditating, though it can seem like a solo activity, actually makes you a more upbeat partner. As I mentioned in my last post, partners who are more positively energizing have better relationships because their very presence is life-giving and supportive.

3. Meditation Boosts Happiness

Isn't it ironic that it's usually the people you love the most who have to bear the brunt of your stress: a short fuse, bad moods, passive aggression. Over time, this kind of pattern can lead to a negative atmosphere in the home and create distance between partners. If you can take responsibility for curbing your stress, you not only will curb your own stress but also help preserve your relationships with your loved ones.

4. Meditation Curbs Your Stress

It's easy for partners to drift apart, especially if they are busy balancing work and children, have hectic schedules, and have little time to spend together. A chasm can grow almost imperceptibly at first until it becomes painfully obvious. Here again, meditation can help. Connecting to yourself, it turns out, boosts your connection to others in significant ways.Meditation improves well-being but also strengthens your feelings of connection with others. It can help people feel more connected and empathic in minutes.

5. Meditation Helps You Connect

Self-care is far from selfish, especially when it comes to meditation. The time you take to settle your mind not only improves your well-being but that of everyone around you, strengthening your relationships.

Importance of Self-Care

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”-Brené Brown “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”-Buddha

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Meditation is not just good for you, it's good for your relationships.

5 Unexpected Ways Meditation Improves Relationships, a Lot

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