Trying to help someone change can be sanity-straining. Even when people face serious health scares they often don’t do enough to alter their habits, like they’re stuck on some monorail track of doom.People are generally better persuaded by the reasons which they have themselves discovered than by those which have come into the mind of others.Change happens when people talk themselves into change. You trying to do it is often counterproductive.

You Can't Change People By Telling Them What They Should Do

People are simultaneously smarter and dumber than you think. They often know what they’re doing is bad. They’re not usually lacking information. The issue is motivation. Overcoming ambivalence. Once people get motivated, they often make the change themselves with little help.So how do we motivate them and get them to commit to change? <a href="https://geni.us/motivinter">Motivational Interviewing</a>.

People Are Unpredictable

We all want help but we want to retain our autonomy even more. So just telling people what to do rarely works. We often think expressing our lovely opinions is all it takes, but that just creates resistance. Telling people what to do is the opposite of empathy.If you’re arguing for change and they’re pushing back, you’re doing it wrong. When we give people freedom and control, they relax.

Nobody Likes To Be Told What To Do

Don’t tell them to change. Evoke the reasons for change that are already in their head and support those. This is what motivates people to make a shift without resistance.The first step is asking people about their values. When you understand what people value, you know what motivates them. And when people hear themselves saying what they believe, they have a natural desire to be more consistent with that. This is the leverage we’re going to use going forward.

Telling Without Telling: Let's Talk About Values

The four primary skills of Motivational Interviewing are: 1) asking Open questions, 2) Affirming strengths, 3) Reflective listening, and 4) Summarizing.

Use “OARS”

Open questions are questions that can’t be answered with a single word. They often start with “what”, “how” or “why.” This gets people talking, provides you with information and allows them to feel understood. Most importantly for MI(motivational interviewing), it lets them lead versus you starting a 12-part lecture series on the importance of exercise.

 Open Questions

Asking question after question can turn a conversation into an interrogation and provoke defensiveness. So you want to use reflective listening about twice as often as you ask. This is our most commonly used tool in MI. Basically, it’s making a guess about what the person means, to reflect what they just said. “So you’re feeling uncomfortable.” This clarifies and communicates understanding.Taking a cue from therapists, it also helps to ask them how they felt, while you listen to their stories.

Reflective Listening

Just listening to people isn’t going to get them to change. Heck, it’s equally likely to get them to talk themselves into not changing. What you reflect is a strategic choice. You’re not shining the spotlight on everything they say; you get to pick. By what we choose to reflect, we can move the conversation in a direction to achieve our goal. In general, you want to reflect “change talk” and ignore “sustain talk.” That’s the witchery that separates MI(Motivational Interviewing) from merely listening.

Changing Vs Sustaining

To recognize and highlight the positive about the other person, their good traits and intentions. By affirming, you’re building their confidence. Keep giving positive feedback while listening, and build up their latent strength, which is now surfacing.

Affirming The Strengths

With this final step, you’re drawing together what they’ve said and presenting it to them. It’s a more muscular version of reflection. You’re giving them an overview of their position but in a more structured fashion vs the ambivalent mess in their head. It shows you’re paying attention and understanding. We can use the same reflection-Jedi-Mind-Trick here. There’s power in what you choose to highlight. You’re not just summarizing — you’re subtly building a case for change but with their own words.

Summarizing

People become more committed to what they hear themselves say. You don’t want to deny “sustain talk”. You want to evoke and explore their “change talk”.  Change talk takes the form of DARN: Desire, Ability, Reasons, Need. You want to elicit these types of statements because they will move people in the direction of change:Desire: “I want to lose weight.”Ability: “I want to run a marathon but don’t think I can do it.”Reasons: “I want to exercise so I can have more energy.”Need: “I need to get in better shape.”

From Sustaining To Changing: The DARN Method

We can’t push too hard. Remember, threatening autonomy creates resistance. We need to evoke these statements from them.Use DARN questions to evoke some DARN change talk so they’ll change their darn behavior!<ul><li>“How do you want your life to be different a year from now?” provokes Desire statements.</li><li>“If you did really decide you want to lose weight, how could you do it?” can get Ability responses.</li><li>“Why would you want to get more exercise?” gets you Reasons.</li><li>“How serious or urgent does this feel to you?” evokes Need.</li></ul>

The DARN Questions

Research show one of the primary motivators for change is someone noticing the discrepancy between their goals and their behavior. It’s uncomfortable. And to relieve that discomfort, our behaviors usually change before our values do.You usually don’t need to point out discrepancy. They’ll usually do it themselves with enough discussion. Again, don’t say it; evoke it.

Develop Discrepancy

A good way is merely asking them what they know about the subject at hand: “Tell me what you already know about alcohol and how it affects people.” No demonizing – they’ll probably do that for you. You’re not lecturing or telling them to change. They’ll likely start the DARN process on their own.

Reverse Psychology: Let Them Do Your Work

The best way to get people’s confidence up is to ask them about previous challenges they successfully overcame.“What changes have you made in your life that were difficult for you? Or what things have you managed to do that you weren’t really sure at first you would be able to do?”Ask them about how it happened and reflect their strengths and positive traits back to them. Then you can roll this straight into the current issue.“Suppose that you did succeed, and were looking back on it now. What most likely is it that worked? How did it happen?”

Evoke Hope

So your methods have worked and they’re imagining positive outcomes. Now’s the time to hit them with the key question to build a plan:“So what’s next?”You’re not pressuring them; you’re curious. Give them a big pause here to let it sink in. If everything has gone well, they should respond with some DARN change talk at the nuts and bolts level.“That’s what I’m going to do: designate 6PM to 8PM for studying.”

Starting The Change Plan

The final step is to help them troubleshoot. You want to present potential problems so that they can offer fixes. “If X happens, what do you think you’ll do?” The goal isn’t to stump them. It’s to strengthen the plan and to get them thinking resourcefully so they feel ready when something (inevitably) goes awry. If they immediately start coming up with solutions, they’re ready. Success.At this point you’ll want to lean back, tent your fingers and smirk. Don’t. Instead, be happy for them.

The Last Step: Troubleshooting

How do you get people to change? We usually go about it all wrong. Here's what the science says can help you persuade others...

Understand yourself and those around you.

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This Is How To Get People To Change: 5 Secrets From Research - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

Between the demands of work, the errands of daily life, and carving the space for our hobbies, families, and friends, hours blend into days and days into weeks. Between the rush toward the future and the weariness from the past, we’ll find ourselves in the present, albeit unaware of its existence.The life we receive is not short; it is long. It’s only when we rush through it and are aimless about our days that it feels short. Time is not stingy with us; time is abundant. It’s only when we’re wasteful of it that it feels so limited.

Time Flies

The life we receive is not short, but we make it so, nor do we have any lack it, but are wasteful of it.

When we slow down and decide to live more intentionally, one day at a time, the weariness from overdoing and the anxious rush toward the future dissolve, gradually fading into the dark. What happens to the question of “where did all the time go?” It now ceases to exist.

Slowing Down

Intentional living is about moving slowly, with purpose. It’s a manifestation of our inner power, reminding us that we will always retain the strength to choose how to frame our days ahead. It’s about living a life that’s true to you, measured by a pace of rhythm you choose for yourself. It’s about identifying values that matter most to you and then choosing to live in alignment with them.  It’s about creating a space measured by the balance of what you believe in, what you’re interested in, what smothers your soul with joy, and what matters most to you.

Slow, Intentional Living: Inner Integrity and Coherency

The Good Day Manifesto is a powerful short declaration that serves as a daily reminder of what it means to you to live and enjoy a good day. What it means to you to do nothing and simply be present. What it means to love. What it means to give. What it means to do work that moves the rivers of your soul and do just enough of it so that you don’t tip the scales and plunge into the sly, vicious streams of burnout.

 Creating A Good Day Manifesto

The reality of life is this: There are things within your locus of control and things outside of it; focus on the former, be conscious of the latter. The best use of your energy is to focus your days <a href="https://www.omaritani.com/blog/learn-to-focus-on-what-is-within-your-control">on what you can control</a>—your attitude on any given day, the effort you put into anything you do, the knowledge you seek, the people you choose to hang out with and give your time to.

There’s only So Much You Can Control

We both know that there’s only so much we can do in a given day, so why are we pushing ourselves to do more than our capacity? Why are we burning ourselves just to be overly productive and perfect? Isn’t that a toxic mindset? Instead of pursuing empty perfection, how about we strive for wholeness in the areas that matter most? Areas like love and connection, inner peace, contribution, health, and flow.

The Pursuit of Perfection vs Striving for Wholeness in Areas that Matter Most 

What does the past hold? Besides being a vault of memories, lessons, and inner wisdom that can guide you toward the path of healing, its powers are meaningless. And what can we make of the future? Rather than it being a dark den of worry and anxiety, let it be nothing more than a boundless, colourful source of optimism—<a href="https://www.omaritani.com/blog/the-seven-principles-of-optimism">a constant reminder that tomorrow can still be beautiful</a> even if it doesn’t seem to be so today.

All You Can Truly Enjoy Lives in This Present Moment

Sit down, grab a pen and a piece of paper and then answer this question:What does it mean to me to live a good day?Now, describe it.<ul><li>Let your thoughts spill in the form of ink on paper.</li><li>Once it’s ready, print it and read it daily.</li><li>Let it be the guiding light to your days.</li><li>Let it be the sun to the sunflower that is you.</li><li>Follow its rays from east to west, and allow it to remind you of your strength and power in how you choose to frame your days.</li><li>When you feel too rushed, consumed, or overwhelmed, let it remind you to slow down and reflect, once again, on what matters most to you. </li></ul>

How To Write Your Good Day Manifesto

Your manifesto will change over time; it will develop just like you. Some petals will die, bowing down and falling to the ground to make way for the new. Some parts of you that you had once mourned will be reborn again, sprouting upward from the deep.Whatever you write, they are not words carved on stone.A Good Day Manifesto will raise your awareness of the inevitable passage of time. Soon, it will no longer be a question of “where does all the time go,” but rather a sentiment of “I love how beautifully time undresses, unfolding layer upon layer, to the rhythm of my days.”

To Live Good Days is to Live a Good Life

When we slow down and decide to live more intentionally, the weariness from 
overdoing and the anxious rush toward the future gradually fade away. The 
question of “where did all the time go” now ceases to exist. On the days 
when you feel too rushed and overwhelmed, a good day manifesto will remind 
you to slow down and reflect, once again, on what matters most to you. 
Here's how to write your own.

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The Good Day Manifesto: The Simplest Way to Intentional Living

<ol><li>Magical thinking refers to the idea that you can influence the outcome of specific events by doing something that has no bearing on the circumstances.</li></ol>https://www.healthline.com/health/magical-thinking

Types of thinking

“We’ve come all this way, spent all this money and now the weather’s getting in the way? It’s so unfair.https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/unraveling-the-mindset-of-victimhood/

2. Victim thinking

I welcome these types of thoughts but turn my mind away from them. I consider this to be mental discipline in action.

Mental Discipline

Entrepreneurship and your relationships are two of the most potent and powerful places to practice mental discipline in your life, as this can help support you in being with and responding to whatever is happening.

The Value Of Mental Discipline

How do you disengage from your narratives and the ways you covertly (or overtly) control and manipulate so you can have joy and fulfillment in life?Choosing to stay present in situations that aren’t ideal allows leaders to perceive and experience more day-to-day magic and synchronicity, but it’s not transactional.

Focusing in the present is a reward in itself

So, how do you start practicing mental discipline in a way that doesn’t force you to pretend to ignore what’s happening in your business or personal life?Arguing with reality doesn’t generate great results in any area of life.

REALITY

When a situation isn’t the way you wish it would be, ask yourself, “What quality (or qualities) am I being asked to develop in this situation?”

Developing And Practicing Mental Discipline

By asking yourself this question and focusing on taking actions that develop more of the qualities you want to have, you stop making up stories about what’s happening and stop trying to control the uncontrollable, both of which are recipes for frustration and failure.

“What quality (or qualities) am I being asked to develop in this situation?” 1

In my experience, this question also helps you become deeply receptive and increases your agency and power with respect to the situation.

“What quality (or qualities) am I being asked to develop in this situation?” 2

Focusing on cultivating a quality you want more of during hard times supports you in choosing aligned actions and responding nimbly to what shows up because your mind won’t get as snared by its habitual reactions.

“What quality (or qualities) am I being asked to develop in this situation?” 3

In this way, you can keep adjusting your aim and stay on track with your goals, no matter the challenges that happen along the way.

“What quality (or qualities) am I being asked to develop in this situation?” 4

Aside from making you a stronger and more well-rounded person, this also has the direct benefit of getting you through challenges more quickly and with better outcomes.

“What quality (or qualities) am I being asked to develop in this situation?” 5

Resist magical thinking and wishful thinking when in trouble, its easy to fall into these habits because of childhood feedback loops. YOU GET WHAT YOU GET, LOVE IT ALL, AMOR FATI, THIS IS THE ONLY WAY, BE BRAVE, BE STEADY, BE PATIENT!

Entrepreneurship and your relationships are two of the most potent and powerful places to practice mental discipline in your life, as this can help support you in being with and responding to whatever is happening.

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How To Practice Mental Discipline When Navigating Business Challenges

Most people in life are controlled by the SCRIPT which is the life path that is taught to us at a very young age which leads to your enslavementGo to school, get a degree, get a job, buy a car, go into debt, work to get out of debt, retire at an old age, die. sounds depressing right?This 9-5 script is what makes you a MODEL citizen as described below.

You are (probably) Scripted 

(M)ediocre: Your objective is to survive, you live an ordinary life but you are comfortable(O)bedient: You don't think for yourself. Only following the popular opinion like a sheep you meander through life, trusting governments and news(D)ependant: You are owned by others. Debt, Corporations, Product/ Service providers and worst of all, Time(E)ntertained: Your mind is entertained by useless and uncontrollable consumption all the time untill you have no original thoughts and your soul is silent(L)ifeless: You are part of the walking dead. No ambitions, goals, dreams or optimisim for life

MODEL citizen

"Comfort is the killer of creativity"

Your FTE or Fuck This Event is described as the moment where the clarity of your terrible situation hits you like a truck and you are motivated to take action regardless of potential barriers. This event is the catalyst for change in your beliefs and actions, redefining your life towards the goal of freedom For me, this occurred when I was working a job that I hated while being treated like shit by my employers (and b eing payed almost nothing). One particularly bad day (FTE) led to me quit and use my built up anger and motivation to start a business and begin on my path to freedom

Fuck This

"If I accept average advice from average people living average lives, can I expect to be anything but average?"

MJ states that freedom is achieved by developing a business that follows specific guidelines: <ul><li>Control - Full control over your business</li><li> Entry - High barrier of entry for others</li><li> Need - People need what you are selling</li><li> Time - Business can run without you</li><li>Scale - Need ability to scale/ leverage</li></ul>

Freedom

"You figure out what you value in this life, and then you go for it. For me, it was freedom"

<ol><li> Take action</li><li> Assess and measure impact</li><li> Adjust for more impact</li></ol>

3 Steps to Achieve This

<ul><li>Don't compare to others</li><li>Save</li><li>Spend/Earn ratio needs to be skewed towards Earn</li><li>Don't risk everything</li></ul>

On Staying Rich:

<ul><li>STOP consuming so much garbage and become a producer</li><li> Don't focus on single events, follow the process (achieving your end results won't happen overnight)</li><li> Build a brand not just a company </li><li> Always keep learning and growing (having a growth mindset is important here)</li></ul>

Actionable Tips

How to become UNSCRIPTED and live a FREE LIFE

What if Life Wasn't About 50 Years of Wage-Slavery, Paying Bills and then Dying? Tired of sleepwalking through a mediocre life bribed by mindless video-gaming, redemptive weekends, and a scant paycheck from a soul-suffocating job? Welcome to the SCRIPTED club— where membership is neither perceived or consented. The fact is, ever since you’ve been old enough to sit obediently in a classroom, you have been culturally engineered for servitude, unwittingly enslaved into a Machiavellian system where illusionary rules go unchallenged, sanctified traditions go unquestioned, and lifelong dreams go unfulfilled. As a result, your life is hijacked and marginalised into debt, despair, and dependence. Life's death sentence becomes the daily curse of the trivial and mundane. Fun fades. Dreams die. Don't let life's consolation prize become a car and a weekend. Recapture what is yours and make a revolutionary repossession of life-and-liberty through the pursuit of entrepreneurship. A paradigm shift isn't needed—the damn paradigm needs to be thrown-out altogether. The truth is, if you blindly follow conventional wisdom pushed by conventional people living conventional lives, can you expect to be anything but conventional? Rewrite life’s script: ditch the job, give Wall Street the bird, and escape the insanity of trading your life away for a paycheck and an elderly promise called retirement. UNSCRIPT today and start leading life— instead of life leading you.

Discover the world of business and economics.

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Life. Liberty. And the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship. Build A Business That Goes Beyond Paying Bills... It Changes Your Life. It is waking up in the morning and pinching yourself black-and-blue that OMG, this is my life, and it is freaking awesome.You live in your dream house, but there's no mortgage. No alarm clock, no boss, no bills. No claims on the day's time other than what you choose. It is making more money before breakfast than you made for an entire week at your last job. It is a crazy expensive car parked in your garage, a victorious symbol that your dreams no longer sleep in fantasies, but are awake with reality. Make no mistake, this life exists. I know, because it has been mine for nearly 20 years. And in a few short years, it can be yours as well. Better, you won't need 5 tedious decades of thankless jobs, buzz killing frugality, and patient investing with our trusted friends on Wall Street. Unfortunately, you have been SCRIPTED to believe that such a life is out of your reach, or only possible for a certain type of person. Someone with a certain college degree, a certain amount of VC funding, or a certain contact list of connected friends from Stanford. I am here to tell you, that none of it is true. While I have been entrepreneur most of my life, I am no one special. You won't read about me over at Tech Crunch or in some Silicon Valley newsletter. While I have been an internet entrepreneur since the old &quot;you've got mail&quot; AOL days, I have never been funded by venture capitalists, I have never had a payroll with more than 5 people on it, and I have never studied computer science at school.Despite this, I am able to create profitable businesses that create the type of UNSCRIPTED life described above. We are talking five- and six-figure monthly profits with valuations in the millions. Although I have had two successful exits, do not let that scare you; it is just a welcome side effect of the process.Make no mistake, UNSCRIPTED is not about some trendy new marketing tactic that becomes ineffectively overused within months. It's not about fifty-year stock-market fantasies or depriving yourself of life's luxuries; Amazon already has a gazillion books on such trash. I wrote UNSCRIPTED to change your life.It was written for you if life has become hopeless and dissatisfying. It is for you if your weekday is held hostage by the bribery of its paycheck. It is for you if you are sick of the suck and tired of the tiresome: the breakroom gossip, the office politics, the managerial butt-kissing, and whatever else boils when multiple human beings are tossed in a box and tasked with corporate minutia. It is for you if you yearn for the creative autonomy to pursue work that matters. It is for you if you have X-ray vision and can see what your parents cannot that life's formulaic, scripted template has become dated and flawed.But most importantly, UNSCRIPTED is for you if you have been an aspiring entrepreneur far too long, someone who cannot turn a corner, turn a break, or turn a profit. Someone who might already own a business, but like a job, it just steals time and barely keeps the bill-paying treadmill moving until next month.So, if you are ready for the challenge, get ready for a sh*t-your-pants revelation that everything you have been taught is bullsh*t. Legendary bullsh*t. Paradigm shift? Heck no. The problem is the paradigm itself. You have allowed the paradigm to set the rules, call the shots, and dictate the decisions. The problem is, you have allowed ordinary thinking preached by ordinary people to produce exactly that; an ordinary life. The paradigm shift is realizing the paradigm is sh*t.

MJ DeMarco is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. MJ DeMarco has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. MJ DeMarco's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

MJ DeMarco

UNSCRIPTED

Independent Thinking is the best way to make sure you don’t follow the crowd and make a mistake in your choices Sometimes you need to think for yourself and figure out what is the best way to go about solving this problem

Independent Thinking

Sometimes the best way to accomplish something is find the most simple way of doing something The fastest way from point A to point B is straight Most people don’t go for the simplest options and get confused with all the complexity that comes from it.

Simplicity 

Don’t rely too much on Technology. Technology can change at anytime it’s not very reliable sometimes so don’t put all your eggs in a basketAn example of this is if you make YouTube videos have a second option ad well in case something happens to YouTube.

Technology As A Problem 

The worlds most intelligent question is Why? Everything that happens to you you must ask why and what can I learn from this By learning from every experience that you face you also level up and get better at things.

The Worlds Most Intelligent Question 

<ul><li> Stick near things that you are good at doing. That is how you make the most money and gain expertise </li><li>You should know what your circle of competence is and how far away or close you are to the circle </li></ul>Always try and increase the circle of competence to continue to grow

Circle Of Competence 

Feel free to follow me for part 4 also feel free to check out my profile to see part 1-3 there you can learn more about money habits and everything else.

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Part 3 of the mental models that you should add to your life for better results 

Charlie Munger, the vice chairman of Berkshire Hathaway and one of the most successful investors ever, is said to have the best 30-second mind in the world. He goes from A to Z in one move. He sees the essence of everything before you can even finish the sentence. How does he do it? Through observing reality and running it against his mental models. In this series of videos, you’ll learn some of the most important models which Charlie Munger uses, which he has talked about publicly. These mental models have helped Munger to conquer the stock market, but they are so diverse that they have applications within many other areas too. For example, they have allowed Munger to be a successful Chairman at a large hospital, and they have allowed him to overcome devastating personal losses. The series will cover a total of 35 of Charlie’s mental models. He says he has some 100 models in his head at all times, but he also says that a few of them carry most of the freight. I think that we’ll cover the most important ones in this series, which will be divided into 7 parts, will 5 models in each one. The models will primarily be related to investing, but also to associated subjects such as economics, entrepreneurship & career. Hope you enjoy. Part 4: https://youtu.be/QuhxBuhv_co The mental models covered in this episode are: 00:00 Intro 00:56 Independent Thinking 04:11 Simplicity 07:09 Technology as a Problem 09:10 The World’s Most Intelligent Question 11:01 Circle of Competence The mental models that were covered in part 1 (https://youtu.be/ywyQ_eNNCJU ): - The Swiss Army Knife Approach - Make Friends With the Eminent Dead - Invert, Always Invert - Compounding - Crush Your Cherished Beliefs Part 2 (https://youtu.be/cgfuEEnsuAc ): - Opportunity Costs - Parimutuel Betting - Survival of the Fittest - Margin of Safety - The Superpower of Incentives My goal with this channel is to help you make more money and improve your personal finances. How to become a millionaire? There are many ways to get there – investing in the stock market, becoming a stock trader, doing real estate investing, or why not becoming an entrepreneur? But whether you are interested in how to invest in stocks or investing strategies for creating passive income with rental properties – I hope to be able to provide you with a solution (or at least an idea) here. Warren Buffett - the greatest investor of our time - says that you should fill your mind with competing ideas and then see what makes sense to you. This channel is about filling your mind with those ideas. And in the process – upgrading your money-making toolbox.

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Charlie Munger, the vice chairman of Berkshire Hathaway and one of the most successful investors ever, is said to have the best 30-second mind in the world. He goes from A to Z in one move. He sees the essence of everything before you can even finish the sentence.

How does he do it? Through observing reality and running it against his mental models. In this series of videos, you’ll learn some of the most important models which Charlie Munger uses, which he has talked about publicly. These mental models have helped Munger to conquer the stock market, but they are so diverse that they have applications within many other areas too. For example, they have allowed Munger to be a successful Chairman at a large hospital, and they have allowed him to overcome devastating personal losses.

The series will cover a total of 35 of Charlie’s mental models. He says he has some 100 models in his head at all times, but he also says that a few of them carry most of the freight. I think that we’ll cover the most important ones in this series, which will be divided into 7 parts, will 5 models in each one. The models will primarily be related to investing, but also to associated subjects such as economics, entrepreneurship & career. Hope you enjoy.

Part 4: https://youtu.be/QuhxBuhv_co 

The mental models covered in this episode are:
00:00 Intro
00:56 Independent Thinking
04:11 Simplicity
07:09 Technology as a Problem
09:10 The World’s Most Intelligent Question
11:01 Circle of Competence

The mental models that were covered in part 1 (https://youtu.be/ywyQ_eNNCJU ):
- The Swiss Army Knife Approach
- Make Friends With the Eminent Dead
- Invert, Always Invert
- Compounding
- Crush Your Cherished Beliefs

Part 2 (https://youtu.be/cgfuEEnsuAc ):
- Opportunity Costs
- Parimutuel Betting
- Survival of the Fittest 
- Margin of Safety
- The Superpower of Incentives

My goal with this channel is to help you make more money and improve your personal finances. How to become a millionaire? There are many ways to get there – investing in the stock market, becoming a stock trader, doing real estate investing, or why not becoming an entrepreneur? But whether you are interested in how to invest in stocks or investing strategies for creating passive income with rental properties – I hope to be able to provide you with a solution (or at least an idea) here. Warren Buffett - the greatest investor of our time - says that you should fill your mind with competing ideas and then see what makes sense to you. This channel is about filling your mind with those ideas. And in the process – upgrading your money-making toolbox.

Thank you for checking out The Swedish Investor. My name is Erik Abrahamsson, and on this channel, I will share with you the most successful strategies for taking your personal finances to the next level, in (well, hopefully) a simple and enjoyable way. Here, you will find time-tested investing advice from the most successful money managers and investors of our time.

About me:
-- Been investing in the stock market since 08/06/2013, and since then, I've beaten the S&P 500 by a fair margin
-- My CAGR on invested stock market capital is 19.5% as of July 2023 (after taxes and brokerage fees)
-- Read about 100 books on the topic of personal finance and investing

For my private stock portfolio & revealing insights into my investment strategy: https://www.patreon.com/TheSwedishInvestor 

I wish you all good fortune in your stock market investing!

Feel free to contact me on: theswedishinvestoryt@gmail.com

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Charlie Munger: Mental Models for the Rest of Your Life (PART 3)

Many of us are facing challenges that can be stressful, overwhelming, and cause strong emotions in adults and children. Public health actions, such as physical distancing, can make us feel isolated and lonely and can increase stress and anxiety. eople may have strong and lingering reactions. Learning healthy ways to cope and getting the right care and support can help reduce stressful feelings and symptoms.

How To Handle Stress ?

The symptoms may be physical or emotional. Common reactions to a stressful event can include : 1. Disbelief2. Feelings of fear, shock, anger, sadness, worry, numbness, or frustration3. Changes in appetite, energy, desires, and interests4. Difficulty sleeping or nightmares, concentrating, and making decisions5. Physical reactions, such as headaches, body pains, stomach problems, and skin rashes6. Worsening of chronic health problems7. Worsening of mental health conditions It's natural to feel stress, anxiety, grief, and worry during traumatic events .

So Basically What Are The Symptoms Of this Well Known Stress ? 

1. Take breaks from watching, reading, or listening to news stories, including those on social media. It’s good to be informed but hearing about the traumatic event constantly can be upsetting. Consider limiting news to just a couple of times a day and disconnecting from phone, tv, and computer screens for a while.2. Take care of yourself. Eat healthy, exercise, get plenty of sleep, and give yourself a break if you feel stressed out.3.Make time to unwind. Try to do some other activities you enjoy.4.Connect with your community- or faith-based organizations .

Healthy Ways to Cope with Stress 

1. Talk to others. Talk with peopleexternal icon you trust about your concerns and how you are feeling. Share your problems and how you are feeling and coping with a parent, friend, counselor, doctor .2. Avoid drugs and alcohol. These may seem to help, but they can create additional problems and increase the stress you are already feeling. So in this way you can cope up with your stress feelings .

Two Most Important Tips For Getting Out Of Stress .

Nowadays managing stress is important so by following this you may have control on this feeling called stress

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There are many incidents in your life when you expected so much and received an empty box labelled 'HAHA 🤣🤣'. So you are not alone. The Community "EXPECTATORS" is a Non-existing community where people expects too much from life but gets very little. In this stash, I would like to discuss about some ideas on how you maximize your positive outcome. Since these are based on my Life Experience, these could match with your expectations about this Stash, or could not.

Expectations Kills Possibility

You can understand it by calling is another Basic law of Nature. But I thing it is not that simple. What I found is: We know that there are 6 possibilities if I roll a dice. It is finite because a dice can't have more than 6 faces. Now we live in a single universe of multiverse. Thus, there can be infinite possibilities.  So (If you believe in multiverse theory) your another version in another universe has the same expectation and unfortunately his expectation becomes a reality. So whose fault is this? Nature? No. Your? No. It's just a matter of turn. Sometimes you win, sometimes other yous.

How this works?

Well it is 'The Energy Game'. When you expects something, your subconscious mind spread the energy waves and try to make the environment more favorable. You will not believe me at first. But what I found is, the more you try this, the more powerful wave your subconscious mind will produce. You have to keep this practice until you get the result (+ve Result). So you have to expect positive. That's why they say "Always Positive". How will I do this regularly? Tell your inner you to keep this practice carry on. You will have no longer to do it by yourself. But it takes a Hard-Kick-Start at first.

How will it works for me?

This could be a bit tricky for your mind. Because our mind expects what we feed it. A child expects a lot from you when he give you smartphone to install a good decent game from Play Store which he just watched on a YouTube gaming Channel. Thus he expects positive. Thus, it is more likely that he will play the game.This will lead him to keep this practice. In his teenage, he will develop a strong powerful Wave Producing System. And these are the people who are always positive.The reverse Case:You can now easily imagine the other side.He believes that only his Hard work will make him successful

A Case of a Child

Sometime you may have observed that your reverse expectation gave you a positive result. And that is true sometimes. Because you can't be the same all the times. You have to change. A student laptop will not be used for reading articles all the time. A student watches movies sometimes. This is change, and it is necessary for our existence. So when I have to expect negative? When you think that your positivity is failing. And that is a sign of change. Another answer can be : It depends on your situation. If you have practiced positivity many times, your subconscious mind will tell you.

If positive fails, try Negative.

There may be situations when you can't expect anything from life. Like entrance exam result. You passed or you failed. What happened in background? Your previous actions are responsible for now. What you have done previously will be summarized now. If you really did Hard work, you are more likely to pass. Else, you know. This is Why Karama Counts. So please try to be kind and problem solver for all. Not only this will give you inner peace but maximize your positive results also.

Positive Karama = Positive Result

First thing that only you can maximize or minimize your results. If you are polity and honest to your friends, they will support you. You will not have to expect from them. Do hard work instead of shortcut. Smart work will do sometimes. Because hard work has no alternatives. To pass an exam, you have to study(smart or hard, depends on you).Learn some Psychological methods to win other's mind. This can work if you facing Shape-shifters in your life.And MEDITATE. Meditate to become a foreteller. You can use your skills for what you should expect from life.

What else I can do?

I fully agree that expectations hurts when they kills the possibilities. So I will not expect anything from anyone. You can't. Because your mind was fed in a way of expectations. You can force yourself now to not expect , but all you will get is PAIN. So instead of losing hope, try something new. Try to believe people. Try to expects positive. It will be hard and painful for a while, but it can save you from lifetime pain. Because NOTHING IS PERMANENT. Bad-days are days, not years.

Yeah! Expectations hurts

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Mindfulness

Expectations Kills Possibilities

<ul><li>We need to change our perspective on failure.</li><li>Plenty of us have an image of only successful people who never made mistakes or failures, when in reality, we all do - some just manage to make it look prettier than others</li><li>Failure is a large part of what it means to be human.</li></ul>

Perspective is everything

Set the right expectations for people. Don't waste time trying to convince people they'll succeedGet right down to what happens when things go wrong. Every little one goes through struggles as they learn to walk, and determination is all it takes to find dexterity

Set the right expectations for people

<ul><li>Facing hardship and enduring failure teaches us how to succeed.</li><li>Failure is a positive thing. A failure is simply something to work past, and my determination gives me an edge over other people.</li><li>Without any kind of challenge, success would likely be meaningless.</li></ul>

It's okay to fail

The only thing anyone can do for themselves is try their best and never give up.Try not to whine about how tough things are going to be or how much pressure there was from adults telling you this wasn't going to work.

Labels don't matter

Entrepreneurship is a never-ending process of refinement through trial and error. Failure is a natural part of success.We need to change our perspective on failure. Stop avoiding it, stop shaming others who make them, and start looking at what they can teach us about ourselves.

Success is built on a foundation of previous failure

Making mistakes is just another step in achieving your goals. We need to change our perspective on failure.

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Why You Need To Change Your Perspective on Failure

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