“Keep on starting and finishing will take care of itself.”

Procrastination is a mechanism for coping with the anxiety associated with starting or completing any task or decision.Certain tasks make us feel anxious. As a strategy for coping with this anxiety, many of us have developed a habit of procrastinating: put off the task and you’ll experience relief of tension and anxiety.Procrastination isn’t the cause of our problems. It’s simply a learned coping mechanism for dealing with deeper issues, mainly different fears, such as fear of judgment, fear of disapproval, fear of failure, and so on.

Procrastination: a learned coping mechanism

There are always activities that we willingly dive into with enthusiasm.Habits are learned when an activity is instantly followed by a reward. Procrastination is rewarding because it provides temporary relief from our stress and anxiety. We use procrastination to achieve 3 things:<ul><li>Express resentment or resistance toward authorities and our sense of powerlessness.</li><li>Avoid the fear of failure or disappointment, which often comes from perfectionism and self-criticism.</li><li>Avoid our fear of success.</li></ul>

No one is an absolute procrastinator

“If early training has caused you to associate work with pain and humiliation, then just approaching an intimidating or unpleasant task can bring on a reliving of criticism, not only from your current boss but from parents, previous bosses, and teachers. Every insecurity bubbles up to your consciousness as you think about working on some project you feel you’re no good at. Pain, resentment, hurt, and fear of failure have become associated with certain kinds of tasks.”

The easiest way to procrastinate less and boost productivity is to keep a log of how you spend your time. So for a few days, simply record exactly how you’re spending every minute of your day. This will alert you to many areas of inefficiency and lost time.

Log your time

<ul><li>You give a task the power to determine your worth and happiness</li><li>You use perfectionism to raise the stakes of a mistake. You make it seem that any mistake equals death</li><li>You feel frozen with anxiety because your natural threat assessment system produces adrenaline to deal with threats to you</li><li>You use procrastination to escape your dilemma</li><li>Finally, you use a real threat such as a deadline to overcome your fears and start the task.</li></ul>

Stages of anxiety and procrastination

“In order to maximize your performance in a stressful world, you must create a protected and indisputable sense of worth for yourself. Until you do, energy and concentration will be drained from work and put into preparing for imagined threats to your survival, and into procrastination as a means of coping."

When you catch yourself worrying, prepare yourself for that danger. Once you know you’re ready for the worst-case scenario, you’ll calm down and be able to get to work.Consider these questions:<ul><li>What is the worst that could happen?</li><li>What would I do if the worst really happened?</li><li>How would I lessen the pain and get on with as much happiness as possible if the worst did occur?</li><li>What alternatives would I have?</li><li>What can I do now to lessen the probability of this dreaded event occurring?</li><li>Is there anything I can do now to increase my chances of achieving my goal?</li></ul>

Use worrisome thoughts as action triggers

We are more likely to be productive when we can anticipate pleasure and success rather than isolation and anxiety in our work.To minimize procrastination, structure your rewards such that you will be motivated to start on the task each day.Enjoying guilt-free play is part of a cycle that will lead you to higher levels of quality, creative work. Schedule for guilt-free play. This will give you a sense of freedom over your life and will allow you to settle more easily into short and focused periods of quality work.

Guilt-free play

The self-talk of procrastinators suggests and reinforces feelings of burden, victimhood, and resistance to authority. Learning to challenge and replace negative internal dialogue helps you free yourself from attitudes that may currently be holding you back.<ul><li>Replace ‘I have to’ with 'I choose to.’</li><li>Replace ‘I must finish’ with ‘When can I start?’</li><li>Replace ‘This project is so big and important” with ‘I can take one small step.’</li><li>Replace ‘I must be perfect’ with ‘I can be perfectly human.’</li><li>Replace ‘I don’t have time to play’ with 'I must take time to play.’</li></ul>

Change how you talk to yourself

It is a time-planning method developed to tackle many procrastination-related problems.Instead of scheduling the very thing you’re procrastinating on (work), you first schedule fixed commitments (e.g., meals, commute, sleep), self-care activities (e.g., meditation, exercise), and guilt-free play (e.g., socializing, hobbies). In fact, you never even schedule work. It only goes on your schedule once you’ve spent at least 30 minutes of focused, quality time working. And it only happens in-between fixed commitments, self-care activities, and play.

The unschedule

“Working in the flow state or in the zone removes the emotional need to procrastinate and accelerates your progress toward your goals.”

A round-up of useful sources to refer to when willpower gets low.

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Problem Solving

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Personal Development

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Time Management

Beat Procrastination

Learn how to overcome procrastination and enjoy guilt-free play! One of the most effective programs to combat procrastination, THE NOW HABIT has sold over 100,000 copies, has been translated into 11 languages, and is now revised and updated. Featuring a new introduction and a new section providing strategies to understand and deal with the role technology plays in procrastination today, THE NOW HABIT offers a comprehensive plan to help readers lower their stress and increase their time to enjoy guilt-free play. Dr. Fiore’s techniques will help any busy person start tasks sooner and accomplish them more quickly, without the anxiety brought on by the negative habits of procrastination and perfectionism.

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Productivity

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Habits

Learn how to overcome procrastination and enjoy guilt-free play!  One of the most effective programs to combat procrastination, THE NOW HABIT has sold over 100,000 copies, has been translated into 11 languages, and is now revised and updated. Featuring a new introduction and a new section providing strategies to understand and deal with the role technology plays in procrastination today, THE NOW HABIT offers a comprehensive plan to help readers lower their stress and increase their time to enjoy guilt-free play. Dr. Fiore’s techniques will help any busy person start tasks sooner and accomplish them more quickly, without the anxiety brought on by the negative habits of procrastination and perfectionism.

Neil Fiore is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Neil Fiore has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Neil Fiore's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Neil Fiore

The Now Habit

Saving is the gap between your ego and your income

More than I want big returns, I want to be financially unbreakable

A good rule of thumb for a lot of things in life is that everything that can break will eventually break

Arrange your financial life in a way that a bad investment here and a missed financial goal there won’t wipe you out so you can keep playing until the odds fall in your favor

Warren Buffett’s net worth is $84.5 billion. Of that, $84.2 billion was accumulated after his 50th birthday

Doing well with money has a little to do with how smart you are and a lot to do with how you behave

“Savings can be created by spending less.You can spend less if you desire less.And you will desire less if you care less about what others think of you.Money relies more on psychology thanfinance

Happiness is just results minus expectations

Modern capitalism is a pro at two things: generating wealth and generating envy

You can build wealth without a high income, but have no chance of building wealth without a high savings rate

There's only one way to stay wealthy: some combination of frugality and paranoia. And that's a topic we don't discuss enough.

Using your money to buy time and options has a lifestyle benefit few luxury goods can compete with

Everything has a price, but not all prices appear on labels

Spending money to show people how much money you have is the fastest way to have less money

It gets dangerous when the taste of having more—more money, more power, more prestige— increases ambition faster than satisfactionYou feel as if you’re falling behind, and the only way to catch up is to take greater and greater amounts of risk

15 Powerful Financial Lessons From the Book "The Psychology of Money"

Doing well with money isn’t necessarily about what you know. It’s about how you behave. And behavior is hard to teach, even to really smart people. Money—investing, personal finance, and business decisions—is typically taught as a math-based field, where data and formulas tell us exactly what to do. But in the real world people don’t make financial decisions on a spreadsheet. They make them at the dinner table, or in a meeting room, where personal history, your own unique view of the world, ego, pride, marketing, and odd incentives are scrambled together. In The Psychology of Money, award-winning author Morgan Housel shares 19 short stories exploring the strange ways people think about money and teaches you how to make better sense of one of life’s most important topics.

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Money & Investments

Doing well with money isn’t necessarily about what you know. It’s about how you behave. And behavior is hard to teach, even to really smart people. Money—investing, personal finance, and business decisions—is typically taught as a math-based field, where data and formulas tell us exactly what to do. But in the real world people don’t make financial decisions on a spreadsheet. They make them at the dinner table, or in a meeting room, where personal history, your own unique view of the world, ego, pride, marketing, and odd incentives are scrambled together. In The Psychology of Money, award-winning author Morgan Housel shares 19 short stories exploring the strange ways people think about money and teaches you how to make better sense of one of life’s most important topics.

Morgan Housel is a partner at The Collaborative Fund. He is a two-time winner of the Best in Business Award from the Society of American Business Editors and Writers, winner of the New York Times Sidney Award, and a two-time finalist for the Gerald Loeb Award for Distinguished Business and Financial Journalism. He lives in Seattle with his wife and two kids.

Morgan Housel

The Psychology of Money

“What starts as an excuse can easily become a habit.Don't let a bad day become a lifestyle.”

“Life is a series of seasons, and what works in one season may not work in the next.What season are you in right now? What habits does that season require?”

“Awareness is often enough to motivate change.Simply tracking your food intake will motivate you to alter it. Merely writing down your problems may spark ideas for possible solutions.The process starts with seeing reality clearly.”

“I always forget how important the empty days are, how important it may be sometimes not to expect to produce anything, even a few lines in a journal. A day when one has not pushed oneself to the limit seems a damaged, damaging day, a sinful day. Not so! The most valuable thing one can do for the psyche, occasionally, is to let it rest, wander, live in the changing light of a room.”

“The secret to feeling great about yourself is not to be found in searching for people who are less than you and then show yourself superior to them, but in searching for people who are more than you and then show yourself worthy of their company.”

Write down all the projects you are working on right now. What is the one thing that, if you had the courage to eliminate it entirely, would make all the others easier?

1 QUESTION FOR YOU

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Motivation & Inspiration

3-2-1: Life's seasons, the importance of rest, and the secret to feeling great about yourself

<ol><li>Start by changing your thoughts and your words </li><li>Change your actions-by taking bold action every day </li><li>Change your environment-by surrounding yourself with people who support you </li><li>Change your habits-by forming new habits every day </li> </ol>

Recognize That You Have The Power To Change Your Life

Schedule me time at the end of the day. This can help your mind unwind from the stress of work.

Don't Forget To Schedule Me Time

Relaxation hobbies like playing an instrument, drawing, or writing are just a few examples of activities that don't demand much mental work.

Try A Hobby Outside Of Your Work Li

If the criticism comes out of the blue or seems unjustified, it might be difficult to take it with grace. If someone fails to offer constructive feedback, it does not always mean that they woke up this morning with the intention of ruining your day. May be they are focused on completing their own work. Things aren't always what we expect them to be. We don't need to judge.

Try Not To Take Everything Personally

To keep things simple you need to ask questions to yourself what is important and Make decisions with ease. If you want to maintain a healthy weight in the long run, you need to eat healthily and exercise regularly.

Keep Things Simple

Lack of support can lead to conditions like depression and anxiety. When we have good talks with our friends and family, they help us to improve our mental health.

Spend Time With Your Friends And Family

Walking in the fresh air will give you a boost of energy and allow you to perform better at work. It is possible that your productivity and output will suffer if you don't take a break.

Walk In Nature And Have Some Fresh Air

<ol><li>Recognize that you have the power to change your life. </li><li>Schedule me time at the end of the day. This can help your mind unwind from the stress of work. </li><li>You need a new hobby which has nothing to do with your work life. </li><li>Things aren't always what we expect them to be. We don't need to judge. Try to see things as it is. </li><li>Keep things simple in your life by asking few questions what you want in your nearest future. </li><li>Spend time with your loved ones helps you keep away from stress and anxiety. </li><li>Don’t forget to take a stroll in fresh air. </li><li>Be kind to yourself. </li> </ol>

Remember

I love these ideas because it helps me to change my mental health..

Our life is a combination of our thoughts and the way we react to things around us. Change comes from within, and it has to start with your mindset and attitude. Every individual can change their lives by simply creating some positive habits and following them every day.

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Mental Health

How To Change Your Mind And Create A Good Life

A few days after she became the first female skater to land a quadruple jump at the Beijing Olympics, 15-year-old Kamila Valieva fell in her final program, costing her the individual Olympic gold. She wept as she stepped off the ice. Instead of comforting her, her coach berated her.The skater who won didn’t seem much happier. The gold medalist, Anna Shcherbakova, said that this was what she had been working toward every day but also that she felt “emptiness inside.”

I Feel… Nothing

This kind of pressure might seem inconceivable to us; after all, we probably aren’t Olympic athletes. But have you ever anchored your happiness in some way to a far-off goal that you could attain only at significant personal cost, that you thought would deliver to you the satisfaction you seek or the success you crave? Maybe it’s finishing a degree, publishing a book, or making a certain amount of money. Nothing is wrong with these goals per se, but if you place your happiness in their attainment, you are setting yourself up for your own version of these bitter Olympic moments.

Olympic-size Disappointments

Dreams and goals are important because they give us a metric against which to measure progress; you don’t care if you’re getting closer to Rome unless you are trying to get to Rome. But what brings us true happiness is progress, not meeting a goal. Progress consistently beats accomplishment when it comes to well-being. Humans are wired, it seems, for improvement. The end state is fairly subjective and in some cases even arbitrary (for example, I will save $10,000). But progress is clear and unambiguous (I have more in my savings account this week than last week).

We “Enjoy The Journey” Because We’re Getting Somewhere

Goal attainment can even bring problems. Some researchers have argued<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1996-98326-028"> </a>that when a goal is a true end point for progress, the cessation of forward motion can lead to a feeling of emptiness, exactly what Shcherbakova described in Beijing.

When The Journey Ends, We Feel The World Ends With It

Worse than feeling nothing, you might subject yourself to what the self-improvement writer Stephanie Rose Zoccatelli calls the “post-achievement hangover”, a feeling of restlessness and mild depression in the days after a major milestone, such as graduating from college or getting married. One plausible explanation for this phenomenon has to do with dopamine, a neuromodulator that gives us a sense of pleasurable anticipation of a reward. Dopamine is elevated before you achieve a goal and depleted afterward. This leads to what you might call “anti-anticipation,” or a sense of emptiness.

The Post-Achievement Hangover - Addiction & Abstention

Anti-anticipation potentially explains a lot of paradoxical behavior, such as why New Year’s resolutions usually fail in the long run, even after initial success. The imagined sustained bliss after, say, saving more money is a mirage; your prize for success is saving money, forever. The progress gives you little shots of dopamine as your savings increase. But once you hit your goal and look out over the wide expanse of permanent fiscal austerity … it’s a dopamine desert.

Anticipation And Anti-Anticipation

To pursue one big goal in the hope of attaining happiness is, ironically, to set yourself up for unhappiness. Buddhists see such goals as just another kind of worldly attachment that creates a cycle of craving and clinging. This principle is at the heart of Buddhism’s first noble truth, that life is suffering. This doesn’t mean that you should abandon all goals, however. You just need to understand and pursue them in a different way.Subject your goals to a bit of scrutiny. Ask yourself three questions.

Give Your Goals And Yourself The 3-Question Test

A little voice in your head always tells you that your very special dream, whether it’s Olympic gold or winning the presidency, will bring you bliss, so a lot of misery in pursuit of it is worthwhile. But that isn’t true, and the more emphasis you put on the end state, the more emotional trouble you will face. Instead of single-mindedly chasing a goal, focus more on whether you’re getting anything out of your progress right now.

1. Are You Enjoying The Journey?

Here’s an existential riddle: What’s usually first prize in a pie-eating contest? Answer: More pie. So I hope you like pie.The point of a good goal is to improve your quality of life by changing your day-to-day for the better, not to limp across the finish line and stop after a terrible ordeal. Working toward a goal is a lot like that pie-eating contest. The reward for quitting the misuse of alcohol is stopping drinking and then continuing to live without drinking. Make sure you’re really in it for the long haul.

2. Do You Like Pie?

Researchers have found that frequent, small achievements tend to start a cycle of success and happiness much more than infrequent, big ones. Make sure you can break your long-term goals into smaller chunks—even into goals for individual days, if possible. You can have a victory each day and not be dependent on something that might happen years into the future. Point your efforts toward where you want to be in a year, but don’t dwell on that destination. Rather, enjoy the daily and weekly milestones that you know are getting you down your road to success.

3. Can You Take One Step At A Time?

Maybe your goals don’t pass this 3-question test. Maybe training to climb Mount Everest would be a journey that brings you no joy, or actually working as a lawyer after struggling through law school doesn’t appeal to you. If that is the case, you must then ask yourself 1 more question: Why is this my goal in the first place? Maybe you internalized your parents’ dream for your future, or you’re still holding on to one that you came up with when you were very immature. If so, it’s time to let the dream go.

One More Question

Just as a wildly hypothetical example, say that, as a young child, someone told you that you could win a gold medal in figure skating and your life would be wonderful forever. But the journey is onerous, and a few years down the line, you realize that you don’t want the life of a professional skater. In this case, it is time to emancipate yourself from your goal. Walk off the ice and get on with your life.

Walk Off The Ice

“Happiness is the ultimate goal. It is the goal of all other goals.”

Achieving a goal and achieving happiness are two entirely different things. There are 3 questions that can maybe test our goals for their happiness potential. So, do you like pie?

Achieving a goal and achieving happiness are two entirely different things.

Why Success Can Feel So Bitter

Gratitude, in the simplest form, is a thankful appreciation for what one has. It is a positive state of mind that focuses on what we already have, rather than what is lacking in life. It is the awareness that life isn’t perfect and it doesn’t always go the way we want it to go; but from a realistic perspective, there are always some good things in life that we can appreciate.

What is gratitude and how can it help us?

It’s a part of our evolution. We generally tend to return to a certain baseline level of happiness despite major positive or negative events in life. We adapt to them. This concept is called “hedonic adaptation”, and it is essential for our survival.The downside of hedonic adaptation is that we also adapt to even the most wonderful things we have over time. Their subjective impact decreases over time, and we lose interest. There are many things in life that make our lives much better but eventually we don't even acknowledge their existence because we get used to them

So why do we need to practice gratitude? Why isn't it innate? 

That’s why we need to intentionally pay attention to the good things in life. In this way, we can reverse our adaptation, see the wonderful things as they are, and feel the power of gratitude. <a href="https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/pdfs/GratitudePDFs/3Froh-BlessingsEarlyAdolescence.pdf">Research </a>shows that the practice of gratitude can change subjective wellbeing. Even a small act like listing a few things we are grateful for has an incredibly powerful effect on our mental health. By paying attention to the things we are grateful for, we cultivate happiness, compassion, and kindness. By being grateful, we cultivate a better life.

Each day, take 5-10 minutes and list the 5 things you’re grateful for. You can write just a couple of words or some long sentences if you like. The content of what you write and the way you express yourself does not matter as long as you are mindful when you’re writing it. If you intentionally pay attention, you’ll feel the benefits more.You can add it to your daily routine, and either start or finish your day by listing those 5 things that make your life better. Within just a week, you will feel the difference in your outlook. Over time, being grateful will become a normal part of your life.

So how can we practice gratitude?

The reason it doesn’t come naturally to us is our adaptation. Although it's a vital part of our evolution, we adapt to even the most wonderful things and take them for granted. We can reverse it with a simple practice called negative visualization. Take a look around and try to imagine how different your life would be if you didn’t have the things or the people you love. You don’t have to think about extreme negative situations. Just think about how your day would be different without them and recognize their positive impact on your life.

Can’t come up with anything to be grateful for?

Practicing gratitude transforms your outlook upon life in overwhelming ways. Within just a couple of days, you will feel that noticing the good things will get easier. And over time, you will know in your heart that life is beautiful, no matter what happens.

What is gratitude and how can it help us? Gratitude, in the simplest form, is a thankful appreciation for what one has. It is a positive state of …

The power of gratitude and how to practice it - Medito Foundation

Even if you work for others, do it as if it is your own business. Talk to your clients the same way your boss would do, when he’s at his best.

Own your work

Not only will this make you happy but also achieve better for the business you work for.

Stand up for work that matters 

Spend 80% of your time doing 20% of the work that produces 80% of the results

Eat that frog!

Chances are that most (if not all) our favorite distractions are right at our fingertip these days. Another good work habit to have is to <a href="https://ysamphy.com/iphone-configurations-and-apps-for-productivity/">set up your phone to work for you</a>, instead of against you.


Set up your smartphone to work for you, not against you!

You need to build your focus muscle by making it a habit to turn off notifications during most of your workday. Just like you should <a href="https://ysamphy.com/guide-to-email-productivity-post/">schedule email time</a>, consider checking your communication apps only twice a day: once at 11:30 a.m. and another one at 5:00 p.m.

Work without digital distractions

Research found that almost half of our interruptions are self-initiated, so it's important to note it, name it, and nail it.

Become indistractable

Dealing with distraction is only part of the equation. The ability to focus is a must-have work habit for elite performers.

Train your focus muscle

Most people prioritize tasks on their schedule when in fact, a better way is to schedule your priority. The things on your schedules are usually someone else’s priority, not yours.

Schedule the priority

<a href="https://www.ysamphy.com/top-time-management-tips-and-techniques/">Effective time management</a> is a crucial work habit to have for elite performers. Their working hours are usually planned.

Master time management

If you are not well organized, it makes it difficult to find the focus necessary to produce the quality outcome you desire.

Be well organized

“Your mind is for having ideas, not holding them.”

All of us plan and prioritize all the time, but it is better to get our tasks off our head.

Use a to-do list

Ask yourself this questions: What usually distracts you from doing your important tasks? Mindless snacking? Social media? Web browsing? News reading? A chat with your colleagues? Add them to your not to do list.

Use a not-to-do list to avoid distractions

Daily and weekly reviews are necessary for continuous improvement and expert performance.

Review your performance

Without proper rest and recovery, you can’t perform at your best. Meditation relaxes your mind and body. Research shows that when our brain is resting, it engages its “default network” to continue problem-solving, examine possibilities, and look for relevant information.

Practice meditation and mindfulness

There are many ways we can embrace personal and professional development at work. Reading books, peer learning/sharing, personal reflection, asking questions when in doubt… These are just a few examples.

Embrace a growth mindset

We don’t rise to our level of expectations; we fall to the level of our training.

Different careers need different tools so master the tools you need for your work. Knowing how to use them can get you by, but mastering those tools will let you optimize your performance.

Master the tools necessary to perform

I wrote the article a while ago. I've now hand-picked 18 of them and hope that you will find them helpful! Do let me know what you think I should add to the list! Happy Stashing!

This is a comprehensive guide to good work habits to help you succeed in your career. Check it out if you wonder what to do at work every day

18 Habits of Highly Effective Kowledge Workers

Reading this book is like holding a genuine friend in your hands.The style in which this author goes through 'the seven personal assertions' was a much needed reality check to say the least.'This is a conversational slap from the universe to wake up to your true potential, to unfuck yourself and get spectacularly into your life'.

Get Out Of Your Head

This book requires you to seek the answer, not out there, but inside of yourself.Its not that you have to find the answer, you are the answer.

Research in neuroscience and psychology shows that the kind of talk you engage in impacts the quality of your life.Studies have continually evidenced that positive self talk can dramatically improve mood, boost confidence, increase productivity and much much more. It can be one of the key components to a happy, successful life.The reverse is also true that negative self talk can put us in a bad mood and leave us feeling helpless. It makes small problems seem bigger and creates problems which didnt exist before.Your self talk is fucking you up in ways you cant even begin to imagine.

How Language Changes Our Lives

You are what you do, not what you say you'll do.

Its this simple: in order to improve your internal world, you have to start by taking action in the external world. Get out of your mind and get into your life.

Scientists have discovered that our thoughts can actually change the structure of our brains.This phenomenon is called neuroplasticity.As we go through life experiencing and learning new things, our brains constantly arranges and rearranges the neural pathways that control how we think and behave.The best way to shape thoughts is through conscious, decisive self talk. Just like how we build habits by repeating an action until it becomes automatic, we can use strong and assertive language to create lasting change in our lives over time.You are affecting your brains very biology.

Retrain Your Brain

If all our misfortunes were laid in one common heap whence everyone must take an equal portion, most people would be content to take their own and depart.

Whatever the domain you're winning in, you'll start to realise something: you're really good at it.You really are wired to win. You can and do achieve the things you set your mind to.

When you stick to whats comfortable for you, doing the same things you've always done, your in effect living in the past - not moving forward. You are repeating behaviours that at one point in your life felt risky, but have since turned into a routine.Success is never certain and it never comes without risk. Successful people succeed because they don't let uncertainty stop them.Once you choose certainty over uncertainty, you stop achieving. Eventually we do that thing called 'settle'. We settle for certainty.The successes and experiences you've dreamed of are waiting for you in uncertainty.

A Paradigm Of Potential

You've probably noticed, when you do try to stay in your comfort zone, you never truly feel comfortable. There's always that nagging feeling that you could be doing more. There's always that desire for a life thats better than the one you have now.There really is no destination, there is only exploring, exploring and exploring.

Its all about momentum. Once you get the ball rolling, its easier to stay moving.Choose action over inaction. Act beyond your automatic thoughts.The car won't start without you putting your key in the ignition.Dont know what to do first or where to start? Great! Thats your first action! Find out. Trawl the Internet, read books, ask questions, take courses, seek advice, do whatever the eff you need to do to UNFUCK YOURSELF and get into your life.'I am not my thoughts, I am what I do'.

Action Greases The Wheel Of Life

Go against the current.People in your life have become accustomed to relating to you as a specific 'kind' of person. So any attempt to break out of that mold, you're not only messing with your own world, you're also messing with theirs.The resistance comes from your mind, not just from other people. Both your conscious and subconscious thoughts can work against you to stop your dreams right in their tracks.

Be Relentless 

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

How do we recognise our hidden expectations? The answer is in the places in your life where you experience disappointment, resentment, regret, suppression, anger, lethargy, essentially anywhere that leaves you feeling deflated like you have lost your self.The greater the gap between your hidden expectations and your reality, the worse you will feel.When you expect nothing, you're living in the moment, embracing the situation you're in.Own the situation and be in charge of it. When you take ownership and responsibility for it, that is when you can change it.

Hidden Expectations

Don't seek to have events happen as you wish, but wish them to happen as they do happen, and all will be well with you.

There will always be people who will lie and cheat. Its just not healthy for your self to live in the expectation that they won't, and then throw a hissy fit when they do. Remember, in most cases, you will always end up worse off than they do! Much worse.You end up sticking yourself with resentment, regret, anger and frustration. Remember, you are doing this to yourself!Accept things for what they are. Become masterful with your mind and your emotional state. Quieten your mind and allow yourself to act with power rather than succumbing to your internal and external upsets.

Expect Nothing, Accept Everything

Love the life you have, not the one you expected to have.'I expect nothing and accept everything'.

Stay out of the swamp of mediocrity and drama, reach for your greatest self, your greatest potential, and challenge yourself to live that life every single day of it.

Joining the ranks of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, You Are a Badas*, and F*ck Feelings comes this refreshing, BS-free, self-empowerment guide that offers an honest, no-nonsense, tough-love approach to help you move past self-imposed limitations. Are you tired of feeling fu*ked up? If you are, Gary John Bishop has the answer. In this straightforward handbook, he gives you the tools and advice you need to demolish the slag weighing you down and become the truly unfu*ked version of yourself. ''Wake up to the miracle you are,'' he directs. ''Here's what you've forgotten: You're a fu*king miracle of being.'' It isn't other people that are standing in your way, it isn't even your circumstances that are blocking your ability to thrive, it's yourself and the negative self-talk you keep telling yourself. In Unfu*k Yourself, Bishop leads you through a series of seven assertions: I am willing. I am wired to win. I got this. I embrace the uncertainty. I am not my thoughts; I am what I do. I am relentless. I expect nothing and accept everything. Lead the life you were meant to have—Unfu*k Yourself.

Unfu*k Yourself

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