W hen did you feel so lonely last time? Have you asked Why? Did you feel so.. if no! Ask yourself why? If, Yes then Good! You are not the only one who is feeling lonely or lonely. Everyone feels that way from time to time, from breaking up to losing someone through death. And sometimes, it is also ok! To have loneliness, thoughts. It only gets worse when you have it for too long.

Our biggest problem that is making us feel lonely is the Internet and Covid 19. The Internet made us more isolated than ever and the Japanese have their own term called <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFgWy2ifX5s">Hikikomori </a> . Where one decides to isolate themselves completely from the world and it is a serious issue there.

More you stay! connect with the people who we don't know virtually, more you feel lonely. We are happy and more alive when we meet someone physically than virtually we can be friends with anyone virtually. But, it lacks the real connection that we could have through face-to-face interaction.

1. Accept this, when you feel, your lonely, you will feel it :-  You won't feel until you feel so that means I won't feel lonely if I don't. You are feeling lonely because you think you are that is why? You are feeling. My dad is no more and it totally depends on me to feel good or bad.  You can still, feel lonely even when you're with someone you love the most. The main thing is I don't feel it in the first place and that is why? I never feel lonely. Because once you start the circle will continue as a never-ending process.

2. Appreciate this life you have :- We often think happiness exists outside and that is not true. Happiness is created by your thoughts, not the things you have. When you appreciate the things you have you love yourself more and once you love yourself more you feel more alive and peaceful. You may have everything you need still you will empty. So, start appreciating the things you have.

3. Loneliness and Depression are interconnected :- Loneliness and Depression are two sides of a coin. If, one starts another starts too, the point is to feel alive each and be grateful for the things we have. When we stay alone we learn more about ourselves as I say it  "Being alone is not a curse, by being alone you get a chance to know yourself better " let this loneliness feeling be your guiding light towards new you not towards self-destruction of your own life.

5.  What loneliness teach you? :-  It taught me many things in my life. I feel happier alone than with someone it makes you love yourself even more. Accepting that you can still be happy being alone is nothing wrong. Every great human that lived, was the lonely person they felt being more alone gave them the opportunity to come up with a better idea than being in a crowd.

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Many of us are bad at listening because we enjoy expressing our opinions and speaking out even if we have to interrupt. As a result, we are always focused on responding to others rather than trying to understand them because we frequently confuse listening with hearing. Listening entails far more than hearing.

1. Hear to learn, not to reply.

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We all come from various backgrounds, different locations, different families, we like different things and hate other things, we have different interests, but what we all have in common is that we like people who like what we like, people who are interested in the same things that we are interested. We quickly establish a common language with them and become friends.

2. Explore a mutual interest

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Relationship Is A Process Of Self Revelation

"In relationship, the primary cause of friction is oneself: the self that is the center of unified craving. If we can realize that it is not how another acts that is of primary importance, but how each one of us acts and reacts, and that if that reaction and action can be fundamentally, deeply understood—then relationship will undergo a deep and radical change."

Oneself In A Relationship

We need the complexity of a relationship to understand ourselves better. It is a combination of both reason and emotion, and not each in isolation that we require to wholly comprehend our own complex beings.

Mix Of Reason And Emotion

Relationship is not to depend on another for joy and happiness. It is to shed light on our traits, so as to become aware of our idiosyncrasies and increase the depth and horizon of awareness of our beings. It is in each other's company that parts of ourselves act and react. Hence, we need relationships for self revelation.

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It can be challenging to hold onto your <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/authenticity">authenticity </a>when you are around people who seem fake. Whether it is in a work setting, community interactions, or any other social encounter, it can be awkward to know how to respond without compromising your own internal guide. A fake laugh, unreasonably bubbly <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/personality">personality </a>, or tone of voice that is incongruous with what is going on can be more than just off-putting; it can influence interactions and really throw us off at times.

Staying Authentic Can Be Challenging

On the surface, it seems as though others’ lack of authenticity or even outright “fake” behavior shouldn’t impact us much. After all, we’re a pleasantly open “you do you” culture right now, so what does it really matter? Dealing with inauthentic people very much impacts our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. We learn a lot about people with the subtle, unspoken cues we receive during a conversation. We are hardwired to pick up on these nuances, which we translate into information that guides our own responses and behaviors.

Why Does the Lack of Authenticity Impact Us?

When we are faced with fake behavior, we don't necessarily know what to do with it. Without even realizing it, our internal interpreters are asking questions like:<ul><li>Are they hiding something?</li><li>Can I trust them?</li><li>Do I need to watch my back or be careful of what I say?</li></ul>We are less likely to feel safe enough to be vulnerable with people who are inauthentic, and when we perceive someone isn’t being real with us, we naturally feel guarded around them.

Fake Behavior Throws Us Off

Don't take their difficulty personally. Dealing with people who seem inauthentic can feel insulting. It can feel as though a fake person is “lying ” with their behaviors, which feels uncomfortable.When people struggle with being authentic, it is usually a reflection of their own relationship with themselves; in short, it has nothing to do with you. There may be some underlying social anxiety , fear of judgment, or other reasons for the struggle, none of which is connected to interacting with you specifically.

How to Stay Authentic, Regardless of Others

Think about authenticity as a skill (because it really is).It is easier to put on whatever mask seems fitting for the situation and show the world what you think they want to see. Showing up as yourself, without social masking, is brave, and this is not something that comes easily to some people.If you have a skill that others struggle with, that has nothing to do with you and it should not minimize your own access to that part of yourself. In fact, someone who struggles with authenticity is likely observing your ability and wishing they could access that level of comfort with themselves.

Stay grounded and centered.If you find yourself veering off course when you are around fake people, set aside some time alone to reconnect with yourself and try some <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/mindfulness">mindfulness </a>exercises. Close your eyes and center yourself with deep breathing; notice the physical sensations of your body.Engage with your senses and listen to the sounds of your environment, the colors, smells, and how you feel in your mind and body. Allow your face, neck, and shoulders to relax; shake off the pretension that can hang heavy when dealing with fakeness.

Show compassion.If you are feeling brave, ask the person who is struggling with authenticity a few compassionate questions or comments. This works best if it is a one-on-one situation, to avoid putting them on the spot or potentially embarrassing them.When an authentic person invites someone to share vulnerability, it is a powerful invitation and can be emotionally moving at times.

Even asking simple questions such as “how are you, really?” (and taking time to listen!) or offering observations about the person's strengths can make room for authenticity. This invitation can feel refreshing for people who are not generally able to share true feelings with others. It may be your invitation to share that helps them feel more comfortable being genuine and authentic in that moment and beyond.

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Good relationships are important for your mental wellbeing. They can:<ul><li>help you to build a sense of belonging and self-worth</li><li>give you an opportunity to share positive experiences</li><li>provide emotional support and allow you to support others.</li></ul>

1. Connect with other people

Being active is not only great for your physical health and fitness. Evidence also shows it can also improve your mental wellbeing .

2. Be physically active

Research shows that learning new skills can also improve your mental wellbeing by:<ul><li>boosting self-confidence and <a href="https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/tips-and-support/raise-low-self-esteem/">raising self-esteem </a></li><li>helping you to build a sense of purpose</li><li>helping you to connect with others</li></ul>Even if you feel like you do not have enough time, or you may not need to learn new things, there are lots of different ways to bring learning into your life.

3. Learn new skills

Research suggests that acts of giving and kindness can help improve your mental wellbeing by:<ul><li>creating positive feelings and a sense of reward</li><li>giving you a feeling of purpose and self-worth</li><li>helping you connect with other people</li></ul>It could be small acts of kindness towards other people, or larger ones like volunteering in your local community.

4. Give to others

Paying more attention to the present moment can improve your mental wellbeing. This includes your thoughts and feelings, your body and the world around you.Some people call this awareness "mindfulness". Mindfulness can help you enjoy life more and understand yourself better. It can positively change the way you feel about life and how you approach challenges.

5. Pay attention to the present moment (mindfulness)

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Love is not a contract to sign where you commit to turning everything to eachother. Love is when you feel understand without saying a thing. When you love some one you accept them in their entirely. The bad bits along with the good bits.

You learn to control jealousy. You put their happiness above yours. You want the best of them. You wish them well. You tell them thing that you belive are your absolute truth. You share your vulnerabilities with them. You show them your weakest side. You Bank on their compassion. You never expect love to be unkind.

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What if your mind is your greatest enemy? What if you were living your worst nightmare? How would you cope? Ankita has fought a mental disorder, been through hell, and survived two suicide attempts. Now in Mumbai, surrounded by her loving and supportive parents, everything seems idyllic. She is not on medication. She is in a college she loves, studying her dream subject: Creative Writing. She has made friends with the bubbly Parul and the glamourous Janki. At last leading a ‘normal life’, she immerses herself in every bit of it – the classes, her friends, her course and all the carefree fun of college. Underneath the surface, however, there is trouble brewing. A book she discovers in her college library draws her in, consumes her and sends her into a terrifying darkness that twists and tears her apart. To make matters worse, a past boyfriend resurfaces, throwing her into further turmoil. Armed with only a pen and a journal, she desperately fights with every ounce of strength she has. But can she escape her thoughts? Will Ankita survive the ordeal a second time around? What does life have in store for her? Preeti Shenoy's compelling sequel to the iconic bestseller Life is What You Make It chronicles the resilience of the human mind and the immense power of positive thinking. The gripping narrative demonstrates with gentle wisdom how by changing our thoughts, we can change our life itself.

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Updated for today’s readers, Dale Carnegie’s timeless bestseller How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic that has improved and transformed the professional and personal and lives of millions. One of the best-known motivational guides in history, Dale Carnegie’s groundbreaking book has sold tens of millions of copies, been translated into almost every known language, and has helped countless people succeed. Originally published during the depths of the Great Depression—and equally valuable during booming economies or hard times—Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their professional and personal lives. How to Win Friends and Influence People teaches you: -How to communicate effectively -How to make people like you -How to increase your ability to get things done -How to get others to see your side -How to become a more effective leader -How to successfully navigate almost any social situation -And so much more! Achieve your maximum potential with this updated version of a classic—a must-read for the 21st century.

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According to one study, an awkward silence lasts approximately four seconds. If it happens regularly, enough awkward silences can utterly derail a date. Over the past few years, I’ve compiled a list of the most interesting questions I’ve ever come across that lead to engaging and flowing conversations. PartyQs has over 750 hand-curated questions in four categories: Fun, dating, deep questions and party questions.

Fun and engaging get-to-know-you questions for conversation material

Examples: <ul><li>If you received $10 million but could only spend it on things that start with the first letter of your first name, what would you buy? </li><li>What’s the best type of cheese? </li><li>What’s the most extreme item on your bucket list? </li><li>What is the key to making the perfect pizza? </li></ul>

1. Fun  — get the laughs rolling with light-hearted and imaginative situational questions.

Examples: <ul><li>What makes you feel most alive? </li><li>What is something you learned from your dad? </li><li>Would you rather have free passes for life to all amusement parks or to all concerts? </li><li>What always makes you laugh out loud? </li></ul>

2. Date Night  — discover something new about your partner.

Examples: <ul><li>Would you rather be famous when you are alive and forgotten when you die or unknown when you are alive but famous after you die? </li><li>What are signs that someone is secretly unhappy? </li><li>Can art be objectively good or bad? </li><li>Which is more important for humanity: the arts or the sciences? </li></ul>

3. Deep questions —  warning, these topics deal with big ideas and immersive thoughts.

Examples: <ul><li>Would you rather travel for five years in an RV or travel for five years in a sailboat? </li><li>When and where do you get your best ideas? </li><li>Would you rather increase your reading or your exercise? </li><li>Are you more firm than gentle, or more gentle than firm? </li><li>What makes you really nerd out? </li></ul>

4. Party questions— break the ice with class

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This story is the true story of a very poor family, who has a son. His father had died, leaving the mother and son to support each other. The mother struggled to raise her child, at that time the village did not have electricity. While reading a book, the child is illuminated by the light of an oil lamp, while the mother lovingly sews clothes for the child. When autumn enters, the child enters high school. But it was precisely at that time that his mother suffered from a severe rheumatic disease so that she could no longer work in the fields.

At that time, students were required to bring thirty kg of rice every month to the school canteen. The son understood that his mother could not possibly give him the thirty kg of rice. And then said to his mother: "Mom, I want to quit school and help Mama work in the fields". The mother stroked her son's head and said, "You have such intentions, Mama is very happy, but you have to stay in school. Don't worry, if Mama has given birth to you, she will definitely be able to take care of you and take care of you. Hurry up and register for school. Mama will bring the rice there. ".

Because the child persisted in not wanting to enroll in school, the mother slapped the child. And this is the first time the child has been beaten by his mother.The child has finally gone to school. The mother continued to think and contemplate in her heart while looking at the shadow of her son who went away.Not long after, with a limp and in a hurry his mother came to the school cafeteria and lowered a bag of rice from his shoulder.

The supervisor in charge weighed the rice and opened the bag and took a handful of rice and weighed it and said, "You parents always like to take small profits, you see, here it contains a mixture of rice and unhulled rice. So you think my canteen is a mixed rice storage place". The mother was embarrassed and repeatedly apologized to the supervisor.

Early the next month, my mother carried a bag of rice and entered the canteen. The superintendent as usual took a bag of rice from the bag and looked. Still with furrowed brows and said, "Still with the same rice". The supervisor thought whether yesterday he had not ordered this mother and then said, "It doesn't matter what kind of rice you give us, we will receive it, but the types must be separated, don't mix them together, otherwise the cooked rice can't be cooked perfectly. again, then I can't accept it"

The mother was a little scared and said: "Madam supervisor, all of the rice in our house is like this, so what? The supervisor did not want to know and said, "You have how many hectares of land so you can grow various types of rice". The mother finally did not dare to say anything else. Recommended: <a href="https://rumah-unikid.blogspot.com/2021/10/is-your-destiny-choice-that-determines.html">Is your destiny a choice that determines yoursel</a>

At the beginning of the third month, the mother came back to school. The superintendent was again furious with harsh words and said, "You as a mother why are you so stubborn, why are you still keep carrying the same rice. Just bring your rice home!" shocked and could not say anything more. The mother finally sat on the floor, rolled up her pants and showed her hardened and swollen legs.RECOMMENDED: <a href="https://rumah-unikid.blogspot.com/2021/10/from-just-hobby-to-profitable-business.html">From Just a Hobby to a Profitable Business</a>

The mother wiped her tears and said: "I have rheumatism in the last stage, even walking is difficult, let alone farming. My son understood my condition very well and wanted to quit school to help me work in the fields. But I forbade him and told him to go to school again." So far he has not told his relatives in the next village. More so he is afraid of hurting his son's pride.

Every day early in the morning with a bag empty and the help of sticks went to the next village to beg. Until it was dark, he slowly returned to his own village.Until the beginning of the month all the collected rice was handed over to the school. When the mother told the story, the supervisor's tears began to flow unconsciously, then lifted the mother off the floor and said, "Mom, now I will report to the principal. , so that it can be donated to the mother's family."

The mother hastily refused and said: "No, if my son finds out his mother is going to beg for his son's school, it will destroy his self-esteem. And it will interfere with his schooling. I am very touched by the kindness of the superintendent, but please mother can keep this a secret." Finally, this matter was also known by the principal. The principal secretly waived the child's school fees and living expenses for three years. After three years later, the child graduated to qing hua college with a score of 627 points.

On the day of school farewell, the principal deliberately invited the child's mother to sit on the main seat. This mother found it strange, so many students got high marks, but why was only this mother invited. Even more strangely, there were still three bags of rice.  The school superintendent finally came forward and told the story of this mother who begged for rice for her child to go to school. The principal showed the three bags of rice in full. haru and said, "This is the mother in the story."

And invited the very extraordinary mother to come up to the pulpit. The son of the mother hesitantly looked back and saw his teacher leading his mother up the pulpit. The mother and child continued to look at each other. A mother's warm and gentle gaze on her child. Finally the child hugged and hugged his mother tightly and said: "Oh my mother....." Mother's love for all time, for all time and for all memories.

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The key to a scintillating and kinetic conversation on a date is one’s ability to ask really good questions. But before we talk about how to ask really good questions, it’s crucial to know what really bad questions look like.

The Secret To A Lush Date Conversation Has Nothing To Do With Words

A random question has no Explainable relevance to the moment. A question that elicits gross mental images, slanders people or embarrasses your date is a Chinese finger trap of conversational Homicide. A vanilla question can feel like a Cover-Up as if you can't think of anything good to talk about so you ask where she bought her shirt. If you ask a predictable, non-creative question about something you don't really care about, people make a mental note in their minds that you are a simple-minded person with little imagination.

Bad Questions: Random Ones

To ask a great question that makes your date feel cherished and respected, you must have genuine curiosity. Genuine curiosity means you put yourself in their shoes. You see in your mind’s eye what they see in real life and your imagination generates the thoughts and feelings they have. When something is interesting, we ask questions to learn more. But there are levels underneath genuine curiosity that require work.

The Secret to Asking Really Good Questions

Awkward silence is technically four seconds, according to science.

The Length Of Time Required for Awkward Silence

<ul><li>You care. If you don’t really care what their answer is, don’t ask the question in the first place.</li><li>You listen. Don’t pick up your phone. Don’t avoid eye contact.</li><li>You empathize. You feel how they feel.</li><li>You articulate.</li><li>You reflect.</li><li>You follow. You stick with their story, track the names and relationships, note the details and the conflicts.</li><li>You read. Before asking a question, it’s important to know if your date wants to be asked a question in the first place.</li></ul>

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