In a time not so long ago or far away, eating family dinner, connecting with your spouse after tucking the children into bed or talking with your children in the in-between times like the ride to school was just routine.
But times have changed. Our growing cultural mindset is that we’re too busy to connect with those closest to us, even though we collectively want to. Parents and children alike increasingly invest their downtime in phones and on social media and there’s a general sense that there’s always more. More to read, more to reply to and more to see.

Family Time

Because of this pressure to always consume more, it can feel wasteful to slow down to appreciate the people in front of us, for fear of missing out on life happening elsewhere.
Although it’s true that we can always consume more information, it’s not true that slowing down and taking time to connect — particularly face-to-face — is a waste of time.

Appreciating Those We Are With

Making time for social connections can reduce the chances of depression and anxiety caused by loneliness. And those connections can have broader benefits as well.here are a few simple ways to integrate face-to-face interaction into your family’s lifestyle.

Face To Face Interaction

Eating together as a family requires intentional effort, but most families can manage it at least a few times through the week. The intention, however, starts at the top.
You may want to reassess the timing of extracurricular activities to see if you can align your schedules to allow everyone to have a seat at the table.

Eating Together

To get the full benefit of those meals, keep away the phones and turn off the TV. You may want to have a basket for everyone to put their phones in, on silent, before the meal starts. 
The goal is to not just eat but to get a sense of what’s going on in everyone’s lives, and to get the gist of their emotional state.

No Phones Policy

Another important opportunity to reconnect with each other is winding down together before bed. You probably know that using electronic devices in the hour before bed makes it harder to fall and stay asleep. So you can improve your physical health and the health of your relationships by using that time to connect with your spouse instead.
It’s a good idea to set your phone to “do not disturb” mode so you rest peacefully. This tech-free before sleep ritual gives you the opportunity to pay attention to your spouse and to stay emotionally attuned to how he or she is feeling.

Wind down together

The best opportunity for face-to-face, meaningful connection is to invite your family members into whatever you’re already doing. 
Ask your kids to help you cook. Invite your spouse to walk the dog with you, and turn it into an evening ritual. Or suggest they join you on that evening errand to the Supermarket. Connection develops and strengthens in the little day-to-day moments.

Live life together

We get it, we’re all busy. But real, meaningful relationships thrive when they’re face-to-face. Here’s how to make time for them.

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A trauma bonding relationship is reflective of an attachment created by repeated physical or emotional trauma with intermittent positive reinforcement, according to licensed psychologist <a href="http://sexpositivepsych.com/about-me/">Liz Powell, PsyD </a>. Put simply, in a relationship with trauma bonding, there’s “a lot of really terrible stuff happening and then occasionally really great stuff happening," they say.

What Is Trauma Bond? 

Trauma bonding isn't only happening in romantic relationships. You can see trauma bonding signs in dynamics that include fraternity hazing, military training, kidnapping, child abuse, political torture, cults, prisoners of war, or concentration camps, Dr. Powell says. “In cases of domestic violence or abuse, a lot of people have difficulty leaving abusers, because they have a strong connection to them that is able to keep them there even when things are very bad...”

Trauma Bonds Happen Anywhere, Not Just Relationships! 

Why it is so easy to become attached to anything that helps you get through a traumatic event: your brain associates that thing or person with safety. So, when an abusive person decides to comfort you or apologize—even for a trauma they, themselves, put you through—your brain latches on to the positive reinforcement rather than thinks through the long-term effects of staying with the abuser.

The Science Behind Trauma Bonds

“There is an intense connection due to the fact that there is a strong hormonal connection between the abuser and the victim. The feeling is that you need the other person in order to survive.”

What's key to understand about a trauma bonding relationship is that it can't be healthy because it is not equal. “Oftentimes when folks are trauma bonding, it may look and feel safe for some,” says Eborn. “But there is a lot of inconsistency within the relationship, and it can be extremely dysfunctional. There is always a form of manipulation that is involved.”And remember, trauma bonding can present in various forms of abuse: physical, emotional, and psychological.

Understanding Trauma Bond

<ul><li>The relationship is moving at an accelerated pace </li><li>You feel very close even though you haven’t known each other for very long </li><li>You make huge life changes for a relatively new relationship </li><li>You put time and effort into the romantic relationship at the cost of friendships and family and other relationships </li><li>You have an extreme fear of leaving the relationship </li><li>You feel like they’re the only one who can fulfill your needs </li> </ul>

Signs Your Are Trauma Bonding

While the presence of the above factors, whether in isolation or grouped together, doesn't automatically mean a relationship is bonded by trauma. It can “feel like pieces of you are being ripped out in hugely violent ways,” Dr. Powell says.To mitigate this effect and help you stay firm in your choice, surround yourself with a support system of friends, family, and mental-health professionals who can assist you through the process. “Trauma bonding can cause us to question our own reality or to trust someone else's reality more than our own,”

How To Deal With Trauma Bond

A trauma bonding relationship is one with repeated physical or emotional trauma and intermittent positive reinforcement. Here are common signs of one.

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How Tell If You're In a Trauma Bonding Relationship—and What To Do About It

“Give up being perfect, for being authentic. Give up the need to be perfect, for the opportunity to be authentic. Be who you are. Love who you are. Others will too.” ~Hal Elrod Having the ability to talk about our flaws, what’s going wrong in our lives and where we’re getting stuck, is a huge part of human evolution that we often forget about. If we don’t have an environment to talk about our vulnerabilities, the wounds never get a chance to heal. When you choose the illusion of perfection over vulnerability, you become a stunted version of who you’re capable of becoming.

Life Is A Quest, Not A Miracle.

Exploring solutions to hardship is better than compromising with nature or will.

Pretending to be somebody you're not is exhausting work. I'd rather be vulerable and open than hide in fear.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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I am putting forth my quick analysis of what COVID-19 pandemic gave to the world and more or less, to all earthlings.. I hope it strikes a cord with you too..

It has made us consciously decide to be clean, neat and hygienic..

It has made us unrealizingly reach for the newspaper every day without fail..

It has made us understand the value of honestly devoted professionals in Healthcare sector..

It has made us feel more comfortable and cosy than ever inside our homes..

It has made us understand the crucial difference between essential products/services and low-stake streams of work, thus improved our prioritisation skills..

It has given us avenues to have more meals with the entire family than we ever managed to do, earlier..

It has made most of us comprehend the ultimate truth, we are mortal humans and tomorrow is not exactly guaranteed..

It has made us more aware of the importance of purchasing life insurance and medical/health insurance..

It has made a sizeable proportion of the affluent class accustomed to and adept at cleaning, washing and sanitizing by themselves on a regular basis..

It has made human relationships land on the honest, realistic ground of what works (and what does not)..

It has made us more connected to our family members, friends, followers and fellow-residents, even if out of health-concerns..

It has made children better communicators as they got the time, energy and willingness to interact more effectively with parents and siblings..

It has undoubtedly made us more techno-savvy and digitally-oriented..

It has instilled a new sense of confidence, pride in the government and system W.R.T. their capability and readiness to deal with untoward turn of events..

It has made eating-out a rare privilege, just exactly how it should be perceived and observed..

It has helped people upskill in professional life, whether the reason is lay-offs, pay-cuts or any other unfavourable situation..

It has taught us restraint (regardless of how much) in bed, and why we should not take love-making or the partner for granted..

It has led us to believe in enhancing our leadership skills, at any and every level, given the more precarious, vulnerable nature of the world of today..

It has given us the time for catching up on our hobbies, favourite pastimes and areas of interest..

It has made us reminisce of God more, and this has worked in our favour, because we have experienced and practiced faith, hope and providence (divine intervention)..

#COVID19 #Pandemic #HealthEmergency #TakeawaysFromPandemic

20 Important Things We Could Learn From COVID-19 Pandemic.. I am putting forth my quick analysis of what COVID-19 pandemic gave to the world and more or less, to all earthlings.. I hope it strikes a...

20 Important Things We Could Learn From COVID-19 Pandemic..

People who logically examine their relationships cannot sustain them. Two bodies, two minds, two emotions can never fit perfectly. Magic of being together can never be contained in logic.

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Mystic Quotes - Sadhguru

1). Pain is inevitable.. Suffering is optional..

You Get To Decide..

2). Pain is temporary.. Glory is for ever.

Make Pain Count..

Have Fun With The Pain..

4). Just because you were pained as a child, or in your formative years, it does not give you the license to give pain to others..

Pain Is not A By-product..

5). You don’t remember pain, not as much as you think that you do..

Pain Never Leaves An Indelible Imprint..

6). Pain goes, but not without teaching the lesson that it intends to teach..

The Power Of Pain..

7). Some people are a pain in the posterior, they like themselves better that way, and you have to live with it..

Pain Happens..

8). Pain is the quintessential ingredient of life, because it makes us appreciate joy and pleasures that we would have taken for granted..

Pain Is For Real..

9). Pain is not the problem.. Your way of looking at the pain is (the problem)..

Look At Pain Differently..

Ignore Pain At Own Peril..

11). Pain has a wonderful effect on some of us.. If not anything, it does make us more humble..

Pain Gives Humility..

12). How you deal with Pain is your signature on the document called 'Life’..

Deal With/Lead Despite Pain..?..

13). Pain need not be cured always.. Sometimes, it just needs to shed its skin..

Pain Is A Bigshot..

14). When you face your pain points bravely, you show the world one more way to do it with theirs..

No Disdain For Any Pain..

15). Pain is an unimaginably effective teacher, don’t disregard the value it can add to your character and persona..

Learn From Your Pain..

#Health #MentalHealth #PainIsSeldomUseless #Pain #PainIsReal #PainMakesYouHumble #DontUnderestimatePain #PainfulRealities

Putting the Pain in Perspective.. I came across some diverse concepts of ‘Pain’ that I wish to share with all.. 1). Pain is inevitable.. Suffering is optional.. 2). Pain is temporary.. Glory is for...

Putting the Pain in Perspective.. I came across multiple perspectives on 'Pain', sharing with you all..

In life so many things to doAnd, yes, so many things to say,I know I can and I really wishThat I also do a simple thing today.Let me help quench thirst of someone -Be it a friend, a stranger, or even a dog,Let me help carry someonehis burden: a box, a load or log.

A Simple Thing Today! (A Poem)

Let me bring comfort to someoneOr be a helping hand, perchance,From the road, if I come across,Let me remove a thorny branch.Let me speak a hopeful wordOr help someone find his way,All the things that I do in a day,O my Lord, let me do a simple thing today.~Mohammad Omar Farooq

So Shall We Do A Simple Act Of Kindness Today.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: 'Charity is due from every part of a person's body. Every day on which the sun rises, doing justice between two persons is charity; to extend helping had to a person in riding his mount or put his luggage on it is charity; a pleasant word is charity; every step taken to join in the Salat (prayers) is charity; removing anything which causes harm from a path is charity.'

Let's perform an act of kindness everyday! Shall we?

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What is the Reality? - IslamiCity

Eye contact. This is the first indication that we are noticed by another person. Every human has the longing to be seen, understood, and appreciated.Muscles of facial expression. Our expressions are why we have preserved our species because they can show ranges of emotions from disgust to flirtation.Posture. It is a powerful conveyor of connection through open or closed signals, whether the person should approach or avoid.Affect. The scientific term for 'expressed emotions' and we orient ourselves to the emotional experience of the other person

What EMPATHY stands for

Tone of voice. When we are emotionally activated, our tone of voice and facial expressions change unconsciously.Hearing the whole person. It means that we are keeping our curiosity open and saving the judgment against the other person in order for us to fully understand where the other person is coming from.Your response. Our inner experiences and feelings mirror those of others. We are hard-wired for empathy and we are alive today because of mutual aid and cooperation.

“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity will not survive.”

Our brains are working with shared neural circuits and shared neurons; some mirror neurons so that we actually have an internal experience of what happens to others. So when we hear the expression ‘I feel your pain,’ it’s not just a figure of speech. We are made for this and it happens not just with our loved ones.Moreover, when we are deprived of empathy, it declines, but the good news is that it can also be learned. In order for us to bring out the best in others, we need to have their specialness reflected back in the eyes of others so they can see it themselves.

How Empathy Works

‘When we accept diminished substitutes we become diminished substitutes’

When we collectively come together to bring our best selves to solve the world's biggest, smallest, and most vexing problem, we are able to do so. That is the power of empathy.

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Here is what I've learned from Helen Reiss, M.D. about the power of empathy.

Dr. Riess is an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She directs the Empathy & Relational Science Program, conducting research on the neuroscience of emotions and empathy, and is Co-Founder, Chief Scientist and Chairman of Empathetics, LLC. She is also a core member of the Research Consortium for Emotional Intelligence and is a faculty member of the Harvard Macy Institute for Physician Leaders. Dr. Riess has devoted her career to research on the neuroscience and art of the patient-doctor relationship and teaching psychiatry residents and medical students. Her research team conducts translational research based on the neuroscience of emotions. The effectiveness of Dr. Riess's empathy training approach has been demonstrated in several studies including a randomized controlled trial. She has developed faculty curricula for "Teaching the Teachers" of Psychotherapy that is used by faculty psychiatrists. Dr. Riess's empathy training curricula are implemented internationally in healthcare as well as in business. In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

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Dr. Riess is an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She directs the Empathy & Relational Science Program, conducting research on the neuroscience of emotions and empathy, and is Co-Founder, Chief Scientist and Chairman of Empathetics, LLC. She is also a core member of the Research Consortium for Emotional Intelligence and is a faculty member of the Harvard Macy Institute for Physician Leaders.

Dr. Riess has devoted her career to research on the neuroscience and art of the patient-doctor relationship and teaching psychiatry residents and medical students. Her research team conducts translational research based on the neuroscience of emotions. The effectiveness of Dr. Riess's empathy training approach has been demonstrated in several studies including a randomized controlled trial. She has developed faculty curricula for "Teaching the Teachers" of Psychotherapy that is used by faculty psychiatrists. Dr. Riess's empathy training curricula are implemented internationally in healthcare as well as in business.

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<ul><li>Be gentle with yourself</li><li>Remember you are unique and perfect as you are and who doesn't see that doesn't deserve you</li><li>Be grateful</li><li>Remember that life is unfair and we have to deal with it</li><li>Remember that beauty comes from within</li><li>Always be positive</li><li>Never lose hope, things always have a way of working out</li><li>Block out distractions </li><li>Live life however you want, it’s yours</li><li>Contact people that you know that will give you positive vibes and a happy feeling</li><li>Remember that life can be either wasted or lived</li></ul>

How to have a positive mindset

Be yourself because everyone else is already taken.

I have always had trouble with my mindset, always judging and chastising myself and after a long journey to a better mindset I have come up with these solutions (which may sound clichéd) and a quote that helped me have an epiphany upon the matter. I am far from perfect with my mental well-being but I'm getting there with these steps.

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Why are inner critics becoming ever more powerful?

1 John 4:7-8 Love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is Love.John 13:34 -  I am giving you a new commandment, that you love one another unconditionally, just as I loved you.1 Corinthians 13:4-6 Love is patient, love is kind, not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant or disrespectful. It does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, it does not hold grudges, it is not angry or fearful, but rejoices with the truth and forgiveness.1 Corinthians 16:14 - All that you do must be done in love.

God Is Love

James 1:19-20 - You should be ready to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. Because human anger does not produce the humility that Love desires.Psalm 37:8 - Refrain from anger and turn from vengeance; do not fear—it only leads to anger and hate.Proverbs 14:29 - Whoever is patient and honest has great wisdom, but one who is quick-to judge forgets the truth.Proverbs 18:15 - An intelligent mind seeks knowledge, but the wise mind understands knowledge through truth.Ephesians 4:25 - Be humble and speak truthfully to your enemies, for we are all members of one body.

Wisdom Is Knowing The Truth

1 John 4:18 - There is no fear in unconditional love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.Proverbs 29:25 - Fear will blind you to the Truth, but whoever trusts in Love is kept safe.Psalm 34:4 - I sought truth and forgiveness, and Love answered me; Love will deliver you from all your fears.1 Peter 4:9 - Offer hospitality to one another while withholding your judgment.  Romans 12:17 - Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is loving and humble in the sight of all.

Don't Be Afraid, Everything Will Be Alright

Luke 6:38 - Give Love, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, will be measured back to you.2 Corinthians 9:7 - Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for Love is Grateful.Proverbs 3:27 - Do not withhold good from those who are in need, when it is in your power to act. Do not say to someone, “Come back tomorrow and I’ll help you”.

Give To Be Grateful Pt. 1

Mathew 6:2 - Be careful not to practice your charity in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from Love. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the churches and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then Love, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Give To Be Grateful Pt. 2

Hebrews 13:2 - Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, some have entertained angels without knowing it.Galatians 6:2 -  Bear each other's burdens, and fulfill the law of Love.Galatians 5:14 - “You shall love your enemy as yourself.”Psalm 34:7 - The Angels of Love encamps around people who are fearful and angry, and delivers them Love.Psalm 91:11 - For Love will command concerned angels to guard you in all your mistakes and offenses.

Angels Shape Your World Everyday

Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what Love’s future will hold.Proverbs 16:9 - In your mind you plan your course, but Love establishes the steps to your fate.2 Corinthians 5:17 - If anyone is perfected in Love, renewal has come: The old has transformed, and the new is here!

Love Is Always Changing Pt. 1

Mathew 19:14 - Love says “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of Love belongs to them. Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of Love like a little child will never enter it.”Psalm 51:12 - Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a childish spirit, to sustain my Love.﻿

Love Is Always Changing Pt. 2

Luke 6:27 - Love your enemies, and do good to those who hate you.Proverbs 24:17 - Do not let your heart rejoice when your enemy fails and falls. Mathew 6:14-15 - If you forgive people for their offenses and mistakes, your Love will forgive you. And if you do not forgive other people, then the truth will not let you forgive yourself.Mathew 18:21-22 “How many times shall my enemy offend me and I still forgive him? Up to seven times?” Love said to him, “not seven times, but infinite times.”

Forgive Hypocrisy Pt. 1

1 Peter 4:8 - Above all, keep fervent and persistent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of offenses and mistakes.Colossians 3:13-14 -  Keep bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, just as Love forgave you, you must forgive also. In addition to all these things trust in love, which is the perfect bond of unity.

Forgive Hypocrisy Pt. 2

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