There is a difference between listening to speak, and listening to understand. Most people like to talk about themselves, and so most people listen to interject.

Most People Don't Listen To Others

That attending skills help your conversation partner feel understood and heard. These include:- Eye contact for empathy - Minimal responses for encouragement (ie. "mm" "yeah" "whoa" etc.) - Tone of voice (ie. soft, concerned, etc.)- Appropriate body language (leaning forward, facial expressions, not fidgeting excessively, etc.)- Prompts to continue ("How so?" "How did that make you feel?" "How did you respond?) From McLeod & McLead, 2011: Counselling Skills: A practical guide for counsellors and helping professionals

The Counselling Science Says...

Listening is not about teaching, shaping, critiquing, appraising, or showing how it should be done... listening is about the experience of being experienced

There's a tricky sweet spot to find because not enough eye contact can be invalidating (think of a time you were telling a story and no one was listening), but TOO much eye contact can be overwhelming and can create shame.From Geldard et al., 2016: Basic Personal Counselling: A training manual for counsellors

Eye Contact

In therapy, therapists use a skill called paraphrasing to condense a story into a sentence (like a blurb for a book) for a few reasons:- To better help the client reflect- To help organise thoughts- To show the client they have been heard- To allow the client to correct any misunderstandingsBut good paraphrasing is never just regurgitating what you've heard using the same words, it's finding the underlying issue and using your own words. This helps the person not only feel heard, but understood.From Geldard et al., 2016: Basic Personal Counselling: A training manual for counsellors

Paraphrasing

The science shows that non-verbal behaviours can connect therapists and clients and build a close relationship as well as decrease malpractice complaints. This shows the importance of active listening with the body. "Trunk lean" can also be used to show interest and make people feel engaged. Trunk lean is moving your body forward, not sitting back. From Dowell & Berman, 2013: Therapists Non-verbal Behaviour and Perceptions of Empathy, Alliance, and Treatment Credibility

Body Language

True empathy is always free of any evaluative or diagnostic quality. This comes across to the recipient with some surprise. "If I am not being judged, perhaps I am not so evil or abnormal as I have thought"

How to be a better conversationalist using the listening  skills therapists use

Understand yourself and those around you.

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YOU'RE NOT LISTENING! How to listen using skills therapists use

Patience is not simply the ability to wait - it's how we behave while we're waiting.

<h2></h2><h3>Cultivate Positive Behavior While Waiting</h3><ul><li>How can you improve your behavior and attitude while waiting for something important?</li></ul><h3>Practice Mindful Patience</h3><ul><li>Being mindful during waiting periods can help you stay calm and focused.</li><li>Patience is about being present and composed, not just enduring time.</li></ul><h3>Reflect on Your Attitude in Waiting</h3><ul><li>Reflecting on your attitude during waiting periods can help you develop stronger patience.</li><li>Assess how your attitude aligns with your values while you wait.</li><li>How does your current attitude during waiting reflect your inner patience?</li></ul>

Practice Patience in Behavior, Not Just in Waiting

I may not be where I want to be, but thank God I am not where I used to be.

Celebrate Your Progress <ul><li> Joyce Meyer emphasizes the importance of thanking God for progress, even if the journey isn't complete.</li><li>How can you celebrate the progress you've made in your life today?</li></ul> Practice Gratitude Daily <ul><li>Expressing thanks for not being where you used to be is a key to maintaining a positive outlook.</li><li>What are you grateful for today that marks progress from your past?</li></ul> Focus on the Journey <ul><li> Focusing on the journey and the growth you've experienced can help you stay motivated. </li><li>How can you find joy in your journey, even if you haven't reached your final goal?</li></ul>

Be Grateful for Progress, Not Just Perfection

Consider a tree for a moment. As beautiful as trees are to look at, we don't see what goes on underground - as they grow roots. Trees must develop deep roots in order to grow strong and produce their beauty. But we don't see the roots. We just see and enjoy the beauty. In much the same way, what goes on inside of us is like the roots of a tree.

<h3>Focus on Inner Strength</h3><ul><li>True strength comes from within, much like a tree’s beauty is rooted in its unseen foundation.</li><li>The roots of a tree, though hidden, provide the stability and nourishment needed for its beauty.</li><li>How can you cultivate inner strength to support your external actions and appearance?</li></ul><h3>Value Inner Development Over Outer Appearance</h3><ul><li>While outer beauty is visible, it is the inner work, like the roots of a tree, that sustains and nourishes lasting growth.</li><li>What steps can you take today to focus more on inner development rather than outward appearances?</li></ul>

Cultivate Inner Growth for Lasting Strength

Prayer doesn't just change things - it changes us. If we are diligent in seeking God, slowly and surely we become better people.

<h2>Be Diligent in Prayer</h2><ul><li>Consistent prayer deepens your relationship with God and brings about positive change within you.</li></ul><h3>Embrace the Transformative Power of Prayer</h3><ul><li>Prayer not only affects our circumstances but also transforms us from within.</li><li>Prayer changes us, helping us grow into better versions of ourselves.</li><li>In what ways have you noticed prayer changing you?</li></ul><h3>Seek God for Personal Growth</h3><ul><li>Seeking God through prayer leads to personal growth, helping you align more closely with His will.</li><li>Through prayer, we seek God and gradually become more aligned with His purpose for us.</li></ul>

Allow Prayer to Transform You

When you feel like it's too hard to obey God, remember that He will never tell you to do something without giving you the grace, power and ability to do it.

<h3>Rely on God's Grace</h3><ul><li>God provides the grace needed to follow His commands, even when they seem difficult.</li><li>How can you trust in God's grace when facing challenging tasks?</li></ul><h3>Believe in God's Power</h3><ul><li>God equips you with the power needed to obey His will, no matter how hard it may seem.</li><li>Even when obedience feels tough, God provides the power to see it through.</li></ul><h3>Have Faith in God's Ability</h3><ul><li>God's ability to provide is greater than any challenge you face.</li><li>How can you strengthen your faith in God's ability to help you obey Him?</li></ul>

Trust in God's Grace and Power for Obedience

The truth is, if we don't learn to submit to authority, we won't ever learn to submit to God.

Practicing Submission to Earthly Authority helps us learn discipline and humility, preparing us to submit to God's authority.How can we better submit to our authority figures to honor God?<ul><li>Recognize the importance of authority and how it helps build a foundation for spiritual growth and obedience to God</li></ul>Submitting to God's authority requires practice and discipline, which can be cultivated by submitting to earthly authority. Joyce Meyer reminds us that true submission to God begins with learning to submit in everyday situations.

Learn Submission to Authority as a Path to Obeying God

Integrate simple reflection techniques into your daily routine, helping you to gain insights, set clear goals, and enhance your overall well-being. By adopting these practices, you’ll begin to experience positive changes that can shape a more fulfilling and purpose-driven future.

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Apply Reflective Practices Today to Enhance Your Life Tomorrow

Everybody’s got a story. We don’t share it on social media; we share our nice life on social media. We all have a dungeon; I’m just willing to talk about mine. Most of us aren’t willing to talk about it. Mental toughness isn't something that you sample; it’s something that you live in, everyday.

Whenever hardness comes - and you don’t know when it is, and it may be different for you than it is for me - you go back to your insecurities. And when you go back to your insecurities, you then look for comfort within these insecurities. You look for that “cookie” that your mama gave you when you were sad, when you were sick.It’s a mental standard, you must meet in life.

It’s something that you live in, everyday.

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Mental Toughness Isn’t Something You Sample | David Goggins

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<li>Counting calories is the best way to reach your goals</li>
<li>Home workouts are only for beginners</li>
<li>Low fat or fat-free products are healthier choices</li>
<li>Skipping meals help with weight loss</li>
<li>Only cardio reduces body fat</li>
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Myths That Need To Die

<ol><li>More sweat= better workout </li><li>You can only grow muscles with heavy weights</li><li>If you’re not sore you didn’t exercise enough</li><li>Only long exercises count</li><li>Everything you see on social media is right</li></ol>

Healthy diet is the diet, when you eat healthy food and soul food, too, and when you feel happy and satisfied.

Healthy Diet

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10 Fitness Myths That Need to Die

"True freedom is the courage to be disliked."

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The Courage to Be Disliked is a transformative dialogue between a philosopher and a young man seeking answers about life, happiness, and personal fulfilment.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The book is deeply rooted in the principles of Alfred Adler's psychology, offering a refreshing perspective on how to live a life free from the burdens of past experiences and societal expectations.</li></ul>

Finding Happiness and Freedom: A Life-Changing Conversation

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The book highlights that our past doesn't have to hold us back. Adlerian psychology talked about in the book, says that we can make our way no matter what happened in the past. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">This differs from Freudian psychology, which often examines the past to explain present behaviour. People who see things this way are more likely to take responsibility for their actions and realize they can change their lives at any time.</li></ul>

1. The past doesn't make you who you are

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">According to Adler, many of our troubles come from problems with others. How we treat and deal with others can make us feel bad about ourselves, lower our self-esteem, and cause anxiety.</li><li class="ql-align-justify"> The book says that we can get through these problems if we work on our relationships and put more emphasis on society and giving back.</li></ul>

2. All problems come from relationships with other people

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">One of the book's main ideas is that wanting other people's approval can be a major cause of unhappiness. Being true to yourself means being accessible, even if other people don't like it. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">It takes bravery to do this, but it leads to a more satisfying life where you are true to yourself instead of living to please other people.</li></ul>

3. The Courage to Be Disliked

"Happiness is not something given to you by others; it is something you create for yourself."

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The book tells people to enjoy the present moment and not worry too much about the past or the future. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Focusing on the present lets us enjoy life more and be happy in the here and now instead of always trying to reach a far-away goal.</li></ul>

4. Living in the Present

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The idea of making other people happy is emphasised as a way to find personal fulfilment. The philosopher says that doing things that help other people makes you happy, not doing things that are only about yourself. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">This change from focusing on yourself to focusing on others is seen as the key to long-lasting happiness.</li></ul>

5. Making a difference in the world

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The Courage to Be Disliked goes against what most people think: You can only be truly happy if you accept yourself, live in the moment, and have the courage to be disliked. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">It gives readers a strong framework for personal growth and encourages them to take charge of their lives and focus on what really matters: being themselves and making a difference in the world.</li></ul>

Conclusion

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A single book can change your life. Already an enormous bestseller in Asia, with more than 3 million copies sold, The Courage to be Disliked demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you

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Ichiro KISHIMI Philosopher, Adlerian psychologist and translator of English and German languages. Born in 1956.M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University. He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.

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Fumitake Koga is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Fumitake Koga has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Fumitake Koga's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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The Courage to Be Disliked

•	Action: Start each day by listing your tasks and categorizing them by priority. Use tools like to-do lists, calendars, or project management apps.	•	Why It Works: When tasks are organized, you reduce the mental load of trying to remember everything, making it easier to focus and feel in control.

1. Prioritize and Organize Tasks

•	Action: Define clear boundaries between work and personal life. This includes not checking work emails or messages during personal time.	•	Why It Works: Maintaining these boundaries helps prevent burnout and ensures that you have time to recharge, leading to better overall productivity and well-being.

2. Set Boundaries

•	Action: Incorporate short breaks throughout your workday. Even a 5-minute walk or stretch can make a difference.	•	Why It Works: Breaks help refresh your mind, reduce stress, and maintain focus, especially during long work hours.

3. Take Breaks

•	Action: Engage in mindfulness activities like deep breathing, meditation, or simply being present in the moment, even for a few minutes a day.	•	Why It Works: Mindfulness helps reduce anxiety and stress by bringing your attention away from future worries or past regrets and into the present moment.

4. Practice Mindfulness

•	Action: Don’t hesitate to reach out to colleagues, a supervisor, or a mental health professional if you’re feeling overwhelmed.	•	Why It Works: Talking about your concerns can provide relief, offer new perspectives, and help you develop strategies to manage stress more effectively.

5. Seek Support

Stress at work is a common issue, but there are effective strategies to help manage it. Here are five simple steps to stress less about work:

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5 Simple Steps to Stress Less About Work

Some days, you wake up excited about a big decision — a new career opportunity, a purchase, or a long-awaited trip. But as the day unfolds, that initial excitement crumbles under endless doubts and “what-ifs.” You find yourself caught in a loop — analyzing every possible outcome, seeking the perfect moment, and worrying about potential pitfalls. What started as a thrilling opportunity quickly became a maze of overthinking.This isn’t only a fleeting moment of anxiety — it’s a common experience for many of us.

Overthinking New Opportunities

We weigh our opinions carefully. But then, this careful consideration spirals into indecision and stress. We need perfection, haunted by the fears of failure and distracted by what others might think.But there’s hope.What if you could break free from this cycle of overthinking? What if you could navigate your indecisions with clarity and confidence rather than being overwhelmed by the fear of making the wrong choice?

The Spirals of Overthinking

In this article, I’ll explore ten common overthinking mistakes that might hold you back and provide practical solutions to help you move forward. It’s time to transform your approach to decision-making and rediscover the power of decisive action. Let’s dive in and unlock a more empowered way of living.

10 Common Overthinking Problems

Overthinking isn’t just a mental habit — it’s a silent saboteur that can undermine your well-being and productivity.Stress is the main effect of overthinking. And the numbers don’t lie on its effects.

Why should you stop overthinking?

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<a href="https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/statistics/stress-statistics">In a 2018 study </a>, 74% of people reported feeling overwhelmed or unable to cope with stress. Only 7% of young adults could manage it compared to 30% of adults. And it had meaningful impacts on their lives.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Behavioral : 46% of people overate or ate unhealthy food. 29% started or increased drinking. 16% started or increased smoking.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Psychological : 51% of adults felt depressed and 61% anxious. And 16% of those had self-harmed.</li></ul>

Stress Impacts

But let’s see the main causes (or, at least, those that matter to us).<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">49% of young adults experienced high levels of stress by comparing themselves with others.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">12% of people felt stressed because they had to answer a message instantly.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">36% of women and 23% of men suffered from their social appearance.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">And 60% of 18-24-year-olds and 41% of 25-34-year-olds stressed because of the need to succeed.</li></ul>

Stress Causes

Over time, the mental strain can <a href="https://www.apa.org/topics/stress/health#:~:text=This%20can%20put%20you%20at,and%20memory%20and%20concentration%20impairment">lead to health issues </a>. And it can have many impacts on your life.<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Decision paralysis → inaction due to stress</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Decreased productivity → rigid thought patterns</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Strained relationships → misinterpretation of intentions</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Low self-esteem → criticism and self-doubt.</li></ol>Recognizing the destructive power of overthinking is the first step towards breaking free from its grip. So you can reclaim your mental clarity and live a more fulfilling and productive life.Let’s discover now the ten common overthinking mistakes that are holding you back (and how to fix them).

Stress Consequences

Perfectionism is a powerful force that keeps you trapped in a cycle of inaction and self-criticism.I pursued perfectionism since I started writing online. I was unsure about my writing skills because I wasn’t an English native. And I feared people would mark me as a terrible writer.However, <a href="https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2018/01/perfectionism-young-people">perfectionism leads to burnout </a> and a constant feeling of inadequacy. You will soon abandon your dreams or feel like you are not good enough. And that road can only bring you to failure.

1 — The Illusion of The Perfect Moment

The fix for perfectionism is simple — embrace the concept of “ good enough.”Not everything you do must be perfect. And most of the things you will do will suck. But you can take incremental steps towards your goals. This way, you can also understand what’s not working and why.Perfectionism will keep you from succeeding. Don’t let it ruin your life.

How to Fix It

Something very similar to perfectionism is overanalysis.With perfectionism, you want to do a perfect job. With overanalysis, you wait for the best idea instead. Yet, when you lose time for each detail, you take time away from doing things. You don’t put into practice what’s on your mind. And this behavior leads to inaction and missed opportunities.

2 — The Paralysis of Overanalyzing Decisions

I often wonder about my products and articles. I want them to make a difference and help many people.But as I keep analyzing them, time passes. Our weekly meeting approaches. And I have nothing prepared.I learned to fix a time limit for decision-making and trust my instincts. When I have an idea, I start writing about it. And if it doesn’t work, it will go better next time.Set a time limit and build a pros&cons list to aid your decisions. And abandon the idea or start working on it as soon as it gets past two days in your head.

Everybody has their regrets. There’s no life without them. And I’ve done my share of regretting past failures.I spent almost two years trapped in a job that gave me nothing in return. And I thought about all the time that I lost for months. It pained me to know I could have invested my time better.But that’s life. Nobody will give me back those months. And nobody will give you back anything you lost. If it’s gone — it’s gone forever. Or, at least, that’s how you should think about it. (And if it comes back, you’ll see then.)

3 — The Prison of Past Regrets

How do you escape a prison of spiraling thoughts?No, you don’t break through. You observe it.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Observe your thoughts. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Acknowledge your mistakes as learning experiences. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">And then, redirect your focus to actionable steps that help you grow instead of dwelling on what you can’t change.</li></ul>Journaling and therapy can help you process past experiences — use them. They can guide you to set new goals starting from those past mistakes instead of dwelling on regrets.

Life throws problems and curve balls at us every day. And I don’t want to say we should always be ready to deal with them — you can never prepare for some things. But at least don’t create problems out of thin air.If you think something terrible is going to happen, it probably will. That’s the simple law of attraction. So, don’t make your life more challenging.

4 — The Spiral of Catastrophizing

Compare the problem with the potential worst-case scenario. Is it as bad as you thought it would be?It never is. But if you can’t stop it, you can always solve the problem with grounding mindfulness techniques.Deep breaths and meditation are the best against catastrophizing. They will help you minimize the problem and see it from another perspective.

When we’re children, we rely on adults to give us confidence and protection. But as we grow, we should let go of that protective crib and walk alone.Relying on others for validation can weaken your self-confidence and decision-making abilities. On the contrary, you will <a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/the-art-of-confidence">build more confidence </a> if you make decisions and stop waiting for people to reassure you.

5 — The Trap of Constant Reassurance

Building self-reliance is a long road. And you can get to the end only one step at a time.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">First, you’ll have to build confidence in yourself. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Then, you will make decisions alone and take responsibility for the outcomes.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">And finally, you will stop searching for reassurance in other people.</li></ul>

How often did you think somebody didn’t want to talk to you? And how many times did you find out they were only introverts?It happened a lot to me. And it still does.Every time I get to know new people, I can connect with them easily. But sometimes, I meet people who don’t talk much. And my head wonders if they hate or judge me negatively.Days later, I discovered they were introverts. (Or, at least, that’s what they say.) And it’s a shame that I got carried away by the anxiety of perceived judgments.

6 — The Anxiety of Perceived Judgements

External judgment is one of the most common overthinking problems we have. And it creates a lot of stress because we can never know what somebody else is thinking.Yet, that’s something you can’t control.If they have you — they hate you. There’s nothing you can do about it. It is better if they don’t. But when you focus only on what you can control, you empower yourself to act authentically and overcome the fear of judgment.

I always do mountains of research when I work on something that matters. But sometimes, this tendency escalates even for low-priority activities. And it becomes a problem.In an age where information is readily accessible, it’s easy to fall into the trap of overloading yourself with data. You want to make the perfect decision. But, by doing that, you do not decide at all.The obsession with gathering data leads to confusion, overwhelm, and ultimately paralysis. You get lost in a cycle of research and insecurities. And you don’t know what’s right or who’s telling the truth.

7 — The Overload of Information

The key to overcoming the overflow of information is a hard limitation.Limit your information intake to a few reliable sources. Then, set a time limit for each decision based on the information you gathered until then. You can always make things right later if needed. But at least you won’t fall into a never-ending trap of insecurities.

On the other hand, there is a tendency to overgeneralize.This mental trap can distort your perception of reality. And it will lead you to broad and negative conclusions based on limited experience. “This always happens to me,” or “I’ll never succeed.” Are those sentences familiar?It’s simple to fall into this thinking pattern when a single failure occurs. It happened to me many times when I started my business. But it’s counterproductive. It discourages and makes you more pessimistic. Plus, it forbids you from building an objective opinion.

8 — The Fallacy of Overgeneralizing

Overgeneralizing keeps you in a cycle of negativity. But you can escape it by learning to recognize and challenge those negative thoughts.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Find evidence that contradicts those thoughts. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Actively search for instances when they didn’t apply.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">And practice cognitive reframing by focusing on specifics rather than drawing broad conclusions. </li></ul>What was different this time? What was the decisive action that made everything crumble?

The realm of possibility is endless. But here’s the twist — everything is in your brain. Most of the time, those possibilities don’t even exist anymore.You made your choice when you had to. And there’s nothing you can do to go back and change it. (Scientists haven’t invented time machines yet.) So, stick with it.If you don’t, this constant self-doubt will paralyze you and make you unable to commit to your choices. You won’t have the confidence to move forward. And every related choice will trigger your insecurities.

9 — The Doubt of Second-Guessing

Second-guessing is an indicator of a lack of confidence. So, <a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/the-secrets-of-charisma">building confidence </a> is the first step towards trusting your decisions more.Then, you have to accept you can’t predict every possible outcome. You will make mistakes sometimes. But that’s not an indicator of your worth.Every choice carries some level of uncertainty. You only need to find your acceptable threshold. Then, focus on the path ahead with determination.

Comparing yourself with others it’s wrong. We all know it. And everybody told us not to do it.But we are competitors. Comparison helps us understand where we are and what the goal looks like. It only becomes a problem when it hinders your growth.Sometimes, we take inspiration from those who reached a goal and try to emulate them. Then, emulation turns into building your unique path and finding success with it. But it can also turn sideways.The comparison could become toxic if you keep emulating and want to achieve the same results because that’s impossible.

10 — The Pitfall of Comparison

Comparison is healthy when limited. Could you use it to gauge the potential of your goal? But never use it to compare your values with someone else. You live in two different realities in a shared world.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Focus on your journey and progress. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Practice gratitude for what you have accomplished. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">And set new personal goals based on your values.</li></ul>You can take inspiration from others. But don’t use their standards to measure your value.

Escaping those ten overthinking mistakes won’t be simple. It takes time to address each issue. And often, we don’t make only one mistake but many.So, this week, I bring you multiple challenges to address the most common issues.Here’s your challenge list:<ul><li class="ql-align-center">Make mindful decisions.</li><li class="ql-align-center">Express gratitude and abandon comparison.</li><li class="ql-align-center">Value progress over perfection.</li><li class="ql-align-center">Reframe your thoughts.</li><li class="ql-align-center">Do an information diet.</li></ul>[DOWNLOAD THE <a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/10-common-overthinking-mistakes">FREE TRACKING INFOGRAPHIC</a>]

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Everything in life is temporary, from emotions to relationships. Understanding this can help us appreciate the present.

Impermanence is Natural

We evolve through experiences. If everything were forever, growth would stagnate.

Growth Happens in Change

Holding onto the idea of 'forever' can cause pain. Embrace the flow of life instead.

Attachment Breeds Suffering

When we let go of the need for things to last forever, we start living fully in the moment.

Enjoy the Moment

People change, and so do relationships. Accepting this can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Relationships Evolve

Achievements come and go. What matters is the journey, not the permanence of success.

Success is Not Permanent

Every end is a new beginning. Losses teach us valuable lessons about resilience and renewal.

Learn from Loss

The idea of 'forever' often clashes with reality, leading to disappointment. Embrace life as it is.

Expectations vs. Reality

When we stop clinging to 'forever,' we gain the freedom to explore new possibilities.

Freedom in Letting Go

Change is the only constant. Adapting to it allows us to thrive in an ever-evolving world.

Embrace Change

Instead of striving for 'forever,' focus on living a life true to yourself, moment by moment.

Live Authentically

"Forever is an illusion; the beauty of life lies in its fleeting moments."

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Music Therapy: A proven method for effective medical treatment- Listening to music can have powerful effects on the body and mind- Studies show that music therapy can lower stress and improve overall health- Music has no side effects and can be used in combination with other treatments

The Power of Music Therapy in Medical Treatment

..Music includes:<ul><li>Instrumental music</li><li>The sound of singing</li><li>Adhan (call to prayer)</li><li>Quranic recitation</li><li>Sounds of nature, such as of birds singing and of water from a fountain pool.</li></ul>

<ul><li>What is music therapy? It's using music and its elements to help us physically, socially, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.</li><li>Who can benefit from it? Anyone looking to optimize their quality of life in medical, educational, or everyday environments.</li></ul>

The Power of Music in Therapy

Ibn Sina’s (Avicenna) denotes that one of the most effective methods in medical treatment is listening to music, which clearly illustrates the position of music therapy in medical treatment. This chapter discusses four matters: (i) the concept of music therapy as medical treatment, (ii) the function of music therapy as a method of complementary treatment aimed more towards calming and relieving pain, but not as a total cure for the patient, (iii) the hospitals that applied music therapy as treatment, and (iv) the process of applying music therapy in the medical tradition of the Islamic civilisation. Music here includes instrumental music, the sound of singing, adhan (call to prayer), Quranic recitation, as well as sounds of nature, such as of birds singing and of water from a fountain pool. Among the hospitals that applied such therapy was Bimarastan Fez in Morroco, Bimarastan al-Mansuri at Cairo, Egypt, Bimarastan al-Arghuni at Allepo, Syria, Bimarastan Nur al-Din at Damascus City, and Suleymaniye Sifahanesi.

Music Therapy in Medicine of Islamic Civilisation

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