Without meaning to, parents can have a way of making children feel as if something is wrong with them. As <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/677714/sensitive-by-jenn-granneman-and-andre-solo/">parenting researchers </a>, we've seen this happen often with highly sensitive kids. Many parents see sensitivity as a bad trait — that it makes us look overwhelmed, passive, or even weak — and discourage it with <a href="https://www.cnbc.com/2019/11/01/5-phrases-parents-should-never-say-to-their-kids-according-to-a-psychologist.html">phrases </a>like "Stop crying!" or "Shake it off!"

Kids Who Do These 12 Things Have Highly Sensitive Brians

But <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9283459/">psychologists and neuroscientists have found </a>that, in the right environment, kids with highly sensitive brains have rare advantages.

Not only do highly sensitive kids show more <a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327774995_Sensitive_individuals_are_more_creative">creativity </a>, <a href="https://www.lernerchilddevelopment.com/mainblog/2018/7/25/ddnt-ever-say-that-to-me-again-do-you-understand-do-you-understand-how-to-respond-to-highly-sensitive-reactive-children">awareness and openness </a>than less-sensitive kids, but they possess an underappreciated trait: empathy. In one <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4086365/">study </a>, researchers had participants looked at photos of people either smiling or looking sad. They found that sensitive people's brains showed the highest level of empathic response.

The empathy advantage of highly sensitivity kids

Their brains also lit up more in areas related to action planning. This indicates that — just as sensitive people frequently self-report — they could not watch a stranger in pain without feeling a strong desire to help. And since sensitive kids are more affected by their experiences than their peers, they get more out of support, training, and encouragement. This boost effect makes them high achievers.

Here are the most common signs of highly sensitive kids: If any of these observations resonate, remember that it's a positive thing. Highly sensitive kids have an entirely different approach to their environment, and that is a strength.

Does your child have a highly sensitive brain?

<ol><li>They notice subtle details, such as a teacher's new outfit or when furniture has been moved. </li><li>Other people's moods really affects them. They easily absorb emotions from others, taking on their feelings as if they were their own. </li><li>They have a hard time shaking intense emotions like anger or worry. </li><li>They complain when things feel off (e.g., scratchy bedsheets, itchy clothing labels, tight waistbands). </li><li>They feel stressed and fatigued in loud, busy environments, like gyms or perfume counters because of the strong odors. </li><li>They hate feeling rushed and prefer to do things more carefully. </li><li>They respond better to gentle correction rather than to harsh discipline. </li><li>They make insightful comments and seem wise for their age. </li><li>They have a clever sense of humor. </li><li>They read people well and can infer, with surprising accuracy, what they are thinking or feeling. </li><li>They refuse to eat certain foods because of the smells or textures. </li><li>They startle easily at sudden noises, like when someone sneaks up on them. </li> </ol>

2. Other people's moods really affects them. They easily absorb emotions from others, taking on their feelings as if they were their own.

3. They have a hard time shaking intense emotions like anger or worry.

4. They complain when things feel off (e.g., scratchy bedsheets, itchy clothing labels, tight waistbands).

5. They feel stressed and fatigued in loud, busy environments, like gyms or perfume counters because of the strong odors.

6. They hate feeling rushed and prefer to do things more carefully.

7. They respond better to gentle correction rather than to harsh discipline.

8. They make insightful comments and seem wise for their age.

9. They have a clever sense of humor.

10. They read people well and can infer, with surprising accuracy, what they are thinking or feeling.

11. They refuse to eat certain foods because of the smells or textures.

12. ey startle easily at sudden noises, like when someone sneaks up on them.

Sensitive kids need time to think things through, and setting expectations gives them a choice: They know what will happen if they meet those expectations, and they know there will be consequences if they don't. It can be as simple as saying, "Today we're visiting grandma in the nursing home. We'll need to use inside voices and calm bodies because some people there don't feel well."

1. Set expectations ahead of time.

Because sensitive kids feel things acutely, their feelings become more easily hurt, and they can take correction personally. So rather than putting them in time-out, create a calm-down spot with comfort items (e.g., stuffed animals, a weighted blanket) where they can go if they have trouble regulating their emotions. After the discipline, give them positive affirmations and reassure them of how much you love them.

2. Practice gentle discipline.

As a parent, you're already teaching your kids emotional regulation skills every day by modeling how you handle your emotions, whether it's work stress or your child's meltdowns. The more intentional you can be about this, the better the example you set.

3. Be their emotional coach.

Talk about your kid's sensitivity with their teachers at the start of the school year, before any potential conflicts or misperceptions come up. And when your child uses their sensitivity (e.g., applying their imagination, showing empathy for a friend going through a tough time), tell them how proud you are of them.

4. Advocate for them.

Set aside time to talk and play with them one-on-one, separate from their siblings. Ask open-ended questions. For example, "What was hard for you today?" will create more room for conversation than, "Did you have a bad day?" Try to understand what your child experiences in their body and through their five senses. Their answers might surprise you.

5. Get curious about their world.

Parenting experts and authors Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo share why highly sensitive kids are some of the most empathetic people, and highest achievers. 

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<ul><li>Highly sensitive people (HSPs) are empathetic, deeply sensing individuals who are remarkably in tune to the world around them. </li><li>That HSPs should toughen up is a notion that the creators of the world’s largest community for sensitive people say should end. </li><li>Normalizing what HSPs bring to the table is essential. </li> </ul>

7 Things To know About Highly Sensitive People - Key points

Stop being so sensitive. Yeesh, you’re so easily overwhelmed by everything. According to Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo, authors of the book Sensitive (Harmony Books, 2023), the truth is: yes, highly sensitive people (HSPs) are indeed sensitive. Very sensitive. And, yes, they are easily overwhelmed by <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/environment">the environment </a>around them. However, what the authors emphasize is that, no, they don’t have to stop feeling this way. Nor should they be shamed for being this way.

Highly Sensitive People (HSP)

In fact, during an interview with Sólo, he explains that being an <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/highly-sensitive-person">HSP </a>—someone who has stronger reactions than others and processes what’s happening in the environment much more deeply—is precisely what society needs.

Stronger Reactions

“The world has had enough of toughness,” Sólo says. He should know. He and co-author Granneman are c reators of the world’s largest community for sensitive people, Highly Sensitive Refuge, where HSPs can find solace in the stories from and about sensitive people of all walks of life. Sólo adds that it’s high time society embraces their high degree of <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/empathy">empathy </a>and sensitivity rather than view it as something to change.

Highly Sensitive Refuge 

Ours is a world that tends to prize or listen more to those who are the loudest, more overt, or quickest to respond, Sólo explains. HSPs—individuals who are brimming with empathy and who are more deeply in tune with the environment around them, right down to subtle nuances and micro-expressions—bring a soothing balm to the "too loud" table.

1. Their Sensitivity is a Calming Necessity. 

Sólo explains that HSPs often add immense value to the conversation, project, or task at hand. They may not be the loudest, speak up first, talk over others, or even say anything at all during a meeting or a family conversation. But, rest assured, Sólosays, they are taking in the information, processing it, and about to create or convey something wonderful. This could be a unique <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/parenting">parenting </a>point of view, a work strategy that wasn’t previously considered, or a physical work of art—or all of the above.

2. HSPs offer invaluable insight.

The world is in infinite demand for what they offer, Sólosays of HSPs. They are the deep thinkers, the passionate, ultra-<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/human-kind/201907/why-do-some-people-express-insincere-kindness">kind </a>, sensing, and creative types. This isn't to say that non-HSPs aren't passionate or creative. It's just that the HSP has “a mind that is processing more, which translates to contributing even more, whether it’s in the tech field or creating a beautiful sculpture.”

3. Their unique gifts are in high demand. 

Nearly one in three people are highly sensitive, Sólosays. “They are not alone or a weirdo! Their amazing <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/personality">personality </a>is tied to <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/intelligence">giftedness </a>and is one of the best things about them. The world needs to normalize and embrace this.”

4. HSPs are not weirdos! 

One big myth is that HSPs need to toughen up. It's a common expression that was conveyed in <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/child-development">childhood </a>and still is even into adulthood. Sólofeels strongly about bidding that notion adieu . He explains that HSPs don’t need to get over anything or grow a thicker skin. Rather, the world needs to enjoy the benefits they offer, especially in a world where big, loud, and drama-infused behaviors tend to be merited.

5. They don’t need to grow a thicker skin.

Sólo’s advice to HSPs: “Know your limits and set boundaries. Such a strong sense of empathy makes you want to help everyone, which can be draining, even more if what you give is infrequently, or never, reciprocated.” He says that it’s perfectly fine to tell someone, “I had a <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/stress">stressful </a>week and can’t talk tonight, but here's what I can suggest now.” Then consider offering a raincheck, or recommending a therapist, book, or another helpful resource. “It’s essential to take the time to focus on you," he says, "to recharge so you can become that wonderfully amazing limitless well.”

6. Boundary-setting is essential. 

There shouldn’t be any <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/embarrassment">shame </a>associated with being a deeply feeling and sensing person with boundless empathy. If, for example, someone says that you’re raising your child to be sensitive, Sólo suggests respondingby proudly acknowledging that he or she is indeed a sensitive child. Then add, “it’s something we are trying to encourage.”

7. Their personality needs to be normalized. 

Highly sensitive people have a lot to offer the world; their ability to feel and process more deeply and thoroughly than others should be viewed as a welcome breath of fresh air in an often fast and frenzied society.

A Breath Of Fresh Air 

7 Things To know About Highly Sensitive People

They bring significant value to a fast, frenzied world.

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The starting point of all achievement. Know what your goal is & know what you want. This will create a "success conscious" & protect you against failures.

Definiteness Of Purpose

The coordination kf effort between two or more people in a spirit of perfect harmony in order to attain a specific goal. Adapt a definite purpose with an objective to be attained by the alliance.Establish a plan in which each member makes a definite contribution No man can become a permanent success without taking others along with him

Master Mind Principle

A state of mind through which your aims, desires, plans, and purposes are translated into their physical or financial equivalent. You can do it if you believe you can!

Applied Faith

A pleasing personality helps you master the major cause of a failure which is the inability to get along with people harmoniously

Pleasing Personality 

Render more & better service than you are paid to render, doing it all the time & with a pleasing, positive attitude. The most successful men are those who serve the greatest number of people.

Going The Extra Mile 

The inner power that starts all action; the power that inspires the completion of that one begins. No man is free until he learns to do his own thinking and gains the courage to act on his own personal initiative.

Personal Initiative 

The ability to control our thoughts and emotions, self-discipline is the only thing in life over which you have complete, unchallenged, and unchallengable control. Direct your thoughts, control your emotions and ordain your destiny.

Self Discipline 

The highest form of self-discipline, the act of coordinating all your mind's faculties and directing their combined power to a given end. You can keep your mind working for you, even while you sleep, with controlled attention.

Controlled Attention

A contagious state of mind that not only helps you gain the cooperation of others but, more importantly, inspires you to draw upon and use the power of your imagination. Real enthusiasm comes from within, and is faith in action.

Enthusiasm 

Imagination is your mind's exercise, challenge and adventure. It uses old ideas and established facts to reassemble them into new combinations and to put them to new uses. Imagination is the workshop of the soul.

Imagination 

Hardship and adversity are a common language of nature in which she speaks to all living creatures and teaches them many things they would not learn in any other way.Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.

Learning From Adversity And Defeat

Successful people know themselves, not as they think they are, but as their habits have made them: the use of time and money are the most vital of these habits. Tell me how you use your spare time and how you spend your money, and I will tell you where and what you will be ten years from now.

Budgeting Time And Money 

To govern your life, you must be able to given your mind, and that is the starting point of all riches. Be careful what you wish for, for you will surely achieve it.

Positive Mental Attitude 

The accurate thinker recognizes all the facts about life, both good and bad, and assumes the responsibility of separating and organizing the two, choosing those which serve his needs and rejecting all others. You are what you think

Accurate Thinking 

The key that coordinates all other principles and sets all ideas into motion, sound health provides the "flavor" to the good things in life. Good health, a sense of well-being and a purpose for living make any day beautiful.

Sound Physical Health

Harmony based on a definite motive, cooperation is the medium through which great personal power may be attained; the willing cooperation and coordination of effort to achieve a specific objective. Harmonious cooperation is a priceless asset that you can acquire in proportion to your giving.

Cooperation

The cosmic habit force is the universe's law of equilibrium, the one natural law into which all other natural laws resolve themselves. When you learn to weave unpleasant circumstances into something useful, you're on the road to success.

Cosmic Habitforce 

The 17 Universal Principles of Success & Achievement. Success is yours for the taking! 

Napoleon Hill summed up his philosophy of success in Think and Grow Rich!, one of the bestselling inspirational business books ever. A recent USA Today survey of business leaders named it one of the five most influential books in its field, more than 40 years after it was first published. Now, in Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success, his broadly outlined principles are expanded in detail for the first time, with concrete advice on their use and implementation. Compiled from Hill's teaching materials, lectures, and articles, Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success provides mental exercises, self-analysis techniques, powerful encouragement, and straightforward advice to anyone seeking personal and financial improvement. In addition to Hill's many personal true-life examples of the principles in action, there are also contemporary illustrations featuring dynamos like Bill Gates, Peter Lynch, and Donna Karan. No other Napoleon Hill book has addressed these 17 principles so completely and in such precise detail. For the millions of loyal Napoleon Hill fans and for those who discover him each year, Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success promises to be a valuable and important guide on the road to riches.

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Napoleon Hill summed up his philosophy of success in Think and Grow Rich!, one of the bestselling inspirational business books ever. A recent USA Today survey of business leaders named it one of the five most influential books in its field, more than 40 years after it was first published. Now, in Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success, his broadly outlined principles are expanded in detail for the first time, with concrete advice on their use and implementation. Compiled from Hill's teaching materials, lectures, and articles, Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success provides mental exercises, self-analysis techniques, powerful encouragement, and straightforward advice to anyone seeking personal and financial improvement. In addition to Hill's many personal true-life examples of the principles in action, there are also contemporary illustrations featuring dynamos like Bill Gates, Peter Lynch, and Donna Karan. No other Napoleon Hill book has addressed these 17 principles so completely and in such precise detail. For the millions of loyal Napoleon Hill fans and for those who discover him each year, Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success promises to be a valuable and important guide on the road to riches.

Oliver Napoleon Hill was an American self-help author. He is best known for his book Think and Grow Rich, which is among the best-selling self-help books of all time. Hill's works insisted that fervid expectations are essential to improving one's life.

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Your libido is also commonly referred to as your sex drive — it’s your emotional and mental desire for sex.
Your libido is individual to you and varies widely between people. What you experience as normal libido might be higher or lower than what somebody else experiences.
A number of factors influence your libido, such as:
<ul>
<li>Age</li>
<li>Hormone levels</li>
<li>Stress levels</li>
<li>Changes in your sexual relationships</li>
<li>Fatigue</li>
<li>Illness</li>
<li>Medications</li>
<li>Your personal beliefs and attitudes toward sex.</li>
</ul>
A high libido is generally not a concern unless it’s having a negative impact on your life or relationships.

How to Decrease Libido

First it's important what libido is ?it’s simply a term for your desire for sexual activity.<ul><li>If you have a penis, you’ll generally experience an erection as blood flows into tissues in the penis</li><li>If you have a vulva, the vagina will often experience an increased production of vaginal fluids and swelling of the vulva and clitoris from increased blood flow.</li></ul> Your libido is individual to you, ranging anywhere from having no desire in sex to thinking about it frequently. But unless your sex drive is causing problems with your relationships or in your life, it’s essentially normal.

How does your libido work?

<ul><li>Biological factors such as your levels of testosterone or estrogen, overall health, and presence of illness.</li><li>Psychological factors such as stress, presence of mental conditions like depression, and your self-esteem.</li><li>Social factors such as the health of your current sexual relationships and the norms around your ability to act on sexual desire when you’re in a situation where you feel aroused. </li></ul>

Biological, psychological, and social factors all play a role in

Many factors can influence your libido. If you think you may have a hormone imbalance, it’s a good idea to visit your doctor. Hormone tests may be able to provide insight on whether your high libido has a physical cause.Changes in your sex hormone levels can influence your sex drive and can easily be measured with a blood test. Your doctor can also screen you for other conditions that may increase your sex drive.

How can I determine my libido?

If you feel that your libido is too high and having a negative impact on your life, here are a few ways you might be able to manage it.DietPsychotherapyWork on your relationshipsMedicationStop illicit drug use.DIET:-<ol><li>Aphrodisiacs are foods or medications that increase your libido — anaphrodisiacs are the opposite. </li><li>licorice may lower testosterone levels.</li><li>Soy has also been claimed to lower libido in men by lowering testosterone.</li><li>Mediterranean diet had the lowest levels of sexual dysfunction. </li></ol>

How can I decrease my libido?

If your doctor doesn’t suspect that your high libido has a physical cause, they may recommend that you seek therapy or counseling.Speaking with a therapist can help you uncover reasons that may be triggering your experience of high libido and help you learn techniques to manage it.Therapy sessions can come in many forms, including one-on-one, family, or group. It’s up to you to decide what you’re most comfortable with when it comes to discussing your sex drive.

Psychotherapy

If you’re currently in a relationship but not satisfied with your sex life, you may want to discuss this with your partner to come to a mutual consensus as to how sex can be fully satisfying for both of you.If you’re not currently in a sexual relationship but would like to be, be transparent with your potential partners about your expectation in a sexual relationship and communicate openly about what you do and don’t like.

Work on your relationships 

In some cases, your doctor may recommend medications to reduce sexual urges, including: <ul><li>Corticosteroids</li><li>Chemotherapy or radiation</li><li>Hormones for prostate cancer</li><li>Opioids like morphine (MorphaBond) and oxycodone (OxyContin)</li><li>Ketoconazole, an antifungal medication</li><li>Cimetidine (Tagamet), for heartburn and reflux conditions</li><li>Anabolic steroids for building muscle</li><li>Antidepressants</li></ul>If you’re currently on medication, you may want to talk to your doctor to see if your use of prescribed medications may be influencing your sex drive.

Medication

Cocaine and methamphetamines are two illicit drugs that can increase your sex drive, and reducing their use can help lower your sex drive. Quitting these types of drugs can be difficult by yourself, but there are a number of support groups and services available for you. Call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration’s National Helpline at 800-662-4357 for treatment referral if you’re ready to seek help for your drug use.

Stop illicit drug use

Here are some tips:<ul><li>Engage in a relaxing activity before sex. Doing something relaxing. </li><li>Communicate your desires. Make it clear to your partner what you want so that both of you can work together to feel satisfied.</li><li>Talk about boundaries. If there are things in the bedroom that you’re not comfortable doing, let your partner know in advance.</li><li>Don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you’re not sure what your partner finds pleasurable, it never hurts to ask.</li><li>Talk to a sex therapist. A sex therapist can help you and your partner work through miscommunication or feelings of dissatisfaction in the bedroom.</li></ul>

What are some tips for healthy sex?

Compulsive sexual behavior, sometimes called sex addiction or hypersexuality disorder, refers to sexual behavior that disrupts your life.Here are some signs that you may be experiencing compulsive sexual behavior:<ul><li>Difficulty maintaining healthy relationships</li><li>Engaging in sexual behaviors that negatively impact your life</li><li>Excessively using sex or masturbation as an escape from stress or personal problems</li><li>Reoccurring urges or fantasies that feel beyond your control</li><li>Financial or legal problems as well as other serious consequences that result from your sexual behavior</li></ul>

When should I see a doctor?

<ul><li>Do you feel unable to manage your sexual impulses?</li><li>Are your sexual behaviors causing you distress?</li><li>Is your sexual behavior hurting your relationships or having negative consequences?</li><li>Are you trying to hide your sexual behavior?</li></ul>

Some questions you can ask yourself to judge if you may have com

Your libido is another name for your sex drive. Your libido is individual to you, and what’s normal for you may not be normal for somebody else.Generally, a high libido is only a concern if it’s causing issues with your relationships or life. Talk to your partner, your doctor, or a counselor if your high libido is keeping you from having sex life you want. Keep SmilingFaisal...

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<ul><li>Rumination is a persistent and repetitive pattern of self-focused thinking, which includes analyzing reasons for negative mood and failure. </li><li>Ruminative self-focus exacerbates negative mood, which results in a reciprocal loop. </li><li>There are strategies to interrupt this negative thinking pattern, including taking a walk and scheduling time to worry, among others. </li> </ul>“Nothing in life is as important as you think it is, while you are thinking about it.” —Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow

How To Stop Ruminating - Key points

Do you ever get stuck in a mental loop, rehashing what happened, replaying what was said, revisiting the scenario over and over again in your head? This is rumination. Rumination is a persistent and repetitive pattern of self-focused thinking, which includes analyzing reasons for negative mood and failure.

Stuck In A Mental Loop

The word rumination comes from the Latin term ruminari and means to chew cud—partially digested food that is regurgitated from the stomach for another round of chewing. In fact, the first stomach compartment of ruminants (cattle, deer, giraffes) is known as the rumen. When we ruminate, we are mentally chewing partially digested thoughts. Essentially, it is emotional reflux.

Rumination Meaning

While rumination is not a clinical diagnosis, going over what is bothering you again and again with a fine-tooth comb and scrutinizing every little detail of what has happened or might happen can play a role in the <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2832862/">onset and maintenance of depression </a>.

Onset And Maintenance Of Depression 

In my experience, people are most likely to ruminate in the middle of the night, in the face of a major decision, and when they are <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/stress">stressed </a>out. Since a negative mood leads to recurrent analysis and self-focus, and ruminative self-focus exacerbates negative mood, high ruminators can get trapped in a reciprocal loop with a negative mood and rumination sustaining each other.The good news is that there are strategies to interrupt this <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/pessimism">negative thinking </a>pattern. Here are six ways to break the rumination cycle:

Negative Thinking Pattern 

A <a href="https://pubag.nal.usda.gov/catalog/7088061">study </a>published in the Journal of <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/environment">Environmental Psychology </a> found that walking in a natural setting is a powerful rumination reducer and mood lifter. Strolling in a green environment elicited more awe and externally oriented thoughts than walking along city streets. Just 30 minutes was enough to disengage participants from dwelling on distress.

1. Take a walk in the park.

As counterintuitive as this sounds, setting aside 20 minutes each day to let your worries run wild can actually reduce rumination. Giving yourself permission to self-immerse during a fixed period frees up space to be more present and engaged during the rest of the day. There are plenty of things to worry about that are beyond our control. The worry time technique can help you be more efficient by spending the time you aren’t worrying on more productive things.

2. Schedule time to worry.

If you are stuck in a rumination loop, consider how you would advise a friend who was in the same predicament. <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797614535400?casa_token=xwzGgHtUYvsAAAAA%3Ak9quNViqPxk_kqVmePWXCGxwHyvkzV2CEy9_pwes_ZfC7gT_TXrAZ_2vGb3s0s60enX_ov5a5P1yPw&journalCode=pssa">Research </a>shows that this technique of “de-centering”—shifting the focus away from yourself and towards someone else—promotes clearer thinking about one’s own issues. De-centering is also linked with cultivating greater humility and an awareness of one’s own shortcomings, and with feeling greater appreciation for another person’s point of view.

3. What would you tell a friend?

Literally. A study found that a 5-minute breathwork activity known as cyclic sighing can reduce excessive worry and improve mood. A <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBdhqBGqiMc">video </a>made by researcher Andrew Huberman, a <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/neuroscience">neuroscientist </a>and associate professor at Stanford University, shows how to perform this type of breathwork. Here are the basics: <ol><li>One inhale followed by another short inhale through the nose </li><li>One long exhale through the nose or mouth </li><li>Make the exhale longer than the inhale </li> </ol>

4. Exhale.

Another way to gain some distance from rumination is to time travel. Imagining what your future self might think about a current stressor has been shown to reduce the emotional toll of the present. For example, as upsetting as an interaction with a difficult coworker might be today, fast-forwarding from the current situation to a year in the future might help you take it less personally and see it as less permanent. Recognizing the transitory nature of a hassle can reduce the distress you feel about it.

5. Time Travel.

Excessive complaining and rehashing personal problems with someone else is known as co-rumination and can amplify stress, especially in those who are already feeling down. If your best friend calls you to talk about something that is bothering her, it is best to avoid questions that encourage her to revisit every detail. “Start from the beginning. Tell me everything!” will only lead to a play-by-play of what took place and what she was feeling.

6. Whatever you do, refrain from co-ruminating.

Consider instead posing a question that might help your friend gain some distance from the situation. I often ask my patients, “If someone else were in this situation, what advice would you give them?” Rather than dwelling on the details, help others generate a plan of action.Self-immersion is not the answer. In the moment, rumination might feel helpful and self-soothing but the reality is it prevents us from problem-solving.Bottom line: We boost our well-being by gaining some distance from ourselves.

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The reputation of the stoics was that they were invulnerable, strong and that they use to suppress their emotions but if that they were so we wouldn’t have found so many references and strategies to deal with anxiety. Here are 10 of them.

Ten Stoic Strategies to deal with Anxiety. 

Don’t focus on the goals that are in the distance, focus on the immediate step that is within our control. Do each thing that is front of you like it’s the only thing that matters or it’s the last thing that you have to do, and it all adds up - “Many mickle makes a muckle”.

1. Focus On the Little Thing

Feel lucky to be alive in this moment. You have been given a gift of the present moment, don’t be cynical or jaded and waste this precious life. Everything might not be ideal but it’s the time that we are alive, and we have any control only in this moment so accept it and be grateful for it.

2. Practice Gratitude.

You don’t need to have an opinion about everything. You can accept things as they are or simply ignore it. Look at life objectively and don’t project your own thoughts and opinion on it.

3. Have No Opinion. 

Stop caring about what other people think, do or say. That is the only way to be at peace and experience tranquility.

4. Stop Caring About What People Think. 

Don’t dump your emotions or run away from it. Observe and explore them. They are like a credit card bill, you might not have to pay them now, but it will come later with a higher interest rate charged. So, deal with your emotions or process and meditate over them now and don’t leave it for later as it is going to come over with even a bigger force and magnitude.

5. Process Your Emotions.

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality” - Seneca. All the things that we are anxious or worried about are never going to happen in reality so there is no point suffering for things that exist only in our imagination. You can only have any control over the present moment where you can prepare yourself to address any challenges that you might have. Don’t give up the present moment by being worried about what’s going to happen in the future.

6. Don’t Suffer Imagined Troubles. 

Don’t want to be harmed, don’t chose to feel harmed - EpictetusNo one can make you feel inferior without your consent - Eleanor Roosevelt

7. Chose not to be harmed.

Walking is a way of resting and it allows you to feel refreshed.Only ideas had while walking have any worth - Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche

8. Go For A Walk. 

Journal every single day. Don't think much about it just make a start.The best time to start journaling was a long time ago, the second- best time is now.

9. Keep A Journal.

Every situation can have two handles or aspects. You can choose to see it as a victim or something that dis-empowers or you can choose to it see it as an opportunity for growth.

10. Grab the Right Handle.

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