The Change Triangle is a tool and a guide to carry a person from a place of disconnection back to their true Self. It works by getting people reacquainted with core emotions like joy, anger, sadness, fear, and excitement.The concepts underlying the Change Triangle tool were first described by Dr. David Malan in the 1970s and later by Diana Fosha, Ph.D. in her pioneering text The Transforming Power of Affect.

How Does The Change Triangle Work?

Core emotions are largely physical sensations that we come to recognize and name as a particular emotion. Core emotions inform us about our environment. Am I safe or in danger? What do I need/want and don’t want? Am I sad? Am I hurt? What brings me pleasure? What disgusts me? What excites me? The core emotions are: sadness, fear, anger, joy, excitement, sexual excitement and disgust.

What Are Core Emotions And Which Are They?

Core emotions are hard-wired in the middle part of our brains, meaning they are not subject to conscious control. Triggered by the environment, each core emotion is pre-wired to set off a host of physiological reactions that prime us for an action that is meant to be adaptive, like running from danger. Core emotions are brilliant: if we don’t block them, their innate programming tells us important information to help us thrive.

Core Emotions Are Hard- And Pre-Wired

Inhibitory emotions block core emotions. Shame, anxiety and guilt, the inhibitory emotions, block core emotions when: 1) they are in conflict with what pleases others whom we need like parents, peers, and partners; 2) core emotions become too intense and our brain wants to shut them down to protect us from the emotional overwhelm.

What Are Inhibitory Emotions And Which Are They?

Defenses are anything we do to avoid feeling either core or inhibitory emotions. Depression is a defense because in that state we are out of touch with our core emotions. There are an infinite number of defenses but some of the other common ones in our culture are: joking, sarcasm, too much “screen time,” criticizing, spacing out, procrastination, preoccupation, negative thinking, misguided aggression, working too much, over-exercising, over-eating, under-eating, cutting, sex, obsession, addiction, etc.

What Are Defenses And Which Are They?

When an event or situation causes us distress or to be off-balance we must: <ol><li>Determine where we are on The Change Triangle: defense, inhibitory, core</li><li>Determine where we want to go, moving clockwise around The Change Triangle towards and through core emotions, which inherently provide guidance to peace, perspective, or solution. </li></ol>

How The Change Triangle Tool Works

The Change Triangle is a place to turn to in that immediate moment when something within us, or someone or something in our environment causes you to experience emotional struggle. Just by figuring out “where we are on the Triangle”, we can 1) gain some distance and perspective from our immediate feeling, and 2) have some direction of what to do to help ourselves feel better.

The Gift Of Distance And Direction

The state below The Triangle is a calm state of peace and openheartedness - where we all hope to spend much more time. It is accessed by “listening” to what the core emotion of the moment is telling us, by honoring what it says and by letting the associated body sensations move through freely until they naturally subside. Core emotions are wavelike in nature: rising then ebbing.

The Final Destination: Below The Triangle

The Change Triangle is a tool, a map and a guide that we can turn to to manage upsetting moments, or when we are in conflict with ourselves or those we love, or when we’re looking to understand ourselves more deeply. Practiced often enough, it can become practice. And with practice, comes change; hopefully, a change towards emotional resilience and stability.

The Change Triangle is a guide to carry you from a place of disconnection back to your true Self. It's a step-by-step process for simply feeling better.

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The Change Triangle

Most people want “solutions ”because they’re unwilling to dig down to the root of the problem. The real problem. So-called solutions are but an opiate.Most how-to lists, step-by-step instructions, and habit-change remedies are drugs that mask the symptoms, yet they compound the problem in the long run.

Solutions?

What if, instead of numbing the pain, we sidestepped the solutions and scrutinized the problem itself?

What if?

If your desk chair is aflame, reading the Fire Safety Manual won’t save you. The problem isn’t a lack of instructions—the problem is your posterior is on fire.If you own too much stuff, watching a “67 decluttering steps” video won’t help. The problem isn’t a shortage of decluttering tips—the problem is the attachment to stuff.

For Example:

If you want to find tranquility, pondering the “7 habits of effective people” won’t bring you peace. The problem isn’t your “bad” habits—the problem is thinking “good” habits will trigger joy.

The Real Problem?

Solutions are seductive, but they rarely solve anything because chasing a “fix” removes our attention from the problem. It is only when we understand the fundamental nature of the problem that it is eradicated.

Solutions Don't Solve Problems

If you understand the why, the how takes care of itself.

Why and How?

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Human consciousness is at the same time as being a form of awareness and sensitivity and also ignorance.The ordinary everyday consciousness that we have leaves out more than it takes in.And because of this, it leaves out things that are terribly important.It leaves out things that would if we did know them, allay our anxieties and fears and horrors. And if we could extend our awareness you see to include those things that we leave out we would have a deep interior piece because we would all know the one thing that you mustn’t know… what is profound, what is mysterious, what is in the depths.

Human Consciousness

Focus is vastly misunderstood.People only see it from a surface level and decided to leave it at that. Most people — especially those in the self-improvement space — see it as a once-in-a-while tool for deep work.In reality, focus is the entirety of our lives.

The Focus Matrix

You'd be surprised how much you can get done with 1 hour of uninterrupted focus.

Learning how to get into deep, focused work is an incredible way to introduce yourself to the power of harnessing attention.<ul><li>You can get 8 hours of work done in 2.</li><li>You can utilize the finite energy you have in the day.</li><li>You can make a habit out of making massive progress on your goals.</li></ul>

Harnessing Attention

<ul><li>Focus is conscious attention.</li><li>Consciousness is the essence of the human experience.</li><li>Attention is how we process information within the infinite realm of consciousness.</li><li>Focus is how you maneuver your attention to navigate reality towards optimal outcomes.</li></ul>

Conscious Attention

Focus: Your vision, purpose, hierarchy of goals (mission), and priority actions are focus anchors. These “anchors” must be cultivated, refined, and revisited to give you consistent intrinsic energy.Energy: You can expand, contract, narrow, or widen your focus on these specific entities to “tap in” to their level of energy. Experience: With accurate focus and an open energy channel, you conduct yourself from your direct conscious experience right now. That is, you anchor your focus to the present moment.

The Three Pillars: Focus, Energy And Experience

Focal contraction and expansion is how you live a life of meaning, enjoyment, and progress. It is an art form. No matter how “negative” the situation is to the untrained eye. All Is Mind.Narrow, unconscious focus leads to stress, anxiety, reactivity, and annoyance.When you find yourself projecting into the predictable future, it is easy to narrow your focus on a stressful upcoming situation and pull that future experience into your present experience.

Negative Focus

Open, unconscious focus leads to feeling lost and overwhelmed with where your life is headed.There are tasks, goals, and life outcomes that trigger thoughts, emotion, and experience unless caught by the watcher.Conscious focus — both narrow and open — help us live with more depth, love and appreciation.

Positive Focus

There is one thing that separates human beings the most from other species:Depth of focus.Expansion and contraction.Expansion being a large area of attention.Contraction being a small area of attention.Like a circle that gets larger and smaller depending on what you are directly conscious of.Focus is the most important skill that has flown under people’s noses.It isn’t tangible. It isn’t material. It is near impossible to pinpoint the exact state of your focus. You can’t quantify it.

Infinite Consciousness

The majority of the human population are asleep. Living out pre-programmed unconscious lives. Habitual actions, thought patterns, emotional reactions, and decisions that result in their direct experience in this present moment.Conscious living is another layer deeper. Through practice, you enjoy life in an entirely new dimension. You begin to see this world from another dimension.What is stopping people from tapping in to this new dimension?

Most People Are Living Like Zombies

Think of a visible iceberg. Imagine that iceberg as anything you were to come in contact with in reality. Infinite icebergs that create the fabric of reality.A thought, emotion, phone, glass, plant, computer, word, letter, design, social media profile, tattoo, keyboard, key, shirt, belt, button, room, cloud, chair, smell, or anything else you can become directly conscious of.This is how most people conduct their lives. They see what they see (or feel what they feel) and forget the rest. There is no depth. There is no understanding. There is no awareness of the interdependence of life itself.

The Visible Part Of The Iceberg

How do you dive deeper?Through conscious attention and awareness.Can you become aware of the EMF frequencies that your phone is emitting? I’m not asking you to see or feel them. I am asking you to become aware of them. Visualize them. Know that they are there. Let your curiosity take you on a learning spree. Understand how it impacts everything it touches.Can you become aware of the coffee that is in your hands? What is the chemical composure of the coffee? Whose hands were involved in the manufacturing process of the coffee? What about the glass that it is held in?

Dive Deeper: The Hidden Part Of The Iceberg

You can separate the coffee from the glass, the molecules from the liquid, and as you expand and contract your focus — you become more or less aware of infinity.Can you contract down to a valve in your heart, expand out to everything within your field of vision, and manipulate your focus to everything in between?You navigate, appreciate, and thrive in life by mastering your focus.

Mastering Your Focus

Two steps to happiness: Zoom in on what's important.Zoom out from everything else.

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Harvey Spencer is flawed and fictional, yet his portrayal can teach you about confidence and power. Much of learning to convey a deep sense of confidence and power has to do with frames.Frames are the unspoken context that dictates the rules of any interaction.

Showing confidence and power

Harvey often surprises people by entering big and bold. He established the frame that the other person will react to his emotional state. You’ll often see Harvey respond slower and subdued when somebody directs him to do something. He takes his time which communicates that he doesn’t need to jump because they say so. When Harvey is in conflict with someone, he responds by not rising to it.

Control the frame with your body language and tone

Harvey has the ability to dictate the frame. Broadcasting that you’re always in control is not a good way to be,  but it does contribute to a sense of awe. Harvey frames himself as nearly omnipotent. He dictates not what he’d like to happen or what he hopes will happen but how things will undoubtedly unfold.

Dictating the frame

<ul><li>When people are nervous or want things to sound more like an invitation, they will use an upward inflection.</li><li>Commands and certainties are often spoken with downward inflections.</li><li>When you tell people what’s going to happen, you typically do it with a downward inflection.</li></ul> For the purposes of charisma, setting a higher energy frame is best in entrances and greetings, while a slower, less reactive frame is more powerful in moments of conflict.

Tonality

Challenging the content would imply that you’ve accepted their frame and need to defend yourself. Shifting the framing is a verbal way of taking back control. The simple act of not being so concerned with defending yourself when someone makes a joke about you will take you a long way. The less you focus on defending yourself, the better your banter will become.

When in confrontation, attack the frame, not the content

The unspoken frame is that others are lucky to be working with you. When others treat Harvey as inferior, he quickly asserts that he has the power to leave them.  If you’re in any kind of sales role or client-facing role, you will do much better if you shift your mindset from “I’m selling to this person” or “I work for this person” to “this person needs me to partner with them.” Rather than work for the praise of a client, Harvey allows them to earn his favour.

Have the belief that you are not there to impress

That way you can make people feel like you have total control over the situation. In reality, you only have control over the menu. The person who controls the menu controls the outcome.  Harvey is savvy enough to recognise that there is always another option that suits him better than what the menu would offer.

Become an expert at framing people’s options

In any negotiation, the person with a better second option will win. Harvey knows that he can always get another client or another job or find another way. He doesn’t need anyone specific to do anything for him. Instead, he can get what he wants and needs from various sources. In your career, create options. You are more likely to get a raise if you’ve been developing your skills in your free time and you know you could get another job.

Create options for yourself

Check out Charisma University: https://bit.ly/2psreFK Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Game of Thrones: How Power Really Works: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NQiHtbpa8s Harvey Specter isn't exactly the perfect man. He can be rude, emotionally stunted and sarcastic. But even though he is flawed and of course fictional, his portrayal can teach you quite a bit about confidence and power in the real world. So in this video you’ll learn concrete steps and deeper mindsets for conveying a deep sense of confidence and power. ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:48 - #1: Your body language & tone. 4:29 - #2: Attack the framing, not the content of the insult. 5:52 - #3: Don’t be there to impress. 8:09 - #4: Learn to become an expert at framing your options in any particular scenario. 9:20 - #5: Create options for yourself. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #HarveySpecter #CharismaOnCommand -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand Or if you want to see our personal stuff: Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Instagram: @IamBenAltman

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1. Do not have a Budget or Budgeting that is always updated. How do you know how much money to make, spend and save if you’re not budgeting? It’s quite difficult to reach your financial goals without it. Budgeting is all about understanding how much money you make, so you can set spending goals and maybe save some money.Just knowing how much you’re spending can help you spend less as you become more aware of it. You also have to always update your budget list every day so you know for sure where the money is going in and out. Making this budget is also the first step towards financial literacy

10 Habits That Will Keep You Poor Even If You Have Good Business

This habit can make you poor, usually it will be seen along with the lack of your remaining budget. This habit often comes back when you are in a place that attracts attention and can make your heart happy. Examples include buying clothes at the mall, hanging out at your favorite cafe, watching movies, karaoke with friends,etc. If you don’t know how much money you have spent, it will be much easier for you to spend more. But if you know and are sensitive about which places have a tendency to spend a lot of money, it will be easier to realize and control your shopping habits in the future.

2. Not aware of impulsive shopping habits. 

Have you ever bought something, kept using it only a few times and then it became a display item in the future? everyone must have done this and it makes us wonder, why did I buy it in the first place? This can happen because when you want to shop, you don’t make a clear shopping list for what items and in what amount you actually want to buy. In the business world, companies are very skilled in this field, they just have to do great marketing tricks such as (discounts, promos, buy 2 get 1,etc.) to buyers who come to be interested in buying more.

3. Buying goods in excessive quantities.

Have you ever been to a friend’s house and his house was full of things? certainly have. When someone buys a lot of things and keeps them in the house, it will give the impression that they are rich. For example, having 2 cars, boat, bicycles, furniture, decorations that are very crowded, etc. If done often, then this bad habit can last for a long time. If you believe that buying a lot of things will make you look rich, then you are very wrong. Because rich will only be determined from the amount of cash that is currently owned, the return on investment and the number of assets owned.

4. Buy things that can give you a false sense of wealth. 

Have you ever bought an item just for the quantity over the quality? definitely yes. This bad habit can make you buy it in large quantities in a short time span, even though it has the same use. For example, glasses, shoes, smartphones, clocks, etc. If you do this often in the future, you can subconsciously make you spend more money than you originally bought because of the quality.

5.Buy because its cheap and quantity rather than a bit expensive

Perhaps this is more common among individuals who are younger in their 20s, even though it is still common among older people. Either the reason is not having a target at all or not right on target etc. If you do not have strong and clear financial ambitions, you will tend to be careless with your own money in the future. For example, you don’t have a motive for why you have to spend as needed, save more, invest more, etc.

6. Does not have a clear long-term goal. 

Try to learn to invest your money in investment instruments that exist today. do not be afraid to lose, because the risk of loss can be minimized by continuing to learn. After all, if you put money into good stocks, bonds, deposits, etc., it will definitely provide a good rate of return and it will have an impact on the growth of your assets in the future. If you only keep money in your bank account, every year you will be burdened by an inflation rate that is much higher than the bank interest income you receive. So don’t hesitate to use your extra money to invest.

7. Not investing. 

One bad behavior that can keep you poor is using credit cards carelessly, such as buying things that are not very useful and are needed in the near future. Interest rates on credit cards can damage your finances in the future because they will get bigger every month. Some people don’t realize that they are wasting money because they believe that they only need to pay small at the beginning when in the future they will pay a lot of interest. Try to avoid this so that your assets can grow bigger every month.

8. Not using credit cards properly.

Unfortunately, many of us worry too much about discussing money and finances on our own. This happens because of a negative mindset. Without realizing it, this behavior can keep you poor in the future. If you are not confident with the money you have now, how can you achieve good financial goals in the future? Try to understand the basics of material about the world of finance, how to manage money properly, how to deal with your finances, etc. so that you can increase your confidence and open your mindset for money in the future.

9. Not confident when it comes to discussing money. 

Most people, when they can earn more money, will definitely increase their spending or standard of living as well, such as buying a more expensive car, house, bicycle, smartphone, etc. If you want to be free from these problems, try to stay alive with the same expenses but increase the portion for investment. Because with this you will become someone who is more reliable in managing financial emotions in the future.

10. Increase expenses when your income increases.

The list of human wants will never end. We crave various items that may or may not be good in the future if we buy them, for example we are in a hurry to satisfy our desires when we have or are just…

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An idealistic statement is how you wish the world worked. When you imagine an ideal world with a just cause, you devote your practice, energy and resources to advance that cause. The ideal will always be imperfect in its own way. Yet, striving towards it becomes very inspiring for a workforce because they feel like they're contributing to something larger than themselves.

The infinite mindset

When you think about innovation, if you say, "provide greater value for our clients", its not wrong, but when you want to innovate around that, the innovation tends to be more features and benefits. When you say, "innovate to advance x", the ideas can come from anywhere within the organization and tend to be much bigger.

A clearer path to embrace an infinite mindset

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First understand the counterpart and then you'll get what inside their head. From where they're coming from.<ol><li>How does the person like to be communicate with?</li><li>What action can I take to make a yes easier for them?</li><li>What's the person's dominant communication style?</li></ol>

Do Your Research

As if you are adequately prepared, it's time to have the conversation. Don't just attack bluntly. Spend time on being personable. Show your human side. Ask diagnostic questions, like "what are your thoughts about...?"Open-ended questions helps you to dig deeper to find out more relevant information and perspectives of other person.<ol><li>Can you explain how you arrived at that solution?</li><li>Can you walk me through your decision making process?</li><li>How can we make this beneficial for both of us?</li></ol>

Ask Deeper Questions

"No" is an opportunity, not an ending.Use the FEEL, FELT and FOUND formula:FEEL: I understand why you might feel that way. Many others have felt the same way.FELT: I understand where you are coming from. During points in my career I have felt the same way.FOUND: What i have found is....

Get Ready For Objections

We usually dealt with some people with whom we hardly get negotiate easily.

Here are three steps to blast through resistance and nail your next negotiation.

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Habit 1 - Make your bed:How you do one thing determines how you do everything. Making bed would have a domino effect in life.Habit 2 - Move, Hydrate, Sunlight:Move- prime your body for the day, get the blood pumping, so that it knows that it's GO TIMEHydrate- after 6-8 hours of sleep you wake up dehydrated in the morning. 1-2 glass of water as soon as you wake up will be sufficient.Sunlight- It's important for healthy function of your circadian rhythm, to give you energy, for better sleep. You can combine this with other chores or with your morning exercise.

Part-1 The 10 Success Habits

Your brain operates with 30% less acuity when you are dehydrated

Habit 3 - Read:It must be a book that either you're curious about or the subject matter is directly related to the goals you are currently working towards. consistency is the key.Habit 4 - Prioritise your 3 MITs:Write down in descending order of importancethe 3 most important tasks (MITs) for today.Include growth tasks rather than maintenance tasks. Ex, growth task- get out of comfort zone (add more weight) ; maintenance task- do it same way like before (do exercise).Ask yourself, 'what task if completed first will make everything easier or irrelevant ?' and do it first. Write them down.

Habit 5 - Schedule your dayDo what works for youThere's a famous saying that goes, "If it ain't on your schedule; it ain't happening." - actually the author just made that up :DBut on a little serious note, most of the successful people follow a schedule.Habit 6 - Run pomodorosHumans have limited amount of attention span, to leverage it fully use pomodoro method (search on the web if you don't know what it is), to get more work done without burning out.Avoid multitasking

Habit 7 - ConnectConnect with someone smarter than you. Which typically begins with you reaching out to them.What will stop you is negative self-talk like, "you're not enough" or "they're too busy" which is garbage, because no one is busy, it is about priorities.To increase chances of success of connecting with smarter people come from a place of non-neediness and add value to their life.Habit 8 - Speak cleanBy changing the words we use (ex- I wish / I can't.. to I'm going to / I will) , we change our lives. Simple, right?

Habit 9 - Dress for successDressing well has a powerful psychological effect on how you feel about yourself and how you behave.Habit 10 - Be held accountableJoing or creating group and having an accountability buddy is one of the best investments you can ever make. Without it it's easy to slack off.Bonus habit - SMILENo need to tell benefits of smiling. Stating just one of the many below-<ol><li>It keeps you and others around you in a stress-free happy mood. Just do it</li></ol>

Tip 1- 66 days21 days is a myth. Don't quit until you've successfully implemented habit for a minimum of 66 days. Because everytime it gets stronger in your subconscious.Tip 2- Build 1 habit at a timeThis the the best takeaway for me from this book. Multitasking is a Big No. You'll end up diversifying your focus and losing the momentum required to build a habit.As arule of thumb start new habit only after 30 days of successful implementation of older habit.Tip 3- The KISS principleKeep it simple stupid.Make it so easy that even your grandma can do it, that it doesn't even bother you doing it.

Part-2 Habit Implementation

Tip 4- Establish your whyWhen you feel like giving up, return to your why you started in the first place.Tip 5- Keep the context constantRoutine helps in building automaticity.Cue - action - repeatTip 6- Be held accountable1. Tracking: this is necessaryiphone- Streaks app android- HabitTracker appWaitButWhy100 blocks per day post2. Social accountability:Accountability breeds responsibility3. Stacks:Put money on the line. Can use stickk.comTip 7- Never miss 2 days in a row

Tip 8- Do it in the morningAfter waking up brain is well rested and most primed for productivity. Experiment and see which time works for you.Tip 9- Pain and pleasure principleFocus on pleasure of developing a habit as opposed to pain of not developing it.Tip 10- Write it downWrite down exactly how, where and when you'll implement the habit of your choice.

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A black legend is a <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Historiography">historiographical</a> phenomenon in which a sustained trend in historical writing of biased reporting and introduction of fabricated, exaggerated and/or decontextualized facts is directed against particular persons, nations or institutions with the intention of creating a distorted and uniquely inhuman image of them while hiding their positive contributions to history. The Black Legend (Spanish: La Leyenda Negra) is a style of historical writing or propaganda that demonizes the Spanish Empire, its people and its culture.

What is the black legend?

The term was first used by French writer Arthur Lévy in his 1893 work Napoléon Intime, in contrast to the expression "<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Legend">Golden Legend</a>" that had been in circulation around Europe since the publication of a book of that name during the <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_Ages">Middle Ages</a>.

Origins

... the careful distortion of the history of a nation, perpetrated by its enemies, in order to better fight it. And a distortion as monstrous as possible, with the goal of achieving a specific aim: the moral disqualification of the nation, whose supremacy must be fought in every way possible.— as cited in Alfredo Alvar's book, La Leyenda Negra (1997:5)

Historian Manuel Fernández Álvarez defined a black legend as:

The black legend of empires would be the result of the following combined factors:<ul><li>The combined propaganda attacks and efforts of most smaller powers of the time, as well as defeated rivals.</li><li>The propaganda created by the many rival power factions within the empire itself against each other as part of their struggle to win more power.</li><li>The self-criticism of the intellectual elite, which tends to be larger in larger empires.</li><li>The need of the new powers consolidated during the empire's life or after its dissolution to justify their new prevalence and the new order.</li></ul>

It is a phenomenon observed in all multicultural empires, not just in the Spanish Empire

The defining feature of a black legend is that it has been fabricated and propagated intentionally. Black legends also tend to share certain additional elements:<ul><li>Permanent decadence</li><li>Degenerated or polluted version of something else.</li><li>Accidentality of merit.</li><li>Obligatory moral actions.</li><li>Natural moral inferiority and irredeemable character.</li></ul>Narrations of black legends tend to include: Strong pathos, combined with a narrative that is easy to follow and emotionally loaded, created by:<ul><li>Detailed, gruesome and morbid descriptions of torture and violence</li><li>Sexual elements</li><li>Ignorance</li></ul>

Common elements of black legends

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