“The climb is the fun part.”

“Good marketing can sell once, but only a good product can sell twice.In the long run, your performance reverts to the value you provide.”

“Motivation comes and goes. If you want to do something consistently, then don't pick a level of difficulty that requires great motivation.Make it easy enough and simple enough that you'll do it even when you don't feel very motivated.”

“Criticizing is easy and fast. Creating is difficult and slow. The two hours you spent on a book or movie usually took two years to produce.Anyone can tear down someone else’s work. The true test of insight is whether you can help them improve it or build something of your own.”

“The goal of adulthood is to let go of the other possible existences and to make the best of the one. A successful adult is one who understands that it doesn't matter which life you ultimately pick, only that you live it well.”

What is one of your natural gifts? How can you spend more time leveraging it?

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Intellectually, we may know that money can’t buy happiness, but some part of us still cling to the thought that we’d feel better if we were rich. Yet when we really look at wealthy people, we wonder if they are any happier than the average person. Hence, we dive deeper and come up with questions like:Do wealthy people laugh more, experience more joy, or have greater fulfillment in their lives? Perhaps some do – but how much of it is a direct result of their wealth?

You can probably enumerate a handful of wealthy people that appear to be completely miserable, and some of them feel emptier the wealthier they become! These are the very same people who are under the misconception that money is the solution to every life's problem.

I’m sure you’ve heard stories about people who won a lottery or attained a large sum of money through an inheritance and other means. These very same people had financial struggles, and after attaining a large sum of money and used it as they please, end up flat broke again, realising that money didn't solve all of their problems, but rather, has only made their lives worse.

One of the most common reasons why wealth can make us miserable is that it distracts us from what is truly important for a happy and fulfilling life. We find ourselves focusing more and more on material objects and end up feeling disconnected from our inner selves.

If you are feeling unhappy in your life right now and you’re thinking that money will solve your problems, it's time for a reality check! I won’t deny that having material abundance can make our lives a little easier.

Believe me, I know how it feels to struggle financially for I have witnessed my mom borrow money just so she can put food on our table. I know the feeling of going home from school then turning on the light's switch or the faucet, only to see them shut off, immediately realising that we were unable to pay for electric and water bills again, which then lead to my experience of having to study for my exams under the gleaming candlelight and then going to my aunt's house early in the morning the day after to take a bath before going to school.

Living a life like this felt like living on the edge of a cliff where the ground is crumbling beneath my feet, making me think that life would be so much better and easier through having money. This is true, but why is it that this has also become the reason why other people have miserably, unhappy, empty lives?

It's important for us to be clear of how we can use the money we have attained in a manner that will make us feel even happier, rather than emptier. It is also very important for us to know that having a lot of money will not automatically make us feel happy, fulfilled, and content in life. Yes money can definitely help us enjoy a greater quality of life, but only if we have a healthy attitude towards money; otherwise it will just add heavier problems.

"In the dark, bewildering, trap-infested jungle of misinformation and opaque riddles that is the world of investment, JL Collins is the fatherly wizard on the side of the path, offering a simple map, warm words of encouragement and the tools to forge your way through with confidence. You'll never find a wiser advisor with a bigger heart." -- Malachi Rempen: Filmmaker, cartoonist, author and self-described ruffian This book grew out of a series of letters to my daughter concerning various things-mostly about money and investing-she was not yet quite ready to hear. Since money is the single most powerful tool we have for navigating this complex world we've created, understanding it is critical. "But Dad," she once said, "I know money is important. I just don't want to spend my life thinking about it." This was eye-opening. I love this stuff. But most people have better things to do with their precious time. Bridges to build, diseases to cure, treaties to negotiate, mountains to climb, technologies to create, children to teach, businesses to run. Unfortunately, benign neglect of things financial leaves you open to the charlatans of the financial world. The people who make investing endlessly complex, because if it can be made complex it becomes more profitable for them, more expensive for us, and we are forced into their waiting arms. Here's an important truth: Complex investments exist only to profit those who create and sell them. Not only are they more costly to the investor, they are less effective. The simple approach I created for her and present now to you, is not only easy to understand and implement, it is more powerful than any other. Together we'll explore: Debt: Why you must avoid it and what to do if you have it. The importance of having F-you Money. How to think about money, and the unique way understanding this is key to building your wealth. Where traditional investing advice goes wrong and what actually works. What the stock market really is and how it really works. Why the stock market always goes up and why most people still lose money investing in it. How to invest in a raging bull, or bear, market. Specific investments to implement these strategies. The Wealth Building and Wealth Preservation phases of your investing life and why they are not always tied to your age. How your asset allocation is tied to those phases and how to choose it. How to simplify the sometimes confusing world of 401(k), 403(b), TSP, IRA and Roth accounts. TRFs (Target Retirement Funds), HSAs (Health Savings Accounts) and RMDs (Required Minimum Distributions). What investment firm to use and why the one I recommend is so far superior to the competition. Why you should be very cautious when engaging an investment advisor and whether you need to at all. Why and how you can be conned, and how to avoid becoming prey. Why I don't recommend dollar cost averaging. What financial independence looks like and how to have your money support you. What the 4% rule is and how to use it to safely spend your wealth. The truth behind Social Security. A Case Study on how this all can be implemented in real life. Enjoy the read, and the journey!

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"In the dark, bewildering, trap-infested jungle of misinformation and opaque riddles that is the world of investment, JL Collins is the fatherly wizard on the side of the path, offering a simple map, warm words of encouragement and the tools to forge your way through with confidence. You'll never find a wiser advisor with a bigger heart." -- Malachi Rempen: Filmmaker, cartoonist, author and self-described ruffian This book grew out of a series of letters to my daughter concerning various things-mostly about money and investing-she was not yet quite ready to hear. Since money is the single most powerful tool we have for navigating this complex world we've created, understanding it is critical. "But Dad," she once said, "I know money is important. I just don't want to spend my life thinking about it." This was eye-opening. I love this stuff. But most people have better things to do with their precious time. Bridges to build, diseases to cure, treaties to negotiate, mountains to climb, technologies to create, children to teach, businesses to run. Unfortunately, benign neglect of things financial leaves you open to the charlatans of the financial world. The people who make investing endlessly complex, because if it can be made complex it becomes more profitable for them, more expensive for us, and we are forced into their waiting arms. Here's an important truth: Complex investments exist only to profit those who create and sell them. Not only are they more costly to the investor, they are less effective. The simple approach I created for her and present now to you, is not only easy to understand and implement, it is more powerful than any other. Together we'll explore: <ul><li>Debt: Why you must avoid it and what to do if you have it.</li><li>The importance of having F-you Money.</li><li>How to think about money, and the unique way understanding this is key to building your wealth.</li><li>Where traditional investing advice goes wrong and what actually works.</li><li>What the stock market really is and how it really works.</li><li>Why the stock market always goes up and why most people still lose money investing in it.</li><li>How to invest in a raging bull, or bear, market.</li><li>Specific investments to implement these strategies.</li><li>The Wealth Building and Wealth Preservation phases of your investing life and why they are not always tied to your age.</li><li>How your asset allocation is tied to those phases and how to choose it.</li><li>How to simplify the sometimes confusing world of 401(k), 403(b), TSP, IRA and Roth accounts.</li><li>TRFs (Target Retirement Funds), HSAs (Health Savings Accounts) and RMDs (Required Minimum Distributions).</li><li>What investment firm to use and why the one I recommend is so far superior to the competition.</li><li>Why you should be very cautious when engaging an investment advisor and whether you need to at all.</li><li>Why and how you can be conned, and how to avoid becoming prey.</li><li>Why I don't recommend dollar cost averaging.</li><li>What financial independence looks like and how to have your money support you.</li><li>What the 4% rule is and how to use it to safely spend your wealth.</li><li>The truth behind Social Security.</li><li>A Case Study on how this all can be implemented in real life.</li></ul> Enjoy the read, and the journey!

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When we give too many f*cks, when we choose to give a f*ck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times, that’s when life f*cks us.

Life isn't supposed to go your way all the time, and that's OK

Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a f*ck about what’s truly f*ck-worthy.

Choose your battles wisely. Put your energy where it counts. 

We are defined by what we choose to reject. And if we reject nothing we essentially have no identity at all.

Overdoing it is the same as doing nothing at all

If you think about a young child trying to learn to walk, that child will fall down and hurt itself hundreds of times. But at no point does that child ever stop and think, ‘Oh, I guess walking just isn’t for me

Failure is a part of life. Failure is how you learn and grow

We can be truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at. If we’re unwilling to fail, then we’re unwilling to succeed.

Fear of failure is your biggest enemy

"I say don’t find yourself. I say never know who you are. Because that’s what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the differences in others.”

Who you are will constantly change

Don’t hope for a life without problems. There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.

Not every “problem” has to be a negative thing

People who become great at something become great because they understand that they’re not already great – they are mediocre, they are average – and that they could be so much better.

Once you’re great at one thing, aim to be great at another

Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.”

Hard times are a necessary part of life

This, in a nutshell, is what ‘self-improvement’ is really about: prioritising better values, choosing better things to give a f*ck about. Because when you give better f*cks, you get better problems.”

Caring less will only lead to better things

Key points from the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson

#1 New York Times Bestseller Over 1 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

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Always when you speak to some Then make sure to Mention their Name Instead of (Bro, Buddy, ETC). It creates a culture of respect, recognition, and consideration for the discussion.

1. Call People by their name:

Writing an Email to yourself isn’t just a fun exercise for writers; everyone can (and should!) give it a try. You might wonder what should go in a letter to yourself, but the answer is, anything that is important to you! <a href="https://audiobookmc.blogspot.com/2022/02/why-you-should-write-letter-mail-to.html">Click Here to Read More.</a>

2. Write emails to yourself in the Future:

Don’t try to remember all the things Because remembering all the things is not easy stuff & Human brain isn’t made for it. So, let the things go according to Brain.

3. Do not try & remember everything:

When you Wake up then just do smile in front of the mirror & say to yourself Awesome it will help you to build Confidence & Most important is Self Love.

4. Wake up and smile at the mirror(Awesome): 

Meeting new people every week will help you to increase Your communication skill, Confidence in facing new people, & with this, you get to learn some new things from the next person. You Might do this via; Video Conference, One on One, Email, or anything which makes your Conversation.

5. Meet someone new every week:

Reading is also called the path for success, don’t keep Big Target's just start with daily 30min of reading a book or whatever you want which will help you to increase you Knowledge. after this you can increase your time according to you.

6. Read 30 minutes every day without setting any goals:

Being Gratitude is a life-changing skill in itself, it shows about your personality & your social character. It is also important because nowadays we are taking people for granted, So we have to change this mindset.

7. Say thank you even if they’re not listening to you. (Gratitude):

This means that you are should depend on your luck, you have to search for it because nothing is gone come to you on the base of luck. So, you have to daily do stuff that keeps your Energy on Full-High As well as your Motivation.

8. Don't leave inspiration to chance:

It is Not Important how much you Invest It is how Consistently you Invest, Investing is an effective way to put your money to work and potentially build wealth, Smart investing may allow your money to outpace inflation and increase in value. The greater growth potential of investing is primarily due to the power of compounding and the risk-return tradeoff. So, due to this, you have to make sure to invest every Month, Especially in your 20’s because by the age of 40-50 you are sitting on such a big Corpus you even can’t imagine it.

9. Invest every month:

Many decisions we take with Emotions like when every we are buying a car, house, phone &, etc. I am not telling you that it is not a good decision to have these things. But the point is that think about it wisely take your own time & make a Practical decision. To make a Practical decision you can use Excel Sheet to cross Check your decision.

10. Know and learn numbers before emotions:

Everyone has their own Problems But some problems are there which don’t let you sleep at night. I know that you have been Trying to short this problem but due to the issue of Procrastination, you haven’t done it. <a href="https://audiobookmc.blogspot.com/2022/01/8-tips-to-avoid-procrastination.html">Click here to Learn More about Procrastination.</a>

11. Do something about the problem that doesn't let you sleep at night:

Breathe deeply this is one of my regular based activity. Whenever you Get Anger, Confused, Pressure, Stress, or any other Situation in which your brain feels Out. then take a deeply Breathe. it will work like Clearing the ram of your phone to Brain, it will suddenly start working with more Energy. this can also work as Quick Meditation if you do Meditation regularly.

12. Breathe deeply(Sudden Meditation):

Nowadays we many of are working remotely from our comfort zone but after some we get Bored, it just because our sub-conscious Mind gets notified when you wore Cloths which you mainly ware after work(Shorts, Tees &, etc) or Night ware. So, you make sure to wear proper clothes which you ware for your Office or any other Formal ware & Also this will help you to get into proper Disciplined manner. Same for the Students.

13. Dress up nicely every day (Keeps You Disciplined):

Compliment People when they do something which touches your heart then you always make sure to Compliment that person because your few words will help to & Inspire them to work on it. This Process will transfer the Positive Energy & When you transfer the Positive Energy Eventually you are also Getting it Back.

14. Compliment people:

When we hear the word Workout then we get Flashed by the GYM. So, it doesn’t mean just GYM anything which involves to physical activity like walking, Running, Dancing &, etc. One of the worst things you do is Messing with your body eating anything like junk food, no proper workout, etc. ( from the Personal Experience)

15. Workout every day (because health is no.1 priority):

The Pomodoro Technique is a Time management system that encourages people to work with the time they have—rather than against it. Using this method, you break your workday into 25-minute chunks separated by five-minute breaks. ... After about four pomodoros, you take a longer break of about 15 to 20 minutes.<a href="https://deepstash.com/idea/188787/rule-no-14-pomodoro-technique"> Click here for more.</a>

16. Use Pomodoro technique(can also work in a lazy situation)(25+5 Rule):

Nowadays we are just following anyone on social media or in the world of WEB 3.0, we have to just follow those people who are adding value to your life, those who add Knlowedge to your Infinite brain, you have to fill your brain with the Right Kind content. “Don’t run behind the Short time Pleasure Walk with Long term Pleasure, Happiness, Well-being & Kind.”

17. Follow only positive people:

Making a proper routine will help you to get Maximum things Done on time. <a href="https://audiobookmc.blogspot.com/2022/01/15-rules-for-productivity-in-study-work.html">Click here to read more about it</a>.

18. Follow a routine(Keeps You In Discipline): 

Meditation can give you a sense of calm, peace, and balance that can benefit both your emotional well-being and your overall health. And these benefits don't end when your meditation session ends. Meditation can help carry you more calmly through your day and may help you manage symptoms of certain medical conditions.

19. 15-20 Minutes of Meditation Daily:

Sit at a place where no Disturbance With the Focus and calm & Ask yourself one question that ‘what I am doing wrong & I know it, it is Wrong. Because when we ask this question we Realise the Truth, the very bitter truth, that truth which presents a solution to us, which we may not want to hear, but it is Important for us, We always know that something is not going right with us, we Always know that we are doing something wrong, but we don't want to accept it. We just never want to accept it, we never want to admit it & that becomes the reason Why we Struggle & fail in life.

20. Ask yourself, what am I doing wrong that I know that is wrong? 

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Several new films across genres including action, thriller, sci-fi and comedy will debut or already started in March 2022 on streaming services like <a href="https://wwd.com/tag/netflix/">Netflix</a>, Hulu, <a href="https://wwd.com/tag/amazon/">Amazon</a> Prime Video and more.<ol><li>Against the Ice - Netflix</li><li>The Weekend Away - Netflix</li><li>Fresh - Hulu </li><li>The Adam Project - Netflix</li><li>Master - Amazon Prime</li><li>Cheaper by the Dozen - Disney+</li><li>Windfall - Netflix</li></ol>

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“Game of Thrones” star Nikolaj Coster-Waldau plays the role of Captain Ejnar Mikkelsen in the action <a href="https://wwd.com/eye/lifestyle/the-mets-costume-institute-refreshes-in-america-a-lexicon-of-american-fashion-1235137580/">film</a> leading an inexperienced crew member across the ice on a mission to disprove the U.S.’s claim to Northeast Greenland in the early 1900s.

Against the Ice - Netflix - March 2

Leighton Meester stars in “The Weekend Away,” which focuses on a woman who is on a weekend getaway in Croatia when she is accused of murdering her best friend. In her efforts to uncover the truth, she discovers a painful secret about what really happened.

The Weekend Away - Netflix - March 3

Starring Daisy Edgar-Jones and Sebastian Stan, “Fresh” tells the story of a young woman who meets a charming man at a grocery store and agrees to spend a romantic weekend away with him where she discovers he’s hiding some “unusual appetites.”

Fresh - Stream on Hulu on March 4

Ryan Reynolds, Mark Ruffalo, Jennifer Garner, Zoe Saldana and more star in “The Adam Project,” a sci-fi film focusing on a time-traveling pilot who teams with his younger self and his late father to come to terms with his past and save the future.

The Adam Project - Netflix - March 11

The thriller tells the story of three Black women trying to survive their experience at a predominantly white college in New England. The film stars Regina Hall, Zoë Renee, Amber Gray, Talia Ryder, Sofia Hublitz, Molly Kate Bernard and more.

Master - Stream on Amazon Prime Video on March 18

A new take on the 2003 family film focuses on the blended Baker family of 12. The film stars Gabrielle Union, Zach Braff, Erika Christensen, Timon Kyle Durrett, Journee Brown and others.

Cheaper by the Dozen - Stream on Disney+ on March 18

Starring Jesse Plemons, Lily Collins and Jason Segel, “Windfall” tells the story of a man who breaks into a tech billionaire’s empty vacation home whose mission is sidetracked when the mogul and his wife show up for a last-minute trip.

Windfall - Netflix - March 18

March 2022 will see the debut of films across action, thriller, sci-fi and comedy genres.

A guide to the new movies debuting on Netflix, Hulu, Amazon Prime Video and more in March 2022, including "Fresh," "Windfall" and more.

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Our bodies can influence our brains and behaviour.Presence stems from believing in and trusting yourself. Your presence is your real honest, feelings, values and abilities.If you don’t trust yourself, how can others trust you?<ul><li>If you want more courage and the ability to handle stress better, find and write about your top core value.</li><li>Beat feelings of powerlessness by remembering past wins and other positive events.</li><li>Your posture is evidence of how you feel about yourself, and by improving it, even right now, you will become more self-confident.</li></ul>

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We convince by our presence.

Presence is the state of being able to comfortably express our thoughts. It’s not a permanent mode of being – it comes and goes, moment to moment.When we feel present, our speech, facial expressions and movements align. It’s what makes us compelling. We are no longer fighting ourselves, we are being ourselves.

Defining Presence

Self-assured enthusiasm is a strong indicator of success. This quality predicts:<ul><li>Drive</li><li>Willingness to work hard</li><li>Initiative</li><li>Persistence in the face of obstacles</li><li>Enhanced mental activity</li><li>Creativity</li><li>The ability to identify good opportunities and novel ideas</li></ul>This is contagious and spreads confidence, passion and commitment to people who work for and with them. These traits can’t easily be faked either.

The Elements of Presence

Presence emerges when we feel personally powerful.<ul><li>Through small tweaks in our body language and mindsets, we can self-induce presence.</li><li>Presence is confidence without arrogance.</li></ul>Presence manifests itself in two ways:<ul><li>We communicate passion, confidence, and comfortable enthusiasm.</li><li>Synchrony.</li></ul>

Presence Is Positive Self-Confidence

<ul><li>A bit of quiet goes a long way towards being present.</li><li>Focus more on the impression you are making in yourself and less on the impression you are making on others.</li><li>Confidence is often confused with cockiness.</li><li>True confidence stems from real love and leads to a long-term commitment to growth.</li><li>False confidence comes from desperate passion and leads to dysfunctional relationships, disappointment and frustration.</li><li>Presence is not about pretending to be confident. It’s about believing and having confidence in the abilities you really have.</li><li>Just be you.</li></ul>

Presence Is An Inward Trait

Alignment: emotions, thoughts, physical and facial expressions, and behaviours must be in harmony.If our actions are not consistent with our values, we won’t feel true to ourselves.There is strong cross-cultural support for the universality of these nine emotions:<ul><li>Anger</li><li>Fear</li><li>Disgust</li><li>Happiness</li><li>Sadness</li><li>Surprise</li><li>Contempt</li><li>Shame</li><li>Pride</li></ul>

The Synchronous Self

<ul><li>Emotion is authentic, negative or positive.</li><li>Lying or being inauthentic is hard work.</li><li>Truth reveals itself more clearly through our actions than through our words.</li><li>The body says what words cannot.</li><li>Presence stems from believing our own stories.</li><li> It is the inner self showing up.</li></ul>What is the authentic self?<ul><li>Multi-faceted, not singular.</li><li>Expressed and reflected through our thoughts, feelings, values and behaviours.</li><li>Dynamic and flexible, not static and rigid. It reflects and responds to the situation.</li></ul>

Faking It Vs being Authentic

Self-affirmation is the practice of clarifying your story to yourself, allowing you to trust that who you are will come through naturally in what you say and do.It is about reminding ourselves what matters most to us.Examine a list of common core values:Select the one or two closest to the core of who they are, then write a short essay about why the value is important and a particular time it was important.

Self Affirmation

Four common narrative themes in elderly people who recall their life stories:Agency: people felt they were in control of their livesCommunion: people describe their lives as being about relationshipsRedemption: people felt that challenges had improved their attitudes or conferred wisdom in somewayContamination: people felt that positive beginnings had turned toward negative endings

Your Life Story

By finding, believing, expressing and then engaging our authentic best selves, especially if we do it right before our biggest challenges, we reduce our anxiety about social rejections and increase our openness to others, and that allows us to be fully present.<ul><li>When a musician is present we are moved, transported, and convinced. They bring us with them to the present.</li><li>Technical mastery is not enough to become the principal dancer.</li><li>When you find your true presence, it is the strength to be there, to be there in a state of balance because you are not trying to protect yourself, you just are.</li></ul>

Acting with Presence

Often our default behaviour when approaching people is trying to demonstrate our own power and control.How people judge each other in first encounters.When we meet someone new we quickly answer two questions:<ul><li>Can I trust this person?</li><li>Can I respect this person?</li></ul>Approach others with kindness instead of toughness.

Stop Preaching, Start Listening: How Presence Begets Presence

We usually think a person we have just meant is either more warm than competent, or more competent than warm, but not both in equal measure.We classify new acquaintances into types.<ul><li>More warm than competent = lovable fools</li><li>More competent than warm = competent jerks</li><li>Incompetent and cold = foolish jerks</li><li>Competent and warm = lovable stars</li></ul>We don’t judge the two equally. Most people prioritize warmth over competence.Your chance of being seen as an unlikeable but effective leader is about 1 in 2,000.

Warmth Vs Competence

<ul><li>Trust is the conduit of influence.</li><li>The only way to establish real trust is by being present.</li><li>Presence is the medium through which trust develops and ideas travel.</li><li>Without trust your great ideas are impotent.</li></ul>

Trust Through Presence

When you listen to someone it is the most profound act of human respect.Real listening can’t happen unless we have a sincere desire to understand what we are hearing.To listen we need to overcome our fear of silence and space.When to stop talking and listen, here is what happens:<ul><li>People can trust you.</li><li>You acquire useful information.</li><li>You begin to see other people as individuals and maybe allies.</li><li>You develop solutions other people are willing to accept and even adopt.</li><li>When people feel heard, they are more willing to listen.</li></ul>

The Art Of Real Listening

<ul><li>When we feel powerful we feel free, in control, un-threatened and safe. As a result, we are unrestricted.</li><li>Powerlessness activates a psychological and physical inhibition system.</li><li>Power makes us approach.</li><li>Powerlessness makes us avoid.</li><li>Presence is the power we confer on ourselves.</li><li>Power can liberate.</li></ul>

How Powerlessness Shackles the Self (and How Power Sets It Free)

Social Power is characterized by:<ul><li>Ability to exert dominance.</li><li>To influence or control the behaviour of others.</li><li>Earned and expressed through disproportionate control over valued resources.</li><li>Social power is limited, requires some kind of control over others.</li></ul>Personal Power<ul><li>Freedom from the dominance of others.</li><li>Infinite instead of zero-sum.</li><li>Access to and control over limitless inner resources.</li><li>Makes us more open, optimistic and risk-tolerant.</li><li>Ability to control our own states and behaviours.</li></ul>If we start with personal power, we may increase our social power without trying

Personal Power Vs Social Power

Personal power is about having the confidence to act based on one's own beliefs, attitudes and values, and having to sense that one's actions will be effective.

Powerful people think and act in a way that leads to retention and acquisition of power.Power can often activate at a non-conscious level.Briefly saying words that connote power like control, command and authority and make you feel present and powerful.The feeling of power can be summoned by little nudges.Powerlessness impairs thought and planning.Powerlessness induces goal neglect. The general phenomenon of failing to remain focused on a goal prevents you from executing the necessary task.Powerlessness makes us self-absorbed.

Powerful Vs Powerless

Power expands our body language. Likewise, our body language can influence and expand our feelings of personal power.Our voices communicate power.Powerful people make more eye contact while they are speaking.When we feel powerful we speak more slowly and take more time, we don’t rush and aren’t afraid to pause. We feel entitled to the time we are using.When people speak at a low pitch they are judged to be powerful by strangers.We want power to, not power over.

Slouching, Steepling, and Body Language

Several scientific experiments lead them to believe that smiling does impact emotions and make a person happier. Our body, breath and movement play a huge role in how we feel.Train yourself through breathing. Inhale quickly and exhale slowly.Benefits of the breathing exercise:<ul><li>Decreased blood pressure</li><li>Reduced anxiety and depression</li><li>Improved optimism</li><li>Emotional control</li><li>Pain management</li><li>Reduced aggression and impulsive behaviour</li><li>Improved addiction management</li><li>Improved work and school performance</li></ul>

Yoga And Breathing Exercises

<ul><li>The way you carry yourself is a source of personal power. The kind of power that is the key to presence.</li><li>Expanding your body expands your mind and allows you to be present.</li><li>We pose in a powerless way much more often than we think.</li><li>High power poses are expansive and open.</li><li>Low power poses are constricted and clenched.</li><li>In tests performed, adopting power poses increased testosterone and decreased cortisol.</li></ul>

The Body Shapes the Mind: Stand Up Straight

<ul><li>Powerful people speak more slowly.</li><li>Slow speech demonstrates a kind of openness.</li><li>In speaking slowly one indicates that he or she has no fear of interruption.</li><li>Speaking slowly allows us time to communicate clearly.</li><li>Expanding your body brings you to the present and improves your performance.</li><li>Your body shapes your mind, your mind shapes your behaviour, and your behaviour shapes your future.</li><li>Let your body tell you that you are powerful and deserving and you become more present, enthusiastic and authentically yourself.</li></ul>

The Way You Speak Matters

<ul><li>Notice situations and people that trigger powerless body language.</li><li>Prepare with big poses.</li><li>In the morning practice, your favourite poses for a couple of minutes to start the day.</li><li>Lists specific tips on preparation before public speaking.</li><li>Stand at work instead of sitting when you can.</li><li>Consider having walking meetings instead of sitting.</li></ul>

Pose for Presence

Be You, Be Bold, Be Positively Fearless. Be Present.

MORE THAN HALF A MILLION COPIES SOLD: Learn the simple techniques you'll need to approach your biggest challenges with confidence. Have you ever left a nerve-racking challenge and immediately wished for a do over? Maybe after a job interview, a performance, or a difficult conversation? The very moments that require us to be genuine and commanding can instead cause us to feel phony and powerless. Too often we approach our lives' biggest hurdles with dread, execute them with anxiety, and leave them with regret. By accessing our personal power, we can achieve "presence," the state in which we stop worrying about the impression we're making on others and instead adjust the impression we've been making on ourselves. As Harvard professor Amy Cuddy's revolutionary book reveals, we don't need to embark on a grand spiritual quest or complete an inner transformation to harness the power of presence. Instead, we need to nudge ourselves, moment by moment, by tweaking our body language, behavior, and mind-set in our day-to-day lives. Amy Cuddy has galvanized tens of millions of viewers around the world with her TED talk about "power poses." Now she presents the enthralling science underlying these and many other fascinating body-mind effects, and teaches us how to use simple techniques to liberate ourselves from fear in high-pressure moments, perform at our best, and connect with and empower others to do the same. Brilliantly researched, impassioned, and accessible, Presence is filled with stories of individuals who learned how to flourish during the stressful moments that once terrified them. Every reader will learn how to approach their biggest challenges with confidence instead of dread, and to leave them with satisfaction instead of regret. "Presence feels at once concrete and inspiring, simple but ambitious — above all, truly powerful." —New York Times Book Review

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MORE THAN HALF A MILLION COPIES SOLD: Learn the simple techniques you'll need to approach your biggest challenges with confidence.   Have you ever left a nerve-racking challenge and immediately wished for a do over? Maybe after a job interview, a performance, or a difficult conversation? The very moments that require us to be genuine and commanding can instead cause us to feel phony and powerless. Too often we approach our lives' biggest hurdles with dread, execute them with anxiety, and leave them with regret. By accessing our personal power, we can achieve "presence," the state in which we stop worrying about the impression we're making on others and instead adjust the impression we've been making on ourselves. As Harvard professor Amy Cuddy's revolutionary book reveals, we don't need to embark on a grand spiritual quest or complete an inner transformation to harness the power of presence. Instead, we need to nudge ourselves, moment by moment, by tweaking our body language, behavior, and mind-set in our day-to-day lives. Amy Cuddy has galvanized tens of millions of viewers around the world with her TED talk about "power poses." Now she presents the enthralling science underlying these and many other fascinating body-mind effects, and teaches us how to use simple techniques to liberate ourselves from fear in high-pressure moments, perform at our best, and connect with and empower others to do the same. Brilliantly researched, impassioned, and accessible, Presence is filled with stories of individuals who learned how to flourish during the stressful moments that once terrified them. Every reader will learn how to approach their biggest challenges with confidence instead of dread, and to leave them with satisfaction instead of regret. "Presence feels at once concrete and inspiring, simple but ambitious — above all, truly powerful." —New York Times Book Review

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Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges

Perfect storytelling through childhood stories helps us get what we want. Humans love to listen to stories because they entertain and captivate us as well as trigger essential hormones. Oxycontin causes us to build trust, generosity, and a personal connection. Endorphins can make someone laugh or help them deal with fear, pain, or uncertainty. Dopamine leads to a desire to know what happens the next time you tell a story with peaks and cliffhangers.These hormones are helpful for product managers as they can allow them to use stories to plan and solve problems

Why Stories Are Important

A story can be used to unite people as it allows one person to get others excited. Companies with iconic brands are good at telling stories, yet most organizations are unaware that good storytelling can help solve problems.<a href="https://www.mindtheproduct.com/why-every-product-and-ux-leader-needs-to-be-a-storyteller/">Stories are a perfect design tool</a> since everyone can create one, they’re easy to iterate on, and they help you gain more clarity. Storytelling might be the missing piece when a product isn’t going to plan, not another addition to the roadmap.

What Stories Do

A good story paints a picture of a desirable future. It makes it clear why someone should become part of this future and suggests a common goal with just enough information to make the next steps clear for listeners. For product managers, this means getting others to buy into a strategy and make trade-off decisions during the product creation process. It also helps users and customers understand the value of the product and how it could upgrade their lives.

Creating and Telling a Good Story

Product Leadership Coach Petra Wille provides tips and frameworks for product managers to improve their storytelling capabilities. 

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