I get it. It's okay to not be okay. People need time to heal themselves. They can't always look perfect and dashing because they are humans. They have feelings and they make mistakes.&nbsp;What's not okay is using innocent people as rehabilitation centers for your mental issues. It's not okay if you had broken so many people just to fix yourself.&nbsp;If you are going to heal yourself, heal silently. Don't use your mental issues as an excuse to hurt other people.

Mental Health

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Jeanne Marie Quinanola on Oct 13

Having an adequate amount of sleep each night is an important part of the process for fighting burnout. There will be numerous of successful people that will tell you that they run on 5 hours of sleep, sometimes even less. However, being able to run on five hours of sleep does not work for everyone. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine suggests that everyone from the age of 18-60 needs to have 7 hours of sleep.

Get Sufficient Rest

It's okay to be hungry for knowledge and growth, however consistently having an immediate gratification mindset can lead to unnecessary stress.  Your career is a marathon, not a sprint. Learn to enjoy the process and the day-to dat skills you obtain every day. Small skills gained daily add up and are a vital part of your career growth.

Focus on your long-term career goals

Many of us find it hard to take time away from the office due to the overflowing demands of our jobs but a change of scenery is good every now and then. It's beneficial to separate yourself from the 'rat race' and vacations help us reset. Putting your self first is important and it can also help us into thinking of fresh ideas that can make us successful in the long run.

Take your vacations

The tasks in your list are not equal and often we have long-running to-do lists then feel overloaded every day. We should always be mindful to ourselves, burnout and exhaustion aren't things that happen overnight but rather slowly occur over time.  Instead of a to-do list, make a success list. This list helps hone in on the tasks that will deliver the most significant results.

The success list over the to-do list

While stress may be prevalent in our lives, extreme pressure and insufficient rest can lead to the debilitating state of burnout.

The Fight Against Burnout And What You Can Do About It

Obviously, a healthy body boosts your energy to do work. How you treat your body decides how you’re willing to put effort into your personal development. If you treat your body poorly, you’ll always feel low and underconfident. Gabriela said that how we feel physically matters the most. Give your body proper nourishment and be physically fit.

1.Physical Area 

The spiritual area is not something about doing hours of meditations and being stress-less all the time but spiritual means willingness to believe about being special. To enhance our soul we need to learn something. Constant learning opens the pathway of your mind. Practice that learning, share your knowledge.

2.Spiritual Area 

What you feed your mind (the bread for the mind as she quoted) will decide your thoughts. The food for your thoughts, The quality of food will bring the good in you. You have to carefully select what you watch, what you read, what is truth, and what is false.As you start developing these areas you’ll get the results of your warm-up and then you can concentrate on your personal development.

3.Mental Area: 

I recently watched Gabriela Blandy's YouTube video where she talked about personal development areas we should never ignore. When we hear the word personal development; we always think about confidence, self-esteem, strong willingness etcetera, etcetera. She pointed out before working on these things we first need to prepare our mind, body, and spirit for it.

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Areas We Should Never Ignore (Personal Development)

1. Check out a mental health podcast. Mental health podcasts can provide self-care in multiple ways: You might learn something new about how to deal, feel less alone. 2. Take on a small, doable, uplifting home project. Giving your space a little upgrade can create a nice, comforting sense of control—especially helpful when you’re feeling anxious or uncertain. 3. Or...color! Art can be healing in many ways. You can use your creations to zone out from the world. Basically, coloring is always a good idea. Download coloring book apps on your phone <a href="https://www.self.com/story/coloring-book-apps">here </a>, adult coloring books we recommend <a href="https://www.self.com/gallery/adult-coloring-books">here</a>.

Activities to Try When You Feel Down

4. Jump around! Move in a way that makes you feel happy, even if it’s just for a few minutes. 5. Take a bath. It might actually help...a little. It’s common relaxation advice—and it won’t fix every problem, but it can actually help a bit.6. Turn off your social media notifications. This can help you interact with your apps more mindfully—checking them when you feel like it, and not because you’re hungry for judgment from others.7. Change your sheets. Why? It will help you feel productive, it’s good for your hygiene, and it will make getting into bed that much more pleasant.

Here are 50 of SELF magazine's all-time best mental health tips to help you feel a little bit better. Pick a tip, any tip!

50 of Our All-Time Best Mental Health Tips to Help You Feel a Little Bit Better

There are two main mindsets we can navigate life with: growth and fixed. A. The Fixed MindsetOur view of ourselves can determine everything. If we believe that our qualities are unchangeable — the fixed mindset — we will want to prove ourselves correct over and over rather than learning from our mistakes.

1.1 The Two Mindsets

B. The Growth MindsetThe passion for stretching ourselves and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives. In short, having a growth mindset is essential for success. The growth mindset creates a powerful passion for learning.

1.2 The Two Mindsets

Intelligence is static. Leads to a desire, to look smart and therefore a tendency to... <ul><li>Challenges: avoid challenges</li><li>Obstacles: give up easily</li><li>Effort: see effort as fruitless or worse</li><li>Criticism: ignore useful negative feedback</li><li>Success of Others: feel threatened by the success of others</li></ul>As a result, they may plateau early and achieve less than their full potential. All this confirms as deterministic view of the world.

Fixed Mindset In Detail

Intelligence can be developed. Leads to a desire to learn and therefore a tendency to... <ul><li>Challenges: embrace challenges</li><li>Obstacles: persist in the face of setbacks</li><li>Effort: see effort as the path to mastery</li><li>Criticism: learn from criticism</li><li>Success of Others: find lessons and inspiration in the success of others</li></ul>As a result, they reach ever-higher levels of achievement. All this gives them a greater sense of will.

Growth Mindset In Detail

<ol><li>Be curious. </li><li>Be optimistic.</li><li>Listen to your inner voice: believe in yourself. </li><li>Make a conscious choice.</li><li>Replace the negative with the positive. </li><li>Use the power of “yet”.</li><li>Take Action! </li></ol>

7 Steps To Developing A Growth Mindset. 

Reveals how established attitudes affect all aspects of one's life, explains the differences between fixed and growth mindsets, and stresses the need to be open to change in order to achieve fulfillment and success.

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Understand yourself and those around you.

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From the renowned psychologist who introduced the world to “growth mindset” comes this updated edition of the million-copy bestseller—featuring transformative insights into redefining success, building lifelong resilience, and supercharging self-improvement. “Through clever research studies and engaging writing, Dweck illuminates how our beliefs about our capabilities exert tremendous influence on how we learn and which paths we take in life.”—Bill Gates, GatesNotes “It’s not always the people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.” After decades of research, world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., discovered a simple but groundbreaking idea: the power of mindset. In this brilliant book, she shows how success in school, work, sports, the arts, and almost every area of human endeavor can be dramatically influenced by how we think about our talents and abilities. People with a fixed mindset—those who believe that abilities are fixed—are less likely to flourish than those with a growth mindset—those who believe that abilities can be developed. Mindset reveals how great parents, teachers, managers, and athletes can put this idea to use to foster outstanding accomplishment. In this edition, Dweck offers new insights into her now famous and broadly embraced concept. She introduces a phenomenon she calls false growth mindset and guides people toward adopting a deeper, truer growth mindset. She also expands the mindset concept beyond the individual, applying it to the cultures of groups and organizations. With the right mindset, you can motivate those you lead, teach, and love—to transform their lives and your own.

Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading researchers in the field of motivation and is the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University. Her research has focused on why people succeed and how to foster success. She has held professorships at Columbia and Harvard Universities, has lectured all over the world, and has been elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences. Her scholarly book Self-Theories: Their Role in Motivation, Personality, and Development was named Book of the Year by the World Education Federation. Her work has been featured in such publications as The New Yorker, Time, The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Boston Globe, and she has appeared on Today and 20/20.

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Mindset

The decision making process that Dalio, Buffett and Munger use is:<ol><li> Make the most rational decisions you can;</li><li> Look for psychological bias that may have interfered with making a rational decision; and</li><li>Expose your hypothesis to very smart people who have a thoughtful contrary view and deeply understand their position.</li></ol>

Decision Making Process

“To better avoid errors, you should talk to people who disagree with you and you should talk to people who are not in the same emotional situation you are.”

What is most interesting to me about Ray Dalio is his decision-making process. This blog post is limited to a discussion of that process and not Bridgewater’s philosophy generally. If you are interested in understanding Bridgewater and Dalio more broadly, Dalio has a book coming out this fall which expands on his widely circulated "Principles"…

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Leadership & Management

How to Make Decisions like Ray Dalio

There’s the cultural messaging we’ve received our whole lives that putting in more hours and more effort ensures our success, even though discerning what to put your effort into is far more important than blanketing your life in hard work. The stats on overwork also show a huge risk to health. Study shows us that we don’t change our minds even when given new, factual information that proves our previous beliefs wrong. Dialing it back is smart for both our productivity and our health, we have trouble giving ourselves permission to do it.

More Work Hours is Less Effective 🕤

We have a choice to continue our old behavior of blowing past our boundaries to parts of our life outside of work.In those moments Ask yourself "what if I don't do this today?" You’ll probably be behind tomorrow, ask yourself again: Then what? Keep digging until you get to the core story. It will often be like, “I’ll lose my job and then lose everything.” And Then Ask yourself: Is it true? In most situations, probably not. Taking a few minutes to interrupt your automatic thoughts, feelings, and behavior makes it more likely that you can make a change.

Then What?

S<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2019-45131-001">haring your goal with someone</a> you perceive as having higher status or you respect, holds you accountable for doing it because you care about their opinion of you. The person you share your goal with doesn’t have to be within your company. It could be a mentor, friend, or family member who you admire for their ability to do great work while also giving themselves permission to live their life to the fullest. They might also offer helpful guidance to you about how they gave themselves permission to dial it back that you can then follow.

Share with someone you respect 

D<a href="https://hbr.org/2020/05/want-to-be-more-productive-try-doing-less">o a 80/20 analysis</a> and determine what 20% of tasks or projects give you 80% of the results at work.  <ul><li>List your biggest wins at work (the results you’re after, or your top goals) on one side of a piece of paper and the tasks you do on a daily basis on the left. </li><li>Draw a line from each of the big wins to the tasks that were most directly responsible for that outcome. Circle the tasks that have lines drawn from them. That’s your 20%.</li></ul>You can now give time and energy to the things that matter, and you can see the other areas where you can dial it back, delegate, or eliminate things altogether.

Go all-in on what matters

It's common for people to wish they hadn’t worked so much when they’re on their deathbed. When you feel stuck in an old pattern and have difficulty changing your behavior, fast-forward and ask your 85-year-old self what they would wish they would have done at the current stage of your life. Doing so allows you to see the bigger picture, rather than the deadlines or stressors that are your immediate focus at that time. Giving yourself permission to dial it back (even a little) has the potential to drastically improve your results and protect your health. Work Hard and do work that matters

Fast forward ⏩

Four strategies to help you convince yourself.

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Burning Out? Give Yourself Permission to Dial It Back.

The biggest lie that we are told "Is to find someone who makes you happy" FUCK THAT SHIT!!!!Make your self happy and then find someone who adds to it

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Food

Shadow on Oct 08

It was the summer of 2020 and I was enjoying my holidays with my family. This was when covid cases in India started spiking and the lockdown was implemented for the first time. I took no notice of it and the lockdown felt nothing more than an extended summer vacation. Only after six months, I realized the changes taking place in my everyday life.

In The Summer Of 2020....

It was a whole new scenario, a situation I had never imagined. From my classes to exams, it was all done online. It forced me to use those digital gadgets that I wasn’t used to. I started using social media every day, texting my friends, gazing videos, and so on. That’s when I started to worry about a lot of stuff.

Life In Pandemic

The isolation brought on by lockdown and strict social distancing made me feel lonely. It was a strange feeling because, although I appreciated spending time with my parents and siblings, I missed my friends and school much. I found a lot of trouble learning online and I was a bit helpless with my studies.

Covid Fears

On top of that, the uncertainty prevailing on my examinations made conditions further worse. On the other hand, the number of covid related deaths was alarmingly increasing, which made me anxious to the core. Though I had a lot of leisure time, I felt tired and troubled. My daily schedule was also not as systematic as it used to be before the lockdown.

Increasing Anxiety

I know, I was struggling. But I didn’t give into it. My parents were extremely supportive during these difficult times. They made me follow a consistent routine, balancing my studies and other activities. I started taking responsibilities at home, trying new skills and hobbies like baking, organizing my room, gardening, etc.

Being Resilient

Also, daily exercises helped me a lot. Even our school encouraged us positively to take part in these activities on the occasion of International Yoga Day, National Sports Day, etc. by arranging some helpful Webinars. I began practicing yoga and meditations and some home exercises. It gave me the peace of mind I wanted.

Exercise And Motivation

It’s more than a year now and a lot has changed. Everything seems to turn normal. Our schools are reopened and I am glad to see my friends after such a long time. And of course, this covid period is going to be a lifetime memory.

A Lot Has Changed

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Mindfulness

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Motivation & Inspiration

Mental Health In Pandemic : A Story Of A Teenager

Is the mixed desires & fears of being watched by unknown others defines virtual society, gives rise to anxieties such as the sense of exposed insignificance & the fear of missing out:<ul><li>You despise yourself for your public failures: Oh, why did I post such an embarrassing, personal status?</li><li>You despise your lack of compensating public success: Oh, why did no one like that embarrassing post?</li></ul>You wish to erase your tracks, but feel strangely nonexistent when undocumented; your mistakes remain glaringly public, but your good qualities refuse to go viral.

Paranoid Narcissism 

The book aptly explains the experiential anxieties of modern social media. Dostoevsky, writing in 1846, was dealing with a more urbanized society, which increased the numbers of social encounters, just like the Internet today. Yet he saw people lonely, paranoid & vain, isolated by their imaginary selves.The main character, Golyadkin, meets his double, who looks like him but is better than him in all social interactions. What starts with a form of cheating, turns into paranoia as the double makes Golyadkin feel both as an impostor while also making him left out. Impostor syndrome&FOMO.

Dostoevsky's "The Double" on narcisism

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Paranoid Narcissism: What Dostoevsky Knew About the Internet

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