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How To Overcome Anxiety Before It Happens


Stop worrying, getting anxiety is not the end. 

how to Overcome Anxiety Before It Happens Many people with anxiety tend to put off important tasks. Some may not even know they are doing it.

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Stress is <a href="https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/stress">defined</a> as “mental or emotional strain resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances.” We’ve all felt it, but where does stress come from?Humans are unique in our capacity to predict what might happen next. We rely on our amazing ability to anticipate the future better than any other animal, and this ability is a feature of our unusual intelligence.Unlike other animals, which (as far as we know) react solely to what’s going on in their environment, humans can imagine entire realities in our heads. These alternate realities make us act in all sorts of strange ways.

The Origin Of Stress

While imagining the future motivates us to pursue what we want, it also comes with a cost. All that thinking about what might happen next is stressful.What if I told you that same powerful difference in focus and mindset is impacting you right now?You’re about to learn how to create a real-life forcefield against the stress you face every day.

Just Our Imagination

The stress we experience is based on our perception of what’s going to happen next. If we anticipate a threatening situation, our body releases stress hormones to prepare us to face the threat.But if we believe we have control over a threatening stimulus, then we don’t need to prepare for that threat in the same way. We don’t need to be on full alert with the fight-or-flight response gearing us up for survival.

The Power Of Control: What Will Happen Next

This change in focus—from the many uncontrollable aspects of life to the few controllable ones—can have a profound effect. That’s because our perception of reality is, to a large extent, created by the focus of our attention.

The Change In Focus

Our human tendency is to focus on threats and problems. For the sake of our emotional wellness, it makes sense to modify that automatic tendency. You can’t control the stressors that come your way, but you can influence the focus of your own attention. That’s why we recommend you focus on the things that give you back a feeling of control.Want another tool to combat stress? Counterintuitively, one of the best things we can add to your toolbelt is an entirely different belief about stress—one befriending it instead of battling against it.

What You Can Control

When people believed stress was something bad that must be avoided, it had a far worse impact on their health. In contrast, among those who perceive stress as a normal part of pursuing goals, there was no correlation between higher stress and poor health outcomes.

What You Believe

Feeling out of control makes us feel even more stress, perpetuating the harmful cycle. Perhaps it’s time to consider an alternative view of stress. What if we stopped seeing stress as something abnormal or threatening to your future health and instead thought of it as something that empowers us to be our best?

The Alternate View

An athlete who knows there’s a short break around the corner is capable of pushing harder during periods of extreme exertion. And if you think about this in the context of your own life, it probably makes sense. It’s easy to push hard for the last two days of work before a vacation, or even the last hour of a typical workday. That’s because you know you’re about to get a break.When you intentionally push yourself outside of your comfort zone and schedule periods of rest and recuperation, something interesting happens—your capacity to endure stress increases.

Knowing The Future

An entrepreneur who feels constantly pressed for time during her nine-hour workday might experiment with doing a 14-hour workday once per week for three weeks. Each of these long workdays is followed by a shortened workday of only six hours. In this case, she is stretching her sense of what’s possible by working longer than what feels comfortable. Then she recovers, taking it easy the next day.The effect is less stress.

Being In Control 

You don’t have to choose between a healthy life and a life of full engagement with high, hard goals. You can have both.The way to have both is to take control of the stress you put on yourself. By proactively seeking stress in forms that further your goals, you can change your set point for what feels overwhelming. Doing so will eliminate the feeling that stress is happening to you. It’s instead something chosen by you. You’re taking control of stress before it takes control of you.

Less Stress, More Achievement

Stress isn’t your enemy. It’s not even a bad thing. Stress is, in a very real way, what you make of it. You can take control of it, or you can let it control you. The choice is yours.

Stress: The Final Word

Stress comes from anxiety about future problems and the lack of control over them. This article introduces a few surprising techniques to handle stress.

How to Turn Off Harmful Stress Like a Switch

In order to face the rapidly changing world of work, experts say the most important solution to the mental health crisis, The Great Resignation and hiring crisis is a strategic investment in human capital.
According to International Monetary Fund managing director <a href="https://www.imf.org/en/News/Articles/2021/04/07/tr040721-transcript-of-imf-md-kristalina-georgievas-opening-press-conference-2021-spring-meetings">Kristalina Georgieva, PhD</a>, the time is now to invest in human capital. And based on all of the neuroscience, the best capital is building a better and healthy work brain.

A Healthy Work Brain

Your brain works 24/7. Even when you’re asleep, it never is. It’s listening, sensing and dealing with stressors to keep you safe and sound. It’s resolving solutions, making job decisions and thinking about career possibilities even when you’re not aware of it. 
This “always on” organ is so devoted, it never takes a break or a vacation. But neuroscientists also say it has its limits. There are steps you can take to optimize your brain’s potential as well as coworkers you supervise or work with.

The Human Brain

Companies that pigeonhole workers into narrow, tight roles force them to draw on their weaknesses and spend energy staying within strict confines that limit their brain capital and company growth. 
Employees are demanding more from their employers. Research shows that when organizations invest in a strategy to build employee brain capital, they enhance worker engagement, productivity and their own bottom line.

Work Has Changed Over The Years

<a href="https://content.iospress.com/articles/journal-of-alzheimers-disease/jad210610">A study at the University of Toronto </a>revealed that repeated listening to personally meaningful music cultivates beneficial brain plasticity improving memory and performance. 
This research suggests that allowing employees to wear ear pods and listen to their favorite music while working can enhance brain capital.

Enhancing Brain Capital: Music

Your brain needs rest just like your body does. Scientists have discovered that taking short breaks helps your brain learn new skills.
Microbreaks of five or 10 minutes give the brain a much-needed rest during work hours and helps you recharge and reset. It’s important that workers are allowed to take time to stretch, eat a snack or simply walk around the office to amp up engagement and productivity.

Enhancing Brain Capital: Short Breaks

Science backed studies show that when you spend time in nature it’s good for your brain and well-being. Brain scans of people who spent time outdoors showed they had more gray matter in their prefrontal cortex with positive effects on their ability to think clearly and self-regulate. 
This research underscores the importance of employees taking frequent nature breaks whether sitting outdoors or taking brief walks during the workday to give their brains a chance to recharge and reset.

Enhancing Brain Capital: Being In Nature

The platform of a 21st century thriving company is one that encourages thinking outside the box, innovative ideas and employee individualism. 
Studies suggest organizations that foster diversity, nonconformity and inventive ideas generate employee engagement and draw on employee strengths, adding to the prosperity of their businesses.

Enhancing Brain Capital: Creativity

Fear and uncertainty have been undermining performance and well-being in the workplace for as long as we have had workplaces. Under fear, the human brain focuses on how to avoid the threat instead of engaging with and producing work tasks—blocking success outcomes. 
Fear-based leadership is responsible for almost all of the dysfunction that most organizations experience. While fear can drive short-term results, it does so at the cost of high employee burnout and turnover.

Enhancing Brain Capital: Not Being Fear-Managed

A body of research has shown that various forms of meditation reduce stress. Mindfulness, in particular, keeps your mind from wandering and keeps your focus on work tasks. 
Plus, if you meditate, even just for 20 minutes, it alters brain activity so you’re less error prone and make fewer mistakes.

Enhancing Brain Capital: Meditation

<a href="https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2783042">Researchers</a> found that having someone around whom you know you can talk to and will listen is tied to brain health and cognitive resilience. 
Social support in the workplace is critical to build brain resilience. Whether its an empathetic manager, supportive coworker or someone in HR. A caring, empathetic workplace is a must to optimize brain capital.

Enhancing Brain Capital: Social Support

Taken together these science-backed findings indicate that companies can reduce work stress and optimize employee brain capital by offering on-site meditation classes or providing quiet spaces for employees to meditate throughout the day. Creating a psychologically safe and compassionate work environment where fear is absent and employees have someone to talk to who will listen, where employees have the freedom to take breaks when they need to, think outside the box, take nature walks and listen to music while they work—all add to a jump in productivity and the company’s bottom line.

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5 Signs You're Emotionally Stressed Out

Have you been feeling a bit unlike yourself? Has it been harder to keep healthy habits and to connect with your loved ones the way you’d hope? If so, there’s a chance you’re coping with some emotional distress that you’re suppressing or might not even be aware of. But having self-awareness can help start the coping process, so we made this video just for you! Are you emotionally distressed? This video might help you identify if that's the case: https://youtu.be/1DayJzl1fkI Writer: Cindy Nguyen Script Editor: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Animator: Zuzia IG @zuzia.png YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References Brewer, Jud. “Are You Stuck in the Anxiety-Distraction Feedback Loop?” Harvard Business Review, 1 Feb. 2021, hbr.org/2020/05/are-you-stuck-in-the-anxiety-distraction-feedback-loop. “Emotional Eating up during Pandemic.” MIBluesPerspectives, 17 Mar. 2021, www.mibluesperspectives.com/2020/11/02/emotional-eating-on-the-rise-during-the-pandemic/. “Emotional Stress: Warning Signs, Management, When to Get Help.” Cleveland Clinic, my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/6406-emotional-stress-warning-signs-management-when-to-get-help. Fraga, Juli, et al. “COVID-19 Stress Is Making America Increasingly Irritable. but What Is All This Rage Hiding?” NBCNews.com, NBCUniversal News Group, 9 Sept. 2020, www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/covid-19-stress-making-america-increasingly-irritable-what-all-rage-ncna1239585. “How Stress Connects to Productivity.” Business.com, www.business.com/articles/stress-and-productivity-what-the-numbers-say/. Schlarb, Angelika A., et al. “Sleep Disturbances and Mental Strain in UNIVERSITY Students: Results from an Online Survey in Luxembourg and Germany.” International Journal of Mental Health Systems, BioMed Central, 29 Mar. 2017, ijmhs.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13033-017-0131-9. “Struggling with Emotional Eating?” Harvard Health, 15 Aug. 2017, www.health.harvard.edu/diet-and-weight-loss/struggling-with-emotional-eating. “Why Anxiety Causes Detachment.” Calm Clinic – Information about Anxiety, Stress and Panic, 1 Mar. 2021, www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/detachment.

Have you been feeling a bit unlike yourself? Has it been harder to keep healthy habits and to connect with your loved ones the way you’d hope? If so, there’s a chance you’re coping with some emotional distress that you’re suppressing or might not even be aware of. But having self-awareness can help start the coping process, so we made this video just for you!

Are you emotionally distressed? This video might help you identify if that's the case: https://youtu.be/1DayJzl1fkI 

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References
Brewer, Jud. “Are You Stuck in the Anxiety-Distraction Feedback Loop?” Harvard Business Review, 1 Feb. 2021, hbr.org/2020/05/are-you-stuck-in-the-anxiety-distraction-feedback-loop.
“Emotional Eating up during Pandemic.” MIBluesPerspectives, 17 Mar. 2021, www.mibluesperspectives.com/2020/11/02/emotional-eating-on-the-rise-during-the-pandemic/.
“Emotional Stress: Warning Signs, Management, When to Get Help.” Cleveland Clinic, my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/6406-emotional-stress-warning-signs-management-when-to-get-help.
Fraga, Juli, et al. “COVID-19 Stress Is Making America Increasingly Irritable. but What Is All This Rage Hiding?” NBCNews.com, NBCUniversal News Group, 9 Sept. 2020, www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/covid-19-stress-making-america-increasingly-irritable-what-all-rage-ncna1239585.
“How Stress Connects to Productivity.” Business.com, www.business.com/articles/stress-and-productivity-what-the-numbers-say/.
Schlarb, Angelika A., et al. “Sleep Disturbances and Mental Strain in UNIVERSITY Students: Results from an Online Survey in Luxembourg and Germany.” International Journal of Mental Health Systems, BioMed Central, 29 Mar. 2017, ijmhs.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13033-017-0131-9.
“Struggling with Emotional Eating?” Harvard Health, 15 Aug. 2017, www.health.harvard.edu/diet-and-weight-loss/struggling-with-emotional-eating.
“Why Anxiety Causes Detachment.” Calm Clinic – Information about Anxiety, Stress and Panic, 1 Mar. 2021, www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/detachment.

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5 Signs You're Emotionally Burnt Out (And Don't Even Realize It)

have you ever felt detached from the world or felt like you don't belong in your own body when you look down at your hands?Depersonalization and Derealization are psychological disorders in which this experience is intense and prolonged. About 50% of the population have come across at least one of these experiences in their lifetime but only roughly two percent are actually diagnosed with the disorder. It occurs equally in both men and women and can start early in one's early or middle years.But the two terms Depersonalization and Derealization are often mixed up and misunderstood.

Depersonalization vs Derealization

Depersonalization is when you feel cut off from yourself. When you feel like a robot or like you're not in control of your own movements, you're experiencing depersonalization. People with depersonalization disorder don't feel like themselves and struggle with feeling in tune with their emotions. These patients may feel like they're outside observers of their own lives. They feel disconnected from their memories and may not remember them clearly. Most of the time they have out-of-body experiences because they don't feel grounded in their own bodies.

So what's the difference?

The symptoms could be hearing undefined sounds such as a train going by or soft murmurs and feeling like you're synching into a bed while your body feels numb and out of control.

Symptoms of out-of-body experiences 

derealization is when you feel cut off from the world. Patients who experience the symptoms of derealization feel as if they're in a dream or as if there is a glass wall or veil that's separating them from their surroundings. The world feels funny and distorted objects around them can feel and appear smaller or larger than they actually are. Surroundings may also be blurry or unusually clear. Sounds can seem louder and more overwhelming and time can feel like it's slowing down or going too fast.

Derealization

The causes and treatment methods for both depersonalization and derealization are similar. Anxiety and depression are common in patients with these two disorders. They're often developed in people who experience severe stress in their lifetime which includes but is not limited to being emotionally abused or neglected during childhood, physical abuse, witnessing domestic violence, having a severely impaired or mentally ill parent, and having a loved one die unexpectedly. symptoms of this disorder can also be triggered by severe stress from toxic relationships, financial concerns etcetera

Causes and Treatment 

To get diagnosed with this disorder, one may get a doctor's evaluation, take questionnaires or tests and undergo specifically structured interviews. Physical examination and urine tests are also done to make sure other mental health disorders such as seizure disorder and substance abuse are ruled out. This disorder is diagnosed when symptoms last for a long time or recur over time. It's important to know that getting brief and temporary episodes of these symptoms doesn't necessarily mean you have these disorders instead you may just be going through a highly stressful situation.

Diagnosis

For treatment for depersonalization or derealization, many patients undergo psychotherapy treatment of this disorder must address all stresses associated with an individual's triggers as this may help the patient become self-aware and give them the ability to take careful measures to prevent the next stressful episode in their lives. Cognitive techniques can also be used to help lock obsessive thinking about the unreal state of being and grounding techniques can encourage the individual to use their five senses to feel more connected with themselves in the real world.

Treatment

Have you ever felt detached from the world, or felt like you don't belong in your own body when you look down at your hands? The psychological disorder depersonalization and derealization is this phenomenon more intense and prolonged. Depersonalization is when you feel cut off from yourself, and derealization is when you feel cut off from the world. Both the causes and treatment methods for both depersonalization and derealization are similar. To get diagnosed for this disorder, common processes undertaken include getting a doctor's evaluation, questionnaire tests, and structured interviews. Many patients often undergo psychotherapy to get treated for depersonalization and derealization. Script: Catherine Huang Voice Over: Connie Pickett Animator: Chloe YouTube Manager: Wendy Hu References: Spiegel, D., Wilson, S., Wilson, J., & Wilson, L. (2018). Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder. Merck Manual. Retrieved July 10, 2018. Ways To Support Us: https://www.patreon.com/Psych2GoNow Buy from our shop here: https://www.introvertpalace.com/ Use the discount code: psych2go to get 10% off anything in the shop. Sign up with our sponsored link for affordable online counselling: http://betterhelp.com/Psych2Go http://betterhelp.com/Psych2Go Intro: Surey Camacho Project Manager: Wendy Hu Community Manager: Priscilla Cha, Nicole Pridemore Producer: Psych2Go Website: http://psych2go.net Twitter: http://twitter.com/psych2go Facebook: http://facebook.com/psych2go Tumblr: http://psych2go.me Patreon: http://patreon.com/psych2gonow Contact + editorial@psych2go.net

Have you ever felt detached from the world, or felt like you don't belong in your own body when you look down at your hands? The psychological disorder depersonalization and derealization is this phenomenon more intense and prolonged. Depersonalization is when you feel cut off from yourself, and derealization is when you feel cut off from the world. Both the causes and treatment methods for both depersonalization and derealization are similar. To get diagnosed for this disorder, common processes undertaken include getting a doctor's evaluation, questionnaire tests, and structured interviews. Many patients often undergo psychotherapy to get treated for depersonalization and derealization.

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Spiegel, D., Wilson, S., Wilson, J., & Wilson, L. (2018). Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder. Merck Manual. Retrieved July 10, 2018.

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Regret is a very real reaction to a disappointing event in your life, a choice you made that can’t be changed, something you said that you can’t take back. It’s one of those feelings you can’t seem to shake, a heavy and intrusive negative emotion that can last for minutes, days, years <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201205/the-psychology-regret">or even a lifetime</a>. Imaging studies reveal that feelings of regret show <a href="https://doi.org/10.1038/nn1514">increased activity </a>in an area of the brain called the medial orbitofrontal cortex.

Regret Shows In The Brain

Dealing with regret is even more difficult because of the other negative emotions connected to it: remorse, sorrow and helplessness. Regret can increase our stress, <a href="https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/03/110301111503.htm">negatively affect physical health </a>and throw off the balance of hormone and immune systems. Regret is not only unpleasant. It is unhealthy.But there is good news: regret can be overcome through interventions like therapy and <a href="https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/how-handle-regret">evidence-based strategies</a>.

Regret Is, Literally, Unhealthy

There are basically two ways to experience regret: one is what researchers refer to as the action path and the other is the inaction path. That is, we regret the things we did – or we regret <a href="https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.82.3.314">the things we did not do</a>.<a href="https://doi.org/10.1037/emo0000326">Researc</a>h suggests that action-related regrets, although painful, spur people to learn from their mistakes and move on. But regret related to the inaction path – the things undone, the opportunities lost – is harder to fix. This kind of regret is more likely to lead to depression, anxiety, a sense of “stuckness”and a feeling of longing over not knowing “what could have been”.

Action-related Regret And Inaction-related Regret: One Is Worse

As with other negative emotions, it doesn’t work to avoid, deny or try to squash regret. In the long run, these tactics only increase negative feelings and prolong the time you suffer with them. Rather than stay stuck, you can manage these emotions in four steps:<ol><li>accept the fact that you are feeling them</li><li>determine why you are feeling them</li><li>allow yourself to learn from them</li><li>and finally, <a href="https://doi.org/10.1080/02699931.2015.1078292">release them and move forward</a></li></ol>

How To Manage Regret And The Negative Emotions Connected To It

Accepting that you have feelings of regret does not mean that you like these feelings. It just means you know they are there. It also helps to identify the specific emotion you’re feeling. Instead of telling yourself, “I feel bad,” say “This is me, feeling regret.” Simple as it sounds, the semantic difference has a big emotional impact.

To Overcome Regret: Accept

Acknowledging your thoughts and feelings can bring <a href="https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brat.2018.04.002">relief from strong negative emotions</a>. When you’re regretting something, remind yourself that you had no crystal ball. Instead, you made the best decision you could, given the information you had at the time, and given the same circumstances, most of your contemporaries would have made the same decision.This method of noticing and then restructuring your thoughts is sometimes called <a href="https://www.routledge.com/Living-Mindfully-Across-the-Lifespan-An-Intergenerational-Guide/Penberthy-Penberthy/p/book/9780367370152">cognitive reappraisal</a>. Seeing the situation in a different way may help reduce regret and help you <a href="https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/how-handle-regret">make future decisions</a>.

To Overcome Regret: Acknowledge

<a href="https://doi.org/10.1080/02699931.2015.1078292">Forgiving yourself </a> for actions taken or not taken is a powerful step toward overcoming regret. This has been formalized into a commonly used cognitive psychological model called <a href="https://www.evworthington-forgiveness.com/reach-forgiveness">REACH</a>, which asks people to Recall the hurt (face it), Empathize (be kind and compassionate), Altruistically offer forgiveness (to oneself), Commit publicly (share it) and then Hold on to that forgiveness and <a href="https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.00671">stay true to the decision</a>. Research shows that six hours of work with a trained professional using this model <a href="https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.22073">can have a positive impact </a>.

To Overcome Regret: Forgive Yourself - The REACH Model

Finally, you can release these feelings of regret by practicing self-compassion. This means reminding yourself that you are human, you are doing the best you can, and you can learn from past decisions and grow. Showing this compassion to yourself can help you accept and move past the regret.

Before, During And After: Self-Compassion

Feelings of regret are linked to negative emotions such as sorrow, remorse, and helplessness. Neuroscientists explore the neurobiology of regret and provide tips to overcome feelings of regret.

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Regret Can Be All-Consuming: How We Can Overcome It

<ul><li>Being angry or <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/the-mental-health-effects-of-holding-a-grudge-5176186">holding a grudge </a>can be exhausting. Finding a way to achieve forgiveness or resolution around the situation prompting your anger can help neutralize the situation and preserve your energy.</li></ul>If you <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/conflict-resolution-skills-for-healthy-relationships-3144953">resolve your differences </a>with the person you’re arguing with, you can direct your energy toward reconciling with them instead. This can help you reconnect with them and feel close to them again.

Pros:Anger Can Be Exhausting 

<ul><li>Angry emotions tend to linger more at night than during the day, when you can be distracted and busy yourself with other tasks. Taking your anger to bed can cause you to dwell on the situation and make it into a much bigger issue, which can cause you to feel worse and drag the problem into the next day.</li></ul>This is true, they tend to catastrophize and go down a dark hole with their anger. Having hours to think about their frustration while sitting awake in bed at night can be problematic because it can cause them to pour gasoline on an already rampant fire.

Pros: Anger Can Build Overnight

<ul><li><a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-anger-5120208">Being angry </a>at night can disrupt your sleep. It can make it hard for you to fall asleep, lead to poor sleep quality, and make you more prone to nightmares.</li></ul>It’s important to remember that anger isn’t helping you or making you ‘win’ in a given situation. In the end, your anger does far more harm to you than to the other person, robbing you of your peace and sleep.

Pros: Anger Can Disrupt Your Sleep 

<ul><li>Sometimes people can be <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/impulsive-behavior-and-bpd-425483">impulsive </a>when they’re angry. This includes saying things they don’t mean and being hurtful to the other person. Taking space and committing to revisiting the situation at a later time when your anger levels have reduced can be productive in some situations.</li></ul>The intensity of your emotions may reduce with time. This can give you time to process your emotions, think about the situation more deeply, and see if your emotional reaction or position on the situation changes with time.

Cons: Anger Can Cause You To React Impula

<ul><li>It is important to note that anger can be a natural response—often a valid one—to a difficult situation. It is a valuable emotion that you must give yourself and the people around you permission to feel; it is not something to avoid.</li></ul>It is fine to feel angry and you don’t need to feel pressure to cap the length of your anger, which could only cause it to arise in other situations. Instead of focusing on your anger, it may be more helpful to focus on the <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-triggered-4175432">trigger or stimulus </a>for the emotion.

Cons: Anger Is Not Something To Avoid

According to Dr. Romanoff, the “Never go to bed angry” rule does not work in a one-size-fits all manner. Whether or not you should follow it depends on many factors, such as the cause of your anger, your temperament, and the circumstances.

Should You Follow This Rule? 

<ul><li>Communicate: The first step is to try to find a way to <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/managing-conflict-in-relationships-communication-tips-3144967">communicate with the other person </a>. If it does not seem likely that a resolution will be reached, be honest with each other and hit the pause button on the argument. </li><li>Use your anger as a guide: <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/constructive-anger-2797286">Anger can be a useful emotion </a>that can guide you to locate your boundaries, speak to your values, solve problems, and provide information about what you need from the other person</li></ul>

Tips From Dr.Romanoff

<ul><li>Commit to finding a resolution: It’s important to commit to resolving the issue instead of merely trying to avoid conflict. This means recognizing the emotions that are behind your anger in order to engage in more honest communication with the other person to move forward. </li><li>Seek support and comfort: It can be helpful to call a friend and vent about the situation, getting validation or another viewpoint of the situation through their eyes. Distract yourself by doing something comforting, such as baking your favorite dessert, watching your favorite show, or engaging in some self-care.</li></ul>

You may have heard the saying "never go to bed angry." This article explores the psychological implications of this practice and discusses whether you should follow it.

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Love & Relationships

“Never Go to Bed Angry:”The Pros and Cons of This Practice

Life is all about taking risks and overcoming fear. If you don’t take that leap today, you’ll never know what you’re capable of. If we embrace our fears and work on them, we can break the biggest ceiling – our own mind. Once we do that, everything will be limitless! When we work on the things that we fear, or even simply acknowledge it and put some thought into it – we take away its power to control us.If you don’t work on that one thing that is constantly at the back of your head, that one thing that makes you stay up at night and worries you throughout the day, it will consume your mind.

Why face our fears?

1) The first thing to do is to realise that being afraid of things is common human nature. We’re all humans and we’re all afraid of something. It’s not about not being afraid, it’s about how you handle those fears and how you grow from them. Know that fear is mostly an uneasiness our mind feels over things that we don’t know about, or we’re unsure about.

How do we face said fears and grow?

2) The second – and maybe the most important thing, is to know what you’re afraid of and to what extent. It may sound strange but many people (including myself) aren’t exactly sure of what they’re afraid of. Take some time off and sit down and think about the things that bother you/worry you. When you know exactly what to work on you can actually focus in that direction instead of feeling stuck . When you know exactly what to work on things become more manageable and less scary.

3) Try to identify exactly what triggers fear and worry into your head. Sit down with yourself and just think about those things and the emotions they bring up inside you without actually feeling those emotions or letting those emotions control your mind. It might seem difficult at first, but slowly ease yourself into the process, eventually, you’ll be able to process those thoughts and emotions without really feeling much of them.

4) Like I said before, fear is (to some extent) an uneasiness in our mind about things that we don’t know about, or things that are ‘the unknown’. So gather as much information as you can, the more you know about it, the less scary it will be, and you might even find it interesting! Also, telling someone about your fears can be a great way to elevate some of the stress and can help you think more clearly. Writing those fears down can also be a great way to acknowledge them, it will help your mind to come up with solutions much more easily.

5) Use your imagination to think of the worst case scenario that could happen if you go forward with chasing these fears – and maybe even conquering them. Then, make a plan of what you could do if such a thing was to happen. Once you acknowledge the worst case scenario and find out ways to come out of it, it becomes way more easier to deal with them. It will help you take your mind off the problem and you can actually put in your energy to working towards the goal.

When you start off, there will be times when you would feel overwhelmed, you might feel like you’re not getting anywhere and all of this is just a waste of time. At times like this, reflect back to what things were like before and how far you’ve come. Know that all the hard work and unhappiness you’re feeling now is for something far more greater. Whenever you’re feeling emotionally burnt out and frustrated, take a break, listen to soothing music and process what’s happening around you, only then will you be able to move forward.

Things To Keep In Mind

Being afraid of things is common human nature, but conquering those fears and growing through them takes superhuman strength and courage. Here are some ways to be your own superhero! 

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Problem Solving

FACING OUR FEARS

Rather than going all-in on resolutions, set snackable goals that you can feel awesome about achieving. When we set realistic goals it helps motivate us to achieve them which in turn boosts our mental health. Give yourself credit for partially meeting the goal and think about how goal setting can impact your job, relationships, and self-care this year. For example, maybe you decide you want to try <a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/organize-kitchen-sustainable-eating/">one week of sustainable cooking</a>, or three straight days of yoga. Whatever you choose, ticking off this small win will offer you a boost of happiness and satisfaction.

1. Set short-term goals for yourself

<a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/tips-for-creating-boundaries/">Setting boundaries is no cakewalk</a>. Every day, your family, colleagues, and (gestures widely) the world ask for parts of you. While you may find it fulfilling to help out here and there, setting boundaries is also key to your mental health and well-being. Here’s how to scale back: Observe where you are overextended. Is it related to difficulty saying no, <a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/how-to-say-no-to-hanging-out/">people-pleasing</a>, FOMO, avoidance of something else at home, or in your relationship? You have to protect your free time or it will inevitably get lost in the mayhem of work-life balance issues.

2. Fix broken boundaries

Surprise, surprise: Sleep has a major influence on your mood and well-being. Without adequate sleep, you will forever be stuck in the reactionary patterns that govern your unconscious habits. And one of the first things to atrophy when we are chronically sleep deprived <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7181893/">is our mood regulation</a>. To improve it, <a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/morning-routine-better-sleep/">you need to emphasize quality, quantity, and consistency</a>. All three factors matter in repairing long-held patterns of chronic sleep disruption. As if we all needed one more reason to prioritize shut-eye, consider this it.

3. Double down on sleep

Aim for 15 minutes of movement twice a day. For an added boost, do it outside to get sunlight therapy at the same time (two for the price of one). Who doesn’t love a BOGO? It doesn’t require a huge time commitment in order to get the mood boost from movement either. If you do decide to <a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/endorphins-and-exercise/">squeeze in your feel-good, endorphin-boosting exercise outside</a>, just make sure you also <a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/spf-roadblocks-australian-gold/">apply your SPF</a>.

4. Move your body (even just a little)

A mindfulness-slash-stillness practice can have <a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/quick-mindfulness-break/">revolutionary effects on your happiness levels </a>. The biggest ROI in terms of cost, time, and outcome, by far, is a stillness or meditation practice of some sort. Mindfulness is proven to <a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnins.2019.01074/full">increase mood</a>, <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4407465/">improve sleep</a>, <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2848393/">decrease anxiety</a>, and <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6088366/">create more sustainable focus and concentration</a>. If you’re struggling to <a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/three-minute-meditation/">start a meditation practice</a>, think of things you’re grateful for, then extend feelings of kindness out to others. This is sometimes called <a href="https://www.wellandgood.com/best-meditation-style-wellness-needs/">loving-kindness meditation</a>, and it can be an easy access point for people who struggle to sit still.

5. Sit still

Add a little sunshine to the first month of your year with these expert-approved, beginning of the year happiness tips.

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Habits

5 Happiness-Boosting Things To Do To Start Your Year Off Right, According to Positive Psychologists

<ol><li>Identify the reason for your guilt or regret</li><li>Accept it and move one</li><li>Stop thinking too much </li><li>Takeaway something positive from it</li><li>Turn your guilt into your strength by recognizing areas of your life which you are dissatisfied with and improving upon them</li><li>Replace negative self-talk with self-compassion</li><li>Forgive yourself</li><li>Talk to people you trust</li><li>Make a stronger plan this time to save you from feeling guilty</li><li>Realize it's okay to falter sometimes, but the most important is to learn from all your past experiences and mistakes</li></ol>

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