Modern systems of communication are an extension into the external world of man's nervous system.

Here’s 6 tips to break your phone addiction and stop wasting your life.

Phone Addiction Rescue

1. Delete the unneededGo through each app and ask yourself 2 questions:1. “Do I overuse this app?”Yes? Delete it.2. “Does this app help me and do I need it?”Yes? Keep it.But what if you want to take self-control out of the equation?

2. Download an app-blockerYou’d be surprised how many times you unconsciously check your apps.Downloading an app like Freedom can be a lifesaver.Freedom allows you to block specific websites and apps at certain times.This trick alone will save you hours of wasted time.

3. Make it difficultDisable app stores and use parental control.iOS — Go to Settings > Screen Time > Content & Privacy Restrictions again. Now, go to iTunes & App Store Purchases and disable App Store installations.This will completely hide the App Store from your phone.

4. Lock it up and throw away the keyEven if you use parental controls, you can still access the apps if you use your password.Unless…You generate a random passcode, write it down, and give it to someone.Now you can only access the apps when you absolutely have to.

5. Optimize the home screenThis is simple:- Only put the apps you need on the home screen- Choose a basic backgroundThis will keep you focused and less tempted to pick up your phone.

6. Turn off notificationsNotifications are just distractions draining your mental energy.Get rid of them.You won’t miss them and you’ll be more present with:- Your work- Your family- Your friendsTake back control of your life.

Take Back Control

How to break your phone addiction: 1. Delete the unneeded2. Download an app-blocker3. Make reinstalling difficult4. Throw away the key5. Optimize the home screen6. Turn off notifications

Conclusion

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Mental Health

To be a luddite or not? 

Exhibiting signs of anxiety may make people respond better to you.Visible signs of stress are often appealing, leaving others predisposed to like us and treat us warmly.One possibility is that these behaviors help smooth over social interactions within the group.

Feeling Stressed? There's No Need to Hide It

Producing stress behaviours may elicit a more co-operative response, which may in turn allow that individual to recover from stress much more quickly.Our mindset about stress can determine its consequences: people who see <a href="https://doi.org/10.1037/xge0000893">anxiety as energising tend to perform better in difficult tasks</a> than those who fear the feelings and assume that they are inherently debilitating. A recognition of its social value could just be one more reason to view our discomfort a little more positively.

Stress Behaviours And Perception

Feeling stressed? There’s no need to hide it. New research shows that exhibiting signs of anxiety may make people respond better to you.

Why showing stress can make people more likeable

Admitting to yourself that you are upset or in pain can make you feel exposed. You fear that acknowledging a bad feeling gives it more power. The pain might get worse. You might not be able to tolerate it.When you have negative emotions, your first response is usually to downplay them or to run away.There’s a scale that runs from one extreme, stubbornness, to the other extreme, paranoia. You don’t want to run to the doctor or stay in bed on the slightest ailment. But you also don’t want to pretend nothing is wrong when your headache lasts for years.

Pretending To Be Fine

Put it out in the open. By labelling what you’re going through, you will not only feel better about the situation, you’re more likely to find a solution. The last thing you want is to pretend you’re fine when you’re not. Some people are absolute masters in that. They convince everyone that everything is fine. But it’s not something to be proud of. It’s a dark art that can have serious negative consequences. Instead of keeping your ailments in the dark, bring them out to the light. They won’t survive for long there.

Acknowledge The Situation

<ul><li>When you are not energized, work less, or not at all.</li><li>Do great work when you feel good.</li><li>If others don't respect that, you don't want to work with them in the first place.</li><li>Don't put pressure on yourself.</li><li>Stick to your most important habits.</li><li>Humour is the best remedy for soothing emotional pain.</li><li>Ask for help when things are not okay.</li></ul>

Staying Consistent

I landed on a documentary about a guy who had a headache for years and never had a check-up. They found out later he had a brain tumor.

The Dark Art of Pretending You Are Fine - Darius Foroux

Good therapy can be an incredibly powerful and transformative experience, but it’s often not a very positive experience.Sometimes this is the therapist’s fault. Many therapists are not trained well enough or have so much of their own personal baggage or odd personality quirks that they can’t be very helpful.Sometimes this is the client’s fault. They go into therapy hoping for some kind of quick, simple solution and then quickly give up when that doesn’t happen that way.But the most common reason therapy doesn’t “work” is because there isn’t a good fit between the therapist and the client.

Finding The Right Match For Your Therapy

Don’t worry too much about whether your therapist is a psychiatrist or psychologist, has a PsyD, MSW, or PhD. It’s important that they are licensed. And that they have experience and training appropriate to your goals. Pay more attention to personal factors like personality, communication style, and how you feel when you interact with them.

Credentials Are Overrated

There’s no easy way to find a therapist who will be a good match for you. Like dating, it’s largely a numbers game. You need reps experiencing different people and styles to find what works for you. So don’t be afraid to talk with someone a handful of times and move on if it’s not a good fit. Also, if possible, try test driving multiple therapists at the same time. Eventually, you’ll probably want to settle on one. But it can be very helpful to “interview” multiple people initially.

Be Prepared to Go for Some Test Drives

There is one majore common factor seen over and over again in particularly good therapists: They’re able (and willing) to provide both comfort and challenge. When you’re with them you feel supported, understood, and genuinely cared about. And at the same time, they’re not afraid to be direct, honest, and to push you even when it’s difficult or uncomfortable. They care deeply about the relationship, but they’re willing to risk it to help you succeed.

Look for the 2Cs: Comfort and Challenge

You are responsible for doing most of the work in therapy. A great therapist helps you do the work—but they can’t do it for you. Many people make bad decisions choosing therapists because, deep down, they’re looking for a magician who will offer some secret insight or hand them a special tool that will solve their problems. This is a very dangerous mindset to get into therapy with. You’re looking for a trainer—someone who will guide and support you in doing the very hard work that only you can do.

Don’t Expect to Be Saved or Fixed

It’s common to come across therapists who describe themselves as eclectic, meaning they use a variety of tools and approaches from different schools of thought and modalities. This isn’t bad necessarily. And having a therapist who’s open-minded and not dogmatically tied to a particular theoretical position is a good thing. But “eclectic” is often code for someone who is basically throwing spaghetti against the wall to see what sticks. Not good. You want a therapist who’s flexible; but you also want someone with conviction and a point of view.

Be Careful of “eclectic” Therapists

An initial consultation is a chance for them to learn about you and your goals and make sure it’s a good fit for them. But this is also your opportunity to interview your therapist and figure out if they’re a good fit for you. So be bold and ask lots of questions: How would you describe your approach to therapy? How directive or structured are you in therapy? How frequently do you work with people like me? How long do you think therapy will last? Get insights from the answers your therapist provides and then proceed further.

Interviewing Your Therapist

Keep in mind that how they answer your interview questions is at least as important as what they say. Keep a close eye out for <a href="https://nickwignall.com/defensiveness/">defensiveness</a>… If you ask your therapist a question about themselves and they get defensive, that’s a huge red flag—and sadly, more common than you would think.

The Red Flag: Getting Defensive

Many people avoid starting therapy or test driving lots of therapists because they’re understandably hesitant to dredge up all the painful details of their past over and over again to complete strangers. But you don’t have to get into all of that right away. Some context about your background is helpful for the therapist initially. But it’s totally normal for a person’s history to unfold over weeks or even months of therapy. Therapists need to earn trust just like anyone else.

You Don’t Have to Explain Your Life Story Right Away

Like it or not, therapy is a marketplace. This means if a therapist is in demand enough to avoid all the hassles of working with insurance companies, they probably will. And while demand for a therapist isn’t a guarantee of talent or quality, it’s actually a pretty good signal. Of course, even an extremely talented therapist isn’t necessarily going to be a good fit for you. But all other things being equal, it certainly helps.

Many of The Best Therapists Don’t Take Insurance

This is especially true of the initial “pre-work” of researching, interviewing, and test-driving different therapists. Remember, there’s nothing magical about therapy. People who benefit from therapy long-term are usually the ones who are willing to stick with it. Not necessarily with one therapist for years and years, but stick with the process. If one therapist isn’t working, they’re willing to move on and try someone else. And they’re willing to be honest about their own motivations, expectations, and frustrations, and how they might be impacting their progress.

What You Sow Is What You Reap

Many people get more benefits out of a <a href="https://nickwignall.com/10-self-help-books-that-might-actually-help/">good self-help book</a> at the right time than years of psychotherapy. For some, medication seems to work more effectively than therapy. Others just need a real friend, not a therapist. Frequently, there are major environmental or structural factors in your life that therapy isn’t in a position to do much about. Therapy can even be a form of avoidance or too easily lead to codependency in certain people.

Therapy Is Not Always the Answer

Set your expectations right about improving your mental health.

It's hard to find a great therapist. In this article I give 12 tips for finding a therapist based on years working as a therapist myself.

How to Find a Great Therapist - Nick Wignall

Consider an amoeba placed under a microscope. We can adjust the focus to bring a particular plane into sharpness, and in so doing other planes become obscured. The full ‘truth’ of the specimen cannot be seen all at once, but can be approached only in the aggregate of various planes of focus. So it is for the self. To investigate the nature of the self, we might pose these three very different questions, at three particular planes of focus:<ul><li>Who are you?</li><li>Who are you, really?</li><li>Who are you, really, really?</li></ul>

The Microscope On The Amoeba

There are many successful people who fear they are missing the meal. They’ve taken their personhood to a winning place, and yet so often they feel empty, disappointed, anxious, confused, alienated. They’ve done it all right, they’ve made money and raised healthy kids and kept in decent shape all the while. And now the kids are gone and doing it for themselves, the money is great but it turns out it’s no destination, and the body is slowly dying. Is this all there is? Has something been missed this whole time? And so, again, we might ask ourselves: who are we really, really?

Missing The Main Course

This is not a religion or an organizing cosmological story, it is a spiritual enquiry.An enquiry into who or what we are most essentially, if far less obviously - outside the frame that reifies the idea of the self as an individual unit, instead recasting it as a natural manifestation of the timeless substrate from which it arises.

A Spiritual Inquiry

Psychotherapy, for all its enormous use and beauty, is not a spiritual practiceIn seeking to understand the situation in which humans so strangely find ourselves, many of us respond with an emphatic assertion of selfhood: 'Why, I am going on here!'

Psychotherapy Isn't Holistic

Psychedelics, of course, have come in vogue again, but there are a variety of practices meant to bring contact with the non-dualistic space that cannot be named – various traditions of meditation being the most well known. Each practice has its own serious-minded devotees and faddish enthusiasts: <a href="https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-breathe-your-way-to-better-health-and-transcendence">breathing</a> techniques, yoga, chanting, extreme exercise, <a href="https://aeon.co/essays/why-forests-and-rivers-are-the-most-potent-health-tonic-around">immersion</a> in the natural world, certain <a href="https://aeon.co/essays/lovemaking-for-longevity-a-recipe-from-tokyos-imperial-archives">sex</a> practices. These are all methods that might lead practitioners into undifferentiated experience, where subject and object are one.

Sex, Drugs And Mindfulness

The question that stays in the background.

Therapy is a valuable tool for self-understanding. But spiritual practices can unlock a more expansive view of the self

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The question therapy doesn’t answer: who are we really, really? | Psyche Ideas

As a child, you naturally had intense feelings, as this is how all children are wired. Exuberant one moment, intensely frustrated the next, you needed someone to teach you how to understand and manage your emotions. But what you got instead was a covert message that your emotions were excessive. What you learned was to dampen your feelings, not the skills you needed to manage them.

1. It’s not good to be too happy or too sad.

As a child, you naturally felt upset when things upset you. You naturally felt angry when you were hurt. What you needed was to have your upset feelings soothed by a loving parent so that you could learn how to soothe yourself. But what you got was a message that your feelings were a weakness. What you learned was to judge yourself for having them.

2. You are overly sensitive.

As a child, you had needs, just as all children do. You had things that felt important to you, and things that felt good or bad to you. What you needed was for someone to notice, or to ask what you needed or wanted, so that you would feel that you mattered. When no one asked you enough, you learned instead that you don’t.

3. Your needs and preferences are irrelevant.

Growing up, you had problems with school, siblings, and friends. What you needed was to know that you could talk to a parent, but instead, you knew that they, for whatever reason, could not handle it. What you learned was that others couldn’t handle your problems, so you’d best keep it to yourself.

4. Talking about a problem will unnecessarily burden other people.

All humans cry, and for a reason. Crying is a way to release and process your emotions. As a child, you cried sometimes (maybe often). What you needed was for this to be okay. Instead, your family didn’t know that crying has a purpose, so they ignored your tears or shamed you for having them. Perhaps they never showed tears themselves. You learned that crying is negative and should be avoided.

5. Crying is a weakness.

Were you judged for showing feelings in your childhood home? This powerful message has been carried forth with you. “Hide your emotions from others” is the message, “or others will think less of you.” Or worse, they will use your feelings against you.

6. Others will judge you for showing your feelings.

As a child, of course, you often felt angry, as this feeling is a natural part of life. As a child, what you needed was a help to name, understand and manage your anger. Perhaps instead your anger was squelched or overwhelmed by another’s. Maybe you were punished for showing it. What you learned was that anger is bad and that you should suppress it.

7. Anger is a negative emotion and should be avoided.

Children need help, period. So do adolescents and adults. As a child, you needed support, direction, suggestions, and assistance. But you could see that your parents were not up to that. What you learned was that it is best not to ask for help in general because you are setting yourself up for a letdown.

8. Relying on another is setting yourself up for disappointment.

As a young child, you had endless wonder at the world around you. As you grew, you had endless things that you wanted and needed to ask and say. Yet talking was not valued in your family and you were not asked or listened to enough. What you learned is that your questions and words are not valuable and that you should keep them to yourself.

9. Others are not interested in what you have to say.

As a child, you needed to feel that an adult had your back; that no matter what happened, there was support and help for you. Instead, when you needed something you discovered that your adult(s) were busy, overwhelmed, or not aware. What you learned was that you were all alone.

10. You are alone in the world.

These lessons all seem so real and so true when you grew up receiving them in such a subliminal, global way. But do not forget that they are merely lessons of your family, not truths. The fact that you learned them does not make them right.

Summary

Your past, no matter how bad it was, does not define your future. The choices and actions you make today will ultimately define who you will eventually become. Make the decision to learn from your past and apply it in the present so that you can live the life that you were meant to live. You deserve it!

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Learning and growing to become the best person you can be.

The fact that you learned them does not make them right.

10 Things Emotionally Neglected Kids Grow Up Believing — That Are Simply Not True

The founders of the mindfulness movement have grown evangelical, predicting that the discipline has the potential to ignite a universal or global renaissance. Mindfulness enthusiasts believe that paying closer attention to the present moment without passing judgement has the power to transform the world. Yet, anything that offers success without trying to change is not revolutionary; it just helps people cope. It could also make things worse.

Mindfulness is problematic

Mindfulness does help reduce stress, chronic anxiety and other disorders. Becoming aware of automatic reactions can make people calmer and potentially kinder. Yet, the problem is how mindfulness has been packaged. Mindfulness is essentially concentration training. It is stripped of the Buddhism teachings on ethics that accompanied it, as well as the liberating aim of detaching from a false sense of self while having compassion for all other things. What remains is a tool of self-discipline disguised as self-help.

Worthy dimensions to mindfulness practice

Instead of setting people free, mindfulness help practitioners adjust to the conditions that caused their problems and reinforce its destructive logic. People are expected to adapt. Stress has been pathologised and privatised, and the burden of managing it is outsourced to individuals, causing the proponents of mindfulness to step in to save the day. But mindfulness can only be effective if they accept that personal stress also has societal causes. Failing to address collective suffering and creating change to remove it reduces mindfulness to something that keeps people focused on themselves.

Overturning a dysfunctional system

Instead of discussing how attention is monetised and manipulated by large corporations such as Google and Facebook, we are told to find the crisis in our minds, saying it is our failure to be mindful and resilient in an unsure economy.  If we are sad about being unemployed and losing our health insurance, the mindfulness revolution meekly accepts the circumstances, ruling out a way to critically engage with causes of suffering. This submissive position is framed as freedom without the genuine freedom found within a cooperative and just society.

Mindfulness advocates unwittingly provide support for the status quo

Proponents of mindfulness believe that the practice is apolitical and that moral inquiry should be avoided. It is assumed that ethical behaviour will happen naturally from practice, through the teacher's example of soft-spoken niceness, or through the chance of self-discovery. But it is flawed. The emphasis on “non-judgmental awareness” can prevent one's moral intelligence. This reduction in stress and increase in personal happiness and wellbeing are much easier to sell than questioning injustices.

The commodification of mindfulness

All that mindfulness promise is "cruel optimism", as cultural theorist Lauren Berlant shows. We are told that if we practise mindfulness and get our individual lives in order, we can be happy and secure. We are promised that stable employment and success will naturally follow. It is implied that we can gain self-mastery and thrive. Yet it is cruel to be promised to have it all if we can sit in silence, watch our breath, and wait. Because we neglect shared vulnerabilities and interdependence, we fail to imagine collective ways we might protect ourselves.

Promises of mindfulness

The long read: It is sold as a force that can help us cope with the ravages of capitalism, but with its inward focus, mindful meditation may be the enemy of activism

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The mindfulness conspiracy

In today's society it is very difficult to escape from a stressful environment , and it is very hard to deal with stress so what you have to do is improve your stress taking capacity. Stress is harmful and you can't get rid of stress because at every stage of life you are going to meet stress and it's impossible to ignore it. The best way to deal with stress and to make yourself mentally strong is to develop the resistivity towards <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/08/18-effective-ways-to-reduce-stress-from-your-life%20.html">stress </a> .  Make your mind to deal with stress and when you are capable of handling stress you are one step closer to a strong will power.

1. Increase your stress taking capacity

Multitasking is a common habit of most people and they eventually don't know how harmful it is. Multitasking not only lowers your attention span but also makes you less efficient and less productive as your focus is divided in two works. Stop multitasking and do one thing at a particular time that will save your time and energy.

2. Avoid multitasking

Now divide your work in different slots . Try to do your work in 2-3 slots . Remember to take a break in between. Taking a break will <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/08/Best-way-to-improve-your-productivity%20.html">improve your productivity </a> and you can easily focus on your work . Taking rest in between increases your efficiency .

3. Have small slots between work

Meditation is the best and evergreen method when it comes to focus and mental strength. The benefits of <a href="https://inspirationalblogs45.blogspot.com/2021/04/mindfulness-meditation-practice.html">meditation </a> are uncountable and no doubt it's the best way to improve yourself and to be more mentally strong. Meditation helps in controlling our thoughts and makes us focus on one thing at one time. Start practising meditation as it will make you more attentive and will also boost your will power.

4. Daily Meditation

The best way to enhance and bold your character and to improve your will power is to speak less. A study shows that people who speak more are ignored compared to those who speak less. Speaking less makes everyone focus on your words and it increases your value among others. Also it saves your energy and time that you are probably going to waste while talking too much.

5. Speak less than needed

Conclusion  Will power is all about mental strength and with a little effort you can easily do that. That's all for today . Will you follow these tips ? Share your views .

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The Accountability Mirror is a mirror on which you write what your current situation is, how to get out of it, and what your goals are.

The Accountability Mirror

When your “bully” thinks you are about to give up, double down and show them you’re much tougher than they think you are!Taking souls is a practice aimed at silencing whoever is doubting you.

 Taking Souls

Every obstacle made you strong and prepared you for this very moment.The calloused mind is a practice that helps you double down when the temptation to quit is the strongest.

The Calloused Mind

When you go back to your past and identify all of the moments when you were weak, you free yourself from them and accept what happened.

On Accepting Yourself

Once the physical prep was done, he’d take care of the mental prep with visualization.He visualised what awaited him.He would imagine himself struggling, suffering, and eventually succeeding.

Visualization

On one hand, the painful moments made you who you are so you can ultimately triumph; on the other hand, the cookie jar is a promise for many more happy moments like the ones you’ve already had.

The Cookie Jar

Mastery does not tolerate shortcuts.The only way to go beyond your limitations is to do more, and better.

No Shortcut

The governor is that little voice in our head that tells us we suck and that we won’t make it.You need to do two things to take off your governor and access your full potential:<ol><li>Don’t listen to your voice.</li><li>When you feel like you cannot keep moving anymore, push just 5%-10% more. Doing so, you will unlock more potential.</li></ol>

The Governor

Goggins believes that most people live up to 40% of their potential.The remaining 60% is locked due to the governor.If you want to go over your 40%, you need to:<ol><li>Stretch your pain tolerance</li><li>Let go of your identity</li><li>Let go of your self-limiting beliefs</li></ol>

The 40% Rule

<ul><li>To everyone that ever doubted you — including yourself — the most powerful thing to answer is what if.</li><li>What if it was possible? What if they were wrong? What if you were right?</li><li>What if opens the door of possibility. It gets you to try and see what happens.</li><li>It keeps you moving forward.</li><li>It prevents you from quitting.</li></ul>

What If?

These are the 10 concepts Goggins used to push himself beyond his limits and achieved his victories. Use them with care.

This article is a list with all of David Goggins’ mental shifts to reach full potential. Enjoy!

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All of David Goggins’ Mental Shifts to Reach Full Potential - Aure's Notes

2022 is a year of inflation. It resulted from the huge disruption that Covid caused. The high inflation and low economic growth are all over the media. <ul><li>Inflation is getting higher</li><li>Stocks are down</li><li>People are starting to get fired</li><li>Companies are barely hiring</li></ul> Investment ads claim they have investment strategies to generate significant returns during inflation, yet famous hedge funds like Tiger Global are down 60%. So don't be seduced by investment ads that try to profit from fear and greed.

The current economic situation

When we're faced with economic problems, we can view them in two ways:<ol><li>Up-close perspective: Looking at inflation, interest rates, debt, consumer spending, joblessness, etc.</li><li>Broad perspective: Looking at long-term trends and historical patterns.</li></ol> Taking a step back for a broader view can teach us about what's happening now.

Look at the big picture

Periods of high growth and low growth are not uncommon. For example, look at how the world went from the great 1920s to the Great Depression in the 1930s. Investor Howard Marks discusses the concept of cycles in his book, Mastering The Market Cycle. He states that the economy grows, on average, at a consistent pace. The economy will get stimulated and make people take more risks and consume more. In turn, this period often causes inflation and slows things down. Recessions and slowdowns are normal. However, when you invest long-term, these fluctuations won’t harm you.

Periods of high growth and low growth

Avoid taking too much risk when the economy is booming. Likewise, avoid buying into things you don't understand. Things only become troublesome when you make bad investment decisions during periods of high growth. For example:<ul><li>You bought houses without income in the 2000s.</li><li>Or you bought stocks and crypto with borrowed money over the last year.</li></ul>

Tips on investing

When you recognise economic patterns, you'll know that the current trends are expected and normal. <ul><li>Knowledge. Learn more about how the economy and stocks work. When you have better knowledge of the history of finance, you won't fall for too-good-to-be-true investments. Read good books on personal finance that have stood the test of time.</li><li>Mindfulness. Knowledge will not give you full peace of mind, so practising some form of Mindfulness or Stoicism can help detach from money stress.</li></ul>

The economy is affected by various factors out of your control

It’s difficult to have peace of mind during periods of uncertainty, like the ongoing inflation. Here are some practical tips and perspective.

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How to Have Peace of Mind During High Inflation - Darius Foroux

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