More than education, more than experience, more than training, a person’s level of Resilience will determine who succeeds and who fails. That’s true in the cancer ward, it’s true in the Olympics, and it’s true in the boardroom.

Resilience is one of the great puzzles of human nature. Resilience is something you realize you have after the fact.

How do some people bounce back with vigor from daily setbacks, professional crises, or even intense personal trauma?This book reveals the key traits of those who emerge stronger from challenges, helps you train your brain to withstand the stresses of daily life, and presents an approach to an effective career reboot.This volume includes the work of:<li>Daniel Goleman<li>Jeffrey A. Sonnenfeld<li>Shawn AchorThis collection of articles includes “How Resilience Works,” by Diane Coutu; “Resilience for the Rest of Us,” by Daniel Goleman; “How to Evaluate, Manage, and Strengthen Your Resilience,” by David Kopans; “Find the Coaching in Criticism,” by Sheila Heen and Douglas Stone; “Firing Back: How Great Leaders Rebound After Career Disasters,” by Jeffrey A. Sonnenfeld and Andrew J. Ward; and “Resilience Is About How You Recharge, Not How You Endure,” by Shawn Achor and Michelle Gielan.How to be human at work. The HBR Emotional Intelligence Series features smart, essential reading on the human side of professional life from the pages of Harvard Business Review. Each book in the series offers proven research showing how our emotions impact our work lives, practical advice for managing difficult people and situations, and inspiring essays on what it means to tend to our emotional well-being at work. Uplifting and practical, these books describe the social skills that are critical for ambitious professionals to master.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Harvard Business Review is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Harvard Business Review has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Harvard Business Review's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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Author of Emotional Intelligence and psychologist Daniel Goleman has transformed the way the world educates children, relates to family and friends, and conducts business. The Wall Street Journal ranked him one of the 10 most influential business thinkers. Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence was on The New York Times best sellers list for a year-and-a-half. Named one of the 25 "Most Influential Business Management Books" by TIME, it has been translated into 40 languages. The Harvard Business Review called emotional intelligence (EI) “a revolutionary, paradigm-shattering idea.”  Goleman’s new book, Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence, argues that attention — a fundamental mental ability for success — has come under siege.

Daniel Goleman

Shawn Achor is an American educator, author, and speaker known for his advocacy of positive psychology. He is best known for his research reversing the formula of success leading to happiness—his research shows that happiness in fact leads to success. Achor spent 12 years studying what makes people happy at Harvard University. He later authored The Happiness Advantage and founded the Institute of Positive Research and GoodThinkInc. His TEDx talk "The Happy Secret to Better Work" is one of the 20-most viewed TED talks.

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Resilience (HBR Emotional Intelligence Series)

I want you to imagine your best day in your life over and over again 5 minutes before you go to sleep. This isn't superstitious, it actually attracts new opportunities and rewire your brain in such a way that you will feel better and more confident for the next 30 days. The subconscious mind is unable to identify what's real and what's imaginery it works on your own belief system.

Believing 

Many of us underestimate the powe of habits. These are the small steps that are building your future. Break those old habits and form new ones. Don't set unrealistic goals and work on them unnecessarily. Instead, form habits and slowly improve yourself comparing to the person you were tomorrow. Push your limits slowly and in the 30 days. You will not recognise yourself.

Habits 

I know how hard it is free ourselves from distraction like social media. Even if you are not addicted still social media handles 70% of our daily life work. What you should free yourself from is gaining cheap dopamine from sources like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and any pornographic content that's damaging your brain in a negative way. Try to take several breaks completely from social media for atleast a week every month. Which will save your time and also lead you to exploring new things.

Social media

"People who says that they have no talent are actually a blank paper that can be filled in any way they wanted it to be."

Every great person you see around yourself has this extraordinary ability that's called "knowledge". I am not talking about completing multiple courses and degrees but, expanding your own mind, by your own will to know what's going around you. Successful people feel better and comfortable between others because they know more than they had yesterday. Our brain works in a weired way. It gives a sense of pride when we learn. Try to gain as much knowledge as you can because knowledge is god.

Knowledge 

This world is full of distractions, suffering, traumas and restraining incidents that can cause your brain to burnout. Meditation may seems just a simple term but it made buddha 'The Buddha'. A person who can control his own mind can control anything in this world. Your thoughts, your feelings and your decisions build yours future. Good Luck

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Theses are some of the effective ways which worked for me. It's hard to apply things but once you did I gaurentee you, your life will be different in less than 30 days. 

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Habits

How To Be Better In 30 Days 

<ul><li>If you are not in control of your thoughts, then you are not in control of yourself.</li><li>Without self-control, you have no real power, regardless of whatever else you can accomplish.</li><li>If you are not aware of the thoughts that you think in each moment, then you are the rider with no reins, with no power over where you are going. You cannot control what you are not aware of.</li><li>Awareness must come first.</li></ul>

The Learning Begins

The problem with patience and discipline is that developing each of them requires both of them.

A Paradox of life 

We have a very unhealthy habit of making the product — our intended result — the goal, instead of the process of reaching that goal. When we practice something, we are involved in the deliberate repetition of a process with the intention of reaching a specific goal. When you focus your mind on the present moment, on the process of what you are doing right now, you are always where you want to be and where you should be. In order to focus on the present, we must give up, at least temporarily, our attachment to our desired goal. Be Process-oriented, rather than being result-oriented.

Process, Not Product

Most of the anxiety we experience in life comes from our feeling that there is an end point of perfection in everything that we involve ourselves with. We consciously or unconsciously pick a point of reference in whatever we do and decide that nothing will be right until we get to that point. By doing this, you are only working against yourself. True perfection is limitless, unbounded, and always expanding.

It's How you look at it

At any point when you are feeling bored, rushed, or impatient, realise that you have left the present moment in your activity.The next time you feel like not doing anything, tell yourself you will work on staying present-moment and Process-oriented for just the first half hour.Don't try to enjoy it either, because in that effort you are bringing emotions and struggle into your effort.

What we practice will become a habit.When we say something is a habit, it means that it is natural way we do something. We do it intuitively, without having to think about it.Being aware that all your motions, be they physical or mental, are habits and that you have the power to choose which habits you will create is very liberating. You are in control.Habits are learned. Choose them wisely.

Creating the Habits we desire

If you force your mind to stay in the present moment and to stay in the process of what you are doing, many of your problems will melt away.Staying in the present in the process is the first part of the perspective change that creates patience.The second step in creating patience is understanding and accepting that there is no such thing as reaching a point of perfection in anything. There is no goal to reach other than pursuing the activity.

Perception Change Creates Patience

Progress is a natural result of staying focused on the process of doing anything. When you stay on purpose, focused in the present moment, the goal comes toward you with frictionless ease.

The four “S” words are Simplify, Small, Short, and Slow. SimplifyWhen you work at a specific project or activity, simplify it by breaking it down into its component sections. Don't set goals that are too far beyond your reach. SmallFocusing on small sections is easier than focusing on the entire task and gives you repeatable success. ShortFocus only for a short period of time. SlowIncorporating slowness into your process is a paradox. Work at a pace that allows you to pay attention to what you are doing.

The 4 'S' words

Equanimity is defined as even-temperedness and calmness. It comes from the art of non judgment. Non judgment quiets the internal dialogue of our mind. Judgments are necessary for us to function in life, but they have a downside : They are not executed with a detached nature. The more closely you become aligned with the quiet observer, the less you judge.

Equanimity

The ego is subjective. It judges everything, including itself, and it is never content with where it is, what it has, or what it has accomplished.The observer is objective. It does not judge anything as good or bad. It just sees the circumstance or action as “being”. Thus the observer is always experiencing tranquility and equanimity.

Ego vs Observer

None of us learn anything except through our own direct experiencesTeach with your actions.Children have much more to offer because we can learn from them if we listen to ourselves as we teach them.Wisdom is not a by-product of age. Teach and learn from all those around you

Teach and Learn From Children

With deliberate and repeated effort, progress is inevitable.When we make staying focused on the process our real goal, we experience a sense of success in every moment.Houses, cars, jobs come and go; you, however, are eternal.Take time regularly to review all the things that you have acquired in your life.All things of lasting and deep value require time and nurturing and come to us only through our own effort.

Your Skills are Growing

"You've just got to love the process"

A short summary to the no-fluff book  about meta-learning & bringing discipline to your life

In those times when we want to acquire a new skill or face a formidable challenge we hope to overcome, what we need most are patience, focus, and discipline, traits that seem elusive or difficult to maintain. In this enticing and practical book, Thomas Sterner demonstrates how to learn skills for any aspect of life, from golfing to business to parenting, by learning to love the process. Early life is all about trial-and-error practice. If we had given up in the face of failure, repetition, and difficulty, we would never have learned to walk or tie our shoes. So why, as adults, do we often give up on a goal when at first we don't succeed? Modern life's technological speed, habitual multitasking, and promises of instant gratification don't help. But in his study of how we learn (prompted by his pursuit of disciplines such as music and golf), Sterner has found that we have also forgotten the principles of practice -- the process of picking a goal and applying steady effort to reach it. The methods Sterner teaches show that practice done properly isn't drudgery on the way to mastery but a fulfilling process in and of itself, one that builds discipline and clarity. By focusing on "process, not product," you'll learn to live in each moment, where you'll find calmness and equanimity. This book will transform a sense of futility around learning something challenging into an attitude of pleasure and willingness.

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Philosophy

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Personal Development

In those times when we want to acquire a new skill or face a formidable challenge we hope to overcome, what we need most are patience, focus, and discipline, traits that seem elusive or difficult to maintain. In this enticing and practical book, Thomas Sterner demonstrates how to learn skills for any aspect of life, from golfing to business to parenting, by learning to love the process. Early life is all about trial-and-error practice. If we had given up in the face of failure, repetition, and difficulty, we would never have learned to walk or tie our shoes. So why, as adults, do we often give up on a goal when at first we don’t succeed? Modern life’s technological speed, habitual multitasking, and promises of instant gratification don’t help. But in his study of how we learn (prompted by his pursuit of disciplines such as music and golf), Sterner has found that we have also forgotten the principles of practice — the process of picking a goal and applying steady effort to reach it. The methods Sterner teaches show that practice done properly isn’t drudgery on the way to mastery but a fulfilling process in and of itself, one that builds discipline and clarity. By focusing on “process, not product,” you’ll learn to live in each moment, where you’ll find calmness and equanimity. This book will transform a sense of futility around learning something challenging into an attitude of pleasure and willingness.

Thomas M. Sterner is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Thomas M. Sterner has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Thomas M. Sterner's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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The Practicing Mind

Psychological Facts About Love 

If you want to know if someone loves you, look into their eyes. The pupil expands as much as 45% when we are in love.

Someone Loves You?

Being in a relationship is not about dates or showing off. It's about being with the person who makes you happy.

Who Makes You Happy 

Research has found that good relationships are more important for a long life than exercise.

Relat

A person who truly loves you will never let you go or give up on you, no matter how hard the situation is.

Never Give Up 

You're most likely to fall in love with someone if you first meet them in a dangerous situation.

Falling In Love 

The people who give the best relationship advice are usually the ones who are single.

Single 

Attachment + Caring + Intimacy = Perfect Love.

Perfect Love 

Couples who have similar qualities are not likely to last in a romantic relationship.

Romantic Relationship 

A person who truly loves you is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else believes in the smile on your face.

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Facts About Love 💞

Conscientious people consider the effects of their actions. They also consider how other people will react and feel. You can nurture this trait by thinking about the consequences of actions. Be thoughtful about your actions and consider how they will affect others. This means being mindful of how your words and actions impact those around you. It's important to be empathetic and considerate of others' feelings.

Conscientiousness

Success they say is a journey. "Success in life could be defined as the continued expansion of happiness and the progressive realization of worthy goals," Chopra

Tips to achieving a successful life.

Setting goals is an important part of achieving success. It helps you focus your efforts and gives you a clear direction to work towards. Set goals to give yourself direction and focus. Setting goals can help you stay motivated and focused on what you want to achieve. Make sure your goals are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART).

Goal setting

Time management is essential for success. It helps you prioritize tasks and make the most of your time. Manage your time effectively to make the most of it. Time management is key to achieving your goals and being productive. Prioritize your tasks, eliminate distractions, and use tools like calendars and to-do lists to stay organized.

Time management

Continuous learning is important for success because it helps you stay up-to-date with new developments in your field and develop new skills. Keep learning to stay up-to-date and develop new skills. Continuous learning is essential for personal and professional growth. Take courses, read books, attend workshops or conferences, or find a mentor to help you learn.

Continuous learning

Networking is important for success because it helps you build relationships with people who can help you achieve your goals. Build relationships with people who can help you achieve your goals. Networking is important for career success and personal growth. Attend events, join groups or clubs related to your interests or industry, and connect with people on social media.

Networking

Perseverance is essential for success because it helps you overcome obstacles and keep going when things get tough. Persevere through obstacles and challenges. Life is full of challenges, but it's important to keep pushing forward even when things get tough. Stay positive, be resilient, and don't give up on your goals.

Perseverance

A positive attitude is important for success because it helps you stay motivated and focused on your goals. Maintain a positive attitude to stay motivated and focused. A positive attitude can help you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals. Practice gratitude, surround yourself with positive people, focus on what you can control, and take care of yourself both physically and mentally.

Positive attitude

These tips are a constant reminder and a guide to ensure life goes in a certain direction void of diversions.

This is a book you will cherish for a lifetime, for within its pages are the secrets to making all your dreams come true. Based on natural laws that govern all of creation, this book shatters the myth that success is the result of hard work, exacting plans, or driving ambition. Instead, Deepak Chopra offers a life-altering perspective on the attainment of success: When we understand our true nature and learn to live in harmony with natural law, a sense of well-being, good health, fulfilling relationships, and material abundance spring forth easily and effortlessly. Filled with timeless wisdom and practical steps you can apply right away, this pocketbook edition of Chopra’s classic bestselling book makes it easy for you to read and refer to again and again. Carry it with you in your purse or your pocket, and in less than one hour, learn the seven powerful principles that can easily be applied to create success in all areas of your life.

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Time Management

In The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Deepak Chopra distills the essence of his teachings into seven simple, yet powerful principles that can easily be applied to create success in all areas of your life. Based on natural laws that govern all of creation, this book shatters the myth that success is the result of hard work, exacting plans, or driving ambition. Instead, Chopra offers a life-altering perspective on the attainment of success: Once we understand our true nature and learn to live in harmony with natural law, a sense of well-being, good health, fulfilling relationships, energy and enthusiasm for life, and material abundance will spring forth easily and effortlessly. Filled with timeless wisdom and practical steps you can apply right away, this is a book you will cherish for a lifetime, for within its pages are the secrets to making all your dreams come true. ___________________ &quot;A must-read for anyone who missed The Prophet, by Kahlil Gibran.&quot; — The New York Times “Of all Deepak’s books, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success gives a profound outline for conducting one’s life at the highest and most integrated level. It is magnificent.” — Anthony Robbins, Author, Unlimited Power “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success make wonderful guiding principles for anyone attempting to create a productive and satisfying life or human organization.” — Ken Blanchard, Co-author, The One Minute Manager ___________________ About the Author Deepak Chopra is a world-renowned leader in the fields of holistic health and human potential. He is The New York Times bestselling author of numerous books and audio programs that cover every aspect of mind, body, and spirit. His books have been translated into more than 50 languages, and he travels widely throughout the world promoting peace, health, and well-being.

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The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

Stoicism is a philosophy that encourages individuals to cultivate a sense of inner peace and resilience, by focusing on personal virtue, reason, and self-control.

Stoicism in 5 Minutes: Key Concepts

• The highest good is the cultivation of personal virtue, or moral excellence.• The goal of human life is to live in accordance with nature, and that the key to achieving this goal is to develop virtue.• Four cardinal virtues - wisdom, courage, justice, and moderation. Wisdom involves using reason to make sound judgments and decisions. Courage involves facing difficult situations with fortitude and determination. Justice involves treating others fairly and equitably. Moderation involves exercising self-control and avoiding excess.

1. Virtue as the Highest Good

I say that virtue is more valuable than wealth to the same degree that eyes are more valuable than fingernails.

• Reason should guide all aspects of life, including decision-making, emotions, and behavior.• Stoics saw reason as the source of wisdom and the key to living a fulfilling and meaningful life. They believed that by using reason to guide our actions and attitudes, we can achieve inner peace, happiness, and a sense of purpose.

2. Reason as the Guiding Principle

Let your desires be ruled by reason.

• Everything in the universe is governed by a rational and providential order, often referred to as "the logos" which determines the events and outcomes of our lives.• We should accept and embrace the events that occur in our lives, whether favorable or unfavorable; for resistance or being upset by things that are beyond our control only leads to unnecessary suffering and distress.• Accepting fate does not mean resigning ourselves to inaction but rather focusing our efforts on what is within our control and responding to events with wisdom and virtue.

3. Acceptance of Fate

Don’t seek for everything to happen as you wish it would, but rather wish that everything happens as it actually will — then your life will flow well.

• Individuals should cultivate a sense of detachment from external events and focus instead on their own inner state on oachieve a greater sense of peace and equanimity.• Our emotions and reactions should not be dictated by external events but rather by our own rational judgments.• Pursuit of external things such as wealth, power, or pleasure can never bring lasting happiness, as they are ultimately outside of our control and subject to change.

4. Detachment from External Events

You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength. Marcus aurelius

• Emotions are an important aspect of human experience but it can be a source of great distress and can lead us astray from the path of virtue.• Emotions are a result of our judgments about events and situations, rather than the events themselves.• By cultivating a rational mindset and focusing on what is within our control, we develop greater emotional resilience and equanimity. • Negative visualization or imagining the worst-case scenarios: By contemplating the worst possible outcomes, we can prepare ourselves mentally and emotionally for adversity and develop greater emotional resilience.

5. Control of Emotions

Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on–it isn’t manly to be enraged. Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn’t give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance–unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.

• Everything in the natural world was interconnected, and that our own lives were part of this interconnected web which includes acceptance of cycles of life and death, thus we should not resist or try to control them.• We should view ourselves as citizens of the world, rather than just members of our own community or society.• By recognizing our connection to all living things, we could cultivate a sense of empathy and compassion for others and work towards the common good.

6. Living in Harmony with Nature

We are members of one great body, planted by nature … We must consider that we were born for the good of the whole.﻿

At its core, Stoicism teaches that the ultimate goal of life is to achieve a state of tranquility and freedom from suffering. This can be achieved by living in accordance with reason and virtue, and by cultivating a sense of detachment from external events. The Stoics believed that individuals should focus on their own inner state, rather than external circumstances, and should strive to cultivate inner peace and equanimity in the face of life's challenges.

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STOICISM IN 5 MINUTES: KEY CONCEPTS

I worry about my day what is the first step to get productive? Finally found the #1 step is Self-perception..Without hai this you have no option to understand your behaviour - strength or weakness.To understand which is best to get productive in effective way.

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Hegan hours matrix technique help you to maximize your daily tasks.Benifits is you have option to start new one, that help to play new way of life.In method of matrix having four sections. <ol><li>Do : important and necessary </li><li>Schedule: unimportant but necessary </li><li>Deliget: important but not necessary at the time.</li><li>Delete: unimportant and unnecessary task</li></ol>

Maximize Your To Do!

You are new! Then need to get a part of life.Two concepts are really effective for building good habits:<ol><li>Discipline</li><li>Practice</li></ol>This two concepts completed by training only like a soilder mindset, behind reason is your brain behaviour.Doing anything again and again they become a part of life and no need to force complete ✅ it.Training is a process before skillful result in life.

Build Habits!

Need to clear and complete your task with your own ability, this popular technique help you:Set 25 minutes timer ⌛ to complete your first tasks and take break 1 to 2 minutes.First to 4 task after take long time break such as 30 to 35 minutes interval.Keep applying your task similar way.Breaks help you to arrange your work and ready to next one 🕐

The Pomodoro 

In the fact of brain 🧠 if you say this thing I need to follow long-lived your brain signal 🚥 he is borring subject.When you say just 15 to 21 day he is happy to help you.Another fact is brain love challenge, and on my experience say you builded a habit in life this challduration.

15 To 21 Day Cha

Do with team is a option to get done 👍 in less time your project, work, and tasks.Today technology is rising then day by day new tools are here to make easy you day, not for only digital, physical tools also that help to save your energy and time.Saved time and energy investment to learn new things.Learning is a important part of productivity.

Make Work Easy!

Social media and social community.Join groups in your society and follow regular social community in your society to know people and look would in their way.I am not able to live different or different character in my life but able to understand and know or feeling experience what is?Suggest to join good ones!

Social Touch!

You need to get productive in life in simple way then this post help you how?

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Problem Solving

To be Productive in Life!

What are the most mind-blowing facts about the human brain?

Mind-blowing facts

<ul><li>Your brain's storage capacity is virtually unlimited.</li><li>The human brain contains 80-100 billion neurons.</li><li>More than 100,000 chemical reactions take place in the brain every second.</li><li>The human brain is the only object of any kind that can contemplate itself.</li><li>The human brain weighs approximately about 1.4 kilograms (3 pounds).</li><li>The human brain can generate about 23 watts of power (enough to power a lightbulb).</li><li>Sixty percent of the human brain is made of fat. That make it the fattiest organ in the human body.</li><li>The brain uses 20 percent of the body's total oxygen and energy.</li></ul>

<ul><li>The brain doesn't have pain receptors, so it can't feel exterior pain.</li><li>The average brain is believed to generate up to 50,000 thoughts per day.</li><li>Your brain has an autopilot setting allows us to perform common tasks like driving without actively thinking about them.</li><li>Your brain never sleeps while you're asleep, your brain is busy performing maintenance.</li><li>When a person dies, they have 7 minutes of brain activity left.</li></ul>

This award-winning science book uses the latest findings from neuroscience research and brain-imaging technology to take you on a journey into the human brain. CGI illustrations and brain MRI scans reveal the brain's anatomy in unprecedented detail. Step-by-step sequences unravel and simplify the complex processes of brain function, such as how nerves transmit signals, how memories are laid down and recalled, and how we register emotions. The book answers fundamental and compelling questions about the brain: what does it mean to be conscious, what happens when we're asleep, and are the brains of men and women different? This is an accessible and authoritative reference book to a fascinating part of the human body. Thanks to improvements in scanning technology, our understanding of the brain is changing quickly. Now in its third edition, The Human Brain Book provides an up-to-date guide to one of science's most exciting frontiers. With its coverage of more than 50 brain-related diseases and disorders--from strokes to brain tumors and schizophrenia--it is also an essential manual for students and healthcare professionals.

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Health

Rita Carter

The Human Brain Book

The Stoic philosophy, founded in Athens by Zeno of Citium in the early 3rd century BCE, posits that the highest good in life is achieving inner tranquility and living in accordance with nature. This is accomplished through the cultivation of four cardinal virtues, which are wisdom, courage, justice, and self-control.

Cardinal Virtues

• The first virtue is wisdom, which the Stoics defined as the ability to understand and judge what is good and what is bad in life.• This virtue involves the pursuit of knowledge, the ability to reason logically, and the skill to understand complex concepts.• It is not just about knowing things, but also about applying that knowledge in a practical way.• Wisdom is important because it enables us to make good decisions and to live in accordance with nature.

Wisdom

“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own”

• The second virtue is courage, which the Stoics defined as the ability to face danger, pain, and fear with calmness and resilience.• This virtue involves being able to stand up for what is right, even when it is difficult or unpopular. • It is not just about physical courage, but also moral courage, which involves standing up for one's beliefs and values, even in the face of opposition.• Courage is important because it enables us to overcome obstacles and to live with integrity.

Courage

“Don’t you know life is like a military campaign? One must serve on watch, another in reconnaissance, another on the front line. . . . So it is for us—each person’s life is a kind of battle, and a long and varied one too. You must keep watch like a soldier and do everything commanded. . . . You have been stationed in a key post, not some lowly place, and not for a short time but for life.”

• The third virtue is justice, which the Stoics defined as the ability to treat others fairly and to act with fairness and impartiality.• This virtue involves recognizing the inherent worth and dignity of all human beings and treating them with respect and compassion.• It is not just about following rules and laws, but also about acting with empathy and understanding.• Justice is important because it enables us to live in harmony with others and to create a just and peaceful society.

Justice

“And a commitment to justice in your own acts. Which means: thought and action resulting in the common good. What you were born to do.”

• The fourth virtue is self-control, which the Stoics defined as the ability to control one's emotions and desires and to act with discipline and restraint.• This virtue involves being able to resist temptation and to stay focused on one's goals, even in the face of distractions and setbacks.• It is not just about suppressing one's feelings, but also about channeling them in a constructive way.• Self-control is important because it enables us to live a virtuous life and to achieve our full potential.

Temperance / Self-Control

“‘If you seek tranquillity, do less.’ Or (more accurately) do what’s essential—what the logos of a social being requires, and in the requisite way. Which brings a double satisfaction: to do less, better. Because most of what we say and do is not essential. If you can eliminate it, you’ll have more time, and more tranquillity. Ask yourself at every moment, ‘Is this necessary?’”

In summary, the four cardinal virtues of Stoicism - wisdom, courage, justice, and self-control - are essential for achieving inner tranquility, living in accordance with nature, and leading a virtuous life. By cultivating these virtues, we can become better individuals and contribute to the well-being of society as a whole.

“If, at some point in your life, you should come across anything better than justice, prudence, self-control, courage—than a mind satisfied that it has succeeded in enabling you to act rationally, and satisfied to accept what’s beyond its control—if you find anything better than that, embrace it without reservations—it must be an extraordinary thing indeed—and enjoy it to the full."

Life is unpredictable. There’s so much we have no control over. That can be overwhelming and crippling or it can be freeing. Virtue is how we ensure the later. No matter what happens, we always have the capacity to use reason and make choices. We should always try to do the right thing. To let virtue guide us. It’s all that we control. Let the rest take care of itself, as it will with or without your consent.

4 STOIC VIRTUES: A GLIMPSE

Here are just a few examples. There is ‘gaslighting’, which involves encouraging someone to doubt her own judgment and to rely on the manipulator’s advice instead. Guilt trips make someone feel excessively guilty about failing to do what the manipulator wants her to do. Charm offensives and peer pressure induce someone to care so much about the manipulator’s approval that she will do as the manipulator wishes.

We Are Constantly Subject To Attempts At Manipulation

Perhaps manipulation is wrong because it harms the person being manipulated. Certainly, manipulation often harms. If successful, manipulative cigarette ads contribute to disease and death; manipulative phishing and other scams facilitate identity theft and other forms of fraud; manipulative social tactics can support abusive or unhealthy relationships; political manipulation can foment division and weaken democracy. But manipulation is not always harmful.

Is Manipulation Wrong Because It Harms?

Suppose that Amy just left an abusive-yet-faithful partner, but in a moment of weakness she is tempted to go back to him. Now imagine that Amy’s friends employ the same techniques that Shakespeare’s Iago used on Othello. They manipulate Amy into (falsely) believing – and being outraged – that her ex-partner was not only abusive, but unfaithful as well. If this manipulation prevents Amy from reconciling, she might be better off than she would have been had her friends not manipulated her.

Beneficial Manipulation

Yet, to many, Amy’s friends’ manipulation could still seem morally dodgy. Intuitively, it would have been morally better for her friends to employ non-manipulative means to help Amy avoid backsliding. Something remains morally dubious about manipulation, even when it helps rather than harms the person being manipulated. So harm cannot be the reason that manipulation is wrong.

No, Manipulation Is Not Wrong Because It Harms. 

Perhaps manipulation is wrong because it involves techniques that are inherently immoral ways to treat other human beings. This thought might be especially appealing to those inspired by the idea that morality requires us to treat each other as rational beings rather than mere objects. Perhaps the only proper way to influence the behaviour of other rational beings is by rational persuasion, and thus any form of influence other than rational persuasion is morally improper. But for all its appeal, this answer also falls short, for it would condemn many forms of influence that are morally benign.

Is Manipulation Wrong Because It Is Morally Dubious?

For example, much of Iago’s manipulation involves appealing to Othello’s emotions. But emotional appeals are not always manipulative. Moral persuasion often appeals to empathy, or attempts to convey how it would feel to have others doing to you what you are doing to them.

Morally Benign Influence 

Where would Othello be if it weren’t for Iago?

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